DD is 2 years (almost) 3 months and has never had a haircut. I will not cut her hair. Despite the fact that her hair falls in her eyes and drives her crazy, I refuse to cut it. DH says she needs a haircut but nope, won't do it. I do not like bangs on little girls. Scratch that, I do not like bangs at ALL. Some people can pull it off and it looks great on them. I am not one of those people, and my daughter will not be one of those people (because right now I can make that choice for her). So even though it drives her nuts for me to do her hair every morning, I will continue doing so until her hair in the front can long enough to be tucked behind her ears the way I do.
Bangs on a kid are the biggest pain in the ass, I totally understand why you wouldn't want them on her. I'll probably be the same way.
Today my FFFC is that I hate when LO has the hiccups. It's just not cute anymore because she's so big, and it shakes my body. And especially when it wakes/keeps me up at night. Sigh. I'm already an evil mommy.
My baby gets the hiccups all the time (has them now!!) funny story- my 2 year old niece thinks it means the baby is sad and crying, so she gets really concerned if she hears baby has hiccups.
DD is 2 years (almost) 3 months and has never had a haircut. I will not cut her hair. Despite the fact that her hair falls in her eyes and drives her crazy, I refuse to cut it. DH says she needs a haircut but nope, won't do it. I do not like bangs on little girls. Scratch that, I do not like bangs at ALL. Some people can pull it off and it looks great on them. I am not one of those people, and my daughter will not be one of those people (because right now I can make that choice for her). So even though it drives her nuts for me to do her hair every morning, I will continue doing so until her hair in the front can long enough to be tucked behind her ears the way I do.
DD will be 2 in June and is no where close to getting a haircut, despite her crazy clown fro. As of now it can be an almost pony tail or pushed back with a headband. Cute, but it tangles like crazy, poor girl. I can't wait til I can braid it for her!
DD is 2 years (almost) 3 months and has never had a haircut. I will not cut her hair. Despite the fact that her hair falls in her eyes and drives her crazy, I refuse to cut it. DH says she needs a haircut but nope, won't do it. I do not like bangs on little girls. Scratch that, I do not like bangs at ALL. Some people can pull it off and it looks great on them. I am not one of those people, and my daughter will not be one of those people (because right now I can make that choice for her). So even though it drives her nuts for me to do her hair every morning, I will continue doing so until her hair in the front can long enough to be tucked behind her ears the way I do.
I hate bangs in kids too, but I won't have long hair on a girl because of how traumatized I was by my hair as kid. We weren't allowed to have hair cut above our belly buttons because a woman's hair is her crown of glory or some bullshit... I had horrible ultra curly, super easily tangled hair, that worked its way out of braids, pony tails, buns etc. If I have a daughter and her hair is like mine it's going to be short until she feels like she can manage it herself. I won't have my baby crying at the sight of a hair brush every morning. /cringe at those childhood memories...
Ok this one is highly flammable. A friend of ours has struggled with infertility for the last five years. They just announced that they are expecting twins the end of July. They are so excited because they have so much love to share. They are not parent material. They are still pretty big into the drinking. She is maybe 100 lbs soaking wet and is pretty bent out of shape when she gains even a little weight. She just posted that she's gained 25 already, just wants a night on the town, is tired all the time, and feels as big as a whale.
I really want to stab her. Prior to finding out she was pregnant she posted non stop about how pregnant women should just be happy they are pregnant and stop complaining because at least they have a baby. I am happy they are pregnant, but come on...I think most pregnant women bitch for good reason.
I don't think your opinion is inflammatory at all, at least from my point of view. We struggled with infertility for 4 years until we were able to afford IVF last year. I never complained during that time about pregnant women posting on social media or complaining because pregnancy and parenting are HARD! I don't think you need to go through it to see it. I don't complain to anyone besides you ladies, my husband, and my bestie because it's not my style. But i reserve the right to complain if I need to!
FFFC- I did laundry, cleaned bathrooms, and baked a couple cakes... I refuse to go for my normal walk and swim later tonight! Instead I'm going to go out to dinner with hubby, go to a home expo we got free tickets to see, and then come home eat all the cake and play video games/Magic the gathering! Adulting can wait for another day.
FFFC: I don't understand the extreme opposition to having visitors while in the hospital. I mean, I can see not wanting everyone and their sister there, but saying no to close family is strange to me. I was so bored in the hospital, DH had to go to work, I welcomed the occasional visitor.
So I've been having what I guess at this point is contractions on and off again most of the morning and I legit cried out of fear because I don't feel ready to go into labor yet. On the other hand, DH tried to comfort me and promised to do all the dishes today, win!
@elasticheart13 hang in there, mama! Are they regular at all or just BH?
Your not alone. I've been having more and more lately. Mine are mostly BH, but I decided to time them last night and got them about 11 mins apart, then they just stopped. Dr didn't seem to concerned last night when I called.
They were not regular. I tried timing them but they were like 10 min or 5 min apart and then they stopped as well. I didn't call as I thought it was probably nothing. DH keeps telling me I will go into labor soon and it's making me panic.
I'm donating all the cheap brand baby washes/shampoos/lotions and baby clothes that I got at my baby shower. My aunt and uncle always go overboard in quantity in terms of gifts, which is nice of them, but it's usually 5 cheap items instead of maybe 1 decent item. They gave me a box at the baby shower with no joke, about 30 things in it, including what is clearly dollar store baby wash, baby lotion, baby rattle, baby bottles, etc.
I feel like a pompous a-hole but I'm not using those items on my baby nor letting him/her put them in her mouth. Sorry not sorry.
I'm donating all the cheap brand baby washes/shampoos/lotions and baby clothes that I got at my baby shower. My aunt and uncle always go overboard in quantity in terms of gifts, which is nice of them, but it's usually 5 cheap items instead of maybe 1 decent item. They gave me a box at the baby shower with no joke, about 30 things in it, including what is clearly dollar store baby wash, baby lotion, baby rattle, baby bottles, etc.
I feel like a pompous a-hole but I'm not using those items on my baby nor letting him/her put them in her mouth. Sorry not sorry.
They should have hotglued it to a fancy foam wreath. That would have made it a truly awesome gift ;P
FFFC: I don't understand the extreme opposition to having visitors while in the hospital. I mean, I can see not wanting everyone and their sister there, but saying no to close family is strange to me. I was so bored in the hospital, DH had to go to work, I welcomed the occasional visitor.
I was just discussing this with my mom. She thinks I'm insane for not wanting everyone visiting. I only want my parents, his parents, my best friend if she can can make it, and my siblings and nephews to visit. But for me I'm highly introverted, and I get easily drained around people. Besides I'm looking forward to not having to wear clothing or breastfeed more discreetly if I don't want to, and there are only four people in my small list I have to cover up for (my dad, his dad, his mom, my brother) Fiancé is not going back to work for two weeks once I'm admitted in the hospital, and he doesn't have a license right now, so it's not like he's going anywhere lol
@misstopsail Totally not flaming, just concerned about safety: please don't sleep in a recliner with your baby. Sleeping with an infant should be done intentionally, safely, and never in a recliner or on a couch. Research (although difficult to conduct because of recording deficits) shows that basically all cosleeping infant deaths occur when parents aren't following safety rules. I used to fall asleep all the damn time nursing my first in a recliner- until the night I nearly squished her because she wiggled over between my side and the arm of the chair instead of on my lap. Crazy scary, and now I feel obligated to speak up when I hear someone contemplating the same thing.
I feel like I should confess something else now, and I have nothing beyond third trimester laziness. My kids are all watching Batman cartoons while I bump, and I ate my husband's froyo for lunch. It was delicious. I do feel like I should go get him some more, but if I do that I'm pretty sure I'll also get more for me,and my ass definitely doesn't need that.
I'm donating all the cheap brand baby washes/shampoos/lotions and baby clothes that I got at my baby shower. My aunt and uncle always go overboard in quantity in terms of gifts, which is nice of them, but it's usually 5 cheap items instead of maybe 1 decent item. They gave me a box at the baby shower with no joke, about 30 things in it, including what is clearly dollar store baby wash, baby lotion, baby rattle, baby bottles, etc.
I feel like a pompous a-hole but I'm not using those items on my baby nor letting him/her put them in her mouth. Sorry not sorry.
They should have hotglued it to a fancy foam wreath. That would have made it a truly awesome gift ;P
I still laugh every time I think of that stupid wreath!
@emgee27 One of DH's cousins regifted what were clearly used onesies to us at my baby shower. While it's nice to want to pass on items that their baby is no longer using, it seems really odd to me to wrap them up as a gift. They were not at all my style, either (they were actually "Princess" ones - both parents are Disney fanatics so half the stuff the baby is dressed in is princess crap. Barf.).
I'm donating all the cheap brand baby washes/shampoos/lotions and baby clothes that I got at my baby shower. My aunt and uncle always go overboard in quantity in terms of gifts, which is nice of them, but it's usually 5 cheap items instead of maybe 1 decent item. They gave me a box at the baby shower with no joke, about 30 things in it, including what is clearly dollar store baby wash, baby lotion, baby rattle, baby bottles, etc.
I feel like a pompous a-hole but I'm not using those items on my baby nor letting him/her put them in her mouth. Sorry not sorry.
I mean, at least you're donating. We all have our preferences, but if you think these 'Dollar store items' are not good enough for your child, but are good enough for someone who is underprivileged, and that's your rationale for donation.. that's kind of sad.
@emgee27 at the same time, I understand where you're actually coming from though. My aunt used to do this a lot, but it was more just that she gave me so much I truly didn't need it. I'd have a drawer full of things from her, so I would eventually donate. It's not the price/quality of them that bothered me, I just didn't need them, and there are certain things we all prefer. (I don't spend in excess on a lot of items, although I do splurge on some admittedly). I doubt you're truly a pompous a-hole though, I just wasn't crazy about the word choice there.
These days, I miss that lady terribly and would be happy to get a bag full of her discount knick-knacks.
@emgee27 at the same time, I understand where you're actually coming from though. My aunt used to do this a lot, but it was more just that she gave me so much I truly didn't need it. I'd have a drawer full of things from her, so I would eventually donate. It's not the price/quality of them that bothered me, I just didn't need them, and there are certain things we all prefer. (I don't spend in excess on a lot of items, although I do splurge on some admittedly). I doubt you're truly a pompous a-hole though, I just wasn't crazy about the word choice there.
These days, I miss that lady terribly and would be happy to get a bag full of her discount knick-knacks.
I totally understand what you're saying and my husband had the same argument. I feel bad both ways, like if I don't donate them and they go in the trash, that seems wasteful.
My preference is more about using fragrance free, more organic-style products because I think those are healthier for you. So is that the same thing? About 3 years ago, I did a big overhaul on my cosmetics, beauty products and deodorant because I just don't want those additives on my or my family's skin. The plastic toys are more about BPA and that often at dollar stores, there are warning posted of carcinogens and lead paint, etc. (And believe me, I love a good Dollar Tree or 99 Cents store for certain things!!)
So I'm torn. Do I donate something like that or not? I'm honestly at a loss. Maybe I'll glue it to a wreath and mail it to @Knottie9983816 because I heard she's starting a collection...
ETA: @AEG84 that is weird because why not just pass them along as hand-me-downs, which is already done often anyway?
@emgee27 at the same time, I understand where you're actually coming from though. My aunt used to do this a lot, but it was more just that she gave me so much I truly didn't need it. I'd have a drawer full of things from her, so I would eventually donate. It's not the price/quality of them that bothered me, I just didn't need them, and there are certain things we all prefer. (I don't spend in excess on a lot of items, although I do splurge on some admittedly). I doubt you're truly a pompous a-hole though, I just wasn't crazy about the word choice there.
These days, I miss that lady terribly and would be happy to get a bag full of her discount knick-knacks.
I totally understand what you're saying and my husband had the same argument. I feel bad both ways, like if I don't donate them and they go in the trash, that seems wasteful.
My preference is more about using fragrance free, more organic-style products because I think those are healthier for you. So is that the same thing? About 3 years ago, I did a big overhaul on my cosmetics, beauty products and deodorant because I just don't want those additives on my or my family's skin. The plastic toys are more about BPA and that often at dollar stores, there are warning posted of carcinogens and lead paint, etc. (And believe me, I love a good Dollar Tree or 99 Cents store for certain things!!)
So I'm torn. Do I donate something like that or not? I'm honestly at a loss. Maybe I'll glue it to a wreath and mail it to @Knottie9983816 because I heard she's starting a collection...
ETA: @AEG84 that is weird because why not just pass them along as hand-me-downs, which is already done often anyway?
As long as companies can legally make and sell products with these chemicals, some poor people will use them, whether donated or not. If you can afford healthier stuff for your kid, it's not like you should use inferior products because some people can't buy good stuff. You can't provide for the whole world.
FFFC: I don't understand the extreme opposition to having visitors while in the hospital. I mean, I can see not wanting everyone and their sister there, but saying no to close family is strange to me. I was so bored in the hospital, DH had to go to work, I welcomed the occasional visitor.
I was just discussing this with my mom. She thinks I'm insane for not wanting everyone visiting. I only want my parents, his parents, my best friend if she can can make it, and my siblings and nephews to visit. But for me I'm highly introverted, and I get easily drained around people. Besides I'm looking forward to not having to wear clothing or breastfeed more discreetly if I don't want to, and there are only four people in my small list I have to cover up for (my dad, his dad, his mom, my brother) Fiancé is not going back to work for two weeks once I'm admitted in the hospital, and he doesn't have a license right now, so it's not like he's going anywhere lol
Yeah we don't want to many visitors either. Only ppl who will know when it's going down is our direct family. All other friends and family will have to wait and find out later once I feel better. I don't want to deal with ppl after a c section. Heck you don't visit/call me on bed rest - you can sure wait to see the baby.
@mojomama6 that's a good point! We are not cosleeping, I just hear everyone tell me I want a recliner for the 'resting/nursing' time. I was already worried about struggling with the seat trying to stand up with him, I didn't consider the falling into a true, deep sleep in the chair concern.
@cmjenkies I don't see a problem with hospital visitors, but I am banning visitors for 24 hours when we get home. I think I'm going to want some quiet (ha) time to settle in with the baby.
@emgee27 at the same time, I understand where you're actually coming from though. My aunt used to do this a lot, but it was more just that she gave me so much I truly didn't need it. I'd have a drawer full of things from her, so I would eventually donate. It's not the price/quality of them that bothered me, I just didn't need them, and there are certain things we all prefer. (I don't spend in excess on a lot of items, although I do splurge on some admittedly). I doubt you're truly a pompous a-hole though, I just wasn't crazy about the word choice there.
These days, I miss that lady terribly and would be happy to get a bag full of her discount knick-knacks.
I totally understand what you're saying and my husband had the same argument. I feel bad both ways, like if I don't donate them and they go in the trash, that seems wasteful.
My preference is more about using fragrance free, more organic-style products because I think those are healthier for you. So is that the same thing? About 3 years ago, I did a big overhaul on my cosmetics, beauty products and deodorant because I just don't want those additives on my or my family's skin. The plastic toys are more about BPA and that often at dollar stores, there are warning posted of carcinogens and lead paint, etc. (And believe me, I love a good Dollar Tree or 99 Cents store for certain things!!)
So I'm torn. Do I donate something like that or not? I'm honestly at a loss. Maybe I'll glue it to a wreath and mail it to @Knottie9983816 because I heard she's starting a collection...
ETA: @AEG84 that is weird because why not just pass them along as hand-me-downs, which is already done often anyway?
For the record I donating everything I'm not going to use for the same reasons. I'm right up there with you on the chemicals in beauty products, and until Johnson and Johnson can adhere to the same standards the have worldwide for their US formulas, no thank you. I like Honest Company, and Burts Bees, although I'm questioning the latter recently since they were bought by another major corporation and I don't think the mother company is against animal testing >.> Don't quote me on that, I need to re research it.
For the record I donating everything I'm not going to use for the same reasons. I'm right up there with you on the chemicals in beauty products, and until Johnson and Johnson can adhere to the same standards the have worldwide for their US formulas, no thank you. I like Honest Company, and Burts Bees, although I'm questioning the latter recently since they were bought by another major corporation and I don't think the mother company is against animal testing >.> Don't quote me on that, I need to re research it.
It really is pretty nuts how many chemicals are banned from the same products in the EU and Canada but are ok to use in US products. I'm wary of all of that, that's my primary concern.
Thank you @RoseShadow873 for your argument, that makes total sense to me. It's true these products are legally sold her and I'd prefer not to use them.
@emgee27 I was thinking about this issue more, and really I think it can eventually help everyone when people that can afford it buy safer products because it can encourage the other brands to change what they are doing since they are losing out on business.
Mmmmmm smoked salmon! We make our own I bought DH a smoker for Christmas a few years ago and we've done a lot in it, by far my favorite is homemade smoked salmon. He has this great brine and rub. We eat is just plain smoked salmon, smoked salmon dip, and I even did a smoked salmon chowder with it once. So SO good.
QBF I bought DH a new smoker for Christmas this year. We brine our salmon too, then put a little brown sugar on top while it smokes. I'm a born and raised New Yorker so bagels and lox has been a favorite of mine forever. I've come to prefer our smoked salmon over lox now.
Now as I'm thinking about things DH has smoked it's looking like brisket is going to need to happen in the very near future.
So... Forgive my southern ignorance, but what is lox?
Basically expensive smoked salmon. It's brined and smoked at a really low temperature for a long time and sliced very thinly.
@emgee27 I'm with you on donating. I had a surprise work shower and got so much pink stuff I wanted to vomit. I'm a huge tomboy and I really, really dislike the color pink and the connotation that all little girls need to be 'girly.' If that's what she chooses when she's older I'll happily oblige, but until then the amount of pink in my house will be severely limited. Other moms love to put their kids in pink, frilly clothes; more power to them. I don't think it makes either of us vain to have preferences.
I actually prefer people to visit in the hospital because then when I get home they leave me alone my mom and inlaws are the only ones who will come over after we get home and that's to help us with food, cleaning, and to check on all of us which I don't mind because they only stay for 30 minutes max.
@TKaiser91 I feel the same way. I'd rather someone pop over for a quick hospital visit than have them come to my house! Especially because I feel everyone gets bored of the hospital fast and at my house I might have to entertain them endlessly.
I have a random confession based on something that happened today: when I find hair in my food at restaurants I just take it out and keep eating. I know it's gross but whatever I guess.
@emgee27 I'm with you on donating. I had a surprise work shower and got so much pink stuff I wanted to vomit. I'm a huge tomboy and I really, really dislike the color pink and the connotation that all little girls need to be 'girly.' If that's what she chooses when she's older I'll happily oblige, but until then the amount of pink in my house will be severely limited. Other moms love to put their kids in pink, frilly clothes; more power to them. I don't think it makes either of us vain to have preferences.
I was the same way you are about dressing my daughter in pink and frills. I hate pink and, being the only girl out of 5 children, really geared my interests to more "boy" things. However, my daughter is 100% girly girl. I have no idea where she gets it from. Seriously, the more glitter and flowers the better for this girl. I still aim her in a more neutral direction when we're getting her new clothes, but I can't stop this girl's style. At least I was able to avoid the pink while she was too young to protest haha
I have a random confession based on something that happened today: when I find hair in my food at restaurants I just take it out and keep eating. I know it's gross but whatever I guess.
I registered for a lot of items that had "boy" in the description. This girl LOVES turtles, and I think baby girl will, too!
We did a lot of stereotypical girl stuff with DD when we registered. As she's gotten older she loves things like Star Wars, Legos and balls. We aren't going to force gender norms on our kids.
DD is 2 years (almost) 3 months and has never had a haircut. I will not cut her hair. Despite the fact that her hair falls in her eyes and drives her crazy, I refuse to cut it. DH says she needs a haircut but nope, won't do it. I do not like bangs on little girls. Scratch that, I do not like bangs at ALL. Some people can pull it off and it looks great on them. I am not one of those people, and my daughter will not be one of those people (because right now I can make that choice for her). So even though it drives her nuts for me to do her hair every morning, I will continue doing so until her hair in the front can long enough to be tucked behind her ears the way I
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I am anti-bangs too. My mom used to have to fight me to get me to let her trim them, so we just were not doing that crap for DD. She's never had a haircut, but I am considering a trim for her soon cause the ends are so tangly... but she also has curls that I suspect won't grow back.
I have a random confession based on something that happened today: when I find hair in my food at restaurants I just take it out and keep eating. I know it's gross but whatever I guess.
I'm right there with you. Unless I find a fingernail, it's not worth it to me to complain because I can guarantee I've eaten worse.
I have a random confession based on something that happened today: when I find hair in my food at restaurants I just take it out and keep eating. I know it's gross but whatever I guess.
I'm right there with you. Unless I find a fingernail, it's not worth it to me to complain because I can guarantee I've eaten worse.
I already eat dog hair literally every day. There is nothing I can do.
Re: FFFC
I don't think your opinion is inflammatory at all, at least from my point of view.
We struggled with infertility for 4 years until we were able to afford IVF last year.
I never complained during that time about pregnant women posting on social media or complaining because pregnancy and parenting are HARD! I don't think you need to go through it to see it.
I don't complain to anyone besides you ladies, my husband, and my bestie because it's not my style. But i reserve the right to complain if I need to!
I feel like a pompous a-hole but I'm not using those items on my baby nor letting him/her put them in her mouth. Sorry not sorry.
I feel like I should confess something else now, and I have nothing beyond third trimester laziness. My kids are all watching Batman cartoons while I bump, and I ate my husband's froyo for lunch. It was delicious. I do feel like I should go get him some more, but if I do that I'm pretty sure I'll also get more for me,and my ass definitely doesn't need that.
I have eaten this entire bag. I saved one for fiancé... That TOTALLY counts as sharing, right? Right???
@emgee27 One of DH's cousins regifted what were clearly used onesies to us at my baby shower. While it's nice to want to pass on items that their baby is no longer using, it seems really odd to me to wrap them up as a gift. They were not at all my style, either (they were actually "Princess" ones - both parents are Disney fanatics so half the stuff the baby is dressed in is princess crap. Barf.).
These days, I miss that lady terribly and would be happy to get a bag full of her discount knick-knacks.
My preference is more about using fragrance free, more organic-style products because I think those are healthier for you. So is that the same thing? About 3 years ago, I did a big overhaul on my cosmetics, beauty products and deodorant because I just don't want those additives on my or my family's skin. The plastic toys are more about BPA and that often at dollar stores, there are warning posted of carcinogens and lead paint, etc. (And believe me, I love a good Dollar Tree or 99 Cents store for certain things!!)
So I'm torn. Do I donate something like that or not? I'm honestly at a loss. Maybe I'll glue it to a wreath and mail it to @Knottie9983816 because I heard she's starting a collection...
ETA: @AEG84 that is weird because why not just pass them along as hand-me-downs, which is already done often anyway?
@cmjenkies I don't see a problem with hospital visitors, but I am banning visitors for 24 hours when we get home. I think I'm going to want some quiet (ha) time to settle in with the baby.
Thank you @RoseShadow873 for your argument, that makes total sense to me. It's true these products are legally sold her and I'd prefer not to use them.
Edited: because words.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016