Oh cmon. I know pregnancy had us all a little whacked out these days but jeez. Does it really give someone that much joy to push the report button? You girls are hilarious in my opinion.
This is crazy!! I feel like the bump should take into account the number of times someone posts before they get to be all report happy!!
To anyone who feels like they should report someone allow me to remind you that this is a more appropriate way to handle not agreeing with someone on the Internet (most of us are fine with someone disagreeing with us!):
I also think you should have to comment so many times on threads before your allowed to originate a post. I'm noticing a lot of these posts we've been seeing lately are by people who haven't commented or anything. My conspiracy theory is that they are people who all were banned coming back to annoy everyone! I'm sure there are a couple reincarnates around!
So, I haven't been on the boards all day and this was the first thing I saw when I got on here. I had to go read the FFFCs to see what the heck you would have been reported for.
I don't understand it. I actually can't wrap my head around it. Sarcastic tone? you mean how 75% of us communicate on Oct '15? Ridiculous.
Maybe I'm missing something, or just plain dumb... but when I don't like something that's said, I just skip past it. You'd think that if we can carry a developing human in our uterus, that we would have the mental capacity to just skip over an offensive comment. Sheesh...
Maybe I'm missing something, or just plain dumb... but when I don't like something that's said, I just skip past it. You'd think that if we can carry a developing human in our uterus, that we would have the mental capacity to just skip over an offensive comment. Sheesh...
Just had to point out how much I agree with this. Newsflash you are about to have a child, better put some big girl panties on because you are about to have much bigger problems than an offensive comment on the Internet. I read plenty of annoying things/things I disagree with on this app I just choose to ignore them. As I tell my teenage sister, build a bridge and get over it. Everyone in this world is not going to like you or like the things you say.
Yeah, I got reported yesterday for just asking a question. I would never report any of you for that, for sarcasm, or cursing. I have the ability to just not engage if something is offensive. Thankfully 99% of us on the bump are able to do that.
Ok, I just read all that thread. That's just dumb. The bump should be handing out medals for not saying things that are actually offensive. I swear I've only read a handful of posts in the last couple of days because the titles were so silly.
You know... I don't comment a lot on these posts... I come here when I'm bored or when I'm on my lunch break. Sometimes I post about things I'm experiencing as a first time mom and wonder if others are experiencing it too or maybe I should up the worry level and get medical advice. That being said, I have seen some snarky comments regarding other peoples problems or concerns that could be very real to them if they have no one to talk to or if they read a completely bogus article and want to make sure that loud noises in a theater or fireworks on the 4th of July couldnt harm their baby. (Not pointing fingers just using it as an example) Ive seen quite a few posts about multiple threads and how annoying that is. And where reporting is petty and childish, maybe they were intimidated and possibly embarassed. Some of those comments were directed towards people who have posted in the past few days. And where you may not be going through the stress of gestational diabetes, baby showers, or picking out a name your child has to live with the rest of it's life, it's not fair in my opinion to take control of a forum and tell someone where to post or what they can and can't post. Even if the goal is to make a better online community. It's a forum people. An outlet that I like to go to and read about someone else's problems so that I don't focus on my own, read about someone else's joy so I can celebrate with them, and where I read random posts about whatever to usually give me a good laugh.
Can't we just go about scrolling through the list of topics and if you don't like one skip it. If you do comment. If someone makes a nasty/questionable comment ignore it. If someone is tacky and distasteful thank God you were raised better lol if someone asks a dumb question (and said question may be dumb to you. I was raised to believe the only dumb question is the one not asked) answer respectfully or don't answer at all. That in itself would make a better online community and seemingly would have helped in avoiding this whole mess. I'm glad that I have somewhere I can go to talk about issues that come with pregnancy if I need to. I've received a lot of good advice and often have read posts that have changed my perspective on a matter. As someone who wasn't sure about being a mother at all, I can say that I have definitely changed my mind about that by meeting and conversing with some of the ladies on here. I'd very much like to keep it that way
@Knottie16288692 "Can't we just go about scrolling through the list of topics and if you don't like one skip it?" Yes and no. This is mostly what I do. The problem is when 6 people post a new GD thread and 4 people post a new baby name thread all in the same day it clusters up the board and unique questions can get buried back a few pages where no one sees them. I'm not a "search function police officer" by any means but when you can just glanced at the first page and see your topic has already been brought up multiple times, it's actually lazy and bad forum manners to start another redundant thread. And that's standard to forums in general not a bump specific thing. So yes and no on the just skipping idea.
I think I'm pretty vulgar and offensive. While I'm educated and know better, I still talk like an old drunk bastard. Even when you're in a bad mood you have more self control than I do on a good day! I'm pretty sure we can all think of where the report came from. I hope when I grow up I can be as "mean" as you are.
Can't we all agree that it's a little annoying to be asked a question that, when Googled, will appear with 5,402,590 results, including several Yahoo Answers pages (movie theater noise, I'm looking at you)?
And can we at least reserve the right to be annoyed when there are multiple identical topics posted on the first two pages of threads?
Wasn't the whole point to put on big girl panties and get over it? If it bothers you to see multiple questions on the same topic you can just skip it right? This forum belongs to the "newbies" just much as any one else. Who cares if they are just getting in the groove of posting and learning the ins and outs. They are just looking for insight and support like the rest of us. Even if you think their questionis ridiculous it isn't to them. This isn't that serious lol. It's an internet forum, who cares. .. I really don't mean to sound hateful but I can't understand why it would bother someone. Seems so silly to me. As far as reporting someone. Ick. Unless they personally attack you and really go for the jugular I think it's silly to report. Even if the said violator is being a catty. Just my two cents.
@mandy903 if you scroll up just 4 responses you'll see my answer to the "just skip it" idea.
Sometimes people post on these boards really serious questions or are looking for support for very serious issues. The other day someone posted and they sounded depressed and nearly suicidal. (I may have read too much into thinking suicidal but they were obviously deeply, deeply depressed.) Sometimes these posts get pushed back to page 2 or 3 or even 4 very quickly when people post 10 new threads about the same topic and poeple get so bored or frustrated with "just skipping" the 12 "what should I name my baby" or "how do I prepare for my GD test threads" that they never make it to the post from the person who desperately needs support and the person needing support doesn't get it So, no, just skipping doesn't always work and I personally get upset seeing a unique question or a cry for help buried by redundant threads when there is an entire board- not just threads here- an entire board dedicated to baby names and the GD questions have been answered a hundred times over and you do NOT need your own thread to ask a question the has been asked and answered 7 times already just on the first page.
And yes, you are correct the forum is for newbies and old timers and drop ins and regular posters- it's an open, public, welcome to all forum. However, when you sign up the guidelines clearly state, please read and observe for 72 hours before you post and one does not have to understand all the ins and outs to see that the question they are asking is already being talked about in 7 threads just on the first page.
For the record, I don't personally care if someone asks a question I think is silly, cause like you said they didn't know and really just wanted to get some info. But if you have access to this forum, you have access to Google so why not use it? You'll get your answer much faster most of the time. Then if you don't find the info you need, ask away! We are here to help and most of us are really happy to do so.
I completely agree about multiple posts on the same topic. I just don't let it get to me. And almost every subject can be googled and come up with some sort of answer but ladies come here wanting the input from women in their shoes going through the same stage in pregnancy. When I first joined I didn't read the rules or use the search bar but learned how things work for the most post. I guess I am just really laid back. They mean no harm by a redundant pay and I don't consider it worth me getting upset over.
All I'm saying is I think it's silly to be upset over almost anything enough to report them. And I also think it's silly to be upset about redundant posts enough to call people out and upset them/offend them somehow.
All I'm saying is I think it's silly to be upset over almost anything enough to report them. And I also think it's silly to be upset about redundant posts enough to call people out and upset them/offend them somehow.
Fair, and agreed. I do think that it's a rare occasion when someone on our board calls someone out for repeat threads, though. Other boards are way more blunt and often snarky about it. That's what upsets me, is our posters are generally so tame and respectful. Sure, it might be complained about it in FFFC post, but isn't that kind of what that's there for? To vent frustrations? I rarely see anyone do more than offer a link to a similar thread, which I view as very polite and helpful.
I think the reporting has gotten out of hand on here. I've been on TB since j was about 20 minutes into my pregnancy (really, it was pretty early - I was in Sept '15 till I found out my actual due date). I have yet to see anything I felt the need to report. I've seen a handful of mean comments, but not from the people who've been reported recently. Even the threads on the most controversial topics have been surprisingly civilized.
@SweetnSassy23 has actually taken the time to create threads for commonly asked questions/concerns so we don't NEED 14 posts on gestational diabetes. And you don't have to go searching for them if you have a question. Most of us just complain about the duplicate threads; she actually came up with a solution!
The Bump is for everyone equally, whether you just joined or you've been on here for months, whether you mostly lurk or post multiple times a day . . . But it works best if everyone follows the guidelines of the community. (I highly suggest reading the guidelines if you haven't). Reporting people just because you didn't like something they said is disruptive. It doesn't do any good for the community as a whole. If someone makes a comment that you find hurtful, PM them. I'm pretty sure most of the ladies on this board would be happy to clarify their comments or even apologize if appropriate in order to keep the harmony of this community.
I just read the message for me in my inbox from bumpcaitlin. She said that my comment the other day got in the way of others enjoying The Bump. Whatever. I don't see how others' enjoyment is my responsibility.
I clearly missed a lot over the last day and a half! It seems as though the pendulum has swung too far the other way. There must be a balance in the comments we can make otherwise forums like this lose their value. For those who have been reported unnecessarily, I hope you keep posting. We'd miss your input and the value of our board would significantly decline!
I just read the message for me in my inbox from bumpcaitlin. She said that my comment the other day got in the way of others enjoying The Bump. Whatever. I don't see how others' enjoyment is my responsibility.
I just read the message for me in my inbox from bumpcaitlin. She said that my comment the other day got in the way of others enjoying The Bump. Whatever. I don't see how others' enjoyment is my responsibility.
What if it caused me to enjoy The Bump? My enjoyment is your responsibility from here on out. So it was written, so it shall be. If I could gif, I would here insert Gandalf yelling, "You shall not pass!".
Threads like this one are what's wrong with this group. There are currently 85 posts from women bitching about someone bitching about someone. Get over it. Move on. Thanks. Oh and I'm sorry I don't post multiple times a day in a manner that is appropriate to the sheriffs of the group before posting this post. I'll try and do better before you bitch about that too.
Threads like this one are what's wrong with this group. There are currently 85 posts from women bitching about someone bitching about someone. Get over it. Move on. Thanks. Oh and I'm sorry I don't post multiple times a day in a manner that is appropriate to the sheriffs of the group before posting this post. I'll try and do better before you bitch about that too.
Re: To whomever reported me
To anyone who feels like they should report someone allow me to remind you that this is a more appropriate way to handle not agreeing with someone on the Internet (most of us are fine with someone disagreeing with us!):
Your grammar etiquettes surely atone for any sarcastic tone faux pas which may or may not have happened, anyway.
Am I reading the same posts as everyone else? I'm just not seeing the warning/violation worthy posts.
The bump should be handing out medals for not saying things that are actually offensive. I swear I've only read a handful of posts in the last couple of days because the titles were so silly.
Can't we just go about scrolling through the list of topics and if you don't like one skip it. If you do comment. If someone makes a nasty/questionable comment ignore it. If someone is tacky and distasteful thank God you were raised better lol if someone asks a dumb question (and said question may be dumb to you. I was raised to believe the only dumb question is the one not asked) answer respectfully or don't answer at all. That in itself would make a better online community and seemingly would have helped in avoiding this whole mess. I'm glad that I have somewhere I can go to talk about issues that come with pregnancy if I need to. I've received a lot of good advice and often have read posts that have changed my perspective on a matter. As someone who wasn't sure about being a mother at all, I can say that I have definitely changed my mind about that by meeting and conversing with some of the ladies on here. I'd very much like to keep it that way
Yes and no. This is mostly what I do. The problem is when 6 people post a new GD thread and 4 people post a new baby name thread all in the same day it clusters up the board and unique questions can get buried back a few pages where no one sees them.
I'm not a "search function police officer" by any means but when you can just glanced at the first page and see your topic has already been brought up multiple times, it's actually lazy and bad forum manners to start another redundant thread. And that's standard to forums in general not a bump specific thing.
So yes and no on the just skipping idea.
Sometimes people post on these boards really serious questions or are looking for support for very serious issues. The other day someone posted and they sounded depressed and nearly suicidal. (I may have read too much into thinking suicidal but they were obviously deeply, deeply depressed.) Sometimes these posts get pushed back to page 2 or 3 or even 4 very quickly when people post 10 new threads about the same topic and poeple get so bored or frustrated with "just skipping" the 12 "what should I name my baby" or "how do I prepare for my GD test threads" that they never make it to the post from the person who desperately needs support and the person needing support doesn't get it
So, no, just skipping doesn't always work and I personally get upset seeing a unique question or a cry for help buried by redundant threads when there is an entire board- not just threads here- an entire board dedicated to baby names and the GD questions have been answered a hundred times over and you do NOT need your own thread to ask a question the has been asked and answered 7 times already just on the first page.
And yes, you are correct the forum is for newbies and old timers and drop ins and regular posters- it's an open, public, welcome to all forum. However, when you sign up the guidelines clearly state, please read and observe for 72 hours before you post and one does not have to understand all the ins and outs to see that the question they are asking is already being talked about in 7 threads just on the first page.
For the record, I don't personally care if someone asks a question I think is silly, cause like you said they didn't know and really just wanted to get some info. But if you have access to this forum, you have access to Google so why not use it? You'll get your answer much faster most of the time. Then if you don't find the info you need, ask away! We are here to help and most of us are really happy to do so.
@SweetnSassy23 has actually taken the time to create threads for commonly asked questions/concerns so we don't NEED 14 posts on gestational diabetes. And you don't have to go searching for them if you have a question. Most of us just complain about the duplicate threads; she actually came up with a solution!
The Bump is for everyone equally, whether you just joined or you've been on here for months, whether you mostly lurk or post multiple times a day . . . But it works best if everyone follows the guidelines of the community. (I highly suggest reading the guidelines if you haven't). Reporting people just because you didn't like something they said is disruptive. It doesn't do any good for the community as a whole. If someone makes a comment that you find hurtful, PM them. I'm pretty sure most of the ladies on this board would be happy to clarify their comments or even apologize if appropriate in order to keep the harmony of this community.
Haha I had to