February 2016 Moms

FFC - Flame Free Confession

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  • I don't actually own any "leggings" per the description given here I only have thick yoga pants that don't have flared legs and a couple other styles that are all from the athletic section.


    LEAA14 said:

    My confession isn't food-related: I have a totally ridiculous and irrational fear that every time I poop I will accidentally push the baby out. 


    :-S

    me too! Kinda... 
    I've been so constipated (sorry for the tmi) that i get so worried that all the pushing will hurt the baby somehow. I know it's not rational, but I still worry. 


    Haha me too, even though I know it takes a lot more pushing than that.
    I did buy dried apricots... Not only are they gross they don't seem to be working.
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  • ohbaby714 said:

    @ss456 Is it in store only? I have an old navy semi close by but they don't have maternity clothes in store :(

    I think it's in store only? Not sure though. I don't order Old Navy online since we have 2 stores close and its $75 before you get free shipping I think.
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  • amandabobandaamandabobanda member
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    I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.

    I think it's quite a leap to say that just because people don't want to look at camel toe and butt crack they are "body shaming and slut shaming".  I simply don't get the appeal of dressing just this side of naked when you're at work, school, or elsewhere in public.  But perhaps my opinion is also colored by the fact that I don't get the fashion aspect of it.  They're not my style, and I actually find them uncomfortable after awhile if I'm wearing them around the house, say, after a yoga class.  My skin needs to breathe!
    But as I explained in my last comment, my opinion on the matter is colored by the fact that I've never seen someone's butt crack or camel toe while they were wearing leggings. Because leggings aren't tights. Leggings aren't "just this side of naked."

    ETA: Judging other women publicly (aka on a public forum) for wearing something YOU think is too revealing or uncomfortable is shaming.
    I've definitely seen those things, and I'm talking about leggings.  I can't think of a time I've seen someone wearing tights like leggings.  Maybe I can clear up my opinion by saying that if you're wearing leggings and I can't see your stuff, then go for it.  I akin that to wearing skinny jeans, and I don't think those are too revealing.  I still think the word "shaming" is extreme though.  By your logic, if I give the opinion that I don't like to wear hats because they're uncomfortable, I'm shaming people who like hats.  






  • I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.


    I think it's quite a leap to say that just because people don't want to look at camel toe and butt crack they are "body shaming and slut shaming".  I simply don't get the appeal of dressing just this side of naked when you're at work, school, or elsewhere in public.  But perhaps my opinion is also colored by the fact that I don't get the fashion aspect of it.  They're not my style, and I actually find them uncomfortable after awhile if I'm wearing them around the house, say, after a yoga class.  My skin needs to breathe!

    But as I explained in my last comment, my opinion on the matter is colored by the fact that I've never seen someone's butt crack or camel toe while they were wearing leggings. Because leggings aren't tights. Leggings aren't "just this side of naked."

    ETA: Judging other women publicly (aka on a public forum) for wearing something YOU think is too revealing or uncomfortable is shaming.


    I've definitely seen those things, and I'm talking about leggings.  I can't think of a time I've seen someone wearing tights like leggings.  Maybe I can clear up my opinion by saying that if you're wearing leggings and I can't see your stuff, then go for it.  I akin that to wearing skinny jeans, and I don't think those are too revealing.  I still think the word "shaming" is extreme though.  By your logic, if I give the opinion that I don't like to wear hats because they're uncomfortable, I'm shaming people who like hats.  

    Nope. Because when you're talking about hats, you aren't referencing a woman's body/how "revealing" the hat is as the reason you dislike them. And you also aren't saying "People shouldn't wear hats" in that scenario, like many were saying that women shouldn't wear leggings as pants.
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  • I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.

    I think it's quite a leap to say that just because people don't want to look at camel toe and butt crack they are "body shaming and slut shaming".  I simply don't get the appeal of dressing just this side of naked when you're at work, school, or elsewhere in public.  But perhaps my opinion is also colored by the fact that I don't get the fashion aspect of it.  They're not my style, and I actually find them uncomfortable after awhile if I'm wearing them around the house, say, after a yoga class.  My skin needs to breathe!
    But as I explained in my last comment, my opinion on the matter is colored by the fact that I've never seen someone's butt crack or camel toe while they were wearing leggings. Because leggings aren't tights. Leggings aren't "just this side of naked."

    ETA: Judging other women publicly (aka on a public forum) for wearing something YOU think is too revealing or uncomfortable is shaming.
    I've definitely seen those things, and I'm talking about leggings.  I can't think of a time I've seen someone wearing tights like leggings.  Maybe I can clear up my opinion by saying that if you're wearing leggings and I can't see your stuff, then go for it.  I akin that to wearing skinny jeans, and I don't think those are too revealing.  I still think the word "shaming" is extreme though.  By your logic, if I give the opinion that I don't like to wear hats because they're uncomfortable, I'm shaming people who like hats.  
    Nope. Because when you're talking about hats, you aren't referencing a woman's body/how "revealing" the hat is as the reason you dislike them. And you also aren't saying "People shouldn't wear hats" in that scenario, like many were saying that women shouldn't wear leggings as pants.
    I did clarify that I don't think leggings are revealing when worn properly, so I was more referencing your statement of "Judging other women publicly (aka on a public forum) for wearing something YOU think is too revealing or uncomfortable is shaming."  It sounds like you and I have had fundamentally different experiences with leggings: I see a lot of body parts hanging out, you don't.  So we have different opinions and that's fine.  If I'm a body shamer for not wanting to see crack and camel, then I guess I'll have to work on myself in that regard, because body shaming is terrible.  I've seen it happen to those closest to me, men and women, and even to myself, so I know how it feels.
  • I had no idea what these were... not attacking anyone for spending that much on them if they're worth it and people spend that much on jeans all of the time but woah, I hope they aren't see through lol.
    If they are you need a refund.
  • wisco29 said:
    I had no idea what these were... not attacking anyone for spending that much on them if they're worth it and people spend that much on jeans all of the time but woah, I hope they aren't see through lol. If they are you need a refund.
    Oh god, Lululemon.  I knew it was going to be that brand before I even opened your image.  They must be lined with crack for what they cost, and seriously, some women live in this brand.  But I agree - to each their own.  I just personally prefer to ruin less expensive clothes with my sweat, lol.
    I've never worn their pants so I can't comment to them, mostly because I never knew they existed until the big controversy with their yoga pants, but I have to admit, their tops are super comfy. 
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  • wisco29 said:
    I had no idea what these were... not attacking anyone for spending that much on them if they're worth it and people spend that much on jeans all of the time but woah, I hope they aren't see through lol. If they are you need a refund.
    I can't even bring myself to pay for the gap yoga pants even though they are by far the best that have ever caressed my body

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  • So, I guess this is my fffc. I love their yoga pants. They are the only ones I wear, but I don't generally wear yoga pants a lot so it's not like I have multiple pairs. I got them last time I was pregnant bc I wanted something comfy like leggings but I just couldn't do leggings bc I felt too lumpy in them or something like sweatpants but not look and feel as sloppy as I do in sweat pants. I don't wear them to work out. They are my, 'I'm too lazy to get dressed to run out for a quick errand but don't want to look like I was too lazy to get dressed' pants.

    They are thick, which is what I love about them. They are so stretchy which is how I wore them all through my last pregnancy and am still wearing them, but somehow they kinda shape you. I swear I look at least 5 lbs thinner in them. I call them magic pants.
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  • -snip the quote tree-

    I did clarify that I don't think leggings are revealing when worn properly, so I was more referencing your statement of "
    Judging other women publicly (aka on a public forum) for wearing something YOU think is too revealing or uncomfortable is shaming."  It sounds like you and I have had fundamentally different experiences with leggings: I see a lot of body parts hanging out, you don't.  So we have different opinions and that's fine.  If I'm a body shamer for not wanting to see crack and camel, then I guess I'll have to work on myself in that regard, because body shaming is terrible.  I've seen it happen to those closest to me, men and women, and even to myself, so I know how it feels.
    I don't want you or anyone to think that I believe any commentary on a woman's clothing choices is shaming. I just think any sort of "women shouldn't wear this because [I don't like it/I wouldn't wear it/it's too revealing]" comes really close to that territory. That's all.
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  • pbtoast said:

    ooh, I finally thought of a confession! Even though I'm pregnant, I have no desire whatsoever to talk about it. I'll only have a conversation on the subject if someone asks me a question. 


    I realized this after my girls weekend when they wanted to make a drinking game for every time someone does some particular thing, and mine was whenever I talked about baby. I think they got super bored of trying to come up with ways for me to naturally bring it up because I just wasn't biting. 
    Ha! That's funny. I'm the same way! I also hate telling people (especially those I don't know well) because it seems like such a non-sequitur. By the way, I'm pregnant!
    I've convinced my husband to tell everyone so far. I get so uncomfortable with the whole thing..."So hey guys, how is everything? Oh guess what, I'm pregnant." I'm getting hives just thinking about it.
  • ooh, I finally thought of a confession! Even though I'm pregnant, I have no desire whatsoever to talk about it. I'll only have a conversation on the subject if someone asks me a question. 

    I realized this after my girls weekend when they wanted to make a drinking game for every time someone does some particular thing, and mine was whenever I talked about baby. I think they got super bored of trying to come up with ways for me to naturally bring it up because I just wasn't biting. 
    Ha! That's funny. I'm the same way! I also hate telling people (especially those I don't know well) because it seems like such a non-sequitur. By the way, I'm pregnant!
    I've convinced my husband to tell everyone so far. I get so uncomfortable with the whole thing..."So hey guys, how is everything? Oh guess what, I'm pregnant." I'm getting hives just thinking about it.
    I still haven't really told people at work other than a handful of people. I figured they'd eventually figure it out. The crotchety old man who I swear it's his mission everyday to annoy me with something asked my coworker if I was pregnant or "if I had been eating too much". Now he volunteers to carry heavy stuff for me. So win!
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  • I agree, I'm with PP.  My pregnancy just doesn't come up organically conversation, so it's weird to just blurt it out.  We haven't made any sort of social media announcement quite yet, so a lot of people don't know.  I don't really know what to do about it either.  I've seen friends recently and just not told them because it never came up.

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  • My Confession: my DD, when she is with me, doesn't get candy or sugary things very often because I'm a type 1 diabetic and my DD is borderline. She is on a pediatric diabetic diet and we do high protein low carb usually. With that said, I don't understand parents that only give their children carbs for breakfast.

    Weren't you just saying a couple weeks back that you were going to eat an entire chocolate pie? Yet, you're going to shame parents for feeding their (non-diabetic) children carbs?
    This 100% especially since you said you have unmanaged diabetes which can cause the pseudo-cushings you also have.

    I said that and I didn't even eat chocolate pie. I had unmanaged diabetes at the beginning of my pregnancy (A1c was 7.7) but now I don'tdon't (A1c is 4.9 because I take insulin in my fatty tissue). I'm a type 1 diabetic or did you fail to read that. I have been diabetic longer than I ever had Pseudo Cushing's. Type 1 diabetes is where the immune system has attacked the beta cells of the pancreas cause them to no longer make insulin. Please tell me how you know more about what is going one with me than I do considering I have been a diabetic for years, I'm a nurse, and I was pre-med before I became a nurse.
  • ShatzegirlShatzegirl member
    edited September 2015
    @Achae I count my calories but there's no need to worry about what I feed my son. I try to feed him a nutritious and well balanced diet. Some days are harder than others though since he's 3 1/2 and can be picky. But there's definitely no lack of food being offered.

    ETA: I'm curious as to why you're worried. Are you concerned that those who count calories will count their children's and/or not feed them enough?
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  • @PedsIsHardcore as a nurse, pre-med and type 1 d, can you explain to me why carbs for breakfast is bad?
    I'm honestly curious. I know eating only carbs all day is bad, but is there something about breakfast?
    My toddler discovered kixs a couple of months ago and likes to eat them every morning. He usually has kixs with milk and whatever fruit we have. He used to share my spinach smoothie but I stopped adding protein powder after getting pregnant so there isn't much protein in it now.
    But he eats more balanced for lunch and our dinner is usually more protein and less carb. I thought by balancing it out throughout the day, it was fine?
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  • @Shatzegirl yeah that was my concern, that they'd have some threshold for their child or develop a negative view towards food.
  • I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.

    I agree! I hate when the conversation includes children. Please do not tell a 12 year old girl she can't wear leggings and should cover her butt. She is a child. Do not sexualize her. As a child in the 80s, I wore legging type pants all the time, but because they weren't trendy I guess it was acceptable.

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  • Fffc: I didn't wear a white dress to any of my bridal showers or to my rehearsal dinner.

    Helping my bff pin wedding stuff and seeing a bunch of people I know getting married this year apparently that's what you're supposed to do. Oops I had no idea.
  • @wisco29 I've never heard of this either. I thought you just wear whatever. I think that's how it was for all other weddings I have attended as well. New trend?
  • Achae said:

    @wisco29 I've never heard of this either. I thought you just wear whatever. I think that's how it was for all other weddings I have attended as well. New trend?

    That's possible!! Every time I've seen someone in the last 2 or 3 months post a pic from their shower/rehearsal they are always in white. It could also be a social class thing. I was trying to think of exactly what I wore and I'm certain I wore a tan dress for one, grey floral for the other and for my rehearsal it was extremely not fancy and we had to set up the ceremony stuff right before so I know I had a dress picked out (black one) but I don't think I even changed out of my jeans! Oops. Lol
  • I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.

    I agree! I hate when the conversation includes children. Please do not tell a 12 year old girl she can't wear leggings and should cover her butt. She is a child. Do not sexualize her. As a child in the 80s, I wore legging type pants all the time, but because they weren't trendy I guess it was acceptable.
    Have you seen what 12 year olds are wearing these days ? It's scary what clothing companies are putting out for children, and what their parents are letting them wear. There's a big difference between the girl wearing leggings and a tee shirt for comfort while playing outside and the one wearing leggings, heels, and a low cut top. Makes me wish for all boys...


  • @PedsIsHardcore - If you read my point was that diabetes can CAUSE pseudo-cushings, which I'm sure you know due to all your knowledge and it being your diagnosis, specifically uncontrolled diabetes - which you just said you had, how does that not make sense? The comment was on you saying you were going to eat an entire chocolate pie before (saying you cannot now is different). I know exactly what type 1 diabetes is surprise - other people can be in the medical field as well and have information too. Just because I don't post my credentials every post doesn't mean I am uneducated. 

    Here you go: Pre-Med, work with Doctors in the ED as a researcher for current health issues and disease cures, shadow and have been an apprentice of an internal medicine/ICU/anesthesiologist for over a year - which means schooling on all the diagnoses we see and how things are linked. B.S. in neuroscience (yes this covers Cushings AND understanding how diabetes works) EMT-B, currently taking graduate classes on human physiology and disease, worked in L&D for over a year as well as in an IVF clinic, aided dentists, internist, and intensivists in a medical missions trip to Honduras. Does that make you feel better about discussing things with me? and no one will EVER forget that you are a nurse as it is in every single post.

    Also no one claimed to know more about you than you do - you simply have not responded to any of the other questions about it when posed to you, and frankly that you are getting so intensively defensive the first time you do makes me seriously question why. No one has outright questioned you about if you actually have all these conditions and why they change from cushings to pseudo-cushings (Very different) and the cancer screening to having cancer. I sincerely feel for you and wish you the best - that is a terrible burden to bare in life.

    Lastly, 
    The question posed to you was why you feel comfortable shaming others for what they feed their kids but you clearly post a ton about all the things you eat that do not make sense with managing your diabetes - yes I know about this too as many people in my family have type 1. Maybe actually take a second to breath before you go getting so worked up as a sincere question about why you are ok shaming people is not what you are addressing. If you don't want people to know about all your medical stuff stop posting it so often.


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    @Zepplin1218 that's some impressive credentials! You should be extremely proud of yourself!!!! =D> and before anybody thinks I'm being snarky, I'm not ( had to throw that in there)
  • I'm late to this post, I've glanced at just the first page. First lets get my confession

    My give a filter fuck is off. Normally I have to fight to control what I say at work. I'm tired of dealing with dumb people and just rude people. I may have let a swear word slip at work. It may have been towards a customer but not at them. They didn't hear me. But for real people, yelling at me for something YOUR doctor did or didn't do its NOT my problem, all I do is put the pills in a bottle. Do not yell at me, Do not talk down to me. Watch how fast I will NOT do something for you. Also, its not hard to use the pin pad at work, don't know the phone number just hit the don't know button. It's not that hard. I'm not spending 10 minutes explaining what every button is and how it works. It is not the first time you used one. *sorry done venting*

    Now to comment on the calorie confession

    Food and I have a love hate relationship, Food loves me and I hate it... There are times I have to force myself to eat. When I was pregnant with my daughter I skipped meals. I didn't want to, but I had to. I didn't want to get fat. I find myself falling into the same shoes this time around. I'm working harder at avoiding it. I'm worried my daughter will fall into the same trap I'm in. I don't want her to have to worry about what she eats. At this point i'm lucky if she eats at all, shes 2 and refuses to eat. If all she wants is chicken nuggets and apple slices from McDonalds I will feed her that just to get something into her. She is VERY picky. What she may like this moment, give it a moment or two and she wont like it. My husband told her chicken nuggets were bad for her and now she wont eat them. There are times she will eat her weight in watermelon and fruits. I'm not worried shes growing perfectly and isn't over weight. I won't judge people (well one time I did someone gave their small child soda, but thats another story)

    I"m really done rambling now. I'm avoiding taking a shower cause then I have to adult today, lol.
  • AdventureMamaAdventureMama member
    edited September 2015

    I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.

    I agree! I hate when the conversation includes children. Please do not tell a 12 year old girl she can't wear leggings and should cover her butt. She is a child. Do not sexualize her. As a child in the 80s, I wore legging type pants all the time, but because they weren't trendy I guess it was acceptable.
    Have you seen what 12 year olds are wearing these days ? It's scary what clothing companies are putting out for children, and what their parents are letting them wear. There's a big difference between the girl wearing leggings and a tee shirt for comfort while playing outside and the one wearing leggings, heels, and a low cut top. Makes me wish for all boys...
    Dude. This comment is part of the problem.
    I agree that companies should have more options for girls. You can see a very clear difference in amount of material between boys' and girls' clothing of the same size, starting even in preschool. But with this comment you are, in fact, sexualizing little girls and putting the onus on them to dress appropriately for others- at 12 years old! There is nothing inherently wrong with a 12 year old wearing high heels. You (General you) can have all the standards you want for how your kids dress (I certainly will), but judging other parents and their kids for what they wear (at TWELVE!) is wrong.
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  • finally got my FFFC: it annoys the crap out of me when people make a social media account (FB, Instagram etc) for their dog then manage the account as if the dog is typing their own posts. i don't know why, but it just irritates me so much.

    I just saw that a woman I know made an instagram account for her 6 month old twins..seriously there aren't enough pictures of them on her own account?! So bizarre. Also, who has that kind of time?
  • I feel like for the most part modern women in a forum like this are pretty united against body shaming and slut-shaming so it always surprises me that so many people agree that leggings aren't pants and that "women should cover their ass" because "no one wants to see it." Uhh first of all, women should wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Second, leggings do not equal tights. Most that I've seen aren't see through. They're no different than yoga pants (which are somehow universally acceptable to wear in public whether you intend to work out or not, at least in the mom crowd) and I don't see how they're any "worse" than shorts or crop tops.

    pants (noun): an outer garment covering the body from the waist to the ankles, with a separate part for each leg.

    Looks like leggings fall into that description just fine.

    tl;dr: Women have bodies and should dress them the way they see fit. Legging-shaming is lame and antiquated.

    I agree! I hate when the conversation includes children. Please do not tell a 12 year old girl she can't wear leggings and should cover her butt. She is a child. Do not sexualize her. As a child in the 80s, I wore legging type pants all the time, but because they weren't trendy I guess it was acceptable.
    Have you seen what 12 year olds are wearing these days ? It's scary what clothing companies are putting out for children, and what their parents are letting them wear. There's a big difference between the girl wearing leggings and a tee shirt for comfort while playing outside and the one wearing leggings, heels, and a low cut top. Makes me wish for all boys...
    Dude. This comment is part of the problem.
    I agree that companies should have more options for girls. You can see a very clear difference in amount of material between boys' and girls' clothing of the same size, starting even in preschool. But with this comment you are, in fact, sexualizing little girls and putting the onus on them to dress appropriately for others- at 12 years old! There is nothing inherently wrong with a 12 year old wearing high heels. You (General you) can have all the standards you want for how your kids dress (I certainly will), but judging other parents and their kids for what they wear (at TWELVE!) is wrong.
    I have to disagree - I am putting the responsibility on their parents to teach them how to dress appropriately, and I am certaintly not judging the child (while I am judging the parents) Why would a 12 year old wear heels? They should be out playing and being kids... With clothing and shoes that support exploring and learning and all that jazz.
  • What's wrong with heels at 12? this might be flame worthy but whether you like it or not children start exploring sexually at a young age.  They're not asexual beings. I'd rather my twelve year old wear heels and embrace her budding sexuality without me repressing it. I'd rather acknowledge it, educate and embrace, than have her ashamed of her feelings. I find that denying child sexuality normally leads to more problems down the road.
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