@Mommaswizz@klkonwi These people today are giving me rage on your behalf. Seriously! That bf teacher, and the annoying "am I fat?" posters make me want to go angry gif crazy.
Be nice, Westypet. Be nice. Glow. You're pregnant.
@Mommaswizz yeah... Right. Does that lady know most of us only get 6-8 weeks off work. So who is going to feed our baby without our boob while were working?!?! . My DH will be alone overnight with the baby at 8-9 weeks .... And he's certainly not going to drive the kid to me to eat every 3 hrs. That lady needs a reality check.
@mommaswizz@klkonwi when I go back to work DH is basically going to be caring for the baby more than I am between it being in daycare while I sleep during the day and him being with it at night so...bottles (hopefully with breastmilk) will be introduced rather quickly
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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THANK YOU @klkonwi + @dancegurl1118 + @westypet I'm happy you're all with me on this. DH was sort of siding with her like "well we'll want the baby to get fully used to breast feeding blah blah blah" i'm sorry this may be an unpopular opinion but if we can't get our daughter used to breastfeeding by week 2 or 3, i'll be pumping. And if pumping doesn't work out, I'm all for formula. I was formula fed and turned out just fine. Honors student, good health, got a good job, i'm hilarious, etc... I will not be guilted into feeling like I'll have a sub-par child just cause she goes to formula if i want to bail on bf-ing
I'm so happy we're all discussing the drinking topic. I'm off the entire summer after a long drinking hiatus. Momma would like a couple of cocktails thank you very much. I nearly caused an uproar at my childbirth class cause the leader said that if you 're trying to breastfeed, you shouldnt introduce bottles for 2-3 months. I wanted to raise my hand and say "Well then how is momma gonna get her bottle in?". I didnt wanna sound like a raging alcoholic but are you kidding me??
1) I want DH to get in on feeding the baby as soon as possible for the sake of him bonding with her and for the sake of alternating some feedings. I do not want to become an on demand milk dispenser.
2) I'm going to New Orleans for a bachelorette around 10 weeks postpartum and i'm gonna want to have gotten my kid used to the bottle before I leave DH alone with a baby for 2 days.
I just feel like the leader was totally unrealistic and judgey after i stated i wanted to bring in some bottles within a few weeks of her birth. And I'll be the first to come right out and say it, I would like to get drunk at some point this summer. It's FUN
I think lactation consultants can often scare people away from breastfeeding while they sit in their ivory towers.... I remember they were really anti-pacifier ... Well once I finally used my own brain and gave my poor baby a pacifier he was instantly soothed... We never had any feeding issues or Freudian nipple confusion crap... And yeah since our boobs don't detach it's really nice to use bottles!!
Griping.......my mom is such a bitch. We've always had a "touchy" relationship...literally always...but as I see most women bonding with their moms, I feel disconnected from and mad at mine most of the time when we talk. She',s so selfish, she is not excited for my husband and I because she thinks we should have waited longer (??? which eff you, I'm 29 and DH is 35, we've been married four years, like what do you want?!), and she is just generally a harsh, judgemental, rude, loud mouthed bitch. I can't take it, so most of the time I just don't even call her anymore. The couple times I have she makes me feel stupid or annoying, and when I was having an issue one day she says "Well I don't know, Stef...are you dilated?" How would I effing know that?! What kind of question is that? My dad and I have always been closer, and while he's excited and supportive, he has to live with her and obviously knows how to "handle" her but I just can't and he can't help me out/side with me or he'll be in trouble... It's just all so annoying and frustrating and I have to admit, I am very jealous of my friends and even women on here who seem to have such better family situations than my husband and I. We talk about it a lot, because he has no contact with any of his family, and we have felt completely alone through this when we thought it'd be such an exciting time we'd share with ...well, more than just each other. I am glad to have such a great man by side, he's truly my best friend and I can't imagine going through this with anyone else (I HATE pregnancy...one and done here, for certain) but I guess I just kind of thought there WOULD actually be ANYone else around? I dunno. I might not even make sense here. But I feel a lot better getting that off my chest!
@Mommaswizz yeah... Right. Does that lady know most of us only get 6-8 weeks off work. So who is going to feed our baby without our boob while were working?!?! . My DH will be alone overnight with the baby at 8-9 weeks .... And he's certainly not going to drive the kid to me to eat every 3 hrs. That lady needs a reality check.
This, I'm going to take about 7 weeks and I've heard you're not supposed to introduce bottles until 9 weeks. My mom is going to have baby 2 days a week, MIL 2 days, and DH on Fridays. I want to be sure he's eating once I go back to work so bottles will definitely have to be introduced before 9 weeks. I'm definitely worried about that
THANK YOU @klkonwi + @dancegurl1118 + @westypet I'm happy you're all with me on this. DH was sort of siding with her like "well we'll want the baby to get fully used to breast feeding blah blah blah" i'm sorry this may be an unpopular opinion but if we can't get our daughter used to breastfeeding by week 2 or 3, i'll be pumping. And if pumping doesn't work out, I'm all for formula. I was formula fed and turned out just fine. Honors student, good health, got a good job, i'm hilarious, etc... I will not be guilted into feeling like I'll have a sub-par child just cause she goes to formula if i want to bail on bf-ing
You have to do right by YOU, YOUR family, and YOUR life. You do want to establish a bf routine, so hubby gets it a little bit, but with all of the options and technology now, there should be a healthy balance between your work responsibilities, travel, and feeding your child. Anyone outside of your family unit who isn't on board with these goals for you isn't giving you the support you need as a parent and is therefore, unhelpful.
Griping.......my mom is such a bitch. We've always had a "touchy" relationship...literally always...but as I see most women bonding with their moms, I feel disconnected from and mad at mine most of the time when we talk. She',s so selfish, she is not excited for my husband and I because she thinks we should have waited longer (??? which eff you, I'm 29 and DH is 35, we've been married four years, like what do you want?!), and she is just generally a harsh, judgemental, rude, loud mouthed bitch. I can't take it, so most of the time I just don't even call her anymore. The couple times I have she makes me feel stupid or annoying, and when I was having an issue one day she says "Well I don't know, Stef...are you dilated?" How would I effing know that?! What kind of question is that? My dad and I have always been closer, and while he's excited and supportive, he has to live with her and obviously knows how to "handle" her but I just can't and he can't help me out/side with me or he'll be in trouble... It's just all so annoying and frustrating and I have to admit, I am very jealous of my friends and even women on here who seem to have such better family situations than my husband and I. We talk about it a lot, because he has no contact with any of his family, and we have felt completely alone through this when we thought it'd be such an exciting time we'd share with ...well, more than just each other. I am glad to have such a great man by side, he's truly my best friend and I can't imagine going through this with anyone else (I HATE pregnancy...one and done here, for certain) but I guess I just kind of thought there WOULD actually be ANYone else around? I dunno. I might not even make sense here. But I feel a lot better getting that off my chest!
I'm so so sorry you're going through this. Your hubby sounds like gold!
I'm so happy we're all discussing the drinking topic. I'm off the entire summer after a long drinking hiatus. Momma would like a couple of cocktails thank you very much. I nearly caused an uproar at my childbirth class cause the leader said that if you 're trying to breastfeed, you shouldnt introduce bottles for 2-3 months. I wanted to raise my hand and say "Well then how is momma gonna get her bottle in?". I didnt wanna sound like a raging alcoholic but are you kidding me??
1) I want DH to get in on feeding the baby as soon as possible for the sake of him bonding with her and for the sake of alternating some feedings. I do not want to become an on demand milk dispenser.
2) I'm going to New Orleans for a bachelorette around 10 weeks postpartum and i'm gonna want to have gotten my kid used to the bottle before I leave DH alone with a baby for 2 days.
I just feel like the leader was totally unrealistic and judgey after i stated i wanted to bring in some bottles within a few weeks of her birth. And I'll be the first to come right out and say it, I would like to get drunk at some point this summer. It's FUN
Fuck the car insurance representative I just talked to. I'm in the middle of telling her what the issue is and she cut me off EVERY TIME. Then proceeded to explain to me what happened, even though she was wrong and brought things up that had nothing to do with the issue at hand, and gave me attitude every time I tried to correct her. Then she just put me on hold and tried to solve the problem without even letting me talk. Freaking lady!!!!!!!
@Mommaswizz - see, again with the conflicting advice! The LC I saw yesterday said 4 weeks is a good time to intro bottles (my OB said do it by 6 weeks for sure) otherwise the baby is likely to say, "no thanks, I'll take my milk from the boob." Also, once you introduce the bottle, she said do a bottle feeding every two or three days so the baby doesn't forget that it's ok. I like that advice, it makes sense to me, so I'm going with it! I also told her I planned to go down to only a morning and bedtime feeding from the breast at 6 months when I go back to work (formula the rest) and she was supportive of that. I say find another LC who isn't so judgy!
The LC who taught our class said one month before introducing bottles and pacifiers is fine, although longer the better. So I'll try for a month, which I think is reasonable.
Oh hey guys! Here's my gripe: I got my wallet stolen today, awesome. Bank caught it before I even noticed. But I had to spend hours calling banks today. The person tried purchases on all 5 credit/debit cards.
All things considered I'm handling it well - I think actually because I'm pregnant and don't have time to freak out ... At least about this. But such a waste of precious time right now! I did lose a gift cards from the shower unfortunately. But so far Babies R Us said they could replace, which was unexpected and awesome. And the thief did not touch my keys, iPhone or commuter pass, so not all is lost. As my sister said, there's a special in hell for people who steal from pregnant ladies.
The only thing I'm worried about is that some of my debit cards will take 7-10 business days ... Which is June. I joked with the bank rep that I hope the cards beat the baby here!
The LC who taught our class said one month before introducing bottles and pacifiers is fine, although longer the better. So I'll try for a month, which I think is reasonable.
The LC who taught my class said that babies don't need pacifiers at all. "Just give the breast". So basically, I'm going to spend all day with my boob in this kids mouth? She amended it a few minutes later saying if baby was especially fussy to talk with the ped about using a pacifier
@Frogger5 so sorry about your apartment. May consider AirBnB for your family as an affordable alternative to a hotel, if you get to that point.
@laurendutch sorry about your family's health challenges and the stresses it puts on marriage. I know you handle it and are just venting, but that stuff is tough!
Re: drinking and breastfeeding... A good friend who's read way more on the topic than I ever will said that drinking while nursing is the best because the alcohol doesn't process fast enough to go directly to baby, and it gives you longer between feeds to metabolize it. So I plan to have a milk stout while nursing :-) Cheers to my craft brew homegirl @mellymar
@amark11 totally jealous of your access to German beers. I bet all that shiz is GOOD! Cheers to you, gal! :-bd
For a month. Then you get tired of the same Pils, Hefeweizen, or Dunkel options and need to mix it up. I am sooo ready for a Blue Moon with a big orange slice!
@amark11@mellymar I second that. My favorite beer of all time is a Hefeweizen made by a local brewery around me and I am salivating thinking about it. God I love German beer.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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@Frogger5 thank you!! That is much more realistic for me to follow than 8-12 weeks of straight breastfeeding. I definitely want to meet with an actual LC instead of the advice of the woman running the childbirth class. Im glad many of you are on the same page as me.
There is a chocolate milk stout made by a local brewery that does not bottle or sell outside of their taproom or to a few places right near them. They also have a fantastic IPA. Everything they make is just SO clean and good. I need to stop talking about it. Its torturous for me. But, c'mon. For a pregnant lady beer snob - CHOCOLATE beer?
So excited to finally get our glider delivered.. Only to find out there is a hole in the upholstery.. So now it has to be sent back and the waiting continues (I was really looking forward to using the recliner feature now) I know I shouldn't complain about something so first world, but it's very upsetting
@westypet ahh literally it's always been this way between us. But thank you! My husband has been my rock through this pregnancy, he is truly one of the great
It's funny, she likes to complain about her dad always being so hard on her, killing her self esteem, and just not being caring and loving but if I even TRY to point out that's how she makes me feel, even my dad knows that territory is bad and makes me stop. She's in her own world. She's a classic Gemini and I'm a classic Virgo, and it terrifies me to no end that I might be having a Gemini soon and I really hope we don't have the same struggles as my mom and I have...I know some people think astrology is for the crazies, but I enjoy it.
@westypet ahh literally it's always been this way between us. But thank you! My husband has been my rock through this pregnancy, he is truly one of the great
It's funny, she likes to complain about her dad always being so hard on her, killing her self esteem, and just not being caring and loving but if I even TRY to point out that's how she makes me feel, even my dad knows that territory is bad and makes me stop. She's in her own world. She's a classic Gemini and I'm a classic Virgo, and it terrifies me to no end that I might be having a Gemini soon and I really hope we don't have the same struggles as my mom and I have...I know some people think astrology is for the crazies, but I enjoy it.
Omg you took the words right out of my mouth!! DH and I are both virgos (8/31 and 8/28 respectively) and Im so curious if our daughter will be a Gemini or a cancer. I'm not a complete astrology believer but I do enjoy reading up and I find it does have an impact on some of my relationships with family members. Both my parents are virgos so I think that's why we get along so well (my father in law too!). While my brothers an Aries and Taurus are sometimes a little more difficult to understand and not clash. It will be interesting to see if my kid takes on some of the traits of her sign!
She's a classic Gemini and I'm a classic Virgo, and it terrifies me to no end that I might be having a Gemini soon...
I'm a Virgo, SO is a Gemini, keeping fingers crossed LO stays put until the Gemini days are over. Four personalities between the two of them is too much.
I have been sleeping great for a while. I have not even been waking up to use the bathroom! My father in law called to check in tonight and we talked about how great my sleeping has been and how lucky i am. Now tonight i am wide awake!!! Blehhhh
Whoaaaaa @Mommaswizz I though DH and I were the only two Virgos crazy enough to marry each other! LOL Luckily five years into our relationship, four married, and still going strong. DH actually handles my mom a LOT better than I do, he's more patient in pretty much all regards with her compared to me. He also loves astrology but isn't stressed about it and thinks it'll be totally different in a Virgo as parent/child Gemini setting. I dunno but I hope I'm going to be a chill parent like I'm a pretty chill person. We'll see...
@staceyfern I totally jinxed myself Talking about my sleep the night before as well. I got a broken three hours last night. Up to listen to DH snore long enough the birds started chirping then my stomach was growling and of course by the time I convinced myself to make breakfast the sun started coming up and now I'm trying to talk myself out of a Dunkin run... All by 6am! Phew!
You all are cracking me up about geminis. I am a Gemini and no matter what this baby will be one too. We may be a little crazy, I can be so nice but don't you dare piss me off. I wasn't a bad kid, the personality came out as i got older. And yes my lovely hubby who is a complete introvert was okay planning our pregnancy out to have a gemini. My friend who is also a gemini has two kids that are all gemini. Her hubby is an introvert also.
Oh my gripe for today was my pet bunny rabbit got out into the yard today and slipped underneath the fence to get into the road. So I had to chase the little guy around for 40 minutes before I caught him. I am 38w2d so I am way too big to be chasing after him. He is now on lock down until after the baby is born.
Oh my gripe for today was my pet bunny rabbit got out into the yard today and slipped underneath the fence to get into the road. So I had to chase the little guy around for 40 minutes before I caught him. I am 38w2d so I am way too big to be chasing after him. He is now on lock down until after the baby is born.
Oh my gripe for today was my pet bunny rabbit got out into the yard today and slipped underneath the fence to get into the road. So I had to chase the little guy around for 40 minutes before I caught him. I am 38w2d so I am way too big to be chasing after him. He is now on lock down until after the baby is born.
If he happens to escape again I have about 15 spare bunnies who live in my bushes out front that you can have. A few baby ones too! I know it's not the same, but I'd be happy to part with a family or two.
I'm trying to get recommendations for a professional exterminator as we have a nasty ant problem. Everyone keeps saying to try the homemade remedies and DIY things. I continue to say that my husband works 75 hours a week and I'm just too damn pregnant to walk all over the house putting peppermint oil and cinnamon and all this DIY crap. For the love of God people of Facebook, I was just looking for an exterminator, yeesh!!
I'm trying to get recommendations for a professional exterminator as we have a nasty ant problem. Everyone keeps saying to try the homemade remedies and DIY things. I continue to say that my husband works 75 hours a week and I'm just too damn pregnant to walk all over the house putting peppermint oil and cinnamon and all this DIY crap. For the love of God people of Facebook, I was just looking for an exterminator, yeesh!!
Rant over.
Yup. I'm gonna use the chemicals, get the eff over it, does anybody know who I can call? Damn! Either that or your happy asses can come over and put down cinnamon and whatever. For free. Since you care so much.
I thought we had everything pretty much set and ready, pediatrician and insurance wise, until the pedi we chose called to say he is retiring at the end of the year and was no longer going to accept new patients. So I've spent all day calling and interviewing pediatricians, making sure insurance will cover the new pediatrician, we finally found one we like. I have been a big ball of stress all day, but I can now relax.
momma is counting down the days until I can enjoy my frozen strawberry daiquiri by the pool! \:D/
The insurance I have til June 1 is a reimbursement type. We are getting bills in the mail almost daily, for all my check ups, and there is sooo much paperwork involved. We will get 85% of it back eventually, but this constant feeling of being in debt is horrible!!
Re: Gripes and complaints week of 5/18
These people today are giving me rage on your behalf. Seriously! That bf teacher, and the annoying "am I fat?" posters make me want to go angry gif crazy.
Be nice, Westypet. Be nice. Glow. You're pregnant.
ETA: summer is going to suck.
Your hubby sounds like gold!
All things considered I'm handling it well - I think actually because I'm pregnant and don't have time to freak out ... At least about this. But such a waste of precious time right now! I did lose a gift cards from the shower unfortunately. But so far Babies R Us said they could replace, which was unexpected and awesome. And the thief did not touch my keys, iPhone or commuter pass, so not all is lost. As my sister said, there's a special in hell for people who steal from pregnant ladies.
The only thing I'm worried about is that some of my debit cards will take 7-10 business days ... Which is June. I joked with the bank rep that I hope the cards beat the baby here!
@laurendutch sorry about your family's health challenges and the stresses it puts on marriage. I know you handle it and are just venting, but that stuff is tough!
Re: drinking and breastfeeding... A good friend who's read way more on the topic than I ever will said that drinking while nursing is the best because the alcohol doesn't process fast enough to go directly to baby, and it gives you longer between feeds to metabolize it. So I plan to have a milk stout while nursing :-) Cheers to my craft brew homegirl @mellymar
Omg you took the words right out of my mouth!! DH and I are both virgos (8/31 and 8/28 respectively) and Im so curious if our daughter will be a Gemini or a cancer. I'm not a complete astrology believer but I do enjoy reading up and I find it does have an impact on some of my relationships with family members. Both my parents are virgos so I think that's why we get along so well (my father in law too!). While my brothers an Aries and Taurus are sometimes a little more difficult to understand and not clash. It will be interesting to see if my kid takes on some of the traits of her sign!
Eta spelling
I'm a Virgo, SO is a Gemini, keeping fingers crossed LO stays put until the Gemini days are over. Four personalities between the two of them is too much.
And yes my lovely hubby who is a complete introvert was okay planning our pregnancy out to have a gemini. My friend who is also a gemini has two kids that are all gemini. Her hubby is an introvert also.
Grip for the day:
I'm trying to get recommendations for a professional exterminator as we have a nasty ant problem. Everyone keeps saying to try the homemade remedies and DIY things. I continue to say that my husband works 75 hours a week and I'm just too damn pregnant to walk all over the house putting peppermint oil and cinnamon and all this DIY crap. For the love of God people of Facebook, I was just looking for an exterminator, yeesh!!
Rant over.
momma is counting down the days until I can enjoy my frozen strawberry daiquiri by the pool! \:D/