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Will you find out the sex of your future baby? If you're a STM+, did you? Pros and cons? What does your SO think?

Personally, I'd love to be Team Green. However, H really wants to learn the sex and if it will help him feel more connected to the pregnancy, I'm ok with that. We may only have one so its a big decision.

Blonde1817

I would definitely like to know as early as I can.  I'm going to be indecisive enough with names without having to pick two.  I have friends who are pregnant now who are not finding out, and it's driving me crazy not knowing for them!  Although I kind of think it's a good idea as far as the baby shower goes... then you get stuff you really need for baby, not just a bunch of cute outfits that'll be outgrown in a week!

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blonde1817 said:

I would definitely like to know as early as I can.  I'm going to be indecisive enough with names without having to pick two.  I have friends who are pregnant now who are not finding out, and it's driving me crazy not knowing for them!  Although I kind of think it's a good idea as far as the baby shower goes... then you get stuff you really need for baby, not just a bunch of cute outfits that'll be outgrown in a week!

Yeah, I think part of my motivation is that my taste trends towards gender neutral colors anyway (LOVE orange and yellow, not a big fan of pastel pink or blue, or gigantic flower headbands). H said we could find out and keep it a secret, but I don't feel right about that. My friends with kids say it's helpful to have lots of clothes for blowouts, etc. and I do love baby clothes myself, so it's all good! I'll plan for us to buy the practical stuff, and anything we are gifted we will be grateful for.

jenfarm3

I really want to be team green. I really want the surprise after that 9 months! DH really wants to know the gender though. So, I have no idea what we will do. I guess we'll have to see when we get pregnant and see how long or if I can hold him off. Lol.

KSMcClary

I want to know so that I can get the right clothes ahead of time.  Plus I am painting a Calvin and Hobbs mural on the wall of the nursery so I need to know if it is going to be Calvin up there or Bacon.  

  

If it is a girl I plan to do the same painting with Bacon instead.

Joannak91

We definitely want to know the gender.

emmaaa

In theory, I would love to find out at birth. But DH wants to know ahead of time so that he can call the baby his/her name and I guess, like you OP, that will help him connect with the baby during pregnancy. And as much as I like to say I would be fine waiting, I know I would be so anxious and want to know right away! 

Lysta85

I don't know yet. I would like it to be a surprise, but sice most clothes etc are gender related here it would be easier to know. And not having to fight over 2 names. If we would get twins that I really want to know.

Also depends on my SO. If he doesn't want to know, then its best I don't know either. I suck at keeping thing a secret from him.

anj27

My husband and I discussed it briefly and we both lean towards not finding out but we don't feel super strongly one way or the other. I think my mom will be hugely annoyed if we didn't find out... 

Pupatella

We would really like to know the gender as soon as possible. I don't know why this is so important to us to find out, but it will drive me crazy to not know!! 

I'd love to have a gender reveal party for our relatives. No idea how to do this long distance, but maybe we can mail them something, and have them open it up over skype.  

mommytimesfour

DH and I actually just had this discussion a couple months ago. He brought up the idea of being team green next time around and I was on board for a couple weeks, and then the idea didn't seem as great to me anymore. I think it's awesome for those who have the will power to wait, but I just don't lol. Also, I feel like I'd have a harder time connecting with the baby not knowing the sex. I found out with my other two and from that point on I feel like I really developed a connection and it all felt very real picking names and shopping for gender specific items. So, we will definitely be finding out.

Hulabalu

I want to know as soon as possible! Even though I'm planning on mostly getting gender neutral stuff,I think it will make it easier to prepare and buy stuff. And I don't see any good reason for not knowing.

KaeJudd

No, I don't think I will find out. This next one will most likely be our last child and we want it to be a surprise. With my oldest we found out the sex because I wanted to be as prepared as possible. That was fun, but we figured out that it wasn't really necessary. With my second pregnancy we kept it a surprise. Looking back I preferred the surprise! There are so many adorable gender neutral things out these days that it wasn't a problem at all. Plus, it gave me something extra to look forward to when the pregnancy started getting uncomfortable and labor started. And it was amazing to hear my husband announce the sex as our baby was laid on my chest. It was a perfect moment. 

JenandJosh1310

I dont like surprises! Both DH and i will want to know as soon as possible! I remember my mom making comments about how you shouldnt do that with your first child when my friend did-i cant wait to hear what shell say if/when we do lol

mokay19

DH and I have already discussed not finding out the sex because we both think it will be exciting!  My sister-in-law has two boys and kept it a mystery with her first and then found out for her second and she strongly recommends me to not find out because she said that she loved the moment when they handed her son to her and told her that it was a boy!

MrsRo731

We found out with DD and we'll find out again, for sure. Both of us are planners and want to know as soon as possible. I totally get being Team Green, but it's just not for us. We're too impatient )

ska8471

DH and I discussed this the other day. I always used to be a firm "I want it to be a surprise" but he raised some good points.

He mentioned that it's still a surprise finding out half way no matter what and someone we love can put togther a nice gender surprise thing if we wanted and that that way we have a private moment to enjoy finding out. He also said that it would be nice to find out earlier rather than in the exhaustion/craziness of delivery room.

He kind of convinced me. And since I like to plan, I think I'd enjoy knowing and decorating the nursery. I am probably going to be generally neutral toned in a nursery anyways, since we're not big on pink/blue. But I think he convinced me.

I just want it to be presented in a fun way, rather than just hearing "it's a boy or girl" from the doctor.

jenfarm3

Lysta85 said:

If we would get twins that I really want to know.

My friend had twins, and they only found out the gender of one of them and let the other be a surprise. She really wanted to be team green but her husband really wanted to know. So that was their compromise. I thought it was awesome. They ended up having two boys... 

Pupatella said:

I'd love to have a gender reveal party for our relatives. No idea how to do this long distance, but maybe we can mail them something, and have them open it up over skype.  

If we do find out the gender, I definitely want to have a gender reveal party. For us, even, as well. Like, I want to find out the gender with everyone else at the same time with like, balloons or a cake or something. Lol. For long distance family that wouldn't be able to make it to the party, I'd just make sure to have a video to show them.

Shiva14

We found out the sex last time at 12 weeks (via blood test) and are hoping to do the same next time. We also picked out a name before we even knew and kept it after we found out. I really enjoyed talking about our son as "he" and calling him by name before he was born but I know people that don't feel like they can choose a name until they see their baby and who enjoy keeping the sex a surprise. We will find out again next time although I don't think well have a name picked out as fast. We always had our boy's name picked out but never settled on a girl name or alternative boy name...

DobbysSock

We were team green with DD, and will be team green for any future children as well. DH feels very strongly about not finding out the sex, while I don't really have strong feelings either way, so I went with what he wanted and will again.

I'm not sure how it feels to find out the sex at an ultrasound so I can't compare the two, but that moment of the doctor holding up our child and telling us we had a daughter was the most incredible thing, especially after a long and difficult labour. I feel like there are so few surprises left in this world and this was a really special one for us. I also thought it was funny how annoyed some people were that we wouldn't find out - it bugged my brother to no end.

The only cons were difficulty finding neutral clothing, and having to find names for both sexes (although I love talking names so that part didn't bother me).

cait5413

I kind of want to be surprised, but DH really wants to know, so...we'll cross that bridge when we're KU!

Sirius37

DH and I have decided to keep the gender a surprise for when we get pregnant, at least for the first one. Any kids after that we'll see how we feel. We love the idea of having that bit of mystery throughout the 9 months! Finding gender neutral ideas is a chore though....