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Awkward thoughts about breastfeeding

I'm not sure why but I just feel like breastfeeding would be awkward and odd. Yes I know that it's great for the baby. Anyone else in the same boat or has been??
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  • I feel awkward because mine are really sensitive to the touch. I'm wondering if there's a way to numb them before feeding.
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  • I understand what you mean. It does seem awkward to me too. I plan on breast feeding the first week and then pumping/bottle feeding after that. A friend of mine had preemies and knew that breast milk would be better for them.While letting him feed on one breast, she pumped the other until she established a stash. From then on out she just pumped. It helped her husband bond with the baby and also enabled him to help with late night feedings. Might consider that if you still want your baby to receive breast milk without actually letting them feed on you.

    Planning to pump is not solid. Many women can't do it and it takes longer than a week to establish a supply and work out most common kinks. And I'm not trying to be condescending. I could never get milk to come out for a pump. The most i pumped in a whole day was two ounces. But i breastfed for 3.5 years.
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  • I feel awkward because mine are really sensitive to the touch. I'm wondering if there's a way to numb them before feeding.

    The texture of your nipple changes, so you may not be as sensitive. Don't try to toughen them up. You'll just make them more sensitive.

    It is totally normal to not realize how normal it can be before you do. But i highly recommended doing some reading and taking a class and having a lactation consultant come see you. Also you can go to LLL meetings now and the women there are experienced and can answer your questions or give you resources.
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  • Yeah my friend told me that its not easy and she had the same problem with pumping. You just have to drink loads of water and keep pumping even if you only get a little. Another friend of mine is a lactation consultant, and told me the same thing. Its doable but you have to stick with it just like you would if you breast feed. Its a plan lol I want the best for my baby but I'm not comfortable with skin to skin. I may not be able to breast feed at all. Most of the women on my moms side had trouble with supply.


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  • I am leaning towards pumping because of a multiple birth. It would provide the health benefits, while freeing up time since I can allow my husband and others to help. I've been doing a lot of research and from I've read it is doable, you just need to be prepared, anticipate the problems, and be 100% committed, just like sticking out breastfeeding. It's a baby, as long as you feed it you're an awesome mom :-)
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  • I have one nipple that won't stick out all the way and because of that my daughter couldn't latch (we tried everything out there and nothing helped) so I pumped and I will do the same with dj
  • I've seen alot of mom's to be comment that they don't feel comfortable with breastfeeding because they see their breast as sexual because let's face it alot of men love boobs and that's why alot of women feel the way they do because having a baby there isn't the same as their husband or lover.
    I do feel like it would be different I think is it going to hurt me or idk is it going to feel weird. But I feel with practice it will become more natural and a bond with my baby.
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  • It's also ok if you feel like you don't want to breastfeed and then don't.  Or try it for a while and then decide you don't want to.  It's not for everyone and your baby will be fine whether you feed it breast milk or formula!
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  • I can understand what you are saying. If you think about it women's breasts are so sexualized in main steam that I think we forget their intended purpose. God (or whoever/whatever) didn't create women's breasts for sexual pleasures but for nursing a child. I think that's what was weird for me. I mean, for me, breasts have always been a part of sex. I had to distance myself from that thinking (retrain my brain if you will) into realizing that my breasts aren't there to turn my husband on. They are there to nourish my child. Now that I understand that for myself I don't think of breastfeeding as awkward. Maybe I'm weird...
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  • mkross123 said:

    I am leaning towards pumping because of a multiple birth. It would provide the health benefits, while freeing up time since I can allow my husband and others to help. I've been doing a lot of research and from I've read it is doable, you just need to be prepared, anticipate the problems, and be 100% committed, just like sticking out breastfeeding. It's a baby, as long as you feed it you're an awesome mom :-)

    I just want to add a comment to this: pumping will NOT free up time. You figure in pumping time, then feeding, then washing bottles and pump parts. No way. Directly bf is waaaaay quicker.

    To OP: it is awkward at first. Neither you or baby know what you're doing, you can't quite figure out how to hold a floppy newborn, and there are latch issues. Those things all get better with practice though. Expect it to be hard at first because it will be.
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  • I just want to add regardless of how you feed skin to skin contact is super important for babies. It helps them learn how to regulate breathing, heart rate and body temperature as well as promoting bonding between mom or dad and baby.

    Personally, I plan to breastfeed. It's best for baby, always the right temperature and tailor made to their needs. If I can't then that's the way it is but I want to try at least. The most important thing is to do what's right for you and research your choice so you know what challenges you may face.
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  • mkross123 said:
    I am leaning towards pumping because of a multiple birth. It would provide the health benefits, while freeing up time since I can allow my husband and others to help. I've been doing a lot of research and from I've read it is doable, you just need to be prepared, anticipate the problems, and be 100% committed, just like sticking out breastfeeding. It's a baby, as long as you feed it you're an awesome mom :-)
    @mkross123, you make good points here. I just want to add that DD was far more efficient (time) than it would have been for me to pump. Like others have mentioned, pumping isn't as awesome as the real deal in most cases, so you might find that BFing when you can is going to "free up" more time than pumping! Either way, good on ya ;)
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  • I definitely feel awkward about breast feeding. My husband is encouraging me to do it and I'll try it but I'm such a private person. Like I seriously can't imagine my boob hanging out and a nurse helping me. I'd honestly rather try it by myself with my baby. Breast feeding in public and around others is so awkward to me. I'm just such a shy person and I feel like that's a private thing for me. I know the benefits are huge so I'm definitely willing to try....in private
    Sballerina
  • @livenlove44

    I plan to begin breastfeeding and to utilize the extra days I get in the hospital to work on it with the lactation consultant. I just am aware of the challenges that come with breastfeeding two newborns at once, if tandem feeding doesn't work for me I would be feeding two kiddos back to back. My fear is becoming over exhausted and quitting all together. So I've identified my number 1 goal (breast milk in bellies) and I'm going from there and becoming prepared with information now.

    I just think it's so personal and everyone is smart to be thinking through their own situatuons and potenting challenges now (like the OP is) before postpartum hormones and sleep deprivation kicks in.
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    I definitely feel the same way! My mom didn't breastfeed so it seems harder when you don't have someone close to you who's been through it. I plan on doing it though. Have to at least try it because it really is great for the baby and so much cheaper too!
  • Glad you liked the point I made, @jefinley1 .
    I think you really articulated well the inherent sexual nature of breasts. Great point that they did not become sexual because anyone decided they are! I do remember beginning to feel more like a woman and less of a girl when mine grew in, haha. It was awkward but eventually I got used to it and liked being a woman. And now as a married woman I am starting to enjoy how the breasts contribute to the sexual dynamic between me and DH. Hehehe :D

    BTW how common is it for husbands to want to try their wife's milk or find it a turn-on?
    jefinley1
  • Not common for my SO. He tended to avoid my breasts initially. Which was fine by me. After a couple months we both get back to normal. I would not be okay with any lust for my breastmilk.

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  • I'm a very shy person too and not very comfortable with nudity (my own). I will admit at first it was awkward having my breasts out with my big dark nipples exposed but I was so hell bent on successfully breastfeeding that after awhile I didn't care so much. Despite the awkwardness breastfeeding came very natural to me, I was so sad I couldn't do it longer.

    I have noticed that while I'm pregnant or breastfeeding I don't like my husband touching my breasts at all!! This is strange because normally it's my favorite part of foreplay! It's as though my maternal drive kicks in and shuts off the part of my brain that sees my breasts as sexual. After baby is weaned well then I'm all up for fun again
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  • It's probably because I saw my mom breastfeeding my sisters and saw other women nursing (often using a cover, but I was still aware of what they were doing), but breastfeeding has always seemed normal to me.

    However, in 22 months of nursing my son, the sensation of him suckling on my nipples never ceased to feel uncomfortable. I learned to tolerate the sensation, but I never found nursing to be enjoyable in and of itself.

    It took me a while before I could deal with my husband touching my boobs, and now that I'm pregnant again, they're super sensitive, so I want them left alone. But once I got used to breastfeeding, I was OK with him touching . . . Just not while the baby is latched on! I need a moment to switch between mommy mode and wife mode. The sexual and maternal aspects of me can coexist happily, but they cannot both be active at once!

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