Threads like this one are what's wrong with this group. There are currently 85 posts from women bitching about someone bitching about someone. Get over it. Move on. Thanks. Oh and I'm sorry I don't post multiple times a day in a manner that is appropriate to the sheriffs of the group before posting this post. I'll try and do better before you bitch about that too.
Threads like this one are what's wrong with this group. There are currently 85 posts from women bitching about someone bitching about someone. Get over it. Move on. Thanks. Oh and I'm sorry I don't post multiple times a day in a manner that is appropriate to the sheriffs of the group before posting this post. I'll try and do better before you bitch about that too.
@akorpress, I totally respect your right to share your position on this. It does, however, come across as incredibly aggressive which surprised me. You don't have to post multiple times a day in order to be a valuable member of the group. Just posting responses that are meaningful, informative, or supportive is good enough. I've seen you do it, so I'm not sure why you appear to be defensive when it comes to this particular post.
I was aggressive to prove a point. And for the benefit of those girls behind the scenes who want to be included but don't post because they might be criticized.
I would love to come here and gain some knowledge and share some insight. But seeing all this energy spent on such drama is just exhausting. This might just not be a great place to get support after all.
I was aggressive to prove a point. And for the benefit of those girls behind the scenes who want to be included but don't post because they might be criticized.
I would love to come here and gain some knowledge and share some insight. But seeing all this energy spent on such drama is just exhausting. This might just not be a great place to get support after all.
I will now get off my soap box.
She said, dramatically.
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Not really seeing the issue here honestly. @sweetandsassy adressed a person to ask if next time they could kindly try to resolve any issues before reporting, this had to be done publicly as it is unknown who the person in question is. Not sure why there's drama being made about a simple request to not get a 3rd party involved into a disagreement. Reporting is ugly behaviour and often times not neccessary. I dont see how we went from a simple request to "this isnt a great place to get support after all"
@BrooklynBroussard you just said something I've been thinking a lot after seeing some posts lately. You have to give support to get support. It's quite simple.
I was aggressive to prove a point. And for the benefit of those girls behind the scenes who want to be included but don't post because they might be criticized.
I would love to come here and gain some knowledge and share some insight. But seeing all this energy spent on such drama is just exhausting. This might just not be a great place to get support after all.
I will now get off my soap box.
There's plenty of knowledge and insight. No one forced you to EXHAUST yourself on this thread. You chose to click on this thread and proceed to "bitch" at all of us and add to this "exhausting drama."
I don't find any of the girls here mean spirited at all just snarky, which I enjoy. It seems like the lurkers and passerbyers are the ones that feel the need to throw the haterade around. If you actually pay attention to this group and figure out how things work around here many sensible people will see that this group of women are very supportive and are not going to sugar coat things just to get people to like them. I know we are all hormonal messes right now but no need to be THAT bitchy. Either that or we clearly need a puppies and kitties post to lighten people up.
I think that most of the girls on here do a great job of distinguishing between people who are not regulars in the community and have come on the board because they are scared or worried and want support (they usually get a direct answer in their thread, no matter how many times the question has been asked), and people who are regulars or are not that concerned and really could have used Google (they seem to get a link to the pre-existing thread with a comment that is neutral in tone.)
I, for one, am always impressed by how friendly this group is, especially compared to some of the other BMBs.
@akorpess a lot of the girls are extremely acquainted with each other, and used to each other's tones and most times we play around a joke about stuff, we're not mean or usually serious !
No worries everyone, I just ended this thread. I clicked report on everyone's reply to this post the bump will self destruct in 5,4,3,2 ......
No but seriously can someone please tell me if it's safe to sit in my bath with 110 degree water, blow drying my hair and blasting my music or will this cause me to have gestational diabetes and my baby shower to be tacky?
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@KLopez33 how on earth can we possibly answer your question? You didn't tell us if you had balloons in the bath tub or not. I'm not a mind reader!!!! How do I know anything if you didn't tell me if you had balloons!? Why are you exhausting me like this!? Don't you know I'm hormonal!? You aren't supporting me right now and I think you are mean!!!! Lol! :P ) 8-}
@j1d I have balloons. Pink and blue because when I posted the side profile of my child, all you mean girls wouldn't use your expert knowledge and tell me the gender.
@j1d I have balloons. Pink and blue because when I posted the side profile of my child, all you mean girls wouldn't use your expert knowledge and tell me the gender.
If you have balloons than everything is fine. Carry on!
ETA: I have a degree in Fashion Design and am more than happy to give you my expert opinion based on your ultrasound about what you are having. I'm really good at figureing out if you are having a tiny bolt of a satin weave natural fiber or if you can expect a basket weave synthetic! My expert advice is here for you!
@KLopez33 how on earth can we possibly answer your question? You didn't tell us if you had balloons in the bath tub or not. I'm not a mind reader!!!! How do I know anything if you didn't tell me if you had balloons!? Why are you exhausting me like this!? Don't you know I'm hormonal!? You aren't supporting me right now and I think you are mean!!!! Lol!
:P ) 8-}
I just, I cant. )
I'm gnna go change my undies now, too much laughter, darn you! xD
I'm totally late to the game on this but...I decided to join this community BECAUSE of the snarkiness, the honesty and the healthy debates. I really can't think of a time where someone got mean for the sake of it. I think a lot of people just want their hand held, and that never works in these type of environments, especially when you have a group of opinionated women like you do here.
As a fellow smartass, I really appreciate some of the retorts and jokes here, especially in response to silly and stupid questions. If I asked something completely asinine, then I'd deserve a smartass answer - and I'd laugh about it. Most of the girls here do that too. It's a shame the very few who can't relax are making it harder for everyone else to speak their minds out of fear of banishment.
I'm totally late to the game on this but...I decided to join this community BECAUSE of the snarkiness, the honesty and the healthy debates. I really can't think of a time where someone got mean for the sake of it. I think a lot of people just want their hand held, and that never works in these type of environments, especially when you have a group of opinionated women like you do here.
As a fellow smartass, I really appreciate some of the retorts and jokes here, especially in response to silly and stupid questions. If I asked something completely asinine, then I'd deserve a smartass answer - and I'd laugh about it. Most of the girls here do that too. It's a shame the very few who can't relax are making it harder for everyone else to speak their minds out of fear of banishment.
Yes! I was pretty much off for the weekend, then saw this and was like, wait what? @SweetnSassy23 I would love to know what comment of yours in that thread upset someone, as I read through because I though something really crazy must have gone down, and it was super tame. When stuff like this happens I just get confused!
Same here. I wasn't on this weekend and wow this thread really exploded. I'm proud to see my October girls handle themselves so well! Minus the 3 random posts who accuse everyone of being snappy with loads of snappiness. @J1D Dyyyiiinnnggg at your posts! LMAO Reading these made me feel like this:
I agree that if someone says something you dislike or disagree with, you can just skip over it. Not everyone feels that way. I don't know who reported the OP and it doesn't matter to me. However, what you all don't find offensive, someone else might. Everyone's "offense-o-meter" is different. He/she may have genuinely thought what was expressed wasn't appropriate. And it was his/her prerogative to report it. Just like if one of you other ladies could do the same. We're all adults and shouldn't try to make someone else feel some type of way just because we don't agree with how they went about doing something.
@brittanispears I guess for me, because like you said different things offend different people and you never really know, it's kind of nice for someone to tell you before addressing it somewhere else. That way you can either explain where they may have misinterpreted and defend yourself a bit, or acknowledge how what you said might offend someone and re-phrase or simply apologize.
I think the problem is that when you report, even if the guidelines haven't been breached, people can get banned. Which is really sad if you don't even know what you did to upset someone! I think we get a little unnerved by it because it happens to people we really like and we'd be pretty disappointed if they all of a sudden disappeared. And I don't think very many people go out of their way to be mean, in fact most women here go out of their way to be helpful. So knowing you've upset someone but not who or how would make me at least, pretty upset. I never want to hurt someone's feelings, so if I do to the extent that they would report, I'd like to at least be given the option of making sure I don't say it again...
Same here. I wasn't on this weekend and wow this thread really exploded. I'm proud to see my October girls handle themselves so well! Minus the 3 random posts who accuse everyone of being snappy with loads of snappiness. @J1D Dyyyiiinnnggg at your posts! LMAO Reading these made me feel like this:
You feel like Mama June on a waterslide? Man, the power of the internet...
Same here. I wasn't on this weekend and wow this thread really exploded. I'm proud to see my October girls handle themselves so well! Minus the 3 random posts who accuse everyone of being snappy with loads of snappiness. @J1D Dyyyiiinnnggg at your posts! LMAO Reading these made me feel like this:
You feel like Mama June on a waterslide? Man, the power of the internet...
Same here. I wasn't on this weekend and wow this thread really exploded. I'm proud to see my October girls handle themselves so well! Minus the 3 random posts who accuse everyone of being snappy with loads of snappiness. @J1D Dyyyiiinnnggg at your posts! LMAO Reading these made me feel like this:
You feel like Mama June on a waterslide? Man, the power of the internet...
Re: To whomever reported me
I would love to come here and gain some knowledge and share some insight. But seeing all this energy spent on such drama is just exhausting. This might just not be a great place to get support after all.
I will now get off my soap box.
No but seriously can someone please tell me if it's safe to sit in my bath with 110 degree water, blow drying my hair and blasting my music or will this cause me to have gestational diabetes and my baby shower to be tacky?
Edited because it keeps erasing the bottom paragraph. Grr.
:P
ETA: I have a degree in Fashion Design and am more than happy to give you my expert opinion based on your ultrasound about what you are having. I'm really good at figureing out if you are having a tiny bolt of a satin weave natural fiber or if you can expect a basket weave synthetic! My expert advice is here for you!
I'm totally late to the game on this but...I decided to join this community BECAUSE of the snarkiness, the honesty and the healthy debates. I really can't think of a time where someone got mean for the sake of it. I think a lot of people just want their hand held, and that never works in these type of environments, especially when you have a group of opinionated women like you do here.
As a fellow smartass, I really appreciate some of the retorts and jokes here, especially in response to silly and stupid questions. If I asked something completely asinine, then I'd deserve a smartass answer - and I'd laugh about it. Most of the girls here do that too. It's a shame the very few who can't relax are making it harder for everyone else to speak their minds out of fear of banishment.
I was MIA all weekend so I'm just now reading this like:
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Mama June scares the shit out of me
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Mama June scares the shit out of me
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YES! I love mama June! She cracks me up.