Ok, I am starting to FREAK OUT about our baby room situation. We live in a two bedroom and have my parents and DH's parents coming this summer to stay with us, so we planned on keeping the big bed in there and adding the crib. The baby would sleep in our room anyway for a while, so we didn't really do a "nursery" so much. Then I decided I did want to paint the room as it was looking dingy. Oh my goodness. We pulled the bed away from the wall, and there was a visible water mark and mold on the wall. After my husband and professionals looking into it, pulling up the drywall and carpet, etc., it's not good. We're in a condo, so there's extra crap to deal with, too. No one we've met with so far can do the exterior part of the building. Baby's due a month from today. I don't even know what to do. I feel like sitting on the floor and crying. Even if we just keep the baby in our room, there's still all the extra crap from the spare room that's now in our living room . . . what a mess!
Phew, feels a little better to tell the tale, even though there's no solution yet!
This sounds insanely stressful! I'm so sorry it is happening to you. Is this an issue that can be helped by your insurance company? If i were you i would call both sets of parents now, maybe warn them they may need a hotel. i hope they will be supportive or at the minimum understanding. Hopefully you can get it resolved before they visit, but if not they have a heads up. Now that I'm thinking...is it possible for you and DH to take a mental and physical step away from the mess int he bedroom and living room? Maybe get a hotel for a night or two? Order pizza or take away to a hotel room and watch crap cable while you sort the mess. Sometimes getting space from a situation makes it easier to figure out how to solve it!
Worst case PLAY THE DISTRESSED PREGNANT LADY CARD. Call the condo board (about the exterior), call the repair guys, let the tears fly and the panic come through. Maybe someone will give you guys a break. My heart breaks for you that you have to deal with this (seriously hormones make me sad about everything) because I just can empathize with the frustration of shit being messed up and there's nothing you can do but clean up the mess. On the bright side you HAVE to paint now! maybe you'll end up with a nice nursury/guest bed combo after all.
Our building is only 12 units, so we have to find the contractors, etc., and submit their bids to the board. DH is in charge of calling the insurance companies to see if we need to get an adjustor out here. The biggest problem is that this area is going through a huge construction boom, and it's really hard to find someone capable and willing to do this kind of a small job (although it's looking more and more extensive and expensive with each guy who comes to look at it!). I am not above playing the pregnant lady card, but I can't even find the person I need to bawl to!
And hotels are so expensive, it seems crazy to ask our family to shell out a couple of thousand dollars to visit us - my mom is planning on staying for three weeks. My dad and sister will only be with her for a few nights, though, so maybe hotel when they are all here and then my mom can stay on the couch. Sigh. It will work out somehow!
Thanks for your ideas, I will consider planning a mini-break if I really get to the breaking point!
@Frogger5 oh no! This really sucks! Helpfully your insurance will be of some help. Home repairs are stressful, for sure! Virtual hugs and hoping it all works out quickly and with minimal fuss and / or cost
I'm boycotting doing the dishes, it's so uncomfortable bumping my bump against the counter to lean over the sink!
@LaurenS119 - I use a chair by the sink to wash up. One of those bar stool type chairs that swivel - works wonderfully! Boycotting may be a better solution
@laurendutch I'm sorry you have to deal with all of that. It's hard enough to focus on the care that's best for your children, then to have DH not fully understand what they/you are going through and questioning the process is like a punch to the vagina. Prayers for you and family. ❤️
Can I just say how much I love having a place to vent? I know I'm hormonal but it's nice to go to "strangers" instead of friends and family. I always feel like I need to get something off my chest right away but don't want friends or family to judge my DH after I have cooled off.
It's crazy to me bc he's been to all the appointments. I think it's just hard bc it's one of those diseases that you don't see. And my guy is still little so he may not be communicating how he is feeling or his symptoms.
DH and i bought a blow up pool for our balcony and for some reason he thought the greatest place to set it up is right outside the sliding door. so you take one step out there and have to carefully maneuver your way between the pool and air conditioner to get to the garden section of our balcony.. i said we should move it and his response was just "you should have done that sooner" like wth. i mentioned it to you before we filled it with water.. he didnt even put a tarp underneath of it or anything.. sometimes he is just such an idiot.
My naughty puppy loves to chew up my undies and pants. She has been doing so well for months since I have also been better about making sure I don't leave clothes laying around. Well, I guess she figured out how to get into the laundry hamper last night and chewed up 3 pair of underwear and my black maternity work pants. The only ones that are comfy and match most of my tops that still fit! How will I survive 3 more weeks of work on the single pair of maternity work pants I have left!? She's lucky she's so dang cute...
Update: they already responded on Twitter! Nothing like public shaming. We shall see how it goes!
My husband had this exact same problem with his American Eagle credit card!! They didn't even warn him, just cancelled it without saying anything. We never got a letter/email or anything
I look everywhere at my house and just see so much cleaning that needs done and shit that needs done. And I'm starting to panic. I swept the floors and thought my back was going to go out ....... So that's where my cleaning stopped. How am I ever supposed to get all this shit cleaned and get my bag packed and everything else?!?!?!? Official panic and anxiety setting in.
So with you on this! We have a drop ceiling in our kitchen to hide the piping and crap from the bathroom upstairs. Well, the bathroom leaks like a mother every time someone uses the shower and it basically rains in the kitchen. (FIL is our landlord btw and has known about this for 4 MONTHS) We had to take one of the ceiling tiles out because it was so water logged and covered in mold. And it seems like no one gives a damn.
So the other day I go to home depot with my mom and buy new tiles since the others were moldy from water damage & new bulbs for the kitchen. It was $115 and I told my husband that we're taking that out of next months rent and I need him to figure out a solution to the leak because I'm not having a puddle on the kitchen floor and me slipping & falling while carrying our newborn daughter. His response was "Where did you get all this money to buy that crap. You only told me about this a week ago. I'm so over this conversation right now, I'm so angry about that money spent"
Umm, how about you stop being totally rude to me about money and actually FIX THE PROBLEM!!!! I told you about this mooooonnnnnths ago. It's creating mold that we're freaking breathing in everyday...
We have 36 days left until my due date and I guarantee it won't get fixed by then. Because no one cares at all *sigh*
@mandiclark I know the frustration. I once waited a year and a half for my husband to hang some pictures because apparently I don't know how to do it properly! So I eventually just put them up myself. Not perfectly, but at least it got done.
finding it really annoying that some people are posting non birth announcements on the birth announcement only board.. like really? its in big bold coloured letters.
My throat is on fire! I was doing pretty good with my cold all day, until I started working. Then the pain got much worse. It's like sandpaper in the area between my throat and nose, so drinking water doesn't even help. I'm the kind of person who really doesn't mind being sick, as long as I can take the time off work to take care of myself.
Well, I want to take a couple days off to relax and get better, but I was thinking about starting my maternity leave early next week (39 weeks). But if I take any days off this week there's no way I would be able to start maternity leave next week. There's no way for me to win. Either I suck it up and feel like sh*t, or don't start my maternity leave when I wanted to. Ugh.
1. So we ended up leasing a new car (after previous post about wreck & needing car). BUT new gripe here. My mother is flipping out over it, saying we made a horrible decision. Because you know she must have missed out on married, 25, full time job, & pregnant here. I am an adult & can make my informed choices. Ugh.
2. I was ALL "why do regulars complain about people posting threads with repetitive questions?!" feeling forever, BUT FOR THE LOVE! How many post do we need for "cramping"?!??! IT MAY HURT TO STRETCH YOUR UTERUS AS YOUR BABY ADDS FAT THESE LAST FEW WEEKS. Dang ladies. Get it together. -I need a margarita.
So I just got back from my 'baby care' class which was really more of a breastfeeding class. We spent about 80% of the class talking about the benefits of bfing and skin to skin, etc. The teacher was a lactation consultant, so she was totally into it. Great. No complaints there. But, I got the impression that she is going to be one of those 'don't EVER drink while bfing cause you'll pass that to baby! There is no safe amount of alcohol!' So, I won't ever be comfortable asking her at what point I can have a beer, how long should I wait before feeding, etc. Its not like I want to get wasted, or drink every single day or anything... But damnit, I'd like to be able to have a breakfast stout or an IPA sitting in the backyard in the sun with my gentleman during a weekend grill, ya know?
So I just got back from my 'baby care' class which was really more of a breastfeeding class. We spent about 80% of the class talking about the benefits of bfing and skin to skin, etc. The teacher was a lactation consultant, so she was totally into it. Great. No complaints there. But, I got the impression that she is going to be one of those 'don't EVER drink while bfing cause you'll pass that to baby! There is no safe amount of alcohol!' So, I won't ever be comfortable asking her at what point I can have a beer, how long should I wait before feeding, etc. Its not like I want to get wasted, or drink every single day or anything... But damnit, I'd like to be able to have a breakfast stout or an IPA sitting in the backyard in the sun with my gentleman during a weekend grill, ya know?
The lactation person at the breastfeeding class I went to said you just want to pump and dump afterwards (don't remember the timing, a few hours to go through your system?). And you can feed him/her with what you pumped earlier (as prep). I didn't understand how people begin to stock up on milk (if baby is feeding every couple/few hours), but she said you continue to pump for a bit on the same side baby was on when they are done feeding.
With 5 weeks left in my pregnancy (fingers crossed he's not early) SO isn't sure what he wants and basically disappears. But has the nerve to tell me no matter what he'll be there for his son. Uh he needs you now. The nursery still needs a wall painted, the crib put together, clothes washed, etc. The wellbeing of your child's mother is important. I put the car seat in, I put the stroller, swing and bouncy seat together, all while swollen and in pain. Ugh he frustrates me so!
So I just got back from my 'baby care' class which was really more of a breastfeeding class. We spent about 80% of the class talking about the benefits of bfing and skin to skin, etc. The teacher was a lactation consultant, so she was totally into it. Great. No complaints there. But, I got the impression that she is going to be one of those 'don't EVER drink while bfing cause you'll pass that to baby! There is no safe amount of alcohol!' So, I won't ever be comfortable asking her at what point I can have a beer, how long should I wait before feeding, etc. Its not like I want to get wasted, or drink every single day or anything... But damnit, I'd like to be able to have a breakfast stout or an IPA sitting in the backyard in the sun with my gentleman during a weekend grill, ya know?
My breastfeeding class lady said feed baby, have a drink, and if you would be safe driving, you can feed baby again. No need to dump it from one (or even two) drinks depending on timing and your metabolism and things like that. She did say though, that you should really only have one or two per day, and not every day. Not sure why - maybe that's how she justifies it in her head? Sounds like there's differing opinions on it. I'm going to ask the baby's doctor what she thinks, too.
@Frogger5 yeah I'm gonna ask the ped, too. But yeah, there are so many different schools of thought on the drinking stuff, its hard to get proper info. I know a 'crunchy' older mama who says similar to what you did above. But it's annoying when there is really only one or two people in your medical team that 'specialize' in something, and they are both telling you (or, in this case, giving you the impression) that the answer is always no, so you feel you can't be honest with them about living your life when you just want to feed baby, put them down for a nap, and have a little beer. Not to excess, just with a yummy meal.
@Frogger5 yeah I'm gonna ask the ped, too. But yeah, there are so many different schools of thought on the drinking stuff, its hard to get proper info. I know a 'crunchy' older mama who says similar to what you did above. But it's annoying when there is really only one or two people in your medical team that 'specialize' in something, and they are both telling you (or, in this case, giving you the impression) that the answer is always no, so you feel you can't be honest with them about living your life when you just want to feed baby, put them down for a nap, and have a little beer. Not to excess, just with a yummy meal.
Yeah, I hear you. I think that's a major flaw in doctor (or provider)/patient communication. I think they always assume you are underestimating, too, whenever you're talking about anything bad. So if you tell the truth they'll think you're a total boozer!
A nurse I work with states that if she has more than 2 beers she pumps and distributes that milk evenly with stored bags she already has pumped. I know people that use the alcohol strips but I've heard they are unreliable so I get nervous about them?! I'm an FTM and curious as well what's the "right" thing to do. Lol not very many ppl ever ask me when I'm taking care of them thank goodness..... I wouldn't know.
I have a new gripe. My friends freaked me out with their at home postpartum bleeding sagas and so I went out and bought overnight giant maxi pads with wings....... Like a jumbo pack. And now one friend said, " oh well you won't need very MANY of those!" Are you kidding me?! It was the same friend who freaked me out over the at home bleeding. Lol
I.e. I spent way too much money on pads I can't return due to having packed some already. Ugh.
I was always told that if you want a drink do it just after a feeding so your body has time to process the alcohol before the next feeding. Everyone's tolerance is different so if you're not feeling tipsy from what you're drinking then you're safe to feed after a reasonable amount of time has passed after your last drink (like op said if you're safe to drive comment). Pumping and dumping only needs to be done if you're one of those moms who has high production and your boobs hurt because you have so much milk in there AND you're too tipsy to feed. Otherwise your body will naturally filter out the trace alcohol from your milk. Asking docs opinion is always the best advice!
I have a new gripe. My friends freaked me out with their at home postpartum bleeding sagas and so I went out and bought overnight giant maxi pads with wings....... Like a jumbo pack. And now one friend said, " oh well you won't need very MANY of those!" Are you kidding me?! It was the same friend who freaked me out over the at home bleeding. Lol
I.e. I spent way too much money on pads I can't return due to having packed some already. Ugh.
Mine was like a bad period for about two weeks and then light period for several weeks. But I also had a csection. It's like 9 months worth of periods stacked up in a few weeks
Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
I'd tell them straight up what you & the dad want. Tell them added stress isn't good for you or the baby. If necessary you can hint that hospitals have secured entrances and people can request to have limited guests. Me personally I'd just put it out there but my family is used to my bluntness.
Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
Are they staying in the waiting room or do they intend to be in the delivery room? If they want be in the delivery room, tell the nurses you don't want them there and they'll take care of keeping them out. Your hospital may have a limit on how many people can be at the delivery anyway, at mine they only allow 1-2 people, which is perfect for me. If they want to be in the waiting room, just make them wait in there till you're ready! Again, the nurses should prevent them from making their way back to you. If they really want to stay in the waiting room for that long, that's their problem, not yours.
I was really concerned about this, too, because DH's extended family is really weird about boundaries - like, they seem to want very little to do with us under normal circumstances but when it comes to the baby they've been giving me the impression that they're going to be a little TOO involved for my taste, at least at first. I'm happy they're excited, but, for example, I'd prefer for some of his cousins to not visit us right after the baby's delivered and they are probably not going to be understanding of that. After touring our hospital and seeing for myself how it's set up and how dedicated the nurses are (or seem to be) to making moms as comfortable as possible in every respect, I'm really not worried about it at all anymore. Good luck!
So I just got back from my 'baby care' class which was really more of a breastfeeding class. We spent about 80% of the class talking about the benefits of bfing and skin to skin, etc. The teacher was a lactation consultant, so she was totally into it. Great. No complaints there. But, I got the impression that she is going to be one of those 'don't EVER drink while bfing cause you'll pass that to baby! There is no safe amount of alcohol!' So, I won't ever be comfortable asking her at what point I can have a beer, how long should I wait before feeding, etc. Its not like I want to get wasted, or drink every single day or anything... But damnit, I'd like to be able to have a breakfast stout or an IPA sitting in the backyard in the sun with my gentleman during a weekend grill, ya know?
Ugh.... During my first pregnancy I attended a class with a lactation consultant and asked a question about drinking wine (not like 10 shots of tequila!) and she basically publicly shamed me and told me that I shouldn't be drinking when I am taking care of a newborn... WTF!
So I just got back from my 'baby care' class which was really more of a breastfeeding class. We spent about 80% of the class talking about the benefits of bfing and skin to skin, etc. The teacher was a lactation consultant, so she was totally into it. Great. No complaints there. But, I got the impression that she is going to be one of those 'don't EVER drink while bfing cause you'll pass that to baby! There is no safe amount of alcohol!' So, I won't ever be comfortable asking her at what point I can have a beer, how long should I wait before feeding, etc. Its not like I want to get wasted, or drink every single day or anything... But damnit, I'd like to be able to have a breakfast stout or an IPA sitting in the backyard in the sun with my gentleman during a weekend grill, ya know?
Ugh.... During my first pregnancy I attended a class with a lactation consultant and asked a question about drinking wine (not like 10 shots of tequila!) and she basically publicly shamed me and told me that I shouldn't be drinking when I am taking care of a newborn... WTF!
Yeah I awkwardly asked this at my breastfeeding class .... Made a bunch of lame jokes about "not calling CPS on me" and such.
But at any rate: LC said it takes about an hour to process a beer for a typical person so you are fine as long as you don't need to feed in that hour. So yeah essentially if you're gonna drink, do it as soon as you finish a feeding.
Since I don't think LO and I will have a pattern for a few weeks, I'll probably not drink much if at all until I can predict better. Except for my post-delivery beer of course!
Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
I just had to have this convo with my mom. It was awkward and tension-filled but I'm hoping she gets it.
I think you just need to stay strong on this one if it's what you want!
Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
I just had to have this convo with my mom. It was awkward and tension-filled but I'm hoping she gets it.
I think you just need to stay strong on this one if it's what you want!
You won't even know they are there... It's not like they can just walk in to your room... I would imagine your hospital has locked wings and if they choose to sit in the waiting room that is where they will stay and maybe your SO can update them when baby is born... Might not be worth stressing over!
In my too many years of bartending, if there's one thing I learned, it's that we process one ounce/one drink an hour. Typical bar pours are 1.5 ounces, however. And if the bartender really likes you, it could be more so just be aware. Beer should be considered a one ouncer and I'd probably say wine 1.5. As someone said earlier, if you give yourself the hour or two after the drink you should be fine.
From what I understand breast milk alcohol level is measured like blood alcohol level. It's not like your boobs fill with alcohol ridden milk that needs emptied and replenished. It fluctuates with the amount you have consumed. Pumping and dumping would probably only need to be done for your own comfort. As someone else said, maybe having a stash for one of the feedings could replace the dumped one if you're worried.
I wasn't able to drink very much before this baby because of migraines, but you better believe I'm gonna give it a try once he gets here! Mmmmmm margarita.....
Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
I just had to have this convo with my mom. It was awkward and tension-filled but I'm hoping she gets it.
I think you just need to stay strong on this one if it's what you want!
You won't even know they are there... It's not like they can just walk in to your room... I would imagine your hospital has locked wings and if they choose to sit in the waiting room that is where they will stay and maybe your SO can update them when baby is born... Might not be worth stressing over!
See for me that was part of the point - I don't want any outside pressure while I'm in labor and having people chilling in the waiting room is not ok by me. And even if they are just hanging out, that means I'll feel pressure to let them in when DH and I are agreed that we want several hours with LO alone so I can sleep, meet with the LC, etc. everyone's gonna have their own way of handling labor I am sure I'll even have a different perspective when I have my next kid!
As for drinking -- I've been told unless you are feeling drunk it does not make a difference. It is just another way into shaming/scaring new moms.
Every LC, new mom, doctor I talk to says it is completely fine for one or two drinks and you don't need to waste your precious milk pumping and dumping.
What makes me laugh is the phrase "if you feel it baby will too" because pre-pregnancy that was like...4 glasses of wine. Now it'll be a sip!
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Gripe here! Apparently my parents have decided to completely ignore my wish to have absolutely no one but boyfriend and I at the hospital for induction and birth. They've stated that not only are they coming and staying the WHOLE time, they're also bringing my 12 y/o sister. Who doesn't want to be there in the first place. I don't have the patience for this.. SO says I should just tell them to forget it, but I don't want to cause any riffs or tension right before LO arrives either. I'm so conflicted :-S
This would upset me too. I know its not the worst, but still frustrating to have people ignore your request in such a delicate matter. Sure, its a happy time for them too, but your wants/wishes/needs should take priority considering what you're going through physically/emotionally. And I agree with @hoodoll82 about not wanting to feel any outside (even perceived) pressure.
I'd at least let them know they will be notified when you're ready for visitors. And warn them depending on time on how things progress, you don't know when that will be (could be the next morning). But you and partner plan to have bonding first. Then, try your best to put them out of your mind and pretend like they aren't there.
And if you're feeling evil, secretly hope you deliver at an hour where you won't want visitors until the next morning.
Oh my gosh. I'm going to go ape on someone. Why do people feel the need to share their weight ........ That thread was a damn troublemaker from the start and I tried to shut it down but NOPE! Let's just keep posting what we weigh to compare ourselves to others because that's PRODUCTIVE. Annoyed.
I'm so happy we're all discussing the drinking topic. I'm off the entire summer after a long drinking hiatus. Momma would like a couple of cocktails thank you very much. I nearly caused an uproar at my childbirth class cause the leader said that if you 're trying to breastfeed, you shouldnt introduce bottles for 2-3 months. I wanted to raise my hand and say "Well then how is momma gonna get her bottle in?". I didnt wanna sound like a raging alcoholic but are you kidding me??
1) I want DH to get in on feeding the baby as soon as possible for the sake of him bonding with her and for the sake of alternating some feedings. I do not want to become an on demand milk dispenser.
2) I'm going to New Orleans for a bachelorette around 10 weeks postpartum and i'm gonna want to have gotten my kid used to the bottle before I leave DH alone with a baby for 2 days.
I just feel like the leader was totally unrealistic and judgey after i stated i wanted to bring in some bottles within a few weeks of her birth. And I'll be the first to come right out and say it, I would like to get drunk at some point this summer. It's FUN
Oh my gosh. I'm going to go ape on someone. Why do people feel the need to share their weight ........ That thread was a damn troublemaker from the start and I tried to shut it down but NOPE! Let's just keep posting what we weigh to compare ourselves to others because that's PRODUCTIVE. Annoyed.
I'm avoiding it completely. So damn annoying.
Ugh, and I just found out my loving, but immature and high maintenance sister in law is coming in town the week before baby is due for a job interview. She always expects to be wined and dined by the in-laws, refuses to drive herself anywhere bc she's bad with directions, and has very little concept of boundaries.
Is it horrible that I'm disappointed that the week before baby is due, hubby and I won't be relaxing by ourselves, but will be "relaxing" at the in-laws house while they watch me and tell me I should pop, or hover or whatever else they'll do around me at 39.5 weeks??
Re: Gripes and complaints week of 5/18
And hotels are so expensive, it seems crazy to ask our family to shell out a couple of thousand dollars to visit us - my mom is planning on staying for three weeks. My dad and sister will only be with her for a few nights, though, so maybe hotel when they are all here and then my mom can stay on the couch. Sigh. It will work out somehow!
Thanks for your ideas, I will consider planning a mini-break if I really get to the breaking point!
It's crazy to me bc he's been to all the appointments. I think it's just hard bc it's one of those diseases that you don't see. And my guy is still little so he may not be communicating how he is feeling or his symptoms.
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like.. really..
So with you on this! We have a drop ceiling in our kitchen to hide the piping and crap from the bathroom upstairs. Well, the bathroom leaks like a mother every time someone uses the shower and it basically rains in the kitchen. (FIL is our landlord btw and has known about this for 4 MONTHS) We had to take one of the ceiling tiles out because it was so water logged and covered in mold. And it seems like no one gives a damn.
So the other day I go to home depot with my mom and buy new tiles since the others were moldy from water damage & new bulbs for the kitchen. It was $115 and I told my husband that we're taking that out of next months rent and I need him to figure out a solution to the leak because I'm not having a puddle on the kitchen floor and me slipping & falling while carrying our newborn daughter. His response was "Where did you get all this money to buy that crap. You only told me about this a week ago. I'm so over this conversation right now, I'm so angry about that money spent"
Umm, how about you stop being totally rude to me about money and actually FIX THE PROBLEM!!!! I told you about this mooooonnnnnths ago. It's creating mold that we're freaking breathing in everyday...
We have 36 days left until my due date and I guarantee it won't get fixed by then. Because no one cares at all *sigh*
Rant over. Sorry it's so long.
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2. I was ALL "why do regulars complain about people posting threads with repetitive questions?!" feeling forever, BUT FOR THE LOVE! How many post do we need for "cramping"?!??!
IT MAY HURT TO STRETCH YOUR UTERUS AS YOUR BABY ADDS FAT THESE LAST FEW WEEKS. Dang ladies. Get it together.
-I need a margarita.
Everytime I go in the basement I stare at my Margaritaville machine .... And I long for it!
I know people that use the alcohol strips but I've heard they are unreliable so I get nervous about them?!
I'm an FTM and curious as well what's the "right" thing to do. Lol not very many ppl ever ask me when I'm taking care of them thank goodness..... I wouldn't know.
I.e. I spent way too much money on pads I can't return due to having packed some already. Ugh.
I was really concerned about this, too, because DH's extended family is really weird about boundaries - like, they seem to want very little to do with us under normal circumstances but when it comes to the baby they've been giving me the impression that they're going to be a little TOO involved for my taste, at least at first. I'm happy they're excited, but, for example, I'd prefer for some of his cousins to not visit us right after the baby's delivered and they are probably not going to be understanding of that. After touring our hospital and seeing for myself how it's set up and how dedicated the nurses are (or seem to be) to making moms as comfortable as possible in every respect, I'm really not worried about it at all anymore. Good luck!
But at any rate: LC said it takes about an hour to process a beer for a typical person so you are fine as long as you don't need to feed in that hour. So yeah essentially if you're gonna drink, do it as soon as you finish a feeding.
Since I don't think LO and I will have a pattern for a few weeks, I'll probably not drink much if at all until I can predict better. Except for my post-delivery beer of course!
I think you just need to stay strong on this one if it's what you want!
From what I understand breast milk alcohol level is measured like blood alcohol level. It's not like your boobs fill with alcohol ridden milk that needs emptied and replenished. It fluctuates with the amount you have consumed. Pumping and dumping would probably only need to be done for your own comfort. As someone else said, maybe having a stash for one of the feedings could replace the dumped one if you're worried.
I wasn't able to drink very much before this baby because of migraines, but you better believe I'm gonna give it a try once he gets here! Mmmmmm margarita.....
Every LC, new mom, doctor I talk to says it is completely fine for one or two drinks and you don't need to waste your precious milk pumping and dumping.
What makes me laugh is the phrase "if you feel it baby will too" because pre-pregnancy that was like...4 glasses of wine. Now it'll be a sip!
I'd at least let them know they will be notified when you're ready for visitors. And warn them depending on time on how things progress, you don't know when that will be (could be the next morning). But you and partner plan to have bonding first. Then, try your best to put them out of your mind and pretend like they aren't there.
And if you're feeling evil, secretly hope you deliver at an hour where you won't want visitors until the next morning.
1) I want DH to get in on feeding the baby as soon as possible for the sake of him bonding with her and for the sake of alternating some feedings. I do not want to become an on demand milk dispenser.
2) I'm going to New Orleans for a bachelorette around 10 weeks postpartum and i'm gonna want to have gotten my kid used to the bottle before I leave DH alone with a baby for 2 days.
I just feel like the leader was totally unrealistic and judgey after i stated i wanted to bring in some bottles within a few weeks of her birth. And I'll be the first to come right out and say it, I would like to get drunk at some point this summer. It's FUN
Ugh, and I just found out my loving, but immature and high maintenance sister in law is coming in town the week before baby is due for a job interview. She always expects to be wined and dined by the in-laws, refuses to drive herself anywhere bc she's bad with directions, and has very little concept of boundaries.
Is it horrible that I'm disappointed that the week before baby is due, hubby and I won't be relaxing by ourselves, but will be "relaxing" at the in-laws house while they watch me and tell me I should pop, or hover or whatever else they'll do around me at 39.5 weeks??