However, there was no chaffed nipple, tearing etc talk at my shower.
What a lot of these arguments against co-ed showers miss is that a shower doesn't have to be a "shower." Yes, men would be incredibly bored with shitty games and punch and opening gifts, but when you make it more of a casual get-together with good food, possibly some beer, and NO gift opening, it's not unappealing.
We have many male and couple friends who are thrilled about my pregnancy and we can't imagine leaving them out of any "festivities." I hate the traditional pastel baby showers and am really looking forward to having some good times with ALL my friends. I don't feel like I'm sacrificing what I want just to appease the men-folk.
Every community, family, circle of friends is different though - just do what feels right, what you and the host are comfortable with, and screw everyone else!
Theliops said:Yes, men would be incredibly bored with shitty games and punch and opening gifts,
Yes, men would be incredibly bored with shitty games and punch and opening gifts,
Questions about gift opening - my SIL on DH's side is throwing my a coed baby bbq party and I didn't want to put my registry on the invites because I didn't want people to feel obligated to get a gift as it's more of just a party to celebrate not a shower. Also my other SIL is throwing me a more formal shower which will be earlier in the month and I'm sure we will get all we need at that shower. Anyways, knowing DH's side of the family - I'm sure plenty people will show up with random gifts or diapers but I'm also sure plenty will not think about it. I was thinking I would not open gifts at the party as to not put people who didn't bring gifts in an awkward position.. thoughts?
Eh, barbecue-style co-ed showers are as stupid as any other megashowers where women invite everyone they know and everyone dreads going. If her closest friends are male, then by all means, invite them, but if we could just get back to nice small simple shower like they were intended to be, then the gift-opening wouldn't go on for hours, the crowd would be intimate enough that the guests could carry on non-awkward conversation, and the host would know the guest list well enough to know whether silly games were going to go over well. I agree with PPs that women don't actually tend to pass down nipple stories and birthing tips at showers, but to the author's point, the right tone for a shower is that of celebrating the mother-to-be, not trying so hard to mask the fact that it's a shower by having kegs of beer and ignoring the gifts.