I'm really irritated right now. My c-section was scheduled for this coming Tuesday. My family wants to be there for the twins birth, so everyone made arrangements with work to be off that day. Plus they'll be taking care of DS when I'm in surgery and after. I had a doctors appointment yesterday and my doctor said she'd see me Tuesday for the big day. I got a call at 4:45 this afternoon saying the doctors will be in meetings that day and have to bump my c-section back. So now DH and I have to wait even longer to meet our girls, and my family has to scramble to try to get off of work. Plus I already have leave set with work, so now I start leave before I wanted to. I feel cheated out of time with my family. Ugh. Sorry, complaining over.
Sorry but I need to vent. This is no way my husbands fault and I am not mad at him just going crazy with the timing. About a week and a half before my wedding my DH started getting stomache pains. Took 3 days to find out it was diverticulitis so he was in the hospital for 3 days not even a week before the wedding. Now for the past month or so he has been having a different type of pain ( due date is in 5 days! June 2). He has been to his primary care and got a CT scan but nothing came up. Today he went to a different doctor and has a hernia which needs to be fixed!! Hoping it can wait a while but pretty anxious that the second opinion doctor is going to say it needs to be done sooner. Blehhh
And My husband is very dramatic and takes everything to the extreme. And now he is in a horrible mood and taking it out on me.
I am so tired of having to be my mom's mom. It's like she's 17 and making bad choices. I mean I'm only 22 1/2 myself. My mom lives solely off the government and can barely take care of my brother and sisters basic needs and then goes out and leases a 2015 Honda. Everyone is upset with her but she can't understand why.... Um well you're using our tax dollars to lease a 2015 car... When us whom are working can't even lease a 2015 car. Gah she needs to grow up!
We weren't going to tell our families we're having a girl because they're crazy. DH and DS are with my in laws since the great grandparents aren't doing well. While DH was out visiting, DS spilled the beans to grandma (I think she was pumping him for info) and he even told her the name. I don't blame DS, he's 2, but I'm disappointed we were thisclose to keeping it secret. And annoyed that MIL acted like it was a big accomplishment to figure it out. Good job, you got a 2 year old to talk. First world problems, I know.
My complaint, today is the last day I get paid. The babies won't be here until Monday. I've been on bedrest and that used up all my sick leave and vacation leave. I do get up to 6 months off but unpaid.
We weren't going to tell our families we're having a girl because they're crazy. DH and DS are with my in laws since the great grandparents aren't doing well. While DH was out visiting, DS spilled the beans to grandma (I think she was pumping him for info) and he even told her the name. I don't blame DS, he's 2, but I'm disappointed we were thisclose to keeping it secret. And annoyed that MIL acted like it was a big accomplishment to figure it out. Good job, you got a 2 year old to talk. First world problems, I know.
I hear ya, my mil has been pressing my 2 year old DS for our baby girl's name too! Thankfully we just use the nickname around him and his pronounciation of it is horrendous. Even if he told her, I don't think she'd be able to figure it out!
The last 2 hours have really sucked. My legs barely work to walk and DH comes home with a mildly sprained ankle from jumping out of a truck bed at work. He usually helps me around when I'm this bad but is a bit recliner bound for the moment since his foot swelled when his boot came off. Not his fault but I can't walk 5 feet by myself.
A) I don't know you go take your name poll and shove it. if you say ' I wanna ' in a sentence.......... And are not kidding.... You have serious issues.
Ok. Well that about covers the 2 new posts I have just seen.
After a really easy pregnancy (sympathies to those who have had a tough time) my carpal tunnel has been out of control bad for a few weeks now. I can't sleep, type, write, etc... Brutal. OB tells me at our 39 week appt that if I want to be induced this coming Tuesday I can because A) I'll be 40 weeks and swelling and fluid retention won't go down significantly enough until after I have the baby. Fast forward to tonight.... DH and I are talking and I mention that I'm looking forward to being induced on Tuesday. He's not having it. Said I'm trying to control the situation and we need to let nature run its course. Plus, that it's only one more week.
What the actual fuck! Am I being crazy here? Ladies, advice please!!!
After a really easy pregnancy (sympathies to those who have had a tough time) my carpal tunnel has been out of control bad for a few weeks now. I can't sleep, type, write, etc... Brutal. OB tells me at our 39 week appt that if I want to be induced this coming Tuesday I can because A) I'll be 40 weeks and swelling and fluid retention won't go down significantly enough until after I have the baby. Fast forward to tonight.... DH and I are talking and I mention that I'm looking forward to being induced on Tuesday. He's not having it. Said I'm trying to control the situation and we need to let nature run its course. Plus, that it's only one more week.
What the actual fuck! Am I being crazy here? Ladies, advice please!!!
(Sorry for the long rant)
Pregnancy has made me a ferocious believer that a woman has the right to decide what happens to her body. Yes, there is a baby in there, but no one but the mother is going through any of the physical effects, and therefore no one but the mother (assuming she is sane and responsible) should determine what happens to the mother's body.
Somewhere below this more-ferocious-than-before belief in the mother's autonomy... I *personally think it is important to let nature take its course with labor, barring life threatening or exceptional health challenges.
So I think you owe it to your husband to hear him out. And then I think it's your decision.
That is my own personal opinion, and I would never project that expectation on others or judge a woman's decision. Just answering since you asked. Good luck and feel better!!
Can not sleep. Its 2:30 and i got tired of being on my computer in bed. Came downstairs to eat and watch tv. I guess i pressed something on the remote without realizing it and now there is no volume. Great. I guess its back to the computer!
After a really easy pregnancy (sympathies to those who have had a tough time) my carpal tunnel has been out of control bad for a few weeks now. I can't sleep, type, write, etc... Brutal. OB tells me at our 39 week appt that if I want to be induced this coming Tuesday I can because A) I'll be 40 weeks and swelling and fluid retention won't go down significantly enough until after I have the baby. Fast forward to tonight.... DH and I are talking and I mention that I'm looking forward to being induced on Tuesday. He's not having it. Said I'm trying to control the situation and we need to let nature run its course. Plus, that it's only one more week.
What the actual fuck! Am I being crazy here? Ladies, advice please!!!
(Sorry for the long rant)
Pregnancy has made me a ferocious believer that a woman has the right to decide what happens to her body. Yes, there is a baby in there, but no one but the mother is going through any of the physical effects, and therefore no one but the mother (assuming she is sane and responsible) should determine what happens to the mother's body.
Somewhere below this more-ferocious-than-before belief in the mother's autonomy... I *personally think it is important to let nature take its course with labor, barring life threatening or exceptional health challenges.
So I think you owe it to your husband to hear him out. And then I think it's your decision.
That is my own personal opinion, and I would never project that expectation on others or judge a woman's decision. Just answering since you asked. Good luck and feel better!!
I really appreciate your input. In fact I agree 100% with you. What aggravated me was his matter-of-fact stance on what we were doing. It wasn't a conversation at all... He just told me what we were doing. So naturally my attitude was a big F you haha! We'll see how this plays out.
Went to the movies last night with MIL & SIL. When walking into the theatre before the movie started a woman shouted "Well lordy! You're due any second now!! You look like you could pop! What's your due date?" Even though my due date is June 8th I replied "Oh I know any day now!" Why do strangers feel the need to call out how big you are in public? If I saw someone fat and just yelled "Oh Lordy it looks like you had an extra Twinkie this morning!" I'd be kicked out of a store! Ugh
Went to the movies last night with MIL & SIL. When walking into the theatre before the movie started a woman shouted "Well lordy! You're due any second now!! You look like you could pop! What's your due date?" Even though my due date is June 8th I replied "Oh I know any day now!" Why do strangers feel the need to call out how big you are in public? If I saw someone fat and just yelled "Oh Lordy it looks like you had an extra Twinkie this morning!" I'd be kicked out of a store! Ugh
I'm not due for another 4 weeks but I've been telling people "any day now"...it seems to put a stop to the questions about my size
A) I don't know you go take your name poll and shove it. if you say ' I wanna ' in a sentence.......... And are not kidding.... You have serious issues.
Ok. Well that about covers the 2 new posts I have just seen.
I say 'wanna' and 'gonna' and 'kinda'. And I get on people for spelling, even! (Hypocrite, right here) Sorry. My bad :-S
I'm kind of tired of people asking me "how are you feeling" multiple times a day. It's so hard to answer! I could list you everything on my body that hurts but it's the same things that hurt yesterday when you asked. It's sweet to know people are thinking of me but I kind of just want to tunnel into my blankets and let nature take its course. Don't bug me!!!
I am so beyond frustrated with one of my friends. She's been in an off an on relationship with a cheating ass wipe who manipulates her for over 2 years now. She and I lived together my last year of college and when I moved out he was supposed to move in with her. She had already signed the lease and he waited until 1 day before rent was due to tell her he wasn't moving in. They eventually moved in together months after that and he ended up kicking her out. She has found him in bed with another girl. He has screamed at her and thrown all of her stuff out of his/their apartment on multiple occasions. All of his "friends" are girls and he refuses to introduce her to them or let her come out with them. Girls call his phone at all hours. She finds other girls hair in the shower drain and their makeup in the bathroom. When she brings up any of this he calls her stupid and crazy and throws a fit and says he can't take it anymore and breaks up with her (only to get back together the next day). The list could go on. But last time she called me to talk about it was the last straw. They had been out drinking when they got into a fight and when they got back to his apartment it escalated and he as usual screamed and threw all her things but also pinned her down to the bed and held a pillow over her face, and at one point had his hands around her throat. To me or any sane person that would be the wake up call to NEVER SEE THIS PERSON AGAIN. And I thought for her it was. At my insistence she started seeing a therapist once a week and is on antidepressants. That was about 3 weeks ago and I was checking in with her everyday for the first week and she seemed to be in agreement that it was ridiculous she let it go on for so long, etc. I also suggested she move back home for a while to get away from her routine/ensure she would not be seeing him. So that was the plan. It's been about a week since we talked and today she calls and says I need some advice I feel crazy. I say okay what's up? She's been seeing the kid again and pushed back leaving town until the 6th!!!!! I felt like I was in the twilight zone or the movie Groundhog Day having the same exact conversation for the 27381827th time in the last two years. So shocker things had been "very good lately" but when she came home one night her side of the bed smelled like perfume and they got in a fight and was she right for thinking he had a girl over? I was trying so hard not to just say WHAT THE EFF IS WRONG WITH YOU. I settled for explaining that it doesn't matter in this one instance if she was right or not because he's already done everything terrible he could do and why would she ever consider being back with him after the last time! I seriously feel like I'm wasting my breath and I can only repeat myself so many times. She said she is really done this time but I said if him physically assaulting you wasn't enough to keep you away what makes you think this time will be? I just don't know what else can be done at this point and I don't want to lose my friendship with her but if she does this one more time I may lose it on her. Praying she can hold out until she moves on the 6th and just never look back. Sorry this is so long, I'm not just annoyed I'm pregnant lady annoyed so it's amplified.
Also I'm due the 12th and she wants to come visit next week after she moves out... Can't say no in this situation but really? Do I want to worry about someone sleeping on my couch when all I want to do is sleep on my couch??
I am so beyond frustrated with one of my friends. She's been in an off an on relationship with a cheating ass wipe who manipulates her for over 2 years now. She and I lived together my last year of college and when I moved out he was supposed to move in with her. She had already signed the lease and he waited until 1 day before rent was due to tell her he wasn't moving in. They eventually moved in together months after that and he ended up kicking her out. She has found him in bed with another girl. He has screamed at her and thrown all of her stuff out of his/their apartment on multiple occasions. All of his "friends" are girls and he refuses to introduce her to them or let her come out with them. Girls call his phone at all hours. She finds other girls hair in the shower drain and their makeup in the bathroom. When she brings up any of this he calls her stupid and crazy and throws a fit and says he can't take it anymore and breaks up with her (only to get back together the next day). The list could go on. But last time she called me to talk about it was the last straw. They had been out drinking when they got into a fight and when they got back to his apartment it escalated and he as usual screamed and threw all her things but also pinned her down to the bed and held a pillow over her face, and at one point had his hands around her throat. To me or any sane person that would be the wake up call to NEVER SEE THIS PERSON AGAIN. And I thought for her it was. At my insistence she started seeing a therapist once a week and is on antidepressants. That was about 3 weeks ago and I was checking in with her everyday for the first week and she seemed to be in agreement that it was ridiculous she let it go on for so long, etc. I also suggested she move back home for a while to get away from her routine/ensure she would not be seeing him. So that was the plan. It's been about a week since we talked and today she calls and says I need some advice I feel crazy. I say okay what's up? She's been seeing the kid again and pushed back leaving town until the 6th!!!!! I felt like I was in the twilight zone or the movie Groundhog Day having the same exact conversation for the 27381827th time in the last two years. So shocker things had been "very good lately" but when she came home one night her side of the bed smelled like perfume and they got in a fight and was she right for thinking he had a girl over? I was trying so hard not to just say WHAT THE EFF IS WRONG WITH YOU. I settled for explaining that it doesn't matter in this one instance if she was right or not because he's already done everything terrible he could do and why would she ever consider being back with him after the last time! I seriously feel like I'm wasting my breath and I can only repeat myself so many times. She said she is really done this time but I said if him physically assaulting you wasn't enough to keep you away what makes you think this time will be? I just don't know what else can be done at this point and I don't want to lose my friendship with her but if she does this one more time I may lose it on her. Praying she can hold out until she moves on the 6th and just never look back. Sorry this is so long, I'm not just annoyed I'm pregnant lady annoyed so it's amplified.
Also I'm due the 12th and she wants to come visit next week after she moves out... Can't say no in this situation but really? Do I want to worry about someone sleeping on my couch when all I want to do is sleep on my couch??
I wouldn't invite her to stay with you, as you physically can't handle visitors, but I would tell her (if she were my friend) that...
"I'm worried you're going to get a call soon that you're dead. Domestic violence is no joke, and yes, you are crazy for staying with him, and I can't enable you to stay with someone capable of all that abuse. Leave and go to your parents. Save your life. You are playing with a loaded gun."
I would also explain that it's really hard for you to have overnight guests in your condition but you'll happily make plans for this day and this day and this day...
I would also explain that it's really hard for you to have overnight guests in your condition but you'll happily make plans for this day and this day and this day...
Protect yourself, too.
Where she lives is 4.5 hours away from where I live. And her parents house is 5.5 hours! I know she just wants an escape, but in reality I may not even be here when she wants to come because of relocating to my parents 2 hours away where I will be delivering. Kind of hoping this is the case. Visitors are like my pressure point because I am such a neat freak and need my house to be perfect at all times.
@Serenamarr - Have one last discussion with your friend about this guy. Keep it factual, and tell her all of the reasons why you don't think she should be with him. Tell her you care about her. Then tell her you are done hearing about it. Don't let her tell you about it in the future, unless it's that she is leaving him permanently and you can help her somehow. It's just making you codependent. You've given her advice but you can't make her follow it. If she doesn't have anything else to talk to you about than her relationship drama, then there isn't much there to loose. Good luck, I've been in your same situation and it is SO frustrating, but truly you can't help her if she doesn't truly want help.
@katyertl I am totally with you on this one! The dresser and crib are still not put together after months of asking, and I feel like when I ask him on his day off I get shot a look like your kidding right?? Do I ever get a break with a toddler and being 9 months pregnant... Nope. Guys can be so selfish
My mom's throwing my shower tomorrow and I offered to help her get last minute things. Last night I didn't sleep well and today I feel all light headed and nauseous. when she asked if I was ready to go I said, "yeah just give me a second" and she got so annoyed. I'm sorry that my 9 month pregnancy symptoms are inconvinient for YOU.
I am so appreciative of all the work she's put into the shower and all the support she's given me with this pregnancy but I guess I'm just in a mood today. Uuuuuugggghhhhh
@katyertl I am totally with you on this one! The dresser and crib are still not put together after months of asking, and I feel like when I ask him on his day off I get shot a look like your kidding right?? Do I ever get a break with a toddler and being 9 months pregnant... Nope. Guys can be so selfish
Drives me nuts! I'll start doing something and he goes "stop I'll do it" but then doesn't make an attempt to get off the couch. Granted he has started working 6 days a week 12 hour shifts now so I stopped bugging him now since I only work maybe 10 hours a week because of this high risk pregnancy. I'm still able to do things so I have just taken it upon my self to now
@klkonwi I just checked out the Names board and Ms. Name Poll didn't even bother to take it there. I don't know if I can blame her, though...they hate both of her choices over there so she would have been totally smeared.
Personally, I'm f*cking done with people not being able to put together coherent thoughts on these threads. I don't want to struggle through your wall of text only to come out wondering "WTF did I just read??" because you can't spell/punctuate/grammar (not to mention that when I finally work out what you're trying to say it turns out it isn't even a relevant response within the thread). When learning how to read and write properly is as easy as watching a Weird Al video there is no excuse to be such a trainwreck!
@Serenamarr I'm sorry you are going through this with your friend. It totally stinks that she feels so attached to this guy that she always goes back. You definitely have your plate full with being 9 months pregnant and soon you'll have a newborn. I think that you just need to be a listening ear. If, God forbid, somewhere were to happen to your friend you will wish you would've just stuck by her side longer. Or maybe you won't, I don't want to speak for you but that's how I would feel. You live a few hours away so you are keeping your distance, it's not like she's putting you or your family in danger. Something I do know though is that you can't force someone to do something (lose weight, care more, leave a S/O...), no one is going to change unless they make that decision all on their own. A listening ear and encouraging friend who builds her up is what she needs, and it sounds like you've been that for her. Good luck and I hope things change with your friend soon!
Thanks everyone- she's supposed to call me later tonight so we will have to have a talk that is more than just me repeating myself a million times over. I'm going to tell her to get the hell outta there and that no one can help her at this point she needs to make a choice for herself!
@Serenamarr My dad was abusive to my mom. And even at one point in their marriage told her that he loved another woman and he didn't love her, but that he didn't want to end the marriage. I guess he just wanted her to deal with it. AND THE WOMAN STILL STAYED WITH HIM!! It took my sister (who was only twelve at the time) to tell my mom that he leaves or we leave. I guess she planned to pack us up and move us to grandma's herself.
Every relationship she's had since the divorce (14 years ago) has been a nightmare and we have had to rescue her over and over again. I'm not sure what goes through the mind of a woman in an abusive relationship, but I understand the frustration. At least she listened enough to go to a therapist. My mom doesn't see that she has anything wrong with her where she needs a therapist. Finally, I just had to let her fall on her own. After her last failed relationship, she had nothing. And with me being pregnant, I didn't have the extra money to get her into a house or buy furniture for her. Hopefully, this is a one-time thing for your friend and after this relationship is finally over, she will pick good guys. But unless she gets serious help with whatever is going on in her mind, she will always pick the loser. Keep encouraging her to go to the therapist.
I cleaned the house all nice and then it went from 95% clean to 10% clean in 48hours. I think I'm going to go insane. My fridge and pantry are becoming bare. DH and I's cellphone bill is going to be through the roof after LO is born because data and late charges. My son peed his pants twice today because "I don't like my shorts mommy." Really!? We have a bathroom on each floor! My mom is driving me insane about this new car she's leasing and she keeps saying how she doesn't trust the dealer and the dealer is trying to take the car and get another one. Gosh why do I have to tell you to be an adult and say no if 1.You can't afford the car 2. If you don't trust the dealer. !? My grandmother is also driving me bonkers even though I know she means well. She made plans to come to the house Wednesday and that day I came down with some painful BH that were pretty bad so I told her I'd rather not have any guests and she was just like Fine and almost cried on the phone. Ugh Can I just have my baby and go hide now!?
My bf and I were visiting his dad & stepmom today...he was helping to mow their lawn and do some stuff for them since the accident they got in has left them in too much pain to do it themselves. Anyway after all the chores were done my bf sat down and started drinking with his dad (12:30 in the afternoon) and drank all day basically Til about 7 pm. My bf and his dad both know that hard liquor like whisky is going to turn him into a drunken idiot (I've talked to him about this before and nothing changes). And his dad enables him and keeps giving it to him. So around 6 o'clock I mentioned that I was hungry and wanted to go pick something up for dinner. Bf said 'ok just a couple minutes I want to go have a smoke with my dad first' which is also another thing I can't stand. I waited over an hour while they sat outside and continued to smoke and drink. Around 7:15 I said 'ok can we take a walk over to the store now to pick up dinner food'. He said goodbye to his dad and stumbled out of the house. The entire time we were walking down to the store he was yelling and swearing about how he works so hard during the day and he wanted to hang out with his dad and why did I have to take him away 'just because I'm hungry'. I explained to him that I had been waiting a while for him to leave and that I was starving and couldn't wait for food any longer (his dad didn't have anything I could have eaten there). He continues to yell and swear and tells me to 'go f*ck myself' and punching the telephone post. Meanwhile the neighbours are looking out their windows, people on the street are stopping and asking if everything is ok and he continues his drunken tirade. I walked ahead of him and didn't talk to him the whole way home, he's trying to grab me and make me walk with him but I just walked home alone. He got home and continued to swear and went out on the deck and smoked and drank another drink. He's sleeping now which I'm happy about cause he finally shut up. But I was so close to giving him a good punch in the face earlier. I've never been so embarrassed in public before. Sorry that was so long, I'm just so angry.
My bf and I were visiting his dad & stepmom today...he was helping to mow their lawn and do some stuff for them since the accident they got in has left them in too much pain to do it themselves. Anyway after all the chores were done my bf sat down and started drinking with his dad (12:30 in the afternoon) and drank all day basically Til about 7 pm. My bf and his dad both know that hard liquor like whisky is going to turn him into a drunken idiot (I've talked to him about this before and nothing changes). And his dad enables him and keeps giving it to him. So around 6 o'clock I mentioned that I was hungry and wanted to go pick something up for dinner. Bf said 'ok just a couple minutes I want to go have a smoke with my dad first' which is also another thing I can't stand. I waited over an hour while they sat outside and continued to smoke and drink. Around 7:15 I said 'ok can we take a walk over to the store now to pick up dinner food'. He said goodbye to his dad and stumbled out of the house. The entire time we were walking down to the store he was yelling and swearing about how he works so hard during the day and he wanted to hang out with his dad and why did I have to take him away 'just because I'm hungry'. I explained to him that I had been waiting a while for him to leave and that I was starving and couldn't wait for food any longer (his dad didn't have anything I could have eaten there). He continues to yell and swear and tells me to 'go f*ck myself' and punching the telephone post. Meanwhile the neighbours are looking out their windows, people on the street are stopping and asking if everything is ok and he continues his drunken tirade. I walked ahead of him and didn't talk to him the whole way home, he's trying to grab me and make me walk with him but I just walked home alone. He got home and continued to swear and went out on the deck and smoked and drank another drink. He's sleeping now which I'm happy about cause he finally shut up. But I was so close to giving him a good punch in the face earlier. I've never been so embarrassed in public before. Sorry that was so long, I'm just so angry.
...why are you with this guy? You're carrying his child and he verbally abused you in a violent drunken rage *because you were hungry*. All signs point to this turning a whole hell of a lot worse.
@NotISaidtheCat he's alright when he doesn't drink. But him and his dad both do it and enable each other, and I'm sick of him coming home and drinking and spending money on beer every day and then going to his dad's on weekends and spending all day drinking there. I told him I would just go by myself to get dinner and for him to go home and that's when he got all pissy. So I think tomorrow once I've slept a bit I'm gonna actually go out somewhere by myself and think about all of this.
@NotISaidtheCat he's alright when he doesn't drink. But him and his dad both do it and enable each other, and I'm sick of him coming home and drinking and spending money on beer every day and then going to his dad's on weekends and spending all day drinking there. I told him I would just go by myself to get dinner and for him to go home and that's when he got all pissy. So I think tomorrow once I've slept a bit I'm gonna actually go out somewhere by myself and think about all of this.
Don't ever make excuses for someone's abusive actions, "he only does it when he drinks", is not ok. You and you're baby deserve better. Make sure he knows that. It's up to him to decide to make a change, you will never be able to do that for him. That may mean, you giving yourself space from him.
The only thing with giving myself space is that none of my family lives in the same city. So even if I wanted to spend a night Or two away from him I can't go anywhere. Maybe I'll make him go spend the night at his dad's since it's the only place away from our apartment to go to. But thank you for your concern ladies
Re: new complaints and vents for the week 5/25
And My husband is very dramatic and takes everything to the extreme. And now he is in a horrible mood and taking it out on me.
My mom lives solely off the government and can barely take care of my brother and sisters basic needs and then goes out and leases a 2015 Honda.
Everyone is upset with her but she can't understand why.... Um well you're using our tax dollars to lease a 2015 car... When us whom are working can't even lease a 2015 car. Gah she needs to grow up!
I hear ya, my mil has been pressing my 2 year old DS for our baby girl's name too! Thankfully we just use the nickname around him and his pronounciation of it is horrendous. Even if he told her, I don't think she'd be able to figure it out!
Ok. Well that about covers the 2 new posts I have just seen.
What the actual fuck! Am I being crazy here? Ladies, advice please!!!
(Sorry for the long rant)
Somewhere below this more-ferocious-than-before belief in the mother's autonomy... I *personally think it is important to let nature take its course with labor, barring life threatening or exceptional health challenges.
So I think you owe it to your husband to hear him out. And then I think it's your decision.
That is my own personal opinion, and I would never project that expectation on others or judge a woman's decision. Just answering since you asked. Good luck and feel better!!
Why do strangers feel the need to call out how big you are in public?
If I saw someone fat and just yelled "Oh Lordy it looks like you had an extra Twinkie this morning!" I'd be kicked out of a store!
Ugh
I say 'wanna' and 'gonna' and 'kinda'. And I get on people for spelling, even! (Hypocrite, right here)
Sorry. My bad
:-S
Also I'm due the 12th and she wants to come visit next week after she moves out... Can't say no in this situation but really? Do I want to worry about someone sleeping on my couch when all I want to do is sleep on my couch??
"I'm worried you're going to get a call soon that you're dead. Domestic violence is no joke, and yes, you are crazy for staying with him, and I can't enable you to stay with someone capable of all that abuse. Leave and go to your parents. Save your life. You are playing with a loaded gun."
Protect yourself, too.
I am so appreciative of all the work she's put into the shower and all the support she's given me with this pregnancy but I guess I'm just in a mood today. Uuuuuugggghhhhh
Personally, I'm f*cking done with people not being able to put together coherent thoughts on these threads. I don't want to struggle through your wall of text only to come out wondering "WTF did I just read??" because you can't spell/punctuate/grammar (not to mention that when I finally work out what you're trying to say it turns out it isn't even a relevant response within the thread). When learning how to read and write properly is as easy as watching a Weird Al video there is no excuse to be such a trainwreck!
My dad was abusive to my mom. And even at one point in their marriage told her that he loved another woman and he didn't love her, but that he didn't want to end the marriage. I guess he just wanted her to deal with it. AND THE WOMAN STILL STAYED WITH HIM!! It took my sister (who was only twelve at the time) to tell my mom that he leaves or we leave. I guess she planned to pack us up and move us to grandma's herself.
Every relationship she's had since the divorce (14 years ago) has been a nightmare and we have had to rescue her over and over again. I'm not sure what goes through the mind of a woman in an abusive relationship, but I understand the frustration. At least she listened enough to go to a therapist. My mom doesn't see that she has anything wrong with her where she needs a therapist. Finally, I just had to let her fall on her own. After her last failed relationship, she had nothing. And with me being pregnant, I didn't have the extra money to get her into a house or buy furniture for her. Hopefully, this is a one-time thing for your friend and after this relationship is finally over, she will pick good guys. But unless she gets serious help with whatever is going on in her mind, she will always pick the loser. Keep encouraging her to go to the therapist.
I think I'm going to go insane.
My fridge and pantry are becoming bare.
DH and I's cellphone bill is going to be through the roof after LO is born because data and late charges.
My son peed his pants twice today because "I don't like my shorts mommy." Really!? We have a bathroom on each floor!
My mom is driving me insane about this new car she's leasing and she keeps saying how she doesn't trust the dealer and the dealer is trying to take the car and get another one. Gosh why do I have to tell you to be an adult and say no if 1.You can't afford the car 2. If you don't trust the dealer. !?
My grandmother is also driving me bonkers even though I know she means well. She made plans to come to the house Wednesday and that day I came down with some painful BH that were pretty bad so I told her I'd rather not have any guests and she was just like Fine and almost cried on the phone. Ugh
Can I just have my baby and go hide now!?
Anyway after all the chores were done my bf sat down and started drinking with his dad (12:30 in the afternoon) and drank all day basically Til about 7 pm. My bf and his dad both know that hard liquor like whisky is going to turn him into a drunken idiot (I've talked to him about this before and nothing changes). And his dad enables him and keeps giving it to him.
So around 6 o'clock I mentioned that I was hungry and wanted to go pick something up for dinner. Bf said 'ok just a couple minutes I want to go have a smoke with my dad first' which is also another thing I can't stand. I waited over an hour while they sat outside and continued to smoke and drink.
Around 7:15 I said 'ok can we take a walk over to the store now to pick up dinner food'. He said goodbye to his dad and stumbled out of the house.
The entire time we were walking down to the store he was yelling and swearing about how he works so hard during the day and he wanted to hang out with his dad and why did I have to take him away 'just because I'm hungry'. I explained to him that I had been waiting a while for him to leave and that I was starving and couldn't wait for food any longer (his dad didn't have anything I could have eaten there). He continues to yell and swear and tells me to 'go f*ck myself' and punching the telephone post. Meanwhile the neighbours are looking out their windows, people on the street are stopping and asking if everything is ok and he continues his drunken tirade. I walked ahead of him and didn't talk to him the whole way home, he's trying to grab me and make me walk with him but I just walked home alone. He got home and continued to swear and went out on the deck and smoked and drank another drink.
He's sleeping now which I'm happy about cause he finally shut up. But I was so close to giving him a good punch in the face earlier. I've never been so embarrassed in public before.
Sorry that was so long, I'm just so angry.
So I think tomorrow once I've slept a bit I'm gonna actually go out somewhere by myself and think about all of this.
I don't think "advices" is a thing...