My UO: I dislike cutesy and "clever" and Pinterest-inspired pregnancy reveals. I got caught up in one a few months ago, on video, with family who didn't know we were unsuccessfully TTC. I'm an empath and have very emotional reactions to things-- having a phone in my face as I'm trying not to ugly cry after others finally figured out what can only be described as a pregnancy riddle was an awful experience. I will never do that to anyone.
UO: I don't like the ultrasound thread. I want my own post for my ultrasound because I'm an AW.
YES. I dare someone to pitch me shit for posting a SS thread. I would love to see normal posters squishes. We appear to be regulars, I don't see the harm. Most people get annoyed by the excess of these types of posts because they are from drive by posters who no one is invested in.
"Look at my seahorse everyone! Squee!" who da fuq are you? Yay?
I want to get a boob job after this baby! I breast fed 19 months last time, hoping just 12 for this baby. And then I want these boobs back where they use to be.
I got mine done 6 years ago and will be definitely going back in for a re-do after I'm done breastfeeding. My left one deflated last week and I am actually kind of glad I ended up KU so I can get them re-lifted afterwards!
My UPO is when people say things to your baby that are actually an insult to you as a parent but think it's okay because they are saying it in a baby voice to your baby. ie: "oh poor baby you only get milk you must be so hungry"
M:34 DH:33 Married:10/10/09 DD#1 05/06/2008 DD#2 01/26/2011 DD#3 07/13/2012 TTC#4 Jan 2016 BFP 03/21/2016 Due 11/20/2016
My UO is that I don't give a crap about deli meat. I feel like 90% of the threads have been people bitching about not being able to eat a sandwich. ETA I have been wanting to say this after every new thread turns into talk about meat, but I have been afraid to be too snarky @MissAmeliaPond
This is why I started the sandwich thread. Everyone kept talking about not being able to eat them and I didn't see any snark so I was starting to doubt my evil sandwich-eating self! My last BMB didn't give a shit about sandwiches or sushi.
My UO (maybe more of a FFFC because I can't imagine anyone actually enjoying this) is that I hate feeding my toddler. I hate cleaning up the mess, I hate me constantly bargaining with him to eat, I hate picking food out of my dogs fur, and I hate giving my son a bath after nearly every meal. It's exhausting! In fact, toddlers in general aren't my favorite at the moment.
My UO is, I love the word cunt, and think its underused. Don't really care who that offends, either. And frankly, I don't get why it would be offensive to begin with. So, there's that. Secondly, I'm all for snarking. I have had to hold myself back from making a cunty comment several times here so far, because I didn't want to be the only douche lol. On my last BMB I was the reigning abuse flag champ.
First, I you.
Second, I got your back if you ever want to snark a deserving SS. I like gifs.
UO: I don't like the ultrasound thread. I want my own post for my ultrasound because I'm an AW.
I love this
This!
My UO - I don't like all the board organization. I mean, UO and FFFC are interesting to read usually. And there are others I like. But for example the symptoms thread - I can't even bring myself to open it. I'd much rather individual threads about symptoms. I can choose to read them or not. But the idea of looking at that much symptom stuff in a row is incredibly boring to me. I don't get the whole 'the board is messy or cluttered'. Who cares.
I do think snark will come with time. Crazy things will happen, they always do. Snark about who posted where, again I find pretty dull, and is pretty much just repeating what has happened on all the other boards here. But the real snark will come when we get a crazy or 2, and that's fun.
My UO - I think if you opt for a home birth, you're a selfish idiot. You are NOT doing it for your baby, you're doing it for yourself. Put your own selfish desires for your own comfort aside, and give your new child the best opportunity to actually have any medical care needed when they are born.
I'll be in and out (at work) but flame away.
As a nurse who works in a hospital, I'm going to respectfully disagree. I'm not, however, going to get into an argument with you or attempt to point out why your statements are uninformed and incorrect, because someone who calls a huge group of women "selfish idiots" obviously has their own strong opinion and will likely not be swayed by any amount of evidence to the contrary.
Me: 29, DH: 29 Married 9/27/14 TTC #1 since 8/15/15 BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16 BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16 November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
My UO - I think if you opt for a home birth, you're a selfish idiot. You are NOT doing it for your baby, you're doing it for yourself. Put your own selfish desires for your own comfort aside, and give your new child the best opportunity to actually have any medical care needed when they are born.
I'll be in and out (at work) but flame away.
As a nurse who works in a hospital, I'm going to respectfully disagree. I'm not, however, going to get into an argument with you or attempt to point out why your statements are uninformed and incorrect, because someone who calls a huge group of women "selfish idiots" obviously has their own strong opinion and will likely not be swayed by any amount of evidence to the contrary.
QFP. Aaaand here we go. I'd also like to point out that pretty much saying, "you're wrong but I don't want to explain because it's useless", is actually useless in and of itself. Just sayin'.
My UO - I think if you opt for a home birth, you're a selfish idiot. You are NOT doing it for your baby, you're doing it for yourself. Put your own selfish desires for your own comfort aside, and give your new child the best opportunity to actually have any medical care needed when they are born.
I'll be in and out (at work) but flame away.
As a nurse who works in a hospital, I'm going to respectfully disagree. I'm not, however, going to get into an argument with you or attempt to point out why your statements are uninformed and incorrect, because someone who calls a huge group of women "selfish idiots" obviously has their own strong opinion and will likely not be swayed by any amount of evidence to the contrary.
QFP. Aaaand here we go. I'd also like to point out that pretty much saying, "you're wrong but I don't want to explain because it's useless", is actually useless in and of itself. Just sayin'.
You wanted some snark! I wrote my opinion in detail on the "how many of you are planning a home birth" thread. I could copy and paste if you'd like. I mostly meant here that there's no point in arguing when blanket statements like that are made, and that blanket statements themselves are generally incorrect. There are very few things that are black and white.
Me: 29, DH: 29 Married 9/27/14 TTC #1 since 8/15/15 BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16 BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16 November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
I don't understand the pinterest perfect birthday parties. Your 1 year old couldn't give two craps about what kind of candy buffet or paper decorations you have. They'd rather play with the card envelope and bow than pay attention to your perfectly coordinated decor.
@0Face I'm an event planner and I did the most ridiculous first birthday party a few years ago. The Mom spent a ton of money on everything and asked that we be done with set up 2 hours before the party so that my team could be gone before her guests arrived. She wanted them to think she did it all by herself. We even made all of the Pinterest inspired decor for her.
@zrain I agree with half that sentiment as far as nothing is that simple, but any UO by nature is going to be a blanket statement.
It just seems twisted into something negative by you because you don't agree with her. I saw your post about home birth, but no one on this board is going to dig into your post history because you were too indifferent to bother backing up your own blanket statement by reposting.
My UO - I don't like all the board organization. I mean, UO and FFFC are interesting to read usually. And there are others I like. But for example the symptoms thread - I can't even bring myself to open it. I'd much rather individual threads about symptoms. I can choose to read them or not. But the idea of looking at that much symptom stuff in a row is incredibly boring to me. I don't get the whole 'the board is messy or cluttered'. Who cares.
I have to disagree. If we didn't have one place for symptoms there would be so many SS asking questions about the same symptoms every day. In general newbies don't use the search function or look at the first 2 pages of threads to see if there is a discussion on that topic already. Then it would be hard to find the good and useful threads. I think once in a while having another thread that is specific is fine, but if we didn't have a catch all thread it would be chaos.
I appreciate the board organization, but agree with @MollySm too. The mega threads are hard to keep up with and lend themselves to reporting out, rather than responding to each other. Hence the lack of snark.
@m6agua - I know not everyone agrees with me, that's why I put it in UO. I don't think more threads is chaos. I find it easier to read thread titles and decide what to read and comment on and what to skip, than to look through a long symptom thread or a long random thread.
I like spoilers. I, at some point, will read the ending of the book before I get there. I google the endings of movies (if I'm not in a theatre) and I like reading about episodes I haven't seen yet.
I I agree with @MollySm to an extent. I don't read the super long posts because I can't sit through 67 new posts but I think seeing the same thing over and over would drive me nuts.
Ha @evilgreencows5 I do the same thing with movies! Sooo many times DH will be watching something and I will be too tired to finish it but I'm curious how it ends so I just look it up on Wikipidia LOL! Do the same for other things too. It doesn't bother me at all. I feel like now I know what I wanted to know and if I ever feel like watching it again then I still won't know how the scene went or whatever so it's not a complete bust. LOL
@evilgreencows5I totally wikipedia movies that I don't want to see (extreme gore) that DH takes me to so I don't end up covering my face the entire movie.
@peachykeen17 I completely agree. We're in the sniffing butt stage where everyone is on their best behavior and no one wants to be the first to go BSC on some unsuspecting special snowflake. I have a couple chicks on a post it however, just for being sandy vag'ed already. I didn't start mine for awhile last time, this time Mama comes prepared.
Also, there are theories if you pee in bleach and it turns a certain color it determines gender. You'll see shit about chinese gender charts, ring on a string, angle of the dangle, dancing naked under the full moon covered in peanut butter while burping the ABCs kind of crap. It will get more boring before it gets fun on the board because no one wants to blink first. I have my popcorn gif at the ready.
My personal fav:
Ah-hahaha. I can already tell I like you. I'm looking forward to watching some snark. I also had never heard of the peeing in bleach thing! Do people seriously do that here???
I'm a first timer and probably going to ask some stupid questions, and I give you ladies full permission to snark me if I'm just being stupid.
**TW**
Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
My UO: I think there are way too many daily threads. On my last board, we did HDBD, UO, FFFC and maybe a random Monday one that I didn't participate in. But 3 threads for Tuesday?!
Maybe they'll grow on me and I'm just a baby when it comes to change.
ETA: just saw that this is a similar UO that was already stated
@stepamos Right there with you. If I'm watching anything at all and they don't immediately tell you what's gonna happen I google. H will look over and see my phone out and just give me the side eye.
@zrain I agree with half that sentiment as far as nothing is that simple, but any UO by nature is going to be a blanket statement.
It just seems twisted into something negative by you because you don't agree with her. I saw your post about home birth, but no one on this board is going to dig into your post history because you were too indifferent to bother backing up your own blanket statement by reposting.
Of course I don't expect anyone to dig through past posts. Here you go
"I definitely agree that the hospital is the best place to be in case of an emergency. However, going with a CPM or CNM, whether it's at a birth center or a home birth, does not mean you won't get pitocin, IVs, pain management, and close monitoring. CNMs are highly trained and have prescriptive privileges. In some states, CPMs are allowed to give medications as well. Hospitals come with their share of risks such as nosocomial infections, unnecessary inductions and c-sections, episiotomies, use of forceps, prolonged labor due to epidural use, etc. and the complications that result from all of the above; as well as non-evidence-based practices like laboring on your back, staying in bed for continuous monitoring, keeping mom NPO -nothing by mouth-. Like you said, the important thing is to choose your providers carefully, and always advocate for yourself.
I plan on having my baby with a CPM (accompanied by her apprentice and a midwifery student) in an accredited stand-alone birth center.There are several CNMs on staff and transport time to the hospital is about 10 minutes or less (there are three of them very close by, including two level 1 trauma centers, and all three with NICUs). Midwives there are able to place IVs and administer fluids, anti-hemorrhagic medications, and local anesthetics, as well as oxygen and nitrous oxide. They have a neonatal resuscitation kit in each room. This particular practice has a strong philosophy of early transfer to a higher level of care when there are signs of trouble, and they are very stringent on when they no longer accept a mama for birth outside the hospital (for example >42 weeks gestation, multiples, breech, etc.). However, if I do have to transfer to a hospital, my midwife team turns into three doulas to advocate for me and support me. Personally, I would rather take the tiny risks of something happening at the birth center than give birth in a hospital. Besides avoiding what I listed above, birth is not an illness, but it is often treated like one in the hospital. I want to be comfortable and relaxed and in control, and I don't see myself feeling like that in a hospital. If I end up being high risk or needing to transfer to the hospital, I'll make the best of it. Until then I'm staying away."
As far as twisting it into something negative, to me, calling people selfish idiots is pretty negative, but I'm not taking offense. OP just feels strongly, and that's fine. I feel strongly too, but I see both sides and I'm not going to call anyone names. I think that the hospital is a great place to give birth if that's what you want, and/or if you're high risk. I don't think it makes you an idiot to want to give birth at home with a highly trained midwife when you're low risk and have done your research.
The UO thread would be pretty boring if everyone always agreed with each other, don't you think?
Me: 29, DH: 29 Married 9/27/14 TTC #1 since 8/15/15 BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16 BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16 November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
I hate when I accidentally hit "Quote" instead of "Love it"!!
I think the symptoms long threads and individual threads are all pretty speshul, but I'm a SS so it's nice to have a place to dear diary. I do like when they turn constructive (you find out you're not alone, strategies to deal are offered, etc.).
me . late 30's | h . early 40's | < 3 . 2013
*siggy warning*
ttc#1 . jul 2015
mmc . mar 2016
dx PCOS (non-IR) / subclinical hypothyroidism . summer 2016
tx metformin, levothyroxine, LP progesterone, femara + trigger + ti . fall/winter 2016 BFP . jan 2017 DD . oct 2017
ntnp #2 . summer 2018 mmc x2 . sep 2018 & may 2019 RE workup, dx MTHFR mutation, ultimately unexplained . summer 2019 surprise BFP . aug 2019 DS . may 2020
dx Hashimoto's 2023 ttc #3 . feb 2023 mmc . apr 2023 mmc x3 . mar/jul/aug 2024 dx elevated nk cells tx ovasitol, levothyroxine, baby aspirin, LP progesterone, lovenox, prednisone, femara + ti . jan 2025 BFP . mar 2025
I want to get a boob job after this baby! I breast fed 19 months last time, hoping just 12 for this baby. And then I want these boobs back where they use to be.
Part of the deal with this baby was if he wanted it that bad we had to have 10k ear marked for a boob job before we even started trying. Edit: they are too big and pretty to be so low. Must go higher
I hate when people squat over a public toilet seat because they always end up peeing on the seat. Either get better at squatting or sit on the damn seat!
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Re: UO Thursday 3-24
UO: I don't like the ultrasound thread. I want my own post for my ultrasound because I'm an AW.
"Look at my seahorse everyone! Squee!"
who da fuq are you? Yay?
Married:10/10/09
DD#1 05/06/2008
DD#2 01/26/2011
DD#3 07/13/2012
TTC#4 Jan 2016 BFP 03/21/2016 Due 11/20/2016
My UO (maybe more of a FFFC because I can't imagine anyone actually enjoying this) is that I hate feeding my toddler. I hate cleaning up the mess, I hate me constantly bargaining with him to eat, I hate picking food out of my dogs fur, and I hate giving my son a bath after nearly every meal. It's exhausting! In fact, toddlers in general aren't my favorite at the moment.
Married 7/2012
DS born 11/2013
Ectopic , right tube removed 8/2015
BFP 3/2016
Second, I got your back if you ever want to snark a deserving SS. I like gifs.
My UO - I don't like all the board organization. I mean, UO and FFFC are interesting to read usually. And there are others I like. But for example the symptoms thread - I can't even bring myself to open it. I'd much rather individual threads about symptoms. I can choose to read them or not. But the idea of looking at that much symptom stuff in a row is incredibly boring to me. I don't get the whole 'the board is messy or cluttered'. Who cares.
I do think snark will come with time. Crazy things will happen, they always do. Snark about who posted where, again I find pretty dull, and is pretty much just repeating what has happened on all the other boards here. But the real snark will come when we get a crazy or 2, and that's fun.
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
Married 9/27/14
TTC #1 since 8/15/15
BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16
BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16
November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
I'd also like to point out that pretty much saying, "you're wrong but I don't want to explain because it's useless", is actually useless in and of itself. Just sayin'.
Married 9/27/14
TTC #1 since 8/15/15
BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16
BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16
November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
Formerly: FtrMrsO
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: Oct. 2007
TTC #1: June 2015
BFP#1 3/19/16 MC 3/28/16
BFP #2 5/26/16 EDD 1/31/17
It just seems twisted into something negative by you because you don't agree with her. I saw your post about home birth, but no one on this board is going to dig into your post history because you were too indifferent to bother backing up your own blanket statement by reposting.
Formerly: FtrMrsO
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: Oct. 2007
TTC #1: June 2015
BFP#1 3/19/16 MC 3/28/16
BFP #2 5/26/16 EDD 1/31/17
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I appreciate the board organization, but agree with @MollySm too. The mega threads are hard to keep up with and lend themselves to reporting out, rather than responding to each other. Hence the lack of snark.
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
I I agree with @MollySm to an extent. I don't read the super long posts because I can't sit through 67 new posts but I think seeing the same thing over and over would drive me nuts.
Formerly: FtrMrsO
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: Oct. 2007
TTC #1: June 2015
BFP#1 3/19/16 MC 3/28/16
BFP #2 5/26/16 EDD 1/31/17
Married 7/2012
DS born 11/2013
Ectopic , right tube removed 8/2015
BFP 3/2016
I'm a first timer and probably going to ask some stupid questions, and I give you ladies full permission to snark me if I'm just being stupid.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Maybe they'll grow on me and I'm just a baby when it comes to change.
ETA: just saw that this is a similar UO that was already stated
"I definitely agree that the hospital is the best place to be in case of an emergency. However, going with a CPM or CNM, whether it's at a birth center or a home birth, does not mean you won't get pitocin, IVs, pain management, and close monitoring. CNMs are highly trained and have prescriptive privileges. In some states, CPMs are allowed to give medications as well. Hospitals come with their share of risks such as nosocomial infections, unnecessary inductions and c-sections, episiotomies, use of forceps, prolonged labor due to epidural use, etc. and the complications that result from all of the above; as well as non-evidence-based practices like laboring on your back, staying in bed for continuous monitoring, keeping mom NPO -nothing by mouth-. Like you said, the important thing is to choose your providers carefully, and always advocate for yourself.
I plan on having my baby with a CPM (accompanied by her apprentice and a midwifery student) in an accredited stand-alone birth center.There are several CNMs on staff and transport time to the hospital is about 10 minutes or less (there are three of them very close by, including two level 1 trauma centers, and all three with NICUs). Midwives there are able to place IVs and administer fluids, anti-hemorrhagic medications, and local anesthetics, as well as oxygen and nitrous oxide. They have a neonatal resuscitation kit in each room. This particular practice has a strong philosophy of early transfer to a higher level of care when there are signs of trouble, and they are very stringent on when they no longer accept a mama for birth outside the hospital (for example >42 weeks gestation, multiples, breech, etc.). However, if I do have to transfer to a hospital, my midwife team turns into three doulas to advocate for me and support me. Personally, I would rather take the tiny risks of something happening at the birth center than give birth in a hospital. Besides avoiding what I listed above, birth is not an illness, but it is often treated like one in the hospital. I want to be comfortable and relaxed and in control, and I don't see myself feeling like that in a hospital. If I end up being high risk or needing to transfer to the hospital, I'll make the best of it. Until then I'm staying away."
As far as twisting it into something negative, to me, calling people selfish idiots is pretty negative, but I'm not taking offense. OP just feels strongly, and that's fine. I feel strongly too, but I see both sides and I'm not going to call anyone names. I think that the hospital is a great place to give birth if that's what you want, and/or if you're high risk. I don't think it makes you an idiot to want to give birth at home with a highly trained midwife when you're low risk and have done your research.
The UO thread would be pretty boring if everyone always agreed with each other, don't you think?
Married 9/27/14
TTC #1 since 8/15/15
BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16
BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16
November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
*siggy warning*
mmc . mar 2016
dx PCOS (non-IR) / subclinical hypothyroidism . summer 2016
tx metformin, levothyroxine, LP progesterone, femara + trigger + ti . fall/winter 2016
BFP . jan 2017
DD . oct 2017
ntnp #2 . summer 2018
mmc x2 . sep 2018 & may 2019
RE workup, dx MTHFR mutation, ultimately unexplained . summer 2019
surprise BFP . aug 2019
DS . may 2020
dx Hashimoto's 2023
ttc #3 . feb 2023
mmc . apr 2023
mmc x3 . mar/jul/aug 2024
dx elevated nk cells
tx ovasitol, levothyroxine, baby aspirin, LP progesterone, lovenox, prednisone, femara + ti . jan 2025
BFP . mar 2025
Edit: they are too big and pretty to be so low. Must go higher
edited because I sounded like a judgey jerk
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.