I'm having a lot of trouble with my mother in law. She constantly tries to correct how I do things with my son because it's not the way she did it. She also does not listen to my husband and I when we tell her the way we do things when it comes to our son. I had to yell at her to get her to not feed him something she made when he first starting eating pureed foods bc she kept ignoring me when I told her no. I have sternly spoken to her about the way she constantly corrects me but she still continues to do it. I've also had to speak to her about referring to me by my first name and not calling me mommy when she talks about me to my son. I've had to correct her severel times when she called herself mom to my son. She also has grabbed my son from my arms a couple of times. I was so stunned the first time it happened. My son was a couple weeks old and it made me very upset. The next time she tried to do this he was a couple months old. He was colicky and it was one of his "witching hours" and she kept saying Oh I will calm him and reached in to grab him and I told her no. I wasn't frustrated and was just doing my thing with my son to calm and soothe him. He is now 8 months old and she came over on Christmas and yanked him from me. I was holding him and said ummm why are you ripping my child from my arms? She just grabbed him and said yup I'm taking him and tried to walk away. He looked at me panicked. I took him back and said he needed to be fed and left the room. He always wants me back when she tries to hold him and is clearly uncomfortable with her. She constantly makes jokes about how she could be a "wetnurse" to him and I tell her how disgusting of a comment that is. I could go on but I think you get the gist. I don't keep my son from her because I think he should know his grandmother but I'm really at my wits end. I need some suggestions on how to handle this because I feel a blow up coming between us.
Re: Need some mil advice....
Have your husband tell her once again she needs to respect you. If she doesn't then you both will get up and leave. Then do just that.
Don't let her come to your home unannounced anymore. If she shows up at your door say " oh, I'm sorry you came out all this way, but we are not ready for guests today" then close the door and walk away. Ignore any knocking or ringing the doorbell.
If you are at her home and she is disrespectful have your husband say " mom, I talked to you about this, we have to leave now."
Do this every single time. Eventually she will get it.