@1faceinacrowd there's a lot I'd like to say, nicely even if I were being honest, but I'm afraid of getting thrown in Bump Jail again so I'll refrain. Just know, giving an apology doesn't mean someone is required to accept and even if they do.. It's not instant forgiveness. I'm not Jesus.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
Mama to two perfect little girls. Lucy 07-13-11 Violet 03-13-14 Conceived #3 since September 2015 11-25-15 twelve week loss 07-21-16 ten week loss 10-03-16 5 week loss TTC again soon!
@1faceinacrowd For what it is worth, I am sorry to hear about everything going on with your ex not really caring for your daughter appropriately during her time with him. I know it must be incredibly stressful for you, and your daughter, to have to decide if he should have custody of her anymore at this point. And of course no one ever wants to have to take the other parent of their child to court. I am sorry that all that is going on in your life and I do wish you, and your daughter, all the best there. I've never been in that situation so I can't pretend to understand what it is like but I'm sure it can't be easy.
As for the bitter part, I'm going to agree with everyone else saying that there aren't many other ways to take that other than it being offensive. However, since you've never really struggled TTC I can see how you wouldn't really fully understand that. I know I didn't fully grasp how difficult and emotionally draining longer-term TTC could be until I found myself living through it. It has definitely taken an unexpected emotional toll on DH and I. And your lack of understanding here isn't completely your fault so I suppose (I'm in a really good mood today) I'm willing to give you a partial pass on that. Hopefully, now that it has been explained to you and you can see why it's hurtful you won't say it or agree with someone who says it in the future. And yes, I know you didn't say it this time but still hopefully there won't be a future event where it is ever said.
Me: 28 Husband: 31 TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016 Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
@NamelessAria Thank you. I appreciate your empathetic response, and that you granted me the benefit of the doubt, so to speak, that I'm an intelligent enough human to actually learn from this experience and move forward with a slightly better understanding of how difficult the TTC journey can be, and how certain words/statements can hurt people.
Everyone else - I'm done checking/responding to this. I don't expect anyone to forgive me; I wasn't seeking forgiveness. I sincerely wanted those of you who were hurt by the August PGAL thread to know that I was sorry, and I wanted to clarify what I meant by my comment, as that is the only comment that I can speak for.
Everybody handles things differently, but I know that if someone said something really cruddy to or about me that made me feel like crap - no matter what their intentions - I would appreciate knowing that they were sorry and that they learned from it, even if I didn't forgive them. I get that not everyone cares, but I know that at least a few of you are glad to know that I understand how what was said could be hurtful, and that I'm sorry.
I would like to wish the best of luck to each and every one of you in your journey.
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
REST ASSURED GUYS; the apology that was given regarding her comment on the BMB about us still being here when she TTGP again isn't for everyone.
If you're a bitch like me, you're just doomed to rot in hell with an empty uterus for the rest of your life, or at least, that's what's implied when she's out of the public eye.
Can I plunk this thread back on it's original rails and have a little freak out because yesterday's ultrasound showed a large SCH but also TWINS! I don't know what to do with myself...everything is far from certain and far from perfect considering the size of the bleed, but I felt like this thread could use some more happy!
Hoping to see all of you TTCers on your BMBs soon!
REST ASSURED GUYS; the apology that was given regarding her comment on the BMB about us still being here when she TTGP again isn't for everyone.
If you're a bitch like me, you're just doomed to rot in hell with an empty uterus for the rest of your life, or at least, that's what's implied when she's out of the public eye.
Wha-a-at?! I was prepared to walk away but not now. Not cool. Not cool at all.
Can I plunk this thread back on it's original rails and have a little freak out because yesterday's ultrasound showed a large SCH but also TWINS! I don't know what to do with myself...everything is far from certain and far from perfect considering the size of the bleed, but I felt like this thread could use some more happy!
Hoping to see all of you TTCers on your BMBs soon!
REST ASSURED GUYS; the apology that was given regarding her comment on the BMB about us still being here when she TTGP again isn't for everyone.
If you're a bitch like me, you're just doomed to rot in hell with an empty uterus for the rest of your life, or at least, that's what's implied when she's out of the public eye.
Wha-a-at?! I was prepared to walk away but not now. Not cool. Not cool at all.
Eh. It's not breaking my heart. Not like I expected hugs and a chance to slap her, since we're not talking in the public eye. I just get told I'm a bitch for telling her to move on.
I'm good though. Quite done with this one. Gonna go finish homework until my lab starts, and then enjoy time with the actual TTGP ladies and make sure I didn't miss any check-ins on accident.
@NamelessAria Thank you. I appreciate your empathetic response, and that you granted me the benefit of the doubt, so to speak, that I'm an intelligent enough human to actually learn from this experience and move forward with a slightly better understanding of how difficult the TTC journey can be, and how certain words/statements can hurt people.
Everyone else - I'm done checking/responding to this. I don't expect anyone to forgive me; I wasn't seeking forgiveness. I sincerely wanted those of you who were hurt by the August PGAL thread to know that I was sorry, and I wanted to clarify what I meant by my comment, as that is the only comment that I can speak for.
Everybody handles things differently, but I know that if someone said something really cruddy to or about me that made me feel like crap - no matter what their intentions - I would appreciate knowing that they were sorry and that they learned from it, even if I didn't forgive them. I get that not everyone cares, but I know that at least a few of you are glad to know that I understand how what was said could be hurtful, and that I'm sorry.
I would like to wish the best of luck to each and every one of you in your journey.
** Lurking **
This is a really interesting situation, from a social perspective.
Imagine that instead of leaving politely without further comment, an offending party chooses to shame people for lack of compassion, makes more excuses for one's bad behaviour, and comes up with justifications for providing justifications when they have been told that justifications are of solace to nobody, and not welcome.
@1faceinacrowd Out of curiosity, would you say that a person who exhibits the behaviour described above would make further comment when prompted, or would they hold to their promise to stay clear from the conversation out of respect for the other party, to whom they have profusely apologised.
I guess I am just wondering if the apology is genuine enough to be acted on, or if the urge to give excuses takes precedent.
It's a neat little thought experiment, don't you think?
Can I plunk this thread back on it's original rails and have a little freak out because yesterday's ultrasound showed a large SCH but also TWINS! I don't know what to do with myself...everything is far from certain and far from perfect considering the size of the bleed, but I felt like this thread could use some more happy!
Hoping to see all of you TTCers on your BMBs soon!
FX that the SCH doesn't cause any extra problems for you. That's so exciting for you! Congrats!
Me:27 DH: 28 Married May 2012 TTC#1 July 2013 - July 2015 (no success) Again TTC#1: Dec 2015 First RE visit: Feb 2016 BFP: 9/16/16 EDD:5/26/17
@NamelessAria Thank you. I appreciate your empathetic response, and that you granted me the benefit of the doubt, so to speak, that I'm an intelligent enough human to actually learn from this experience and move forward with a slightly better understanding of how difficult the TTC journey can be, and how certain words/statements can hurt people.
Everyone else - I'm done checking/responding to this. I don't expect anyone to forgive me; I wasn't seeking forgiveness. I sincerely wanted those of you who were hurt by the August PGAL thread to know that I was sorry, and I wanted to clarify what I meant by my comment, as that is the only comment that I can speak for.
Everybody handles things differently, but I know that if someone said something really cruddy to or about me that made me feel like crap - no matter what their intentions - I would appreciate knowing that they were sorry and that they learned from it, even if I didn't forgive them. I get that not everyone cares, but I know that at least a few of you are glad to know that I understand how what was said could be hurtful, and that I'm sorry.
I would like to wish the best of luck to each and every one of you in your journey.
see...that kind of contradicts your apology. And the fact that your apology only applies to some of us, but not all.
Can I plunk this thread back on it's original rails and have a little freak out because yesterday's ultrasound showed a large SCH but also TWINS! I don't know what to do with myself...everything is far from certain and far from perfect considering the size of the bleed, but I felt like this thread could use some more happy!
Hoping to see all of you TTCers on your BMBs soon!
TWINS!!! I have every finger and toe crossed for a good outcome, and a healthy 9 months for you.
I feel like I've waited my whole life to post in one of these! Lol I remember seeing these so often when we were TTGP; it's nice to come visit for a second.
*How far along are you? Will be 20 weeks this Sunday, FINALLY! Lol
*Which birth month board/due date? July! (28th using date of conception, 31st using LMP)
*Team Pink/Blue/Green? Unofficially team pink! (We'll know for sure on Monday 3/14...FX!)
*How are you doing picking out a name? Feel free to share Honey, I've had names picked for every possible combo kids could come since 6th grade lol but I did have to compromise a TINY bit. If it's a boy though, I have NO idea so I guess I'd be pretty open.
*Questions, concerns or other? Anything else exciting to share? I'm just glad to post in one of these! I'll update on Monday
ETA: 1) I was JUST thinking about how I wish there was like a running list of TTGP grads so we could celebrate those who got em after us. Congratulations ladies! I'm happy for you all!
2) Wow, Aug16...
3) I ALWAYS miss the original posts that get removed! Crap.
4) I just read all 8 pages, and whew! THIS is the stuff I've been missing! Lol
Can I plunk this thread back on it's original rails and have a little freak out because yesterday's ultrasound showed a large SCH but also TWINS! I don't know what to do with myself...everything is far from certain and far from perfect considering the size of the bleed, but I felt like this thread could use some more happy!
Hoping to see all of you TTCers on your BMBs soon!
Re: March '16 TTGP Grad Check-In!
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Also, I found this GIF and really wanted to use it.
Previously nweg...7878
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Lucy 07-13-11
Violet 03-13-14
Conceived #3 since September 2015
11-25-15 twelve week loss
07-21-16 ten week loss
10-03-16 5 week loss
TTC again soon!
As for the bitter part, I'm going to agree with everyone else saying that there aren't many other ways to take that other than it being offensive. However, since you've never really struggled TTC I can see how you wouldn't really fully understand that. I know I didn't fully grasp how difficult and emotionally draining longer-term TTC could be until I found myself living through it. It has definitely taken an unexpected emotional toll on DH and I. And your lack of understanding here isn't completely your fault so I suppose (I'm in a really good mood today) I'm willing to give you a partial pass on that. Hopefully, now that it has been explained to you and you can see why it's hurtful you won't say it or agree with someone who says it in the future. And yes, I know you didn't say it this time but still hopefully there won't be a future event where it is ever said.
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
Everyone else - I'm done checking/responding to this. I don't expect anyone to forgive me; I wasn't seeking forgiveness. I sincerely wanted those of you who were hurt by the August PGAL thread to know that I was sorry, and I wanted to clarify what I meant by my comment, as that is the only comment that I can speak for.
Everybody handles things differently, but I know that if someone said something really cruddy to or about me that made me feel like crap - no matter what their intentions - I would appreciate knowing that they were sorry and that they learned from it, even if I didn't forgive them. I get that not everyone cares, but I know that at least a few of you are glad to know that I understand how what was said could be hurtful, and that I'm sorry.
I would like to wish the best of luck to each and every one of you in your journey.
If you're a bitch like me, you're just doomed to rot in hell with an empty uterus for the rest of your life, or at least, that's what's implied when she's out of the public eye.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Hoping to see all of you TTCers on your BMBs soon!
LFAF April Siggy Challenge - TV/Movie BFFS - Romy & Michele
Eh. It's not breaking my heart. Not like I expected hugs and a chance to slap her, since we're not talking in the public eye. I just get told I'm a bitch for telling her to move on.
I'm good though. Quite done with this one. Gonna go finish homework until my lab starts, and then enjoy time with the actual TTGP ladies and make sure I didn't miss any check-ins on accident.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
And here I was thinking this hot mess was over...
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
** Lurking **
This is a really interesting situation, from a social perspective.
Imagine that instead of leaving politely without further comment, an offending party chooses to shame people for lack of compassion, makes more excuses for one's bad behaviour, and comes up with justifications for providing justifications when they have been told that justifications are of solace to nobody, and not welcome.
@1faceinacrowd Out of curiosity, would you say that a person who exhibits the behaviour described above would make further comment when prompted, or would they hold to their promise to stay clear from the conversation out of respect for the other party, to whom they have profusely apologised.
I guess I am just wondering if the apology is genuine enough to be acted on, or if the urge to give excuses takes precedent.
It's a neat little thought experiment, don't you think?
Married May 2012
TTC#1 July 2013 - July 2015 (no success)
Again TTC#1: Dec 2015
First RE visit: Feb 2016
BFP: 9/16/16 EDD:5/26/17
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Some people just don't get how an apology works.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
*How far along are you? Will be 20 weeks this Sunday, FINALLY! Lol
*Which birth month board/due date? July! (28th using date of conception, 31st using LMP)
*Team Pink/Blue/Green? Unofficially team pink! (We'll know for sure on Monday 3/14...FX!)
*How are you doing picking out a name? Feel free to share
Honey, I've had names picked for every possible combo kids could come since 6th grade lol but I did have to compromise a TINY bit. If it's a boy though, I have NO idea so I guess I'd be pretty open.
*Questions, concerns or other? Anything else exciting to share? I'm just glad to post in one of these! I'll update on Monday
ETA: 1) I was JUST thinking about how I wish there was like a running list of TTGP grads so we could celebrate those who got em after us. Congratulations ladies! I'm happy for you all!
2) Wow, Aug16...
3) I ALWAYS miss the original posts that get removed! Crap.
4) I just read all 8 pages, and whew! THIS is the stuff I've been missing! Lol
TEAM: PINK!!
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16