I see everyone's point on the dog issue. We have a 7 year old Shepard mix and a 3 year old Husky mix. Both do wonderful with other people and children and finding a new home won't be an option. I'm emotionally attached to the Shepard (for reasons I won't get into here) and the Husky completed our family (for that time). If they act up or whatever, I think we will just work training them. They are both extremely well behaved and do what we ask them to do (sit, stay (well the husky could work on this more, they don't eat food off the floor unless we tell them it's ok, etc). We know it will be an adjustment for everyone when we bring our girl home but we will just work on it.
@EErin86 I blame my anterior placenta too. I totally thought she was breech but this morning, she was transverse. Stupid anterior placenta.
I had pizza and ice cream for lunch. Almost worth the heartburn.
To echo PP's, I'm having the same pet worries, except I have two cats. My male is a big suck, so I'm a little worried about jealousy, but he's been around babies and doesn't seem fazed at all so he may be alright. My female though... oye. She is extremely hyper and we already have issues with her keeping us up at night. I manage to find some patience for her now, but who knows when the baby comes and we're even more sleep deprived? It breaks my heart to think of rehoming her. Hopefully I'm overthinking this and everything will work out.
I see everyone's point on the dog issue. We have a 7 year old Shepard mix and a 3 year old Husky mix. Both do wonderful with other people and children and finding a new home won't be an option. I'm emotionally attached to the Shepard (for reasons I won't get into here) and the Husky completed our family (for that time). If they act up or whatever, I think we will just work training them. They are both extremely well behaved and do what we ask them to do (sit, stay (well the husky could work on this more, they don't eat food off the floor unless we tell them it's ok, etc). We know it will be an adjustment for everyone when we bring our girl home but we will just work on it.
@EErin86 I blame my anterior placenta too. I totally thought she was breech but this morning, she was transverse. Stupid anterior placenta.
Our German Shepherd listens to DD better than he listens to us. He wasn't overly interested in her as a small baby but since she's been walking they've formed a really close bond. She has become his "person". Hopefully your shepherd can form a similar bond! It really melts my heart to see them play together so well I'm worried he won't want to be as close to DD#2 though!
@kbrands7 still unable to quote. Damnit! But I totally get the dog thing... and this is coming from someone who is the BIGGEST animal lover that existed. But since I am so pregnant my patience for my dogs (I have 3) is non existent. Everything they do annoys the hell out of me and to be fair... they are not trained well and don't listen worth a darn. When I swear they never used to misbehave the way they do now. If I only had my male I know it would be so much easier but my two females are just terrible and hyper. I don't think I can rehome them because it would break my heart but at the same time I have to be fair. I'm waiting to see how they act when LO arrives... if they act up or my one is in any way not good with the baby then she is GONE. I'll wait to see what happens but you're not alone.
I think you are smart to note that if the baby and dogs aren't working, you may have to re-home the dogs. But it isn't fair to the dogs to put them in a new situation, untrained and blame them for acting out. It is up to dog owners to put their dogs in the best situation to succeed, and that is through training, imo.
@kbrands7 still unable to quote. Damnit! But I totally get the dog thing... and this is coming from someone who is the BIGGEST animal lover that existed. But since I am so pregnant my patience for my dogs (I have 3) is non existent. Everything they do annoys the hell out of me and to be fair... they are not trained well and don't listen worth a darn. When I swear they never used to misbehave the way they do now. If I only had my male I know it would be so much easier but my two females are just terrible and hyper. I don't think I can rehome them because it would break my heart but at the same time I have to be fair. I'm waiting to see how they act when LO arrives... if they act up or my one is in any way not good with the baby then she is GONE. I'll wait to see what happens but you're not alone.
I think you are smart to note that if the baby and dogs aren't working, you may have to re-home the dogs. But it isn't fair to the dogs to put them in a new situation, untrained and blame them for acting out. It is up to dog owners to put their dogs in the best situation to succeed, and that is through training, imo.
I couldn't agree more. Our dogs are challenging but we are committed to their training every single day because we are the ones who brought them home. They didn't ask to live with us. When one of them does something wrong it is because we missed a cue or an opportunity to reinforce their training, it is not because they are bad dogs. We know that it is on us to make the transition work and so we are proactively educating ourselves and making plans for it now, and @kp90I encourage you to do the same. Don't just wait and see, it isn't fair to your pets or to you and your LO.
I see everyone's point on the dog issue. We have a 7 year old Shepard mix and a 3 year old Husky mix. Both do wonderful with other people and children and finding a new home won't be an option. I'm emotionally attached to the Shepard (for reasons I won't get into here) and the Husky completed our family (for that time). If they act up or whatever, I think we will just work training them. They are both extremely well behaved and do what we ask them to do (sit, stay (well the husky could work on this more, they don't eat food off the floor unless we tell them it's ok, etc). We know it will be an adjustment for everyone when we bring our girl home but we will just work on it.
@EErin86 I blame my anterior placenta too. I totally thought she was breech but this morning, she was transverse. Stupid anterior placenta.
Thirds on what you both said and blaming the anterior placenta. Still have no idea what a hiccup feels like, either!
@vinerie@kbrands7 We do and have trained them. My neighbor even works with the two females with me now to help out but my one female is not well behaved despite training and efforts. It's still a work in progress.. and I am trying to have them adapt to the babies things and room and even the sounds of a baby crying but you can't train a dog to be good around a baby... without a baby. That's why I said I have to wait and see my one dogs reactions to the baby once we bring her home. I will not put my baby at risk by keeping a dog in the home if the dog exhibits warning signs, growls, etc. With that being said I would never just 'get rid' of her.. I would make sure she goes to a good home or even my parents have said they would take her. But I won't know her reaction and behavior until LO is here.
I'm fully checked out of work. 3 weeks left and I'm just feeling less and less into actually doing my work...
This. I'm basically just here waiting, and even that is crazy painful.
No no one here understands, but idc. Lol I'm planning on finding a job with benefits and (hopefully) better pay super soon, anyway. So for all intents and purposes, I'm just here to collect and dip. And I really don't even care. This is super unusual for me lol.
I have two cocker spaniels and while I think they will be great with LO, I do worry a little. The one is 11 so she will be fine, but the other one is 7 and still acts like a puppy half of the time. The 7 year old also just went almost completely blind, so I am hoping that won't be a problem. We have them trained pretty well not to beg, they don't beg my DH or I for food, but take them to my mom's house and they beg there because she used to feed them people food! I wouldn't rehome my dogs, I'd try many, many other things before ever thinking of it. I just couldn't. I love them so much. They were my first babies and really helped me through all the heartache of infertility.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
The health of my baby is my biggest concern but truthfully I really like the idea of being induced. I'm so not a planner but it would really nice to have a firm date of when I know i'll finally meet my baby. Feels a little bit selfish but I want her to come early. (But not at the expense of her/my health).
The health of my baby is my biggest concern but truthfully I really like the idea of being induced. I'm so not a planner but it would really nice to have a firm date of when I know i'll finally meet my baby. Feels a little bit selfish but I want her to come early. (But not at the expense of her/my health).
I am really scared of being induced or having a c-section and will do everything possible to avoid them unless medically necessary but I do envy those who know with more certainty when their baby is going to be born. I've kind of convinced myself I'll go past 40 weeks and I'm not at the point where I'm like "get this baby out" but the unknown of when/how I'll go into labor is driving me crazy, I just so want it to happen naturally.
I got the new FitBit Alta for my birthday last week. It vibrates to give me hourly reminders to move if I haven't taken at least 250 steps in the past hour.
What FitBit doesn't know is that I often complete the 250 steps by walking to the break room to get food.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@kbrands7 still unable to quote. Damnit! But I totally get the dog thing... and this is coming from someone who is the BIGGEST animal lover that existed. But since I am so pregnant my patience for my dogs (I have 3) is non existent. Everything they do annoys the hell out of me and to be fair... they are not trained well and don't listen worth a darn. When I swear they never used to misbehave the way they do now. If I only had my male I know it would be so much easier but my two females are just terrible and hyper. I don't think I can rehome them because it would break my heart but at the same time I have to be fair. I'm waiting to see how they act when LO arrives... if they act up or my one is in any way not good with the baby then she is GONE. I'll wait to see what happens but you're not alone.
I think you are smart to note that if the baby and dogs aren't working, you may have to re-home the dogs. But it isn't fair to the dogs to put them in a new situation, untrained and blame them for acting out. It is up to dog owners to put their dogs in the best situation to succeed, and that is through training, imo.
I couldn't agree more. Our dogs are challenging but we are committed to their training every single day because we are the ones who brought them home. They didn't ask to live with us. When one of them does something wrong it is because we missed a cue or an opportunity to reinforce their training, it is not because they are bad dogs. We know that it is on us to make the transition work and so we are proactively educating ourselves and making plans for it now, and @kp90I encourage you to do the same. Don't just wait and see, it isn't fair to your pets or to you and your LO.
When we were first time dog parents last year, we were told that when the dog misbehaves, it's your fault not theirs. That idea has helped us tremendously in understanding her and training her. She's a really good dog, but has her moments of course . We've been reading a ton about getting her (and the cat, we have one of those too!) ready for baby. They're family members too and deserve to be as prepared as possible!
I got the new FitBit Alta for my birthday last week. It vibrates to give me hourly reminders to move if I haven't taken at least 250 steps in the past hour.
What FitBit doesn't know is that I often complete the 250 steps by walking to the break room to get food.
All my steps pretty much consist of are trips to the break room and bathroom. lol.
I'm the Unpaid Inbox Monkey for a fairly big dog rescue. Last week I got an email from a lady who was 20 weeks pregnant, had just moved into a new house, and wanted to adopt an energetic large-breed puppy because "we want to complete our family!"
head, meet desk
Now, there are a few people in the world who might be able to make that work. I might be able to do it, so I'm not going to say it's totally outside the realm of human possibility. But I'm also a nationally competitive trainer having about the easiest pregnancy on earth (she said, modestly), and the thing with situations like these is that anybody who has anything close to the necessary skill and experience to succeed in them is also not clueless enough to go looking for the extra work. Meanwhile, the people who think it's a great idea are 100% guaranteed to make a disaster of it. And of course the one who suffers the most is always the dog.
So, naturally, I told the lady "uh now might not be the best time" and OF COURSE she got super snippy and upset about it, and the upshot is that she'll presumably buy a dog from some Amish puppy mill and in about three to six months that dog will hit Craigslist and/or the local shelter, and my confession for the week is that I'm actually just sad I answered her email in a professional and polite fashion instead of taking a figurative baseball bat to her head.
@LadySamLady I totally get that. As much as I like the idea, I don't know that i'll actually go through with it. I absolutely don't want a c-section and will avoid that at all costs as well. I know that the c-section rate becomes higher when you are induced. I really want my labor to just happen naturally too. I think my anxiety stems from what you were saying about not knowing when/where it will happen. Last year when my best friend was pregnant, her 2 year old would say, "It's so hard waiting for the baby"....and that's how I feel right now
I'm the Unpaid Inbox Monkey for a fairly big dog rescue. Last week I got an email from a lady who was 20 weeks pregnant, had just moved into a new house, and wanted to adopt an energetic large-breed puppy because "we want to complete our family!"
head, meet desk
Now, there are a few people in the world who might be able to make that work. I might be able to do it, so I'm not going to say it's totally outside the realm of human possibility. But I'm also a nationally competitive trainer having about the easiest pregnancy on earth (she said, modestly), and the thing with situations like these is that anybody who has anything close to the necessary skill and experience to succeed in them is also not clueless enough to go looking for the extra work. Meanwhile, the people who think it's a great idea are 100% guaranteed to make a disaster of it. And of course the one who suffers the most is always the dog.
So, naturally, I told the lady "uh now might not be the best time" and OF COURSE she got super snippy and upset about it, and the upshot is that she'll presumably buy a dog from some Amish puppy mill and in about three to six months that dog will hit Craigslist and/or the local shelter, and my confession for the week is that I'm actually just sad I answered her email in a professional and polite fashion instead of taking a figurative baseball bat to her head.
Oh jeez. I train dogs for a living and even I sure as hell wouldn't adopt a dog while pregnant. Especially a high energy large puppy. Who will be hitting adolescence right when the new baby arrives.
@EErin86 I don't have an anterior placenta and I feel like I don't know whether he's pushing his butt or head out.
@myzticsunshine I do in-home therapy for kids with autism. Normally a very fulfilling job, but we cannot do any kind of discipline or punishment. So his attempts to run up the stairs to escape therapy resulted in me being on the stairs trying to block him as he pushes and pulls on me, screaming at the top of his lungs, and over extending my abdomen when I got pushed backward. I just don't have the energy for this kind of crap any more
I'm the Unpaid Inbox Monkey for a fairly big dog rescue. Last week I got an email from a lady who was 20 weeks pregnant, had just moved into a new house, and wanted to adopt an energetic large-breed puppy because "we want to complete our family!"
head, meet desk
Now, there are a few people in the world who might be able to make that work. I might be able to do it, so I'm not going to say it's totally outside the realm of human possibility. But I'm also a nationally competitive trainer having about the easiest pregnancy on earth (she said, modestly), and the thing with situations like these is that anybody who has anything close to the necessary skill and experience to succeed in them is also not clueless enough to go looking for the extra work. Meanwhile, the people who think it's a great idea are 100% guaranteed to make a disaster of it. And of course the one who suffers the most is always the dog.
So, naturally, I told the lady "uh now might not be the best time" and OF COURSE she got super snippy and upset about it, and the upshot is that she'll presumably buy a dog from some Amish puppy mill and in about three to six months that dog will hit Craigslist and/or the local shelter, and my confession for the week is that I'm actually just sad I answered her email in a professional and polite fashion instead of taking a figurative baseball bat to her head.
Oh jeez. I train dogs for a living and even I sure as hell wouldn't adopt a dog while pregnant. Especially a high energy large puppy. Who will be hitting adolescence right when the new baby arrives.
DH and I adopted not one...but TWO Australian Shepherd puppies just to find that I was pregnant a whole week after bringing them home. I grew up in a ranch community, our family dogs were ALWAYS the ranch reject Aussies and I know the breed well, so I was less than thrilled at my circumstances with two high energy puppies and a new pregnancy. DH and I started right in on some serious training and got the help recently from an absolutely amazing trainer who has tons of experience with the breed. It has not been easy, and at 9 months old each, they are super hyper, but every bit of training and time spent with these pups to get them ready for a baby has been and will be so worth it. They are a part of our family and it was my responsibility to prepare them to be at baby level when the baby is in the swing or on the play mat in the same room with the pups, and they are definitely ready for that. They're a very smart breed and this has helped immensely, they're super aware of the fact that there's something/someone in my belly and they LOVE little kids. Obviously they'll never be in the room alone with LO, but I'm confident they will be able to be in the same room safely with supervision. It's not their fault I got pregnant, and when I adopted them I committed to giving them a loving family and home. Unfortunately, most people don't see pets this way and it really sucks.
I hate feeling like a c-section is inevitable - like having a vaginal birth these days is a rare unicorn. So far, my baby is doing what it needs to be doing. It's always heads down, my blood pressure and health get the thumbs up each visit, etc. There's not any reason so far to think I'll need a c-section other than her mentioning occasionally that the baby is on the larger side. But I've read that it's so hard to get an accurate weight estimate, and when the estimate is <1 pound higher than what google says it should be at 34 weeks, I don't really know if larger means much.
I had to switch OBs right after the anatomy scan because we moved. My new OB was recommended by my husband's boss' wife. I've seen others talk about how she's "c-section happy" which made me afraid at first. I mean surely no doctor is going to force you to have a c-section if everything looks on the up and up for a vaginal delivery. At my baby shower last week, I was talking to said wife and asked her about the "c-section happy" comments I read. Her response, "Oh yeah, she loves c-sections." I mean, what? How am I supposed to feel about that? Apparently, she's who you go to if you want a c-section because she's so good at them. At this point though, it's too late for me to go elsewhere. And to be honest, I like her bedside manor, and my husband really likes her. I try to look at it this way - I trust in her that if a vaginal birth is possible and healthy for me, that she won't push a c-section. But if things go south and she wants to do a c-section, at least she's the best of the best when it comes to the procedure. And that in some ways is reassuring to me that no matter what happens when it's time for this baby to come, I'm going to be okay, and the baby is going to be okay. I'm just trying to keep the optimal end result in mind to not stress over how it's reached.
Speaking of dogs, MIL just got a puppy so now DH wants a puppy. I just stared at him the other night while giving him the look, it got shut down real quick. Newborn + puppy = nope
We didn't attend our breastfeeding class last night because I was too tired. I'm done acting like I have any f's to give anymore. Good thing, we got our money back.
I mean, cave women didn't take breastfeeding classes...
This is DH's favorite "argument" . Cavemen didn't do that
I had pizza and ice cream for lunch. Almost worth the heartburn.
To echo PP's, I'm having the same pet worries, except I have two cats. My male is a big suck, so I'm a little worried about jealousy, but he's been around babies and doesn't seem fazed at all so he may be alright. My female though... oye. She is extremely hyper and we already have issues with her keeping us up at night. I manage to find some patience for her now, but who knows when the baby comes and we're even more sleep deprived? It breaks my heart to think of rehoming her. Hopefully I'm overthinking this and everything will work out.
We had to rehome our cats...when I got pregnant! They freaked out and started peeing on everything. They particularly liked things that were difficult to clean...sofas and beds etc. We adopted them a few months after our last cat had passed away and while they were fine with DS something about me being pregnant was too much for them. At that point we'd had them nearly three years. It was really sad, they were the friendliest cats to ever exist - they just loved people. But I was about to lose my mind from cleaning up cat pee every day. Just to give you some perspective
The health of my baby is my biggest concern but truthfully I really like the idea of being induced. I'm so not a planner but it would really nice to have a firm date of when I know i'll finally meet my baby. Feels a little bit selfish but I want her to come early. (But not at the expense of her/my health).
STUCK IN A QUOTE BOX-- I think there's a misconception about being induced because it absolutely sucks. Like @LadySamLady mentioned, this is one thing that you actually wouldn't want as a medical intervention. Induction happens a lot, but there's nothing fun about it, and it definitely doesn't guarantee a date that the baby will arrive. I'm actually convinced that pitocin is the work of the devil.
The health of my baby is my biggest concern but truthfully I really like the idea of being induced. I'm so not a planner but it would really nice to have a firm date of when I know i'll finally meet my baby. Feels a little bit selfish but I want her to come early. (But not at the expense of her/my health).
STUCK IN A QUOTE BOX-- I think there's a misconception about being induced because it absolutely sucks. Like @LadySamLady mentioned, this is one thing that you actually wouldn't want as a medical intervention. Induction happens a lot, but there's nothing fun about it, and it definitely doesn't guarantee a date that the baby will arrive. I'm actually convinced that pitocin is the work of the devil.
I'm dreading being induced but I know the odds of naturally going into labor at 38+2 aren't great. I'll be fighting my doctor again next week, she already "compromised" and is allowing me to go that far despite saying 37-38 is the cut off. I'll be doing everything possible - our health and safety withstanding - to avoid induction again.
This is a day late, but.... my baby shower is tomorrow and I feel extremely anxious about it. For one the guest list is HUGE (48 yesses) and being the center of attention, especially in large groups, makes me want to break out in hives.
At least a third of the guest list is MIL's extended relatives (cousins at closest) who I maybe met when MIL threw my bridal shower 6 years ago. Wouldn't recognize face or name. DH has no idea who they are either. They are also the most egregious offenders for RSVPing for more people than were on the invite as I've whined about before. I also don't understand why someone would want to go to a shower for someone they don't know... and it's not like this is MIL'so first grandkid - SIL has three.
Then there's the third that is FIL's side of the family that I'very never been close to but I know will be all up in my business touching me.
I also feel there is a strong likelihood that more people than RSVP'd are going to show up. More hives.
I am grateful that all these people are willing to come celebrate Baby, but I feel incredibly overwhelmed.
We didn't attend our breastfeeding class last night because I was too tired. I'm done acting like I have any f's to give anymore. Good thing, we got our money back.
I mean, cave women didn't take breastfeeding classes...
This is DH's favorite "argument" . Cavemen didn't do that
Lol I'm totally going to stir the pot here but my first (very random) thought was thats a good comment to make against circumcision! No idea why it came to mind as its not something to even think about here, circ rates are leas than 10% and im having a girl.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
@Jenly17 I do agree with you. As much as I like the idea of being induced, it's really just the selfish part of me talking. I'd prefer the baby to just come on her own, sans medical intervention. It's really just stemming from my feeling like I have no control at this point, which I clearly don't. But the correlation between being induced and ending up with a c-section or various issues/worse labor is concerning. Again, just me being selfish. Appreciate your input. I know everyone has totally different experiences but i'm just crossing my fingers I go into labor on my own!
@Jenly17 I do agree with you. As much as I like the idea of being induced, it's really just the selfish part of me talking. I'd prefer the baby to just come on her own, sans medical intervention. It's really just stemming from my feeling like I have no control at this point, which I clearly don't. But the correlation between being induced and ending up with a c-section or various issues/worse labor is concerning. Again, just me being selfish. Appreciate your input. I know everyone has totally different experiences but i'm just crossing my fingers I go into labor on my own!
I can totally understand the helpless feeling. It's rough towards the end when you're uncomfortable and you just want to meet your babe! Even though my water broke at home, I wasn't dilating, so I had to be induced. This time around, I hope things go much quicker in hopes of avoiding being induced. FX for you to labor sans induction!
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@EErin86 I blame my anterior placenta too. I totally thought she was breech but this morning, she was transverse. Stupid anterior placenta.
I had pizza and ice cream for lunch. Almost worth the heartburn.
To echo PP's, I'm having the same pet worries, except I have two cats. My male is a big suck, so I'm a little worried about jealousy, but he's been around babies and doesn't seem fazed at all so he may be alright. My female though... oye. She is extremely hyper and we already have issues with her keeping us up at night. I manage to find some patience for her now, but who knows when the baby comes and we're even more sleep deprived? It breaks my heart to think of rehoming her. Hopefully I'm overthinking this and everything will work out.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS: Born 5-17-16
I had a closing conference today and on my way home I stopped by the Chinese buffet near where we used to live for lunch.
Also, I am going to the gym today and not telling my DH.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!No no one here understands, but idc. Lol I'm planning on finding a job with benefits and (hopefully) better pay super soon, anyway. So for all intents and purposes, I'm just here to collect and dip. And I really don't even care. This is super unusual for me lol.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
What FitBit doesn't know is that I often complete the 250 steps by walking to the break room to get food.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
head, meet desk
Now, there are a few people in the world who might be able to make that work. I might be able to do it, so I'm not going to say it's totally outside the realm of human possibility. But I'm also a nationally competitive trainer having about the easiest pregnancy on earth (she said, modestly), and the thing with situations like these is that anybody who has anything close to the necessary skill and experience to succeed in them is also not clueless enough to go looking for the extra work. Meanwhile, the people who think it's a great idea are 100% guaranteed to make a disaster of it. And of course the one who suffers the most is always the dog.
So, naturally, I told the lady "uh now might not be the best time" and OF COURSE she got super snippy and upset about it, and the upshot is that she'll presumably buy a dog from some Amish puppy mill and in about three to six months that dog will hit Craigslist and/or the local shelter, and my confession for the week is that I'm actually just sad I answered her email in a professional and polite fashion instead of taking a figurative baseball bat to her head.
I totally get that. As much as I like the idea, I don't know that i'll actually go through with it. I absolutely don't want a c-section and will avoid that at all costs as well. I know that the c-section rate becomes higher when you are induced. I really want my labor to just happen naturally too. I think my anxiety stems from what you were saying about not knowing when/where it will happen. Last year when my best friend was pregnant, her 2 year old would say, "It's so hard waiting for the baby"....and that's how I feel right now
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
@EErin86 I don't have an anterior placenta and I feel like I don't know whether he's pushing his butt or head out.
@myzticsunshine I do in-home therapy for kids with autism. Normally a very fulfilling job, but we cannot do any kind of discipline or punishment. So his attempts to run up the stairs to escape therapy resulted in me being on the stairs trying to block him as he pushes and pulls on me, screaming at the top of his lungs, and over extending my abdomen when I got pushed backward. I just don't have the energy for this kind of crap any more
I had to switch OBs right after the anatomy scan because we moved. My new OB was recommended by my husband's boss' wife. I've seen others talk about how she's "c-section happy" which made me afraid at first. I mean surely no doctor is going to force you to have a c-section if everything looks on the up and up for a vaginal delivery. At my baby shower last week, I was talking to said wife and asked her about the "c-section happy" comments I read. Her response, "Oh yeah, she loves c-sections." I mean, what? How am I supposed to feel about that? Apparently, she's who you go to if you want a c-section because she's so good at them. At this point though, it's too late for me to go elsewhere. And to be honest, I like her bedside manor, and my husband really likes her. I try to look at it this way - I trust in her that if a vaginal birth is possible and healthy for me, that she won't push a c-section. But if things go south and she wants to do a c-section, at least she's the best of the best when it comes to the procedure. And that in some ways is reassuring to me that no matter what happens when it's time for this baby to come, I'm going to be okay, and the baby is going to be okay. I'm just trying to keep the optimal end result in mind to not stress over how it's reached.
Now to drop some dough on storage/organizational items!!
At least a third of the guest list is MIL's extended relatives (cousins at closest) who I maybe met when MIL threw my bridal shower 6 years ago. Wouldn't recognize face or name. DH has no idea who they are either. They are also the most egregious offenders for RSVPing for more people than were on the invite as I've whined about before. I also don't understand why someone would want to go to a shower for someone they don't know... and it's not like this is MIL'so first grandkid - SIL has three.
Then there's the third that is FIL's side of the family that I'very never been close to but I know will be all up in my business touching me.
I also feel there is a strong likelihood that more people than RSVP'd are going to show up. More hives.
I am grateful that all these people are willing to come celebrate Baby, but I feel incredibly overwhelmed.
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