I offered to throw my friend a shower and she graciously accepted. First of all, this is a shower for her second baby, which I know is not supposed to happen, but she kind of hinted that she wanted it, so I'll call it a "sprinkle" and consider it no big deal. She then asked if we could put on the invitation that no gifts are necessary but they would like contributions for diapers, a double stroller, and a photo session. I'm not personally a fan of registries but in my circles, it would be a little weird to have a shower and NOT give registry info...so I was prepared to do that. But asking for "contributions" poses a whole different problem. Is it MORE rude to ask people for cash/contributions than to put registry info? If so, how do I handle it without upsetting someone? Since the mother-to-be asked for it, I don't want to offend her either.