MC at 8 weeks {EDD 9.2.20}
Rainbow Girl! {2.28.16}
Baby boy, lost at 16 weeks {EDD 6.10.15}
June 2015 Moms
adorebel
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Goodbye.
adorebel
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For those of you who know me (I was an active poster until 2.5 weeks ago), we discovered that our baby's bladder was enlarged to twice the normal size (14mm instead of 7mm) at my NT scan (13 weeks) and to three times the normal size last week (21mm at 14 weeks). I'm writing now (at over 15 weeks) to share the end of our story.
Not only has the bladder continued to increase in size, which will ultimately drain all the amniotic fluid around the baby and crush his other organs (namely lungs, heart, and kidneys) and will thus be fatal in and of itself, but our CVS also came back on Monday positive for a trisomy. This was a shock, since the NT scan/bloodwork combination indicated a very low risk (1 in 12,000). Our genetic counselor told us that this indicates that the bladder obstruction is linked to huge structural growth issues that the baby will not survive. 90% of chromosomally normal boys whose bladders stay under 14mm recover from the condition, but the bladder obstruction has been fatal in all records for girls and babies with any genetic abnormalities, as well as normal babies whose bladders have gone over 15mm. In short, the severity we've already observed in the bladder obstruction alone would be fatal, but the chromosomal abnormality adds certainty to that, so we know now that there is no hope left for our son.
Though this little baby was not meant for this world, he won't be forgotten. My husband and I have never felt so close to one another, so grateful for our amazing families and friends, and so sure of our desire to be parents in the future. Thank you to everyone here who offered hope and support to us in the last two and a half weeks, which have been among the hardest of my life. If the snowflakes want to call you guys bitches, then I hope you wear your bitch badges proud, because you've been nothing but hilarious, witty, honest, generous, and caring. I can't wait to pop back in June to see all the adorable, perfect little babies (sons- and daughters-of-bitches, in snowflake parlance?) who are coming your way.
I know a little piece of my heart will always be with June '15, my first BMB, because a little piece of my heart will always be with this, my first baby.
Goodbye for now.
Rainbow Baby? {2.1.21}
MC at 8 weeks {EDD 9.2.20}
Rainbow Girl! {2.28.16}
Baby boy, lost at 16 weeks {EDD 6.10.15}
MC at 8 weeks {EDD 9.2.20}
Rainbow Girl! {2.28.16}
Baby boy, lost at 16 weeks {EDD 6.10.15}
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BFP #1- 10/26/14
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
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Married: 12/08/12
BFP: 09/21/14
EDD: 06/04/15
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Resumed TTC 6/2013~Chronic stomach pain and distension: 8/2013~TTA 1/2014 Until Resolved ~7/2014: Trip to the Mayo Clinic--SUCCESS!! Finally on the road to getting better.
Resumed TTC 7/2014! Third time's the charm....8/2014 Visited the RE~DX: MFI/low morph~Straight to IVF with ICSI! 9/2014~Transferred 1 perfect beautiful 6AA blast with 10 to freeze!!!~10/8/2014: BFP!!!! EDD: 6/17/15 STICK LITTLE BEAN!!! IT'S A BOY!!!!!
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~*~*Everyone Welcome*~*~
EDD: June 15th, 2015!
BFP-7/15/14, CP-7/27/14
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Married 10/9/2009
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Baby #2 coming June 11, 2015 (Scheduled CS)
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