Monday mumblings

tyrannasaurusjess

I never start these, but am doing so today!! How was everyone's holiday weekend?? 

MrsKipper

Mine was pretty good. Nola was worn out the whole time, she slept in until 10-11 3 days in a row! She wasn't very happy this morning when she had to wake up at 7:30, but I hope we can get back on a normal schedule!

I've caught some kind of bug or ate something bad because I've been nauseated for the past few days. I can barely even eat an apple. It almost feels like morning sickness, but I'm fairly confident there's no way I could be KU. I just hope I feel better by this weekend because DH and I are going to New Orleans!!!!

tyrannasaurusjess

I started the post because I had the craziest weekend of my life. We went up to Michigan to visit a ton of family, so it was a busy weekend. The weather was cooperative, the traffic was great, and the kids were way better than I thought they'd be on the way up. 

We stayed with my dad while we spent time with that part of my family. We've had a rocky relationship but I've been trying to give him a second chance. He's hit or miss, but I'm glad we stayed with him. He ended up telling me that he met my holier-than-thou mom during a strip poker match. He lost... or won, depending on how you look at it. If you knew my mom, you would know why this is insanity. He told me a few other things about my mom, mainly regarding their troubled years. His story conflicts with what my mom has always told me, so now I'm not totally sure what happened. As if that weren't enough crazy new insight into my family....

While spending time with my mom's extended family later in the week, I learned that my grandma (mom's mom) actually has 4 more siblings that no one ever told me about, one of whom died a while back but the others are all still living. When I confroted my mom she just said 'oh I never said anything? Hmm. I thought I did. Well....?' and walked away. WTF? And to get a little more wtf, I also found out that my great great uncle just up and disappeared for 25 years and everyone assumed his wife killed him. Then one day some lady (his new/other wife) called my g.grandma and said 'your brother is dead. where do you want me to send the body'. WHAT?! 

Oh, and because that isn't weird enough, I also found out that my great aunt and uncle staged their kidnapping after she had her first baby (at 16). They fled to Florida, burned their truck, and threw their wedding rings in the road in hopes that people would think they'd been kidnapped. Then like a year later they came back, and had made themselves look like they'd been held against their will, but after police questioning, my aunt came clean and said she just wasn't ready to be a parent. SO my great aunt is actually a cousin (the baby). 

Then on the way home, my 10 year old---who is a very sensitive, dramatic, and somewhat over the top sort-- had a bit of a sudden stomach ache. I mean, it went from 'laughing and everything is fine' to MOM IT FEELS LIKE SOMEONE STABBED ME in a matter of minutes. After trying a few things--walking, stretching, etc, and asking 23984320 times if maybe he needed to go to the bathroom, we headed to the ER because he was SURE he was dying. 4 hours later....... nothing is wrong, and he tells me he had to go to the bathroom and was embarrassed. 

SOOOO the rest of the ride home (7 hours left!) the littles were in less-than-awesome moods, because they hate the car anyway, and had to hang out in an ER waiting room for 4 hours. I've never been happier to be out of my car and into my house. 

/end rambling

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kelbel527

Oh my, @tyrannosaurusjess that sounds insane.  And I thought my family was a bit much...

Our weekend was insanely busy, but all fun stuff with family, friends and holiday stuff.  We're done Christmas shopping for the kids, but have a few other family members to buy for still.

Unfortunately, that means I'm exhausted today and I have a crazy work week ahead of me as well.  Ugh.

AlinnJo

So......wow. What a thanksgiving. I'm still in shock over the events that took place. Here goes:

We had MIL, SIL(19) and BIL(17) over for Thanksgiving. It's the first one since my stepFIL passed away. Mil was acting weird and said she had a rough morning and she'd talk to us later. We eat and then they hang out for a bit and they leave. 

MIL calls at 9:30 that night and says she's a Grandma again. Ummmmm.... What?! Turns out my BIL's gf, also 17, went with her family to Georgia for Thanskgiving and surprisingly gave birth early Thanskgiving morning. Supposedly no one (including the gf) knew she was pregnant. However, rumors were going around school that she was and she had gained a ton of weight. They were seriously in denial. They are keeping the baby. 

I have so many emotions over this. They aren't even done with high school yet and now they are parents. My BIL has always gotten everything he wants and has never been told no. He is extremely immature and now he's a dad. I worry about his and his GF's future. They don't have an easy road ahead of them. 

So, yeah. Crazy Thanskgiving. My H is so disappointed in his little brother. I think we are all still in shock. Especially since we will have children 4 months apart now. 

AlinnJo

loislayn said:

Check out this almost 11 pound boy though!

He is such a great combination of both of your girls! So cute!! 

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tyrannasaurusjess

@Loislayn he is adorable!!!!

@MrsKipper and @shiggybop I hope you feel better soon And I'm jealous you're going to NOLA! I've never been, but I've been dying to go!

melody921

loislayn said:

I put myself back on PPD meds (well, called the doc and he called them in for me but I was glad I didn't have to go see him). I'm not upset at that, but I am upset that it curbs my appetite and that was the catalyst for me weaning Nora at 5 months, I couldn't keep up because I wasn't eating enough calories.

Hugs, @loislayn. Ultimately, you feeling good is going to do Reid more good than you nursing longer and feeling like crap. And who knows, every nursing experience is different, so you might find that you don't have the same caloric problem this time. But if you do, and you want to keep nursing, is there a way for you to add in a protein shake or something that would boost calories without making you feel like you're eating more than you want?

ETA: And that pic of him is gorgeous! What a happy boy.

melody921

shiggybop said:

Holy crap @tyrannosaurusjess‌ and @AlinnJo‌ That is all entirely too much!

@shiggybop beat me to the punch. This is exactly what I was going to say! Families are crazy.

melody921

Thanksgiving was a good, fairly low-key time with family. We were at my aunt and uncle's house this year, and there was plenty of good food and fun conversation. But as expected, the day after Thanksgiving, my mom is going crazy about Christmas plans. Long story short, my bro has to work all the days surrounding the holiday, and on the 25th, they will go to SIL's mom's house (she lives near them). So he proposed getting together with our side of the family the following weekend. Everyone is free, and I told my mom that if she wanted to come to our house for Christmas Eve/day so she wasn't home alone, she was more than welcome. But she's pulling the typical martyr BS that I get every year and refusing to make a decision. This shouldn't be this complicated FFS.

jenndub

Whoa @tyrannosaurusjess‌ and @AlinnJo‌ That is some crazy shit.

My weekend was pretty tame. Two houses on Thanksgiving, soccer tournament Friday-Sunday and a birthday party Sunday evening. My BIL got engaged on Tuesday and they've already booked a venue, DJ and photographer. His fiancé is locking that shit down. They're getting married next October.

melody921

WTF is this shit clogging up my FB feed? Even if I wanted to get into direct sales, it would annoy me that she never says what it is she's hawking!

"If you are interested in earning an extra income a month, becoming your own boss, improving your health and changing the lives of others please contact me!! I am on a mission to make a difference, help others, influence greatness, and create a legacy. I was born to be great & I believe all of you were too. Get on board with me- lets support each other! Small businesses make big differences! Celebrate the successes. Celebrate the uniqueness and individuality! Celebrate these businesses that have given their owners a meaningful life.

Tis the season of giving!! PM me. I want to give and share with you the business I am creating- the legacy I am leading- and all the differences I am making. Its outstanding the lives that are transforming all because I believe in this company and I believe in these people. The power of leadership (no matter how small or big) is the driving force of this world. Pay it forward. Lead. Love. Give."

redneckmomma25

Some of you ladies have some crazy Turkey day stories. Ours was tame. 

I'm going to turn this into a bitchfest....I've been struggling with my mom lately. I lover her dearly but she is emotionally draining me empty. She no longer leaves the house. She has severe anxiety now (part is legit and part plays into her playing the marty.) She can't physically stand for more than a few minutes at a time now. Her live in bf is a piece of garbage. They both smoke. He has had multiple heart attacks and lots of complications. Neither one have money but he has guitars worth a couple thousand dollars...blah blah blah. So a month ago I told her to give me a time and I would come once a week and make dinner, clean, help with laundry, whatever she needed.  She never took me up on it. 

She hasn't had insurance in 2 years. My step dad passed away 5 years ago and the insurance must have carried her for 3 years with what I can gather. I get bits of info. So I've been asking her for months with what is going on. She said she was waiting for insurance. Turns out she just never did any more research. $350/month from the exchange and she can't afford it so she just stopped researching. I asked her what she needed me to do. Stop complaining and do something! Tell me what you need me to do! 

She was giving me a guilt trip on Thanksgiving because no one called her. I left the house at 3pm and got home at 11pm. She isn't awake during the day before 3pm....so I couldn't have called her. I was exhausted at 11pm when we got home. No matter how many times I tell her to please call me since I never know when she is awake she will not call me. Ever. But makes you feel bad when you don't call her. We had a bad snow storm. I told her to let me know what help she needed when the storm ended. She never did. She posted a facebook status asking for free or almost free help to chop up a branch that tore a cable wire off the house. I would have never seen the post if I hadn't gone to her fb page that night to say happy thanksgiving and I'd call her tomorrow.  Why? I called her the next day and she's crying that everyone is having fun and she can't leave the house and that's why she's upset. But she will not help herself at all. She won't try. I'm so tired of feeling guilty and bad for her. This is all on her. she's 61! Put some big girl panties on and figure your life out!

So I have spent the morning on the phone with the exchange, DSS and Social Security trying to figure out what she needs to do. What would benefit her the most. I have none of her financial info to really obtain accurate info. Why am I making these phone calls when she literally does NOTHING all day. She doesn't leave the house. Her only outside connection is internet. She never once made a phone call to the exchange to see if there were cheaper options which there are! She's never looked into disability. Come on....She hasn't been able to work in 5 years....

Sorry this is so long. It's so frustrating and I'm so tired of feeling this way. I have a hard time talking about it with my husband so I don't have many outlets. I'm sorry. Thanks if you read this. 

BeebopandBuddy

Holy family drama, Batman. Our weekend was pretty low-key. Thanksgiving at home, toddlers refused everything but canned, jellied cranberry sauce. Ethan mayhave eaten a little turkey, but that's it. I took them to the mall on Friday for a little shopping. We got our tree and decorated Saturday. Not too much to report.

hmp1

melody921 said:

WTF is this shit clogging up my FB feed? Even if I wanted to get into direct sales, it would annoy me that she never says what it is she's hawking!

"If you are interested in earning an extra income a month, becoming your own boss, improving your health and changing the lives of others please contact me!! I am on a mission to make a difference, help others, influence greatness, and create a legacy. I was born to be great & I believe all of you were too. Get on board with me- lets support each other! Small businesses make big differences! Celebrate the successes. Celebrate the uniqueness and individuality! Celebrate these businesses that have given their owners a meaningful life.

Tis the season of giving!! PM me. I want to give and share with you the business I am creating- the legacy I am leading- and all the differences I am making. Its outstanding the lives that are transforming all because I believe in this company and I believe in these people. The power of leadership (no matter how small or big) is the driving force of this world. Pay it forward. Lead. Love. Give."

People post things like this on our local FB page all the time. It gets like 100 comments of people asking for details but the person never comes back. It is annoying.

hmp1

My holiday was nowhere near as crazy as some of yours. 

We had a great long weekend. Kids were fantastic little travelers. Car naps worked out well as we made our way around the Chicago area visiting family. I got my online shopping done Thursday night. The only bad part of it was there are apparently no Starbucks in KY off 65. 

melody921

That's hard @redneckmomma25. You're right that she needs to help herself a little too. I hope she starts to see the light.

hmp1

Oh, I have a bitch. DH totally messed up our outside lights. We went to Home Depot to get some more yesterday and he wanted LED really bad. I tried to talk him into waiting until they go on sale and we can switch over for next year. He ended up saying he would only do the trees on the side of the house with the LED lights so I agreed. Come out after putting Leo down for a nap and he is doing the bushes to the left of the door, the right side had been done in the morning with regular lights. Now we have half our yard in LED and half in regular. He won't take them down so I bought a few more LED lights to mix into the regular in hopes that helps. 

redneckmomma25

When would you be concerned about poop? G has had loose stool for about 2 weeks. Normally she is every couple days solid pellets. Today was green and nasty smelling. She had that fever last week and a cough is breaking up so she's going through something. Plus 2 yr molars I think are bothering her. It's just so not normal to have this kind of poop. Not sure if I should be concerned. It's not explosive and multiple times a day or anything.

willy_gert

Our Thanksgiving was fun.  We went to my aunt's house for the day and then my sister and I went shopping.  Nothing crazy or super exciting.  

danabsd

Oh man. We've been busy!
I fractured my foot on Thanksgiving night, trying to blow up the air mattress. No seriously. I figured I would sleep it off. Well, I woke up in the morning stepped out of bed and boom cut my lip open because I couldnt walk.
Six hours in the urgent care on Friday and I have a boot and crutches. I hope I can heal up enough to wear the new rain boots I bought for Oregon this weekend.

willy_gert

That sucks @danabsd!  I thought I was the only one who could hurt myself that badly!

watercolor5

redneckmomma25 said:

When would you be concerned about poop? G has had loose stool for about 2 weeks. Normally she is every couple days solid pellets. Today was green and nasty smelling. She had that fever last week and a cough is breaking up so she's going through something. Plus 2 yr molars I think are bothering her. It's just so not normal to have this kind of poop. Not sure if I should be concerned. It's not explosive and multiple times a day or anything.

When Sophia has had diarrhea like that, it's usually viral.  I think it's actually normal for viral diarrhea to last a full 2 weeks, but any longer and I might put in a call to the pedi.  I would guess that the extra saliva from teething and snot from the cough is probably keeping it looser.  Ugh so frustrating when you have to keep up a BRAT diet for that long.  Sophia is on day 3 of something similar

MrsKipper

tyrannosaurusjess said:

@Loislayn he is adorable!!!!

@MrsKipper and @shiggybop I hope you feel better soon And I'm jealous you're going to NOLA! I've never been, but I've been dying to go!

Thanks!! I'm so excited!! We've been before but this time we're going to a Saints game at the Superdome. So pumped!! I promise Nola isn't named for the city, or after the football team. We get that all the time. It was a family name and a nice little coincidence!

And WOW there are some crazy stories in here!! Crazy families keep things interesting, that's for sure!

willy_gert

BobKat22 said:

My maternity leave ends this Wednesday. I was only supposed to work Wed my first week back. I was nice and took a shift on Tueaday, cutting my leave a day short because they needed help at another hospital location. So that had me working Tues and Wed. I took another look at my schedule and saw they had me scheduled to work Monday (Today) too! I was so pissed! For one, I'm not even 6 weeks post partum until tomorrow. Second, I would never have offered to work Tues if I knew that would put me working 3 days straight my first week to leave DS. Third, who schedules someone to work when they are on maternity leave? That's really not my mistake to take care of. I made my boss and crazy ass coworker who made the schedule aware. Co worker refused to respond to one text message and my boss made me find my own coverage. WTF?! I'm on maternity leave!!! It turned into the biggest cluster fuck and somehow I'm the bad guy that isn't working because I don't have a medical release because I'm not even 6 weeks post partum.

You should invite them to read FMLA laws.  It should clue them into how illegal that all is....

Flamingemu

I have chosen today to get my ass in gear. I signed up for a Biggest Loser boot camp, started tracking calories again, and plan to hit up a spin class tonight. 

I am already hungry. I am mad that I have to retrain myself to not eat a gazillion calories...again.

BPer

Well, I'm back after a hectic couple of weeks.

Last Monday I woke up after catching Hannah's cold, and my understandably germaphobe office sent me home around 1, and refused to sit anywhere near me in our staff meeting before that.

Rather than coming in and being sent home on Tuesday, I just stayed home sick, and was planned to be off Wednesday-Friday anyway.  So basically, I had a whole week off from work, and it was the least-stressed I've felt in a long time.  I only took 1 Xanax in the entire week, as opposed to a 3 per day I have been taking for the last month or so.

Thanksgiving was the usual crazy, 30+ of us at the ILs.  Ben melted down for the first half hour or so, and then did pretty well.  The family went around saying what they were thankful for before we ate.  When they got to Hannah, I think everyone assumed she wouldn't have anything to contribute, but she instead chimed in with "I like this bib."  Awesome.

I spent all day Friday deep cleaning what I could in our house, and did the rest of the first floor Saturday night, and yesterday we were finally able to move in our living & dining room furniture.

Hannah was ecstatic to be able to play downstairs.  We've basically been living out of our master suite for the last 3 weeks.  Poor kid was like a caged animal.

melody921

Boo @danabsd! Hope you're feeling better soon and get to wear your new boots.

melody921

BobKat22 said:

My maternity leave ends this Wednesday. I was only supposed to work Wed my first week back. I was nice and took a shift on Tueaday, cutting my leave a day short because they needed help at another hospital location. So that had me working Tues and Wed. I took another look at my schedule and saw they had me scheduled to work Monday (Today) too! I was so pissed! For one, I'm not even 6 weeks post partum until tomorrow. Second, I would never have offered to work Tues if I knew that would put me working 3 days straight my first week to leave DS. Third, who schedules someone to work when they are on maternity leave? That's really not my mistake to take care of. I made my boss and crazy ass coworker who made the schedule aware. Co worker refused to respond to one text message and my boss made me find my own coverage. WTF?! I'm on maternity leave!!! It turned into the biggest cluster fuck and somehow I'm the bad guy that isn't working because I don't have a medical release because I'm not even 6 weeks post partum.

Man, that sucks. I would have told them you're now not working Tues. either. What a PITA!

melody921

Flamingemu said:

I have chosen today to get my ass in gear. I signed up for a Biggest Loser boot camp, started tracking calories again, and plan to hit up a spin class tonight. 

I am already hungry. I am mad that I have to retrain myself to not eat a gazillion calories...again.

I need to track calories, but I hate it because inevitably I eat something that I have to guess on the calorie count, and it just becomes too all-consuming.

PenelopePond

I ordered a bunch of clothes and shoes online from one site.  A couple of the things I bought in two sizes since I wasn't sure which I would need.  I figured I'd just return whatever didn't fit.  Well, since it was all clearance stuff it's final sale.  Yippee.

BPer

Also, I am fairly sure an old man ripped us off on our Christmas tree yesterday.

We went to a tree farm that had pre-cut, and u-cut (which were listed as up to $35).  I found a beautiful tree that was about 14 feet tall, which is the only way I've found that you can find a tree that is uniformly full on the top and bottom (I am a crazy tree lady).

So we have the tree baled, and in the back of the truck, and the man says "I don't even know how you found this tree, I could have cut this and gotten $125 for it in the barn.", and told H it was going to be $65, but we only had $60, so he took that.

H didn't tell me until after we left, and I'm fairly sure that guy just pocketed the difference.  I am contemplating calling the tree farm and asking their price on cut-your-own, and when they say $35, being all "Oh because I was charged $60 yesterday."

hmp1

I just ordered our Christmas cards. I don't love them but I am sick of looking at cards trying to find one I love with the right number of boxes in the shapes I need. It was painful.

ETA: here they are, it's a tri-fold. I usually only do 1-3 pictures but went a little crazy this year.

melody921

BPer said:

Also, I am fairly sure an old man ripped us off on our Christmas tree yesterday.

We went to a tree farm that had pre-cut, and u-cut (which were listed as up to $35).  I found a beautiful tree that was about 14 feet tall, which is the only way I've found that you can find a tree that is uniformly full on the top and bottom (I am a crazy tree lady).

So we have the tree baled, and in the back of the truck, and the man says "I don't even know how you found this tree, I could have cut this and gotten $125 for it in the barn.", and told H it was going to be $65, but we only had $60, so he took that.

H didn't tell me until after we left, and I'm fairly sure that guy just pocketed the difference.  I am contemplating calling the tree farm and asking their price on cut-your-own, and when they say $35, being all "Oh because I was charged $60 yesterday."

Do it, @BPer! If he ripped you off, that reflects poorly on the farm.

Hyaline

MelsaX said:

DH has a work Christmas party next weekend. They are going to the racecourse and betting on horse racing. I told DH there's no way that I am going, because I don't agree with horse racing, or any animal racing. His work mates all think I'm batshit now. Probably because DH told them I wasn't going because it's "against her religion". But I'm glad I'm not going. His bosses wife annoys the shit out of me. And the office manager is an absolute bitch. Seeing as I can't drink, I wouldn't be able to deal with that bunch of self-righteous twats. Haha.

I love going to the racetrack, but only on Derby Day.  It's one of the only places it's socially acceptable to wear a hat.  I don't bet though...just tell DH's coworkers you're Methodist.  The little old Methodist ladies around here get really worked up about gambling and dens of ill repute that facilitate gambling.  Then rail on them about video poker machines.  I promise, they will leave you alone... :P

redneckmomma25

I bought a pair of maternity leggings from target the other day. Full panel. Cotton. They only had 1 pair in a L so I bought them. I want more. I cannot find them online. The ones in the store were $16.99 on the tag. There are none online for that much with a full panel. These are perfect. They are long and perfect.  I want to ugly cry over this. 

Newt69

BobKat22 said:

@hmp1 that would drive me insane!!

@redneckmomma25‌ DD has to have miralax every day because she's always constipated. We just finished a two week stint of her having mushy/runny poops at least 5 times a day. It was so weird. No idea what caused it.

That exactly what Dom had a couple weeks ago. It was rotten it just seemed like a virus of some sort. I made sure he ate bananas

melody921

harti09 said:

I just went online to all the different places we received gift cards for the kids' birthday - amazon, target, TRU.

Guys, I just got everything off their Christmas list except for 4 things. This year is only costing us $60 out of pocket. I'm so proud of myself!

edit: I forgot about a purchase, so it was $80

Glad I'm not the only one who did this! We had a ridiculous amount of money left on TRU gift cards, so that was where I ordered a bunch of stuff. Now, if I had just stayed out of B&N, I would have been doing really great.