I know there is a lot of emphasis put on women about how much is the right amount of weight to gain during pregnancy. But, has any experienced "shaming" for either gaining too much or too little weight?
Husband and I recently went to dinner at his parent's house. I didn't eat much because I get full really fast, but I eat like 20 times a day. As we were cleaning up, I heard my MIL say to my husband, "Are you sure she's eating? And not trying to diet right now?" I'm 5"10, 145lbs (pre pregnancy). We joke that I'm the "short fat one" in my family, because both my sisters and mom are tall and thin. My husband's family has weight issues. My FIL (and his sister) had weight loss surgery, my MIL was recently told she's diabetic and could probably reverse that with some weight loss and diet changes. SIL gained a significant amount of weight during all 3 of her pregnancies. She has lost most of it since the last one, but still I would say she gained at least 40lbs each time.
I have always eaten healthy and exercised. I do indulge in occasional treats, like candy or cookies, but I make sure I don't over indulge. I have made sure not to use pregnancy as an excuse to eat anything and everything I want. I am 28W and have gained 12 lbs.
I did ask my doctor if I should be concerned about lack of weight gain, she said, "You have an active baby in your U/Ss, your uterus is measuring correctly, your blood work is perfect, you're eating. This is just the way your body does pregnancy".
I know this shouldn't bother me, but I don't want to gain 50lbs, I want to be healthy for me AND our baby. So frustrated.
I should also note, I do get along really well with my in-laws, they love me and I love them. They really are great in-laws.