@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
You can make a baby without a community then. You clearly don't want to be part of this one.
Sorry, you guys cant bully me into leaving. Like a cochroach, you may not like me but i'm here to stay.
We understand that.
What we are trying to point out is that we're a tight knit community who have become supportive online 'friends' in this journey. You have been very hostile and nasty (calling us "douches and trolls"). You are free to stay, but you are not going to receive helpful knowledge and insight from the members here after the way you have acted.
I guess there's also a rule about not being allowed to make a joke or have a sense of humor unless you're a "reg". No one likes roaches, but they will outlive an atomic bomb. It's a joke. Obviously I'm not going to make friends on here but i'll be lurking in the shadows until the end of time....or until i have a baby..feels like the same thing lol
Met DH - 9/2003
Dating - 9/18/2012
Married - 8/16/2014
NTNP - 7/2014-5/2015
TTC #1 - 5/2015 (CP October @ 4w2d)
*PCOS/Hypothyroid/Ectopic Kidney/High DHEA-S* HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!) CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors! SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016 Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799 EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
I guess there's also a rule about not being allowed to make a joke or have a sense of humor unless you're a "reg". No one likes roaches, but they will outlive an atomic bomb. It's a joke. Obviously I'm not going to make friends on here but i'll be lurking in the shadows until the end of time....or until i have a baby..feels like the same thing lol
There's no rule. Roaches are just gross. Tis all.
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@juliehollz13 : please explain how I am supposed to support you calling my friends (and me, I guess?) "douches & trolls"? I don't think that is a fair or accurate (or respectful) way to try to build a community. Do you?
True story, how would you feel if someone said this to you?
How do you propose we resolve this? I'm not inclined to look upon your "contributions" in a very positive way because you've not been very a) helpful b) respectful.
I'm really unsure about how you think we can move forward?
Again, I didnt personally insult anyone i was making a general statement, and obviously i wasn't the only one that thought so because alot of the old contributors have been banned. Not sure what you mean by "moving forward", i dont "contribute" aside from personal experience, and again, as many before me mentioned my personal experience is not so much a contribution because what i experience doesnt mean you will. There's not one contributor on here that "owns" the board, yes, maybe a few can gang up and report a person until their banned but that's it. I just dont see the need to embarass or make fun of someone for posting a stupid question when you can just ignore them? Just my 2 cents.
@juliehollz13 : yes, but your blanket statement about the quality of character here on the board is quite offensive. If you are looking to help us build community, as opposed to just complaining about what you don't like, then please stop trying to change the board to fit your needs.
We play, we poke fun (even at ourselves!) & we educate. It's not that serious, man.
I'm honestly curious, what do you hope to accomplish? :-??
Idk, maybe having 1 less hostile environment on the internet? Guess that's a lost cause
YOU are making it hostile. Seriously.
Because I disagree with the way the original poster was treated? How is defending human decency hostile?
Met DH - 9/2003
Dating - 9/18/2012
Married - 8/16/2014
NTNP - 7/2014-5/2015
TTC #1 - 5/2015 (CP October @ 4w2d)
*PCOS/Hypothyroid/Ectopic Kidney/High DHEA-S* HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!) CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors! SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016 Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799 EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
You can make a baby without a community then. You clearly don't want to be part of this one.
Sorry, you guys cant bully me into leaving. Like a cochroach, you may not like me but i'm here to stay.
lol you complete instigated this argument. There are 100 other communities online for people that are trying to conceive. I don't understand why if you don't like the people on this one and find it so hostile you wouldn't just go on a different one? Lots of people stay on here because they appreciate the tone of the board. If you don't, that's totally cool. No reason to be stubborn JUST BECAUSE and stay here. So odd. I really don't care if you stay or go, but don't pick fights with the people that are regularly on here and expect it to go well.
@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
You can make a baby without a community then. You clearly don't want to be part of this one.
Sorry, you guys cant bully me into leaving. Like a cochroach, you may not like me but i'm here to stay.
We understand that.
What we are trying to point out is that we're a tight knit community who have become supportive online 'friends' in this journey. You have been very hostile and nasty (calling us "douches and trolls"). You are free to stay, but you are not going to receive helpful knowledge and insight from the members here after the way you have acted.
I'm still baffled by how i'm called nasty and hostile when you guys tore that poor girl to shreds and called her a liar and hounded her for hours for not posting her chart. That's pretty awful, maybe that's just the way things are around here.
Met DH - 9/2003
Dating - 9/18/2012
Married - 8/16/2014
NTNP - 7/2014-5/2015
TTC #1 - 5/2015 (CP October @ 4w2d)
*PCOS/Hypothyroid/Ectopic Kidney/High DHEA-S* HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!) CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors! SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016 Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799 EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
You can make a baby without a community then. You clearly don't want to be part of this one.
Sorry, you guys cant bully me into leaving. Like a cochroach, you may not like me but i'm here to stay.
We understand that.
What we are trying to point out is that we're a tight knit community who have become supportive online 'friends' in this journey. You have been very hostile and nasty (calling us "douches and trolls"). You are free to stay, but you are not going to receive helpful knowledge and insight from the members here after the way you have acted.
I'm still baffled by how i'm called nasty and hostile when you guys tore that poor girl to shreds and called her a liar and hounded her for hours for not posting her chart. That's pretty awful, maybe that's just the way things are around here.
Girlfriend, it doesn't even seem like that girl is still on here. Appears to me that she was (like many others) just a person that created the account to ask one question then leave because they didn't really intend to become part of the forum. Chill, already. You are acting like this is some huge human rights issue and you are trying to show everyone the light. It. will. be. ok.
@juliehollz13 : please explain how I am supposed to support you calling my friends (and me, I guess?) "douches & trolls"? I don't think that is a fair or accurate (or respectful) way to try to build a community. Do you?
True story, how would you feel if someone said this to you?
How do you propose we resolve this? I'm not inclined to look upon your "contributions" in a very positive way because you've not been very a) helpful b) respectful.
I'm really unsure about how you think we can move forward?
Again, I didnt personally insult anyone i was making a general statement, and obviously i wasn't the only one that thought so because alot of the old contributors have been banned. Not sure what you mean by "moving forward", i dont "contribute" aside from personal experience, and again, as many before me mentioned my personal experience is not so much a contribution because what i experience doesnt mean you will. There's not one contributor on here that "owns" the board, yes, maybe a few can gang up and report a person until their banned but that's it. I just dont see the need to embarass or make fun of someone for posting a stupid question when you can just ignore them? Just my 2 cents.
@juliehollz13 : yes, but your blanket statement about the quality of character here on the board is quite offensive. If you are looking to help us build community, as opposed to just complaining about what you don't like, then please stop trying to change the board to fit your needs.
We play, we poke fun (even at ourselves!) & we educate. It's not that serious, man.
I'm honestly curious, what do you hope to accomplish? :-??
Idk, maybe having 1 less hostile environment on the internet? Guess that's a lost cause
@juliehollz13 : pardon me? The only person I've seen be anything close to "hostile" is you in this thread. You've basically taken a big poop on all the regulars that have taken time & energy to try to help folks. Please tell me you can see this?
If you were hosting a get together & some relatively new person came in to say, "gee this place is full of trolls & douches! Where can I get a drink? AmIRight?" You'd most likely get a cold glance then too. It's in poor form to insult a group of strangers then wonder why they don't want to interact with you.
I mean, if you don't want to make friends you could be doing just fine.
I've been on TB since 2012-- this place is a Rainbow Gum-Drop Land comparatively. Even before then when I was lurking in 2010 (from The Nest), this place is so much more tame. I'm not sure what you would have done.
@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
You can make a baby without a community then. You clearly don't want to be part of this one.
Sorry, you guys cant bully me into leaving. Like a cochroach, you may not like me but i'm here to stay.
lol you complete instigated this argument. There are 100 other communities online for people that are trying to conceive. I don't understand why if you don't like the people on this one and find it so hostile you wouldn't just go on a different one? Lots of people stay on here because they appreciate the tone of the board. If you don't, that's totally cool. No reason to be stubborn JUST BECAUSE and stay here. So odd. I really don't care if you stay or go, but don't pick fights with the people that are regularly on here and expect it to go well.
I'm gonna stop responding now because 1) i wasted my entire day at work arguing with people who are obviously convinced they are right 2) the poor girl who originally posted may be permanently scared away from ever asking a question and seeking advice. If you guys wanna stay a trash talk among yourselves for hours on end be my guest. I have babies to make.
@juliehollz13 : please explain how I am supposed to support you calling my friends (and me, I guess?) "douches & trolls"? I don't think that is a fair or accurate (or respectful) way to try to build a community. Do you?
True story, how would you feel if someone said this to you?
How do you propose we resolve this? I'm not inclined to look upon your "contributions" in a very positive way because you've not been very a) helpful b) respectful.
I'm really unsure about how you think we can move forward?
Again, I didnt personally insult anyone i was making a general statement, and obviously i wasn't the only one that thought so because alot of the old contributors have been banned. Not sure what you mean by "moving forward", i dont "contribute" aside from personal experience, and again, as many before me mentioned my personal experience is not so much a contribution because what i experience doesnt mean you will. There's not one contributor on here that "owns" the board, yes, maybe a few can gang up and report a person until their banned but that's it. I just dont see the need to embarass or make fun of someone for posting a stupid question when you can just ignore them? Just my 2 cents.
@juliehollz13 : yes, but your blanket statement about the quality of character here on the board is quite offensive. If you are looking to help us build community, as opposed to just complaining about what you don't like, then please stop trying to change the board to fit your needs.
We play, we poke fun (even at ourselves!) & we educate. It's not that serious, man.
I'm honestly curious, what do you hope to accomplish? :-??
Idk, maybe having 1 less hostile environment on the internet? Guess that's a lost cause
YOU are making it hostile. Seriously.
Because I disagree with the way the original poster was treated? How is defending human decency hostile?
Oh stop with the martyrdom.
YOU called us douches and trolls. Is that not a hostile attack on the community? And then you kept adding fuel to the fire.
So yes you are the hostile one
Met DH - 9/2003
Dating - 9/18/2012
Married - 8/16/2014
NTNP - 7/2014-5/2015
TTC #1 - 5/2015 (CP October @ 4w2d)
*PCOS/Hypothyroid/Ectopic Kidney/High DHEA-S* HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!) CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors! SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016 Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799 EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
You can make a baby without a community then. You clearly don't want to be part of this one.
Sorry, you guys cant bully me into leaving. Like a cochroach, you may not like me but i'm here to stay.
lol you complete instigated this argument. There are 100 other communities online for people that are trying to conceive. I don't understand why if you don't like the people on this one and find it so hostile you wouldn't just go on a different one? Lots of people stay on here because they appreciate the tone of the board. If you don't, that's totally cool. No reason to be stubborn JUST BECAUSE and stay here. So odd. I really don't care if you stay or go, but don't pick fights with the people that are regularly on here and expect it to go well.
I'm gonna stop responding now because 1) i wasted my entire day at work arguing with people who are obviously convinced they are right 2) the poor girl who originally posted may be permanently scared away from ever asking a question and seeking advice. If you guys wanna stay a trash talk among yourselves for hours on end be my guest. I have babies to make.
@juliehollz13 : please explain how I am supposed to support you calling my friends (and me, I guess?) "douches & trolls"? I don't think that is a fair or accurate (or respectful) way to try to build a community. Do you?
True story, how would you feel if someone said this to you?
How do you propose we resolve this? I'm not inclined to look upon your "contributions" in a very positive way because you've not been very a) helpful b) respectful.
I'm really unsure about how you think we can move forward?
Again, I didnt personally insult anyone i was making a general statement, and obviously i wasn't the only one that thought so because alot of the old contributors have been banned. Not sure what you mean by "moving forward", i dont "contribute" aside from personal experience, and again, as many before me mentioned my personal experience is not so much a contribution because what i experience doesnt mean you will. There's not one contributor on here that "owns" the board, yes, maybe a few can gang up and report a person until their banned but that's it. I just dont see the need to embarass or make fun of someone for posting a stupid question when you can just ignore them? Just my 2 cents.
@juliehollz13 : yes, but your blanket statement about the quality of character here on the board is quite offensive. If you are looking to help us build community, as opposed to just complaining about what you don't like, then please stop trying to change the board to fit your needs.
We play, we poke fun (even at ourselves!) & we educate. It's not that serious, man.
I'm honestly curious, what do you hope to accomplish? :-??
Idk, maybe having 1 less hostile environment on the internet? Guess that's a lost cause
YOU are making it hostile. Seriously.
Because I disagree with the way the original poster was treated? How is defending human decency hostile?
Oh stop with the martyrdom.
YOU called us douches and trolls. Is that not a hostile attack on the community? And then you kept adding fuel to the fire.
So yes you are the hostile one
You wasted your entire day responding to this thread? Well, that's strange. haha
But seriously, she never intended on actually coming back. That's the way a lot of new people are on here which is WHY the regulars get so irritated with the questions. You need to go have a glass of wine and relax.
She's just going to respond, "Well she wouldn't have left if yall hadn't big meany poo heads."
To which I retort, all regs here have had their asses handed to them at one time or another. We realized our asinine ways & learned from it. So, if you want to be Queen of TTGP, go for it. Enjoy answering 5x a day if someone could've pregnant when an .88 HPT from Wallyworld would answer this.
Where were they when our regs got KU & lost their miracle? No where. Where were they when a member got told she was undeserving to be a mother because it's not what God intended? No where. Where were they when they went to their first RE appointment after 12 months of trying & got devastating news? No where.
I am not your Google. I am a friend, a confident, a supporter who refuses to be abused. So back off. Because you weren't there for any of that either.
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I'm still baffled by how i'm called nasty and hostile when you guys tore that poor girl to shreds and called her a liar and hounded her for hours for not posting her chart. That's pretty awful, maybe that's just the way things are around here.
By "that poor girl," do you mean the one from the "a week late" thread? The girl who has posted a total of two posts on this site ever, one on May 20, saying her "period has been off" and asking for help tracking ovulation (which she got) and the second saying, "I'm a week late," and asking if she was pregnant? And came back only to say, "yeah, I've totally been tracking like you told me to," but refused to share any info with the people she was ostensibly asking for help? Oh, and then helpfully came back to say, "NEVERMIND GOT MY BFP!" to a TTC community that she isn't actually a part of? Yeah, the rude one in that situation was that poster, in my opinion. But you know, you do you.
@juliehollz13 : please explain how I am supposed to support you calling my friends (and me, I guess?) "douches & trolls"? I don't think that is a fair or accurate (or respectful) way to try to build a community. Do you?
True story, how would you feel if someone said this to you?
How do you propose we resolve this? I'm not inclined to look upon your "contributions" in a very positive way because you've not been very a) helpful b) respectful.
I'm really unsure about how you think we can move forward?
Again, I didnt personally insult anyone i was making a general statement, and obviously i wasn't the only one that thought so because alot of the old contributors have been banned. Not sure what you mean by "moving forward", i dont "contribute" aside from personal experience, and again, as many before me mentioned my personal experience is not so much a contribution because what i experience doesnt mean you will. There's not one contributor on here that "owns" the board, yes, maybe a few can gang up and report a person until their banned but that's it. I just dont see the need to embarass or make fun of someone for posting a stupid question when you can just ignore them? Just my 2 cents.
@juliehollz13 : yes, but your blanket statement about the quality of character here on the board is quite offensive. If you are looking to help us build community, as opposed to just complaining about what you don't like, then please stop trying to change the board to fit your needs.
We play, we poke fun (even at ourselves!) & we educate. It's not that serious, man.
I'm honestly curious, what do you hope to accomplish? :-??
Idk, maybe having 1 less hostile environment on the internet? Guess that's a lost cause
YOU are making it hostile. Seriously.
Because I disagree with the way the original poster was treated? How is defending human decency hostile?
Step 1 to defending human decency is being a decent human. Just some food for thought.
Me: 33 DH: 31 Married: 7/9/11 TTC # 1 since May 2015 BFP August 30th 2015 DS May 2nd 2016
@juliehollz13 I just caught up on this long ass thread that would be 3 pages shorter if you hadn't instigated an online altercation.
You're not making friends here. This isn't going to end well.
I'm not here to make friends, i'm here to make a baby.
Really? This is a community. The whole point of a community is the realtionships you have in it. This is a community of friends sharing scientific support to help each other have a baby. This is obviously not the place for you.
I am 27, DH is 26. We have been married since September 28, 2013. We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
Actually I did lurk and saw alot of really nasty, unsupportive users. Most of them seem to have been banned, and since I love the site I'll stick around because some ladies offered amazing insight and advice. When you spend your entire adolescence being taught that just being in the same room with a boy will get you pregnant, and your youth trying NOT to get pregnant, when you actually do want a baby you're like "ok, how does this work?". And how exactly are those of us that are new to the board, or just started the journey to parenthood contribute, exactly? It seems like unless you had an IVF or IUI you're not taken seriously. Even though this our first month actively trying we have been "seeing what will happen" for over a year so yes, I can sympathize with the original poster's confusion.
To your first point, a lot of good regulars have been banned because people don't know how to use the "report" button and treat it like a "dislike" button. I have lost a lot of good friends here for this reason (rip @27alex). The thing is, we don't sugar coat the truth around here but that doesn't make us mean. Honesty =/= mean
To your second point, I came here after 4 months of TTC. I have been taken seriously. You know why? Because I have been a supportive and contributing member of this community.
I am sorry that you think otherwise but I think if you spend more time hanging around, your perception of the "meanies" is going to change.
Honesty is not mean, i've lurked here and other sites for a year and there's a big difference between being honest and making sarcastic remarks at the poster, who obviously doesnt know any better and hounding them for not sharing their chart AND calling them a liar. I've been charting on my phone for a year and I dont even know how the one on this site works let alone how to upload it. We're all on here because we want to be pregnant, and more than likely it's not happening right away for most of us. I'm used to the disappointment by now but I remember how hard it was to get my hopes up and "have all the symptoms" and the test be negative. It's hard enough to feel stupid about getting excited, it doesnt help when one of the best rated support boards are full of douches and trolls.
If she really had a chart, she could say, "my chart is on X website, can you tell me how to share it." and not just ignore the question.
You are not going to change the tone of this board. Many have tried. Many have failed. The better choice would be to find a board that fits your taste and try posting there. But thanks for calling us douches and trolls.
...and many have been banned because of said tone...I see that you have 2 babies already, for alot of us "newbs" it's a first baby, and because it's taking longer than the sex ed teachers and our moms told us it would, we're trying to figure this all out for the 1st time, so I ask you "experienced" contributors to have a little pity on us. We know not what we do.
@juliehollz13 Girrrrlllll. I have no children, and am actually not yet even actively TTC. I never had an IUI, IF, or anything like that. I was accepted by this board very easily and have gotten SO much great info from them. This happened because I didn't stomp on in demanding they respond to me in a specific way and disregarding rules.
Regarding implantation bleeding. When I was pregnant I actually did get implantation bleeding. I had no idea that's what it was at the time and there is NO WAY you could possibly know. You only know AFTER you take the pregnancy test. This is not rocket science. Calling people names was wrong. Several of us helped you out on an earlier thread you posted, and now here you are calling us names. That's not cool.
Again, there was another commenter actually CUSSING at the original poster and thats ok?!! I didnt call anyone personally a name, but this site does have alot of trolls on it. And before saying that's "name calling", look up the meaning of "internet troll", its someone who offers sarcastic remarks and harrasses a person - how is that helpful?
Lurker--maybe I'm blind, but I can't find what you're talking about in here. Where is the cussing/name calling toward the OP?
It's been removed - the poster was the user with the "utereses before dudereses" sticker and was outright cussing at the poster.
How convenient.
LOOOOL @juliehollz13 I haven't even posted in this thread until now. I got the tag from @PocketFullofShells and I was like um what is this about? I can only take about one silly thread a day and never felt compelled to look at a thread titled implantation bleeding.
In another thread I did ask a poster what the hell they wanted, because they thought it was rude to be asked for follow up information after they posted a question. Last I checked, cussing is allowed, and I didn't call them a numbnut fuckface or anything like that. So to say that I cussed AT them when I actually said "seriously, what the hell do you want?" is a bit of hyperbole.
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BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
Andplusalso: I am also not currently trying to conceive- not until fall, in the meantime I'm getting the hang of charting, letting BCPs clear my system, and doing research and such. I have been very open about it and no one has ever made me feel unwelcome for it. I still even post in the WTO threads sometimes. So no, you do not have to be going to medical extremes to be taken seriously here. You just have to participate and show a willingness to learn.
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
Actually I did lurk and saw alot of really nasty, unsupportive users. Most of them seem to have been banned, and since I love the site I'll stick around because some ladies offered amazing insight and advice. When you spend your entire adolescence being taught that just being in the same room with a boy will get you pregnant, and your youth trying NOT to get pregnant, when you actually do want a baby you're like "ok, how does this work?". And how exactly are those of us that are new to the board, or just started the journey to parenthood contribute, exactly? It seems like unless you had an IVF or IUI you're not taken seriously. Even though this our first month actively trying we have been "seeing what will happen" for over a year so yes, I can sympathize with the original poster's confusion.
To your first point, a lot of good regulars have been banned because people don't know how to use the "report" button and treat it like a "dislike" button. I have lost a lot of good friends here for this reason (rip @27alex). The thing is, we don't sugar coat the truth around here but that doesn't make us mean. Honesty =/= mean
To your second point, I came here after 4 months of TTC. I have been taken seriously. You know why? Because I have been a supportive and contributing member of this community.
I am sorry that you think otherwise but I think if you spend more time hanging around, your perception of the "meanies" is going to change.
Honesty is not mean, i've lurked here and other sites for a year and there's a big difference between being honest and making sarcastic remarks at the poster, who obviously doesnt know any better and hounding them for not sharing their chart AND calling them a liar. I've been charting on my phone for a year and I dont even know how the one on this site works let alone how to upload it. We're all on here because we want to be pregnant, and more than likely it's not happening right away for most of us. I'm used to the disappointment by now but I remember how hard it was to get my hopes up and "have all the symptoms" and the test be negative. It's hard enough to feel stupid about getting excited, it doesnt help when one of the best rated support boards are full of douches and trolls.
If she really had a chart, she could say, "my chart is on X website, can you tell me how to share it." and not just ignore the question.
You are not going to change the tone of this board. Many have tried. Many have failed. The better choice would be to find a board that fits your taste and try posting there. But thanks for calling us douches and trolls.
...and many have been banned because of said tone...I see that you have 2 babies already, for alot of us "newbs" it's a first baby, and because it's taking longer than the sex ed teachers and our moms told us it would, we're trying to figure this all out for the 1st time, so I ask you "experienced" contributors to have a little pity on us. We know not what we do.
@juliehollz13 Girrrrlllll. I have no children, and am actually not yet even actively TTC. I never had an IUI, IF, or anything like that. I was accepted by this board very easily and have gotten SO much great info from them. This happened because I didn't stomp on in demanding they respond to me in a specific way and disregarding rules.
Regarding implantation bleeding. When I was pregnant I actually did get implantation bleeding. I had no idea that's what it was at the time and there is NO WAY you could possibly know. You only know AFTER you take the pregnancy test. This is not rocket science. Calling people names was wrong. Several of us helped you out on an earlier thread you posted, and now here you are calling us names. That's not cool.
Again, there was another commenter actually CUSSING at the original poster and thats ok?!! I didnt call anyone personally a name, but this site does have alot of trolls on it. And before saying that's "name calling", look up the meaning of "internet troll", its someone who offers sarcastic remarks and harrasses a person - how is that helpful?
Lurker--maybe I'm blind, but I can't find what you're talking about in here. Where is the cussing/name calling toward the OP?
It's been removed - the poster was the user with the "utereses before dudereses" sticker and was outright cussing at the poster.
How convenient.
LOOOOL @ juliehollz13 I haven't even posted in this thread until now. I got the tag from @PocketFullofShells and I was like um what is this about? I can only take about one silly thread a day and never felt compelled to look at a thread titled implantation bleeding.
In another thread I did ask a poster what the hell they wanted, because they thought it was rude to be asked for follow up information after they posted a question. Last I checked, cussing is allowed, and I didn't call them a numbnut fuckface or anything like that. So to say that I cussed AT them when I actually said "seriously, what the hell do you want?" is a bit of hyperbole.
Wait wait wait.... You're telling me you didn't post a comment in which you "cussed out" OP and then it magically got deleted...
Guise. I was totez lurking and all riled up, and then she called herself a roach and I was literally laughing so hard I was crying- then when I read the comment where someone asked why she would do that, I was laughing so hard I vurped!!!!!!!!!
Guise. I was totez lurking and all riled up, and then she called herself a roach and I was literally laughing so hard I was crying- then when I read the comment where someone asked why she would do that, I was laughing so hard I vurped!!!!!!!!!
Vurp = vagina + burp??
) o my lord my husband asked me why I'm laughing so hard over here.
I was going to gif a post it but I'll remember her name easy after today's posts.
Wait wait wait.... You're telling me you didn't post a comment in which you "cussed out" OP and then it magically got deleted...
It kind of proves the point, doesn't it, that there are so many of these types of threads that even the white knights can't keep them straight?
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
@bumpcaitlin could this thread please be closed? I don't think it's helpful to the original poster and is not a good reflection for potential members.
I think it's been made abundantly clear that this is not the community for you. Yes, when these types of posts come up, the regs can be a bit snarky. But, if you've lurked as long as you claim you have, you would know why. The "am I pregnant?" posts happen every. damn. day. And the answer is the same every. single. time. Anybody would get a little annoyed having to answer the same question over and over again. Yes, we could ignore it, but that's kind of hard do when they clog up the feed and crowd out the relevant, interesting, and actually-helpful posts. And the thing is, you keep saying you're trying to build a better community here, but the people making these types of posts aren't really interested in being active members of the community. They swoop in with no introduction, ask a question that could be easily answered with the search function, and then leave. They just want us to be their personal Google. The OP you're so determined to defend is a prime example of this. She made this post, didn't answer the follow-up questions that were given her, swooped back in to wave her BFP in our collective faces, and then rode off into the sunset. So just to be clear, you want to defend her behavior, and at the same time, deride the regulars on here who provide support, helpful advice, and are actually interested in building this community, and call them douches and trolls? Um, yeah. Maybe it's time for you to get on that high horse of yours and ride off into the sunset, too.
January Siggy Challenge: Winter where you live
10/2014 - Started TTC #1 8/2015-Clomid with TI - BFN 9/2015 - Clomid with IUI #1 - BFN 10/2015 - Clomid with IUI #2 - BFN 11/2015 - Clomid with IUI #3 - BFN 1/2016 - Gonal-F with IUI #1 - BFN 7/2016 - Laparoscopic surgery - stage 1 endo removed 9/2016 - Gonal-F with IUI #2 - BFN 10/2016 - Gonal-F with IUI #3 -BFN. Diagnosed with elevated anti-sperm antibodies. 12/12/16 - Egg retrieval w/ICSI - 4 5-day embryos (2 grade A, 2 grade B.) 12/17/16 - Fresh transfer of one embryo; 12/27 beta = 141; 12/29 beta= 285. EDD 9/4/17 - MC 1/26/17
Why would someone want to be similar to a roach? I'd bet you have lots of experience trying to fit in. Did you also stalk your husband until he married you? Linger around the cool kids when you were younger hoping they would notice you? You sound like a blast.
@juliehollz13 you've randomly accused me of cussing people out on two threads that I hadn't even bothered reading, then claimed the posts were deleted. They aren't. They're still in the "week late" thread, which has been closed but my (non cussing out) comments are still there. I went to check, even though I was pretty sure they were still there since generally if your posts get edited, you also get a warning.
Good try though.
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
You know what I don't get? Going to party or a club, and realizing that the vibe doesn't work for you. And instead of finding a new parry or whatever, you stomp your feet and demand that even one change. Even though the people are enjoying it, and it has been that way for a decade.
This is also way I stay away from baby center and baby gaga. I can't tolerance the 'vibe' there.
You know what I don't get? Going to party or a club, and realizing that the vibe doesn't work for you. And instead of finding a new parry or whatever, you stomp your feet and demand that even one change. Even though the people are enjoying it, and it has been that way for a decade.
This is also way I stay away from baby center and baby gaga. I can't tolerance the 'vibe' there.
Some thoughts: 1) Did anyone else accidentally refresh & think, "oh my Christ no! Now I have to scroll through the quote trees! NO GOD WHY?!". No? I did.
2.) This wine is amazing & probably will result in my third kid. There is a reason it's called 7 daughters:
It gives you the patience to put two kids to bed then jump your husband like a college student. You're welcome.
@jackiep927 : I love you. Also give me kudos for my drunk ass remembering how to tag your name when I literally can't feel my face.
@redshoes2015: love the roach gif! Also my autocorrect tried to call you "redshit" apologies if it makes it that way & autocorrect is kind of twisted, non?
I want to be a fun roach...like the MJ kind...
@pugsandkisses : I fenced in college. Made Nationals 4th place for The university of Texas Sabre Women's-- so I saw parry & thought this: . Drunk Prim is apparently nerdy.
Re: implantation bleeding?
We understand that.
What we are trying to point out is that we're a tight knit community who have become supportive online 'friends' in this journey. You have been very hostile and nasty (calling us "douches and trolls"). You are free to stay, but you are not going to receive helpful knowledge and insight from the members here after the way you have acted.
Me: 32 Hubby: 31
Married 12/29/12
Started TTC July 2014
Miscarriage August 2014
Emmett born February 2016
Expecting Baby #2 in August 2017
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/544e80
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
*TEAM BLUE!*
There's no rule. Roaches are just gross. Tis all.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
*TEAM BLUE!*
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
*TEAM BLUE!*
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
@juliehollz13 : pardon me? The only person I've seen be anything close to "hostile" is you in this thread. You've basically taken a big poop on all the regulars that have taken time & energy to try to help folks. Please tell me you can see this?
If you were hosting a get together & some relatively new person came in to say, "gee this place is full of trolls & douches! Where can I get a drink? AmIRight?" You'd most likely get a cold glance then too. It's in poor form to insult a group of strangers then wonder why they don't want to interact with you.
I mean, if you don't want to make friends you could be doing just fine.
I've been on TB since 2012-- this place is a Rainbow Gum-Drop Land comparatively. Even before then when I was lurking in 2010 (from The Nest), this place is so much more tame. I'm not sure what you would have done.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
*TEAM BLUE!*
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
To which I retort, all regs here have had their asses handed to them at one time or another. We realized our asinine ways & learned from it. So, if you want to be Queen of TTGP, go for it. Enjoy answering 5x a day if someone could've pregnant when an .88 HPT from Wallyworld would answer this.
Where were they when our regs got KU & lost their miracle? No where. Where were they when a member got told she was undeserving to be a mother because it's not what God intended? No where. Where were they when they went to their first RE appointment after 12 months of trying & got devastating news? No where.
I am not your Google. I am a friend, a confident, a supporter who refuses to be abused. So back off. Because you weren't there for any of that either.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Me: 32 Hubby: 31
Married 12/29/12
Started TTC July 2014
Miscarriage August 2014
Emmett born February 2016
Expecting Baby #2 in August 2017
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/544e80
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
Because I disagree with the way the original poster was treated? How is defending human decency hostile?
Step 1 to defending human decency is being a decent human. Just some food for thought.
Me: 33 DH: 31
Married: 7/9/11
TTC # 1 since May 2015
BFP August 30th 2015
DS May 2nd 2016
We have been married since September 28, 2013.
We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
HSG - All clear, ectopic kidney didn't affect uterus (yay!)
CT Adrenal Scan - no tumors!
SA - sperm count excellent, 2% Morphology
March/April IUI scheduled - surprise BFP w/ help of Progesterone - 3/18/2016
Beta #1 @ 11dpo - 45.7 #2 @ 14dpo - 163 #3 @ 18dpo - 997 #4 @ 21dpo - 3799
EDD 12/1 based on O, 11/28 per Ob/Gyn (but he's wrong lol).
*TEAM BLUE!*
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
I was going to gif a post it but I'll remember her name easy after today's posts.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
My favorite quote of the day "that's not how babies are made"
I lost it...
#meangirls #dfdubclub
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
10/2014 - Started TTC #1
8/2015-Clomid with TI - BFN
9/2015 - Clomid with IUI #1 - BFN
10/2015 - Clomid with IUI #2 - BFN
11/2015 - Clomid with IUI #3 - BFN
1/2016 - Gonal-F with IUI #1 - BFN
7/2016 - Laparoscopic surgery - stage 1 endo removed
9/2016 - Gonal-F with IUI #2 - BFN
10/2016 - Gonal-F with IUI #3 -BFN. Diagnosed with elevated anti-sperm antibodies.
12/12/16 - Egg retrieval w/ICSI - 4 5-day embryos (2 grade A, 2 grade B.)
12/17/16 - Fresh transfer of one embryo; 12/27 beta = 141; 12/29 beta= 285. EDD 9/4/17 - MC 1/26/17
I have nothing to add, except...
Why would someone want to be similar to a roach? I'd bet you have lots of experience trying to fit in. Did you also stalk your husband until he married you? Linger around the cool kids when you were younger hoping they would notice you? You sound like a blast.
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
ETA: This gif would be incomplete if I didn't add a good ol' BYE FELECIA!
This is also way I stay away from baby center and baby gaga. I can't tolerance the 'vibe' there.
Thank God for Raid.
Drunk bumping...
Some thoughts:
1) Did anyone else accidentally refresh & think, "oh my Christ no! Now I have to scroll through the quote trees! NO GOD WHY?!". No? I did.
2.) This wine is amazing & probably will result in my third kid. There is a reason it's called 7 daughters:
It gives you the patience to put two kids to bed then jump your husband like a college student. You're welcome.
@jackiep927 : I love you. Also give me kudos for my drunk ass remembering how to tag your name when I literally can't feel my face.
@redshoes2015: love the roach gif! Also my autocorrect tried to call you "redshit" apologies if it makes it that way & autocorrect is kind of twisted, non?
I want to be a fun roach...like the MJ kind...
@pugsandkisses : I fenced in college. Made Nationals 4th place for The university of Texas Sabre Women's-- so I saw parry & thought this:
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards: