I offered to throw my friend a shower and she graciously accepted. First of all, this is a shower for her second baby, which I know is not supposed to happen, but she kind of hinted that she wanted it, so I'll call it a "sprinkle" and consider it no big deal. She then asked if we could put on the invitation that no gifts are necessary but they would like contributions for diapers, a double stroller, and a photo session. I'm not personally a fan of registries but in my circles, it would be a little weird to have a shower and NOT give registry info...so I was prepared to do that. But asking for "contributions" poses a whole different problem. Is it MORE rude to ask people for cash/contributions than to put registry info? If so, how do I handle it without upsetting someone? Since the mother-to-be asked for it, I don't want to offend her either.
Re: Another question on baby shower etiquette
I would also steer clear of suggesting grouped gifts to people as it can sometimes lead to akward or uncomfortable situations. There will probably be people who will take it upon themselves to set up group gifts, it's not your job as the hostess to have to set Up the gifting situations.
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
Anyhow - of the 2nd showers I've been invited to, honestly, I've just always gone small. If there wasn't a registry, then i just picked up an outfit for the baby. I may very much be in the minority on this but I go much simpler for a 2nd shower and I don't really worry about what to get. They already have a young child - they have most of the stuff they need.
If there is a registry, I'll look at it and see if there is something I'd like to get. If there isn't a registry, then an outfit it is. I'm going to assume they have most of the big stuff already and that this shower is more of an excuse to see friends and "celebrate the baby" than it really is about getting gifts.
So... if others look at it the way I do, you may not get as many calls as you think and the MTB may get a lot of little things.