November 2015 (Fresh start)

Peony1982

ooooner said:

The app completely took my comment and messed it up. I don't have time to rewrite at the moment. This is the first time I've logged in here since last night and I am even more appalled.

Um, ok. That was...productive?

VexyMommy

ooooner said:

The app completely took my comment and messed it up. I don't have time to rewrite at the moment. This is the first time I've logged in here since last night and I am even more appalled.

Odd.  I read the first edition and it wasn't a bad comment.  I'm sorry you feel upset about the tone of the board.  Many of these ladies you disagree with feel upset about it too.  If you choose to leave the board, I hope you new community is a better fit for what you're hoping to get from The Bump. 

kmkrushi

Everycol0r said:

I'm from south Texas, I say ain't all the time. It is actually now considered a word, although when first used in the English language it was just considered slang. Doesn't mean it is proper buuuuut it's used here frequently. As is fixin' & the daily used y'all.

Watch Sh*t Southern Women Say on YouTube. It is so funny!

ETA: I'd rather read ain't than yolo or fleek (whatever that means).

I'm in Texas too and it's true "ain't" is used all the time in my speech, but I do refrain from actually typing it.
Sh*t Southern Women Say is hilarious!

CEB37

kmkrushi said:

I'm from south Texas, I say ain't all the time. It is actually now considered a word, although when first used in the English language it was just considered slang. Doesn't mean it is proper buuuuut it's used here frequently. As is fixin' & the daily used y'all. Watch Sh*t Southern Women Say on YouTube. It is so funny! ETA: I'd rather read ain't than yolo or fleek (whatever that means).

I'm in Texas too and it's true "ain't" is used all the time in my speech, but I do refrain from actually typing it. Sh*t Southern Women Say is hilarious!

I love those damn videos.

Babypeach2015

I so agree, I had to get down right ugly for putting a post up that, I guess, offended people. I was looking for ideas, help, or friendly suggestions but all I got was ridicule, sarcasm, and called names! It was uncalled for. I thought this was a place where I could get ideas and share frustrations with other moms but I guess not. By the time people were trying to give me advice I could use, I was so fed up and just wanted to leave the post for good!! Thank you for stating what I truly felt! 

VexyMommy

Babypeach2015 said:

I so agree, I had to get down right ugly for putting a post up that, I guess, offended people. I was looking for ideas, help, or friendly suggestions but all I got was ridicule, sarcasm, and called names! It was uncalled for. I thought this was a place where I could get ideas and share frustrations with other moms but I guess not. By the time people were trying to give me advice I could use, I was so fed up and just wanted to leave the post for good!! Thank you for stating what I truly felt! 

You chose to get down right ugly, you were not forced.  There is a difference and the tone you took from the start was not that you were looking for ideas or friendly suggestions, but claimed to be mad at the people who were on public services that you did not qualify for.  Had you said, "I do not qualify for food stamps, medicaid or WIC, but need help making ends meet." You would have unquestionably received a different response. 

kmkrushi

VexyMommy said:

Babypeach2015 said:

I so agree, I had to get down right ugly for putting a post up that, I guess, offended people. I was looking for ideas, help, or friendly suggestions but all I got was ridicule, sarcasm, and called names! It was uncalled for. I thought this was a place where I could get ideas and share frustrations with other moms but I guess not. By the time people were trying to give me advice I could use, I was so fed up and just wanted to leave the post for good!! Thank you for stating what I truly felt! 

You chose to get down right ugly, you were not forced.  There is a difference and the tone you took from the start was not that you were looking for ideas or friendly suggestions, but claimed to be mad at the people who were on public services that you did not qualify for.  Had you said, "I do not qualify for food stamps, medicaid or WIC, but need help making ends meet." You would have unquestionably received a different response. 


Plus there was some great advice in the thread anyway!

Babypeach2015

@vexymommy No, if the ladies wouldn't have attacked me from the beginning I would have had a chance to state that! I was not even given a chance and everyone was jumping down my throat!! Who does that? These are some of the most hypocritical people i have ever met. They act like their **it don't stink! I would have loved to hear more ideas and suggestions but after I was ridiculed, I no longer wanted to listen because I was too busy defending myself!

mmk29

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy No, if the ladies wouldn't have attacked me from the beginning I would have had a chance to state that! I was not even given a chance and everyone was jumping down my throat!! Who does that? These are some of the most hypocritical people i have ever met. They act like their **it don't stink! I would have loved to hear more ideas and suggestions but after I was ridiculed, I no longer wanted to listen because I was too busy defending myself!

I'm confused. You created the post, therefore you had the chance to state it. People could not have reacted poorly to you before posting the original comment. I agree with @VexyMommy.

Pontot31

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy No, if the ladies wouldn't have attacked me from the beginning I would have had a chance to state that! I was not even given a chance and everyone was jumping down my throat!! Who does that? These are some of the most hypocritical people i have ever met. They act like their **it don't stink! I would have loved to hear more ideas and suggestions but after I was ridiculed, I no longer wanted to listen because I was too busy defending myself!

I thought you said you were leaving? Stop coming back to bring up old drama.

Who jumps down your throat? People who are offended that you asked how you could cheat the system. That's who.

VexyMommy

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy No, if the ladies wouldn't have attacked me from the beginning I would have had a chance to state that! I was not even given a chance and everyone was jumping down my throat!! Who does that? These are some of the most hypocritical people i have ever met. They act like their **it don't stink! I would have loved to hear more ideas and suggestions but after I was ridiculed, I no longer wanted to listen because I was too busy defending myself!

I wish you were capable of objectively reading what was written.  I agree that some people were out of line, but you were one of them and your initial question set the tone.  I feel like your defensiveness is going to make you incapable of listening to anyone's advice and all you are looking for is a group of people to nod their head and agree with you.  If people don't do that, you give yourself free rein to pop off and begin attacking everyone who speaks to you. 

Babypeach2015

@vexymommy I am not and never have knocked the women that receive assistance that really and truly need it. I was stating that I was mad at the fact that I almost quality but because I make just a few dollars over I can get no help. I just thought that was a little unfair seeing as though I am working full time and trying to make ends meet and could use a little temporary help. I was not stating that I want to abuse and use the system! Those women were condescending, rude, ignorant, and the list could go on! Yes I defended myself, who wouldn't? 

VexyMommy

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy I am not and never have knocked the women that receive assistance that really and truly need it. I was stating that I was mad at the fact that I almost quality but because I make just a few dollars over I can get no help. I just thought that was a little unfair seeing as though I am working full time and trying to make ends meet and could use a little temporary help. I was not stating that I want to abuse and use the system! Those women were condescending, rude, ignorant, and the list could go on! Yes I defended myself, who wouldn't? 

Ignore that which does not help you move forward.  As long as you spend all your time and energy defending what doesn't need to be defended you will never have enough to move yourself and your child forward.  Again.  I am not a head nodder and I do not feel you will respond positively to any other response.  I'm sorry for that.  If you set your emotions aside people did provide you helpful advice in that discussion. 

Ceridwen77

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy I am not and never have knocked the women that receive assistance that really and truly need it. I was stating that I was mad at the fact that I almost quality but because I make just a few dollars over I can get no help. I just thought that was a little unfair seeing as though I am working full time and trying to make ends meet and could use a little temporary help. I was not stating that I want to abuse and use the system! Those women were condescending, rude, ignorant, and the list could go on! Yes I defended myself, who wouldn't? 

There are plenty of opportunities for temporary help, and if you would just get past some of the comments on that thread, you will find you were given helpful advice. You're only hurting yourself by continuing to harp on this. If you really want advice, it's time to drop the past and move forward. That is the adult thing to do in this situation if your #1 concern is your family and not just "being right".

Babypeach2015

 @ceridwen77 I cannot just get past some of the rude comments! Are you serious? You really think I want to take advice from women like this? HA!

Babypeach2015

But this was the post to start a new group but you are being rude all over again, ya'll are killing me over here! I was stating that I agreed with the person that was restarting a new group. Leave me alone! 

Ceridwen77

Babypeach2015 said:

 @ceridwen77 I cannot just get past some of the rude comments! Are you serious? You really think I want to take advice from women like this? HA!

Yes, actually I am serious and I'm not sure why that is so "shocking" to you. If you care about your family and getting help in your situation then get over the posts. If you're one to hold grudges, well, you'll have a lot of tough lessons in your life. Lastly, if you could look past some of the comments you would see people that were not rude gave great advice, even though you were one of the most biting people commenting on that thread.

Lastly, if you are so offended by this site and the posters here, why do you continue to come back?

mmk29

Babypeach2015 said:

But this was the post to start a new group but you are being rude all over again, ya'll are killing me over here! I was stating that I agreed with the person that was restarting a new group. Leave me alone! 

You know there happens to be a group that just formed that you might be way more comfortable posting in. Stop playing the victim with the "leave you alone" nonsense, no one is attacking you or making you comment back. You're continuing the conversation. Go to the other group and be happy and stress free where you won't feel victimized and all the drama can stop.

Peony1982

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy I am not and never have knocked the women that receive assistance that really and truly need it. I was stating that I was mad at the fact that I almost quality but because I make just a few dollars over I can get no help. I just thought that was a little unfair seeing as though I am working full time and trying to make ends meet and could use a little temporary help. I was not stating that I want to abuse and use the system! Those women were condescending, rude, ignorant, and the list could go on! Yes I defended myself, who wouldn't? 

Ummm, you know "those women" can all read this, right? You might want to start by not complaining like a high school girl to a friend in the corner when everyone is standing right behind you...

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Peony1982

Babypeach2015 said:

You people are so miserable it makes me want to laugh!! I can comment on anything I want, you guys don't scare me but I find it so funny that you thrive off of bullying! For your information I did go back and read some of the positive and informational comments, and i appreciate THOSE moms for that. I Don't appreciate the comments that had a rude undertone though. I can't wait until you guys put up a post that you think would get you some help and everyone starts bashing you, then you will know what it feels like, anyway.....good day.

I will eat my own foot if this is actually the last post you make after your "good day"

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urby87

Babypeach2015 said:

I so agree, I had to get down right ugly for putting a post up that, I guess, offended people. I was looking for ideas, help, or friendly suggestions but all I got was ridicule, sarcasm, and called names! It was uncalled for. I thought this was a place where I could get ideas and share frustrations with other moms but I guess not. By the time people were trying to give me advice I could use, I was so fed up and just wanted to leave the post for good!! Thank you for stating what I truly felt! 

You asked how to get WIC despite not qualifying, and then bashed people who are able to collect assistance.  If you had thought your post through a little more and come at it from a different angle, you probably would have gotten more helpful responses.  I agree that some of the responses were out of line, but you did have people on your thread that asked legitimate questions to get more information about your situation in order to give you appropriate advice and you ignored them or refused to answer their questions.

Everycol0r

@Babypeach2015 just stop. It took every ounce of Christ in my body not to respond to your offensive welfare post. I'm not sure I can refrain again.

scw89

Like this kind of positivity?

urby87

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy I am not and never have knocked the women that receive assistance that really and truly need it. I was stating that I was mad at the fact that I almost quality but because I make just a few dollars over I can get no help. I just thought that was a little unfair seeing as though I am working full time and trying to make ends meet and could use a little temporary help. I was not stating that I want to abuse and use the system! Those women were condescending, rude, ignorant, and the list could go on! Yes I defended myself, who wouldn't? 

You literally asked how to get WIC without meeting income qualifications.  That is exactly what you were doing.

ETA The first two sentences from the referenced post: "I make a little over 30,000 a year in NC so therefore I do not qualify for any gov't services, even WIC (milk, cheese, juice etc...) I want to know is there anything that I can do so that I can receive WIC for my baby?"  No.  If you do not meet the income guidelines, then you cannot receive WIC.  And later in that same post, this seems very condescending toward people who actually do need assistance and qualify for it: "If you work you get no help, if you sit at home all day you can get medicaid, WIC, food stamps, free childcare, and money if necessary. I am just frustrated!!"    If you had asked about other services that could help you out, or tips on budgeting and saving money before Baby arrives, and completely left out that last remark about people sitting around doing nothing all day, the overall tone of your discussion would have been completely different.

MadBloom

All I see here is a bunch of "wah wah waaaaah"

oliarnmom1517

urby87 said:

Babypeach2015 said:

I so agree, I had to get down right ugly for putting a post up that, I guess, offended people. I was looking for ideas, help, or friendly suggestions but all I got was ridicule, sarcasm, and called names! It was uncalled for. I thought this was a place where I could get ideas and share frustrations with other moms but I guess not. By the time people were trying to give me advice I could use, I was so fed up and just wanted to leave the post for good!! Thank you for stating what I truly felt! 

You asked how to get WIC despite not qualifying, and then bashed people who are able to collect assistance.  If you had thought your post through a little more and come at it from a different angle, you probably would have gotten more helpful responses.  I agree that some of the responses were out of line, but you did have people on your thread that asked legitimate questions to get more information about your situation in order to give you appropriate advice and you ignored them or refused to answer their questions.


Let me just say as somebody who did qualify for WIC and iS doing food stamps once the baby gets here for a little while to make sure we don't go under so we will stay afloat I was extremely offended by your post.. I am using Medicaid because my insurance ended up not covering pregnancy and I couldn't afford all of those bills.. They take the taxes out of my check to pay for it so why not use it?! I'm already paying for it so what's the issue?? And it's not like I'm going to use it forever it's meant as a temporary service... Yes there are some people who misuse it but I'm not one of those people... Thank you for making me pissed off with your idiotic remarks that I swear may have single handedly made the maddest that I have been in a while.
@Babypeach2015

And with that said...


BEETLEJUICE



Edited to fix a few words.. Im at work so I can't go into extreme detail but that's the nice version of what I wanted to say

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BlueWaffleSpeshul

Babypeach2015 said:

@vexymommy No, if the ladies wouldn't have attacked me from the beginning I would have had a chance to state that! I was not even given a chance and everyone was jumping down my throat!! Who does that? These are some of the most hypocritical people i have ever met. They act like their **it don't stink! I would have loved to hear more ideas and suggestions but after I was ridiculed, I no longer wanted to listen because I was too busy defending myself!

No one attacked you, for the love of all that is holy! People were trying to get additional information to better understand your situation and provide the best possible advice. You refused to answer any questions and went from 0 to BSC in record time.

BlueWaffleSpeshul

Also, seriously, stop throwing around the "bullying" word. No one was bullying. It diminishes the effect that REAL bullying can have on those who ACTUALLY experience it. I hate so much that bullying has become the buzzword anytime someone doesn't agree with you.

oliarnmom1517

BlueWaffleSpeshul said:

Also, seriously, stop throwing around the "bullying" word. No one was bullying. It diminishes the effect that REAL bullying can have on those who ACTUALLY experience it. I hate so much that bullying has become the buzzword anytime someone doesn't agree with you.

This. Times. A thousand..

babylove8891

Hormones are a crazy thing.

Ceridwen77

babylove8891 said:

Hormones are a crazy thing.

We are all adults here and should be held responsible for our actions. Blaming anything on hormones is a cop-out IMO.

dogsombrero

Ceridwen77 said:

babylove8891 said:

Hormones are a crazy thing.

We are all adults here and should be held responsible for our actions. Blaming anything on hormones is a cop-out IMO.

Preach! Hormones are not at fault for me having an opinion even if you don't like it.

TacoSarah

babylove8891 said:

Hormones are a crazy thing.

VexyMommy

Hormones definitely don't shape or change our opinions, but I do feel like they can affect how we express those opinions sometimes.  I know I tend to express myself a bit more forcefully when my adrenaline is up. 

Elyse1384

Woah... I literally haven't visited the board for about 36 hours and this is what I come back to.  Just when I thought the board hit bottom after nearly 2 weeks being bombarded with senseless AW threads, this happens.  I for one am thrilled that all the like-minded individuals (Read: "Lets ignore board etiquette and guidelines and post what we want, when we want with complete disregard for the community") are riding off into the sunset together.  Really, I mean that.  Thank you for starting the group, but please follow through on your intentions and leave if all you're going to do is stick around here ruining the N15 board experience for everyone choosing to stay.  You're destroying valuable threads for others by spamming them with negativity and reposts of this private group link and in turn are doing the exact opposite of what you claim to stand for.  This juvenile behavior is like standing up in the middle of a party and saying "This party blows... I'm leaving!" and then continuing to meander about talking smack about the other party attendees while they're trying to carry on.  Make your point and leave if you're not happy.  Again, kudos for doing something about your dissatisfaction here, but you made your point now please move on.

PS  Based on the maturity (or lack thereof) shown over the last 36 hours I'm certain the new group will go swimmingly

mrsaragon

For the love of Pete, if you're going to leave just leave and stay gone. Quit coming back and fueling the fire because you feel like you have to get the last word in like a child. For real. You said you were leaving, so get, Felicia.