My mother has just informed me that I need to get my weight under control. Um Eff you bitch I JUST had a baby!! You're the one with diabetes and can't control yourself!!! I so want to cunt kick her. Thanks to her, I had an eating disorder growing up, and have never been comfortable in my own skin. I'm so pissed!!!
@SammeMotley I am so sorry that she said that. I would flip out on her.
If he hadn't brought my Reese cups, I might have lost it on my FIL today. He came by, unannounced, as usual. LO has barely napped today and was finally snoozing away in his swing. I've held him pretty much all day. He stood there and stared at him and talked to him/touched him till he woke up screaming. Then he had the nerve to call LO a titty baby/mama's boy because I had to calm him down. He holds him out away from him and he cries because he doesn't feel secure. I tried to tell him that, but he thinks he's crying because he's hot. He also thinks the only reason he cries is because he's hungry. I'm also sick of him making comments about us needing to cut our grass, sorry dude, DH works 10 hours a day in the hot and would like to spend time with his wife and son when he gets home and on the weekends, maybe our priorities are little different right now.
Now FIL is sick and has been coughing/feverish. MIL had been sick a couple weeks ago and they stayed away. He came over a couple times after she was better, but now that he's sick, she's wanting to come over. I told DH to tell her no, which he did and she's not coming, but I'm annoyed she even tried. They constantly have respiratory infections and DH is supposed to stay with them 2 days a week when I go back to work. They're the type to not tell you they're sick and I'm terrified they will make him sick. DH and I have been discussing me being a SAHM and I really hope it works out because I'm really having issues trusting others to watch him for extended periods of time.
As if MIL wasn't making me crazy enough, I really just have to vent for a second...poor little Baby has something going on and has been miserable for the past few nights and sleeps like a dream during the day. Given this, I would prefer to just leave him be in his crib sleeping. My FIL keeps putting swings and cradles together (we were given a ton of different baby goods as hand me downs) and pushing for him to sit in them...first off, he cannot hold his head up to be upright in a swing...second off, he is happily sleeping in his crib...next, he cannot regulate his body temperature to be moved into drafty rooms...also, the germs in our room are limited to us versus all people in the house if I start moving him around...not to mention that he is hooked up to a freaking monitor, so moving him is an entire freaking fiasco...finally, I just want to take a nap in my bed with my baby near by...I don't trust anyone else to know what to do if his alarms go off - I have been dealing with monitors since he was born and I feel like they would panic, and they don't know how to read or use the monitor, or what to do for him If an alarm sounds...and no matter how I try to explain that he will use all these gadgets eventually when he is developmentally ready, I am getting the brunt of everyone's temper tantrums...STOP just STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have to learn how to set limits. My in laws were so gracious and wonderful to come help us paint this weekend, and I get that a crying (she whines herself to sleep) baby esp your grandchild is not great to hear but...they would pick her up and then she wouldn't nap. She's been so overtired this whole weekend and painting and packing and moving with a cranky baby is no Bueno. I just have to be more firm in saying "please let her be she soothes herself to sleep" (if she really cries I get her immediately).
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My inlaws have been driving me crazy since DS was born. They always act like they know better than me when it comes to baby and what he needs/wants. For instance, today at a family gathering I tried to put him down for a nap because he had been awake for several hours and was starting to yawn. I like to get him napping before he gets over tired or else we will all be miserable the rest of the night because he gets so cranky. Instead they decided to pass him around and keep him awake. Well six hours after his last nap he's still awake and starts crying bloody murder. He's only two months old he needs more sleep than that in a six hour period! So again I say he's really tired, but instead they go about it their own way and change his diaper and shove a bottle in his mouth. Then he falls into a dead sleep while he's eating and wastes a bottle (he's on nutramigen it's only good for a short time and can't be heated and it's super exspensive to be wasted). They never listen to me and they are so overbearing that I can't say anything to them. When my MIL and SIL are together it's even worse because it's them against me.
Ok rant over. They are really sweet people I just get so frustrated. Anyone else in this boat? I don't want to feel like I'm the only one dealing with it.
SO had severe colick as a baby. Every time LO cries MIL and SO nan think he has wind. No I'm lucky my baby doesn't get wind very often, his a baby he'll cry for anything. It's how he communicates.
Not a MIL issue, but my brother told me Saturday that he and his fiancée would come over today and watch LO so DH and I could go out to lunch or even take a nap. Didn't hear from him all day today. Grrrr!
This wasn't my MIL, but I'm sure she's someone's MIL, so I'll post this rant here.
At the zoo yesterday, I had both kids, LO in the stroller and DS was running free. At one exhibit, there is only one ramp. On one side, people congregate at the glass, on the other is parked strollers and wagons. People usually leave the middle free for walking. There was a group of 4 old people standing in the middle of the ramp, completely blocking anyone from moving. DS was in front of me and the stroller trying to go up, there was another woman with a stroller trying to go down.
DS, being a 2 year old, bumped into one of the old ladies as we were trying to move. She turned around, grabbed him by the shoulders and pushed him up the ramp past the other stroller. He's now on the other side of a crowd of people, moving away from me and I'm stuck on the downside, not able to move. I couldn't run after him without the baby and I couldn't get through. I was able to push past the completely clueless people and catch up to him but I was beyond pissed. If I didn't have my hands full with 2 kids, I would have chewed her ass out.
1. Do NOT put your hands on my child. Unless you are trying to keep them from harm, at no time is it OK for you to touch my child.
2. What the f*ck is wrong with you that you would push a child through a crowd without looking to see where the rest of the family is? You just separated a 2 year old from his family. I should have punched you in the face, except I was trying to get my child back! Thank God the zoo wasn't busy yet and he stopped when I started screaming frantically.
@messymolly08 lol. I started leaking around 20 weeks. LO had to be induced and STILL wouldn't come on his own. Ended in a C-section. Leaking is absolutely no indicator of labor. People drive me crazy trying to predict labor.
Not MIL related but on Facebook, my sister's DH's grandma shares all my baby posts. Thankfully only my friends can see my posts she shares, but it's still a little weird. She's not related to DS in any way. Old people don't understand Facebook. Lol.
This wasn't my MIL, but I'm sure she's someone's MIL, so I'll post this rant here.
At the zoo yesterday, I had both kids, LO in the stroller and DS was running free. At one exhibit, there is only one ramp. On one side, people congregate at the glass, on the other is parked strollers and wagons. People usually leave the middle free for walking. There was a group of 4 old people standing in the middle of the ramp, completely blocking anyone from moving. DS was in front of me and the stroller trying to go up, there was another woman with a stroller trying to go down.
DS, being a 2 year old, bumped into one of the old ladies as we were trying to move. She turned around, grabbed him by the shoulders and pushed him up the ramp past the other stroller. He's now on the other side of a crowd of people, moving away from me and I'm stuck on the downside, not able to move. I couldn't run after him without the baby and I couldn't get through. I was able to push past the completely clueless people and catch up to him but I was beyond pissed. If I didn't have my hands full with 2 kids, I would have chewed her ass out.
1. Do NOT put your hands on my child. Unless you are trying to keep them from harm, at no time is it OK for you to touch my child.
2. What the f*ck is wrong with you that you would push a child through a crowd without looking to see where the rest of the family is? You just separated a 2 year old from his family. I should have punched you in the face, except I was trying to get my child back! Thank God the zoo wasn't busy yet and he stopped when I started screaming frantically.
It makes my blood boil just writing this.
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I would have been livid and I would have said something...well, yelled something. I have such a "Mama Bear" attitude.
@Sammy K I would have lost it on her. I almost went off on this old biddy at IHOP the other day. We were eating for DH'S grandma's birthday and MIL offered to give LO his bottle. As I stood up to take him to her I forgot the diaper bag was on the back of my chair and it tipped over. There was another large party behind us, all older people in church clothes and obviously in a,hurry by the way they were treating their servers. I obviously couldn't pick up the chair with a baby in my arms so DH was trying to help me. I overheard 2 of the ladies whispering under their breath as they glare at me and then one loudly says, "oh, she has a baby". Yeah, bitch, I do. I'm 30 and married, so what's with the tone implying I shouldn't. It really pissed me off. I love older people, I actually work with them, but I can't deal with the sense of entitlement some of them have.
Along the lines of old biddies being asshats in general, when I was pregnant I went out solo to a local joint for breakfast. I sat myself at a two person table, and kinda behind me was a family with a baby who was fussing a little bit, but definitely not outright wailing or screaming. To my left was a older couple, and the lady says to her husband 'I can't believe they would bring a baby to a restaurant and let it make all that noise'. Said baby was making that low key whine / wail that sometimes precedes a major cry, and sometimes just peters out. In this case, it petered out. It really wasn't that much noise at all. But this lady totally shattered my confidence in ever eating out with a baby. I wanted to angry pregnant lady shout at her and tell her to shut the eff up cause people with babies deserve to go out and get some damned country fried steak, too.
I hope we don't end up being like these old folks.
Omg...MIL on my radar again - I just have to say this because it's so bizarre. First off...my BIL is not my biggest fan - he is wrapped up in himself and he is like an adult child - 26yrs old (MIL cooks separate meals for him - think mac&cheese, chicken nuggets - because he eats like a child too). So, when baby was born, she shared an album created by my DH to show my family the baby (my family live all over the world). On the Share she wrote how happy she was that the baby is here and congrats to uncle BIL...what? It's our baby...why is the very first post she makes congratulating him? She is all over my Facebook like the plague...sharing everything I post for my family and I can shrug that off (even though she takes a million of her own pics and doesn't post any of them), but then yesterday...drum roll...BIL held baby for the first time (he really hates my guts and hasn't had the balls to ask me if he can hold baby...so he asked MIL to ask me???) well, you would have sworn it was a Victoria's Secret photo shoot going on in here - she was ALL over it and before I could even joke about it to hubby - the golden child hath held the golden grandbaby - there was already an entire album on Facebook of the big event with all cooing about uncle BIL bonding and making future plans with baby. Yet, she has not posted any pics of my hubby with his son, and none of me either! WTF? I have to laugh it off...but really?
It's our baby...why is the very first post she makes congratulating him?
It's not so much a MIL rant but one thing that upset me was everyone congratulating MIL, SIL even SO but not mentioning me. Petty I know but I'm the one that went threw a pretty traumatic labor. I deserve a bit of credit!
My MIL is very old school with her knowledge of kids. She is always questioning what I do, but in a passive aggressive way. "You don't have her sleep on her side?" "We were told to give our kids water in between feedings if they were hungry" "you didn't prepare your nipples with a loofa before breastfeeding?!" Etc etc. She also sticks her finger in LOs mouth. I finally confronted her about that one.
I'm just so sick of hearing what you did with your kids back then. I know she means well, but this is the way my husband and I are taking care of our baby. I'm nervous about her babysitting. I just have to write everything down and pray she follows our directions.
My MIL called and asked what we're dressing the baby to come home in. We told her a pink onesie she and FIL had gifted us (I chose it as a thoughtful gesture towards them). Her response? "NO NO NO she has to wear WHITE from the hospital! I'm very superstitious about this. It HAS to be white. I will bring her something." *Sigh*..This is MY child we're talking about. I get that you have a superstition but it's not your place to butt in like that and overrule us, even on something as small as the going home outfit. My husband just shrugged it off and said it wasn't a big deal so we should just let her have her way. I honestly don't care what she comes home in but it really bothers me that my MIL felt so comfortable overruling us in the matter.
Now for the big one! DH and I decided that after 2 days of open visitation in the hospital, we would like 3 days at home just the 3 of us to get to know our LO and to establish a routine with her before we allowed visitors to start coming over again. This was the best solution I could think of to satisfy my anxiety of learning my newborns needs while my in-laws hover over me and interfere. I set the rule with my family and they were totally understanding. A few days ago, Hubby finally has the conversation with MIL but somehow forgets the timeline we'd discussed! He told her we wanted to have just HALF of the day to ourselves when we get home from the hospital that first day. Half a day is a few hours, guys. His mom had a total fit. She said "NO NO NO that's not how things are done. I don't even want to tell your father this. He's going to be SO offended.." Calm the f*ck down lady! Not that the timeline your son gave you is AT ALL correct, but even if it was, think about this. You will have just spent the last 2 days visiting the baby in the hospital and we're telling you you're welcome to come back over that night to see her again. All we'd be asking for is a few hours to ourselves to get settled at home. And you can't respect that? I just can't even with this woman. When I told DH that we'd discussed 3 days, not half a day, he looked like he was going to have a nervous breakdown. He said there was no way he could tell her 3 days when she wouldn't even accept half a day. So now my boundaries are out the window and I'm basically going to have no alone time with my LO to establish a routine. The first few days will likely be filled with my MIL hovering over me, trying to tell me how to parent, and making me feel inadequate. I'm so pissed that I feel like my experience is being hijacked.
@messymolly08 - that sounds infuriating...I was getting angry for you.
Thank you! I'm glad SOMEONE is angry for me. My husband just seems concerned with keeping the peace. Hello, what about MY peace??
Luckily the trade off is that my mom will come and stay with us the first few days we're home. She's not a pushy woman at all and will be here strictly for emotional support if I need her (plus she loves to clean ). I'm hoping she will also be able to act as a buffer between me and my MIL if my MIL gets too pushy.
im about to delete my MIL off facebook, she feels the need to comment on everything that involves LO. yesterday LO turned 1 month old. and facebook showed me an old post from that day. i made it extra cute and she just ruined it. she does this with everything about LO.
@JessHeppell that's my Mother and MIL. It's like they are in a competition who can comment first.
she just comments the most stupid shit ever. its so frustrating. i changed my profile picture and LO was holding my thumb, her comment was ""hey mom i am never letting go of you"" idk if she thought it was cute but its just stupid to me.
As if MIL wasn't making me crazy enough, I really just have to vent for a second...poor little Baby has something going on and has been miserable for the past few nights and sleeps like a dream during the day. Given this, I would prefer to just leave him be in his crib sleeping. My FIL keeps putting swings and cradles together (we were given a ton of different baby goods as hand me downs) and pushing for him to sit in them...first off, he cannot hold his head up to be upright in a swing...second off, he is happily sleeping in his crib...next, he cannot regulate his body temperature to be moved into drafty rooms...also, the germs in our room are limited to us versus all people in the house if I start moving him around...not to mention that he is hooked up to a freaking monitor, so moving him is an entire freaking fiasco...finally, I just want to take a nap in my bed with my baby near by...I don't trust anyone else to know what to do if his alarms go off - I have been dealing with monitors since he was born and I feel like they would panic, and they don't know how to read or use the monitor, or what to do for him If an alarm sounds...and no matter how I try to explain that he will use all these gadgets eventually when he is developmentally ready, I am getting the brunt of everyone's temper tantrums...STOP just STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow, it sounds like you are having a really tough time all around! hope things get better for you and your LO.
I feel very lucky ... My in laws are out of state and we barely see them, and when they do they are wonderful... But maybe because we never see them.. Hmmm
My MIL is a very nice woman and super helpful, but sometimes I feel like she does nice things to get something that she wants. Like, she'll bring us dinner if she gets to hold the baby (even if he's screaming his head off).
The ENTIRE family was supposed to be going on a mini vacation 4 hrs away from home for my SIL bday next weekend. I was kind of dreading taking LO in the car for that long as he still hates the car and screams bloody murder most of the time. But I was going to suck it up and go anyways. Well, it turns out that my DH's work denied his time off so we can't go. Today, while eating lunch with my in laws, my MIL tells me, "Well, you're still going, right?" Uhhhhhhh....No. I tried to tell her in the nicest way that NO I will not be going by myself, with TWO kids in a car on a 4 hour drive and then three nights in a hotel!
Then she says, "I'll help." -_-
I kind of just feel like she doesn't realize that the baby is ONLY 7 weeks old!
@JessHeppell that's my Mother and MIL. It's like they are in a competition who can comment first.
she just comments the most stupid shit ever. its so frustrating. i changed my profile picture and LO was holding my thumb, her comment was ""hey mom i am never letting go of you"" idk if she thought it was cute but its just stupid to me.
This is my dad and my MIL (tho I do not have her on fb, she blocked me a few years back, lol. But she will reply to emailed pictures like that). The 'speaking as baby' thing is annoying IRL, and it makes even less sense and is even more annoying when its in a typed text format. I feel ya
DH and I ate the only kids/spouses that aren't FB friends with MIL. Thankfully, DH was the one who said no to her, so I didn't even have to be the bad guy!
Ugh that's my grandma. She has pretty much alienated herself from her son (my dad) and everyone in our part of the family. It's a long story but she's basically an awful, hateful, self-serving bitch. Anyway I never deleted her from fb but after another stunt she pulled on the day LO was born I blocked her from being able to see anything I post. Unfortunately my husband did not and every time he posts something she's there with a comment, advice, saying "I love you guys!!" etc, like I haven't been ignoring her calls and texts for the last 2 months. It's beyond obnoxious.
I've quite enjoyed this thread - gotta love a good drama story. My MIL and FIL are great, but SIL is cray cray. She's just now decided to unload all her complaints about my pregnancy and delivery/birth.
One issue is she doesn't like the way we announced my pregnancy with family. It was in person by gifting a baby picture frame (the frame itself said 'I love my Aunt'...the one for my brother said 'I love my Uncle') and something inside that said 'June 2015' that they could use to put a baby picture later. Apparently she didn't like that it was more about us and not the people we were announcing to...isn't that usually the way? And any-who, how else could I have made my pregnancy announcement more about her outside of a specially picked frame that referenced her...as an aunt. She also insulted the announcement overall by calling it Pintrest (I don't see anything wrong with using others for inspiration, but apparently she does? She really did mean it as an insult because her complaints were in a very rude email lashing out at me without any provocation/reason from me, so its not just my perception). We decided to announce to family in chunks...meaning, announced first to MIL and FIL (both my parents have passed), then in separate groups to SIL and her husband...and my brother, etc. Since around that time we hosted Thanksgiving for the first time and had both sides of the family over (well only part of mine was able to come), she's complaining that we didn't announce to everyone at that event. Seriously, how is that something to complain about?
She decided to be crazy upset about how we told family about the birth, based on her making wrong assumptions of what actually happened. I still don't understand what the issue was/is, and no one else does either. During this past Christmas she predicted we would block MIL and FIL from seeing the baby (no clue why she'd think that as we see them every few weeks). She was visiting from out of state recently and tried to create an issue where there was none about how often MIL and FIL see us/baby. There's just sooooo much more craziness I could share but the craziness is so overwhelming its very difficult to comprehend and keep track of. It's a compilation of grudges that span back to childhood with her brother (my husband) that she just can't get over...completely normal childhood stuff too.
First off @JessHeppell I have the same thing! Also every time I put a pic up my mil doesn't share it, she saves the pic then makes her own post like she was the one there taking the pic! I also hate all the baby talk. She constantly calls my son "my tweety wittew baby." Her Fb posts she always calls him her baby, and when we visit her she constantly is inviting her friends over to show him off where she calls him her baby. When she calls or texts it's constantly "how's my baby doing?" I want to answer "call him yourself, your son is grown up and can answer for himself. But MY baby is doing fine" (as long as mommy is holding him!) DS also cries for her every time but unlike some of you her answer to every cry is oh I guess he wants mommy again. And while yes he is a mommas boy, lots of times it just he wants his diaper changed or he wants to lay on the floor and play. And when I say "he just wants to play now" she looks so hurt. She keeps offering to babysit but I haven't left DS with anyone besides his daddy yet. And I am not really comfortable leaving him with her. She has changed one diaper and she had to ask how to put it on. She has given a couple of bottles but she constantly shakes him while feeding (don't get why...) and then seems confused I when he starts spitting up everywhere. I just also don't want her having too much influence on DS. She isn't a terrible person, but I have very different values than her. But she acts so hurt when I don't say yes to every invitation to go out (it's hard taking a colicky baby out with other people sometimes!) or if he is having a particularly bad day she gets upset that I don't want to come see her. Like seriously, drive to me lady! But when she does come here, she wakes up DS by saying, "well I drove all the way over here (10 minutes...) and you need to wake up to see Grammy." He usually just screams and then she passes him back and says "well I guess he just wants mommy. I'm just gonna go." I want to slap her and say "no, I spent an hour getting that kid to sleep, you broke it you fix it!"
Side note, she wears all this vanilla scented crap and it makes my baby stink! (I hate all that fake vanilla smelling stuff) *for those that saw the DH/SO thread sorry, I'm having a venting day!!
@theletlers Our MILs sound a lot alike! I don't know why but the "my baby" thing makes me crazy! She doesn't offer to babysit though - at all. She just always tells LO when she's holding him that she never gets to see him blah blah blah. The woman lives 15 min away, doesn't work, and has come over twice in 2 months! I told her that she can see him anytime - all she has to do is call or text and she can come by!
Now this is just acting like a child on my part, but she forgot my birthday AGAIN this year. They do a big family dinner for everyone else including my SIL husband and BIL girlfriend but haven't acknowledged mine in the 8 years we have been together.
Why does everyone insist upon touching baby's hands?! We are down the jersey shore with dh's entire family. There are so many kids that I have to keep telling them not to touch lo and one of them keeps coughing. Ugh. Last night we were on the boardwalk and my mil grabs both of her hands while talking to her. I'm like, please don't grab her hands she puts them in her mouth constantly and your hams are now boardwalk dirty. She made a comment about her kids surviving and that's how they build immunity. Umm, doesn't really work like that. I really don't want my baby getting sick.
I've got a FIL one - he finally sold DH's old Jeep, which FIL had bought for DH, but DH was always the one driving it and paying for repairs, etc., so FIL generously decided to give us the money from selling it. It wasn't much, only around $800 because that thing was on its last leg. But then, when FIL contacted DH about giving us the money, he dictated that it can only be used to send LO to Catholic school when she's old enough, which is SO not his place to decide! DH decided to just go ahead and take it, because as of right now we are planning on sending her to the school at the church that we go to, only because we love how small it is and love the community of families that go there - but if we move, Catholic school is probably not going to be a top priority for us, especially if we move to a good school district. Then, FIL texted me (not sure why he texted me instead of DH) and wanted our bank account and routing number so he could deposit the money. Obviously, this is not something DH and I really want to give to, well, anyone (especially not his dad, who actually stole DH's savings bonds when DH was a teenager) so I asked if he could just send a check instead... and he got super pissy about it.
I appreciate that he's giving us the money, but, personally, I'm not 100% sure that it's worth it. I'm deferring to DH's judgment on this one, though, and he says it's ours. The strings attached irk me, though.
I've got a FIL one - he finally sold DH's old Jeep, which FIL had bought for DH, but DH was always the one driving it and paying for repairs, etc., so FIL generously decided to give us the money from selling it. It wasn't much, only around $800 because that thing was on its last leg. But then, when FIL contacted DH about giving us the money, he dictated that it can only be used to send LO to Catholic school when she's old enough, which is SO not his place to decide! DH decided to just go ahead and take it, because as of right now we are planning on sending her to the school at the church that we go to, only because we love how small it is and love the community of families that go there - but if we move, Catholic school is probably not going to be a top priority for us, especially if we move to a good school district. Then, FIL texted me (not sure why he texted me instead of DH) and wanted our bank account and routing number so he could deposit the money. Obviously, this is not something DH and I really want to give to, well, anyone (especially not his dad, who actually stole DH's savings bonds when DH was a teenager) so I asked if he could just send a check instead... and he got super pissy about it.
I appreciate that he's giving us the money, but, personally, I'm not 100% sure that it's worth it. I'm deferring to DH's judgment on this one, though, and he says it's ours. The strings attached irk me, though.
I'd say $800 isn't worth all those strings attached. I'd say keep it or give it to us to use how we seem appropriate for our family. My parents like to give us money with strings attached (they deny any strings) and sometimes we just say no...regardless how much it is. No way I would give him routing and account number!
I've got a FIL one - he finally sold DH's old Jeep, which FIL had bought for DH, but DH was always the one driving it and paying for repairs, etc., so FIL generously decided to give us the money from selling it. It wasn't much, only around $800 because that thing was on its last leg. But then, when FIL contacted DH about giving us the money, he dictated that it can only be used to send LO to Catholic school when she's old enough, which is SO not his place to decide! DH decided to just go ahead and take it, because as of right now we are planning on sending her to the school at the church that we go to, only because we love how small it is and love the community of families that go there - but if we move, Catholic school is probably not going to be a top priority for us, especially if we move to a good school district. Then, FIL texted me (not sure why he texted me instead of DH) and wanted our bank account and routing number so he could deposit the money. Obviously, this is not something DH and I really want to give to, well, anyone (especially not his dad, who actually stole DH's savings bonds when DH was a teenager) so I asked if he could just send a check instead... and he got super pissy about it.
I appreciate that he's giving us the money, but, personally, I'm not 100% sure that it's worth it. I'm deferring to DH's judgment on this one, though, and he says it's ours. The strings attached irk me, though.
I'd say $800 isn't worth all those strings attached. I'd say keep it or give it to us to use how we seem appropriate for our family. My parents like to give us money with strings attached (they deny any strings) and sometimes we just say no...regardless how much it is. No way I would give him routing and account number!
Yeah, that's how I feel - DH is apparently okay with just taking it and seeing what happens if we don't send her to Catholic school. I think we should be more up front about that, but I'm letting him call that decision. And we definitely are NOT giving him the routing and account number. DH says he thinks that FIL contacted me instead of him about that because he knew DH would say no.
@JessHeppell Have you seen the STFUparents posts about Grandma-jacking? You can post it to her or bring it up in conversation. It's hilarious!
This is not a huge one and I do love my MIL. She's my ally when DH is super cranky to us both. But she saved DH's baby clothes (he's 32) and it means a lot to her that we use them. They're rough terry cloth and velour, in these hilarious 80s styles. All the white ones have big stains on them. DH said something pissy about them, but I put one on LO and took a picture for MIL and she was pleased. LO gave me the side eye, lol
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If he hadn't brought my Reese cups, I might have lost it on my FIL today. He came by, unannounced, as usual. LO has barely napped today and was finally snoozing away in his swing. I've held him pretty much all day. He stood there and stared at him and talked to him/touched him till he woke up screaming. Then he had the nerve to call LO a titty baby/mama's boy because I had to calm him down. He holds him out away from him and he cries because he doesn't feel secure. I tried to tell him that, but he thinks he's crying because he's hot. He also thinks the only reason he cries is because he's hungry. I'm also sick of him making comments about us needing to cut our grass, sorry dude, DH works 10 hours a day in the hot and would like to spend time with his wife and son when he gets home and on the weekends, maybe our priorities are little different right now.
Ok rant over. They are really sweet people I just get so frustrated. Anyone else in this boat? I don't want to feel like I'm the only one dealing with it.
Not a MIL issue, but my brother told me Saturday that he and his fiancée would come over today and watch LO so DH and I could go out to lunch or even take a nap. Didn't hear from him all day today. Grrrr!
They don't understand how excited and relieved we get when they offer that to us.
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
Not MIL related but on Facebook, my sister's DH's grandma shares all my baby posts. Thankfully only my friends can see my posts she shares, but it's still a little weird. She's not related to DS in any way. Old people don't understand Facebook. Lol.
I hope we don't end up being like these old folks.
I'm just so sick of hearing what you did with your kids back then. I know she means well, but this is the way my husband and I are taking care of our baby. I'm nervous about her babysitting. I just have to write everything down and pray she follows our directions.
i made it extra cute and she just ruined it. she does this with everything about LO.
idk if she thought it was cute but its just stupid to me.
The ENTIRE family was supposed to be going on a mini vacation 4 hrs away from home for my SIL bday next weekend. I was kind of dreading taking LO in the car for that long as he still hates the car and screams bloody murder most of the time. But I was going to suck it up and go anyways. Well, it turns out that my DH's work denied his time off so we can't go. Today, while eating lunch with my in laws, my MIL tells me, "Well, you're still going, right?" Uhhhhhhh....No. I tried to tell her in the nicest way that NO I will not be going by myself, with TWO kids in a car on a 4 hour drive and then three nights in a hotel!
Then she says, "I'll help." -_-
I kind of just feel like she doesn't realize that the baby is ONLY 7 weeks old!
DS also cries for her every time but unlike some of you her answer to every cry is oh I guess he wants mommy again. And while yes he is a mommas boy, lots of times it just he wants his diaper changed or he wants to lay on the floor and play. And when I say "he just wants to play now" she looks so hurt.
She keeps offering to babysit but I haven't left DS with anyone besides his daddy yet. And I am not really comfortable leaving him with her. She has changed one diaper and she had to ask how to put it on. She has given a couple of bottles but she constantly shakes him while feeding (don't get why...) and then seems confused I when he starts spitting up everywhere. I just also don't want her having too much influence on DS. She isn't a terrible person, but I have very different values than her. But she acts so hurt when I don't say yes to every invitation to go out (it's hard taking a colicky baby out with other people sometimes!) or if he is having a particularly bad day she gets upset that I don't want to come see her. Like seriously, drive to me lady! But when she does come here, she wakes up DS by saying, "well I drove all the way over here (10 minutes...) and you need to wake up to see Grammy." He usually just screams and then she passes him back and says "well I guess he just wants mommy. I'm just gonna go." I want to slap her and say "no, I spent an hour getting that kid to sleep, you broke it you fix it!"
Side note, she wears all this vanilla scented crap and it makes my baby stink! (I hate all that fake vanilla smelling stuff)
*for those that saw the DH/SO thread sorry, I'm having a venting day!!
Now this is just acting like a child on my part, but she forgot my birthday AGAIN this year. They do a big family dinner for everyone else including my SIL husband and BIL girlfriend but haven't acknowledged mine in the 8 years we have been together.
This is not a huge one and I do love my MIL. She's my ally when DH is super cranky to us both. But she saved DH's baby clothes (he's 32) and it means a lot to her that we use them. They're rough terry cloth and velour, in these hilarious 80s styles. All the white ones have big stains on them. DH said something pissy about them, but I put one on LO and took a picture for MIL and she was pleased. LO gave me the side eye, lol