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July 2014 Moms
VTKatie
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When will you try for another baby?
VTKatie
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Curious to hear what your plans are if you are going to try for another. When will you start trying (or stop preventing)? DH is already making comments about trying for a sibling, but I want to wait until next summer. Anyone actively trying now?
Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl
Re: When will you try for another baby?
My husband is terrified of me getting postpartum pre-e again. It really shook him up, so it may take longer for him to get on board.
Edited bc I can't spell today.
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I asked if there was anything I could do to help prevent it, and she said no. She told me that they still have no idea why it happens.
Now since you progressed to HELLP syndrome, I think you may be higher risk. I would suggest making an appt to have a heart to heart with your doc to get all the facts. That's what I did.
Talking to my doctor made me feel more confident about having another someday. Prior to talking to her, we were thinking we might have to be one and done.
It was a scary time, but I'm glad we know to keep an eye on my BP even once we are home. (Just in case.)
If you talk to your doc, please let me know what he/she says. (If you don't mind.) I'm curious if it will be similar to what mine told me.
I'm so glad my post helped you. I'm a nurse practitioner and I was shocked when it happened. I knew it was a possibility, but I didn't have "textbook" symptoms like headache,etc. I ended up with double vision but not until I was already in the ICU. I think they need to do a better job educating moms about it before they leave the hospital.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
But sometimes the idea of waiting makes me feel sad; I'm loving the baby stage and my 19lb 4 month old is feeling less and less like a baby!!
But logic is telling me: wait a couple years
It also helped that DS1 was 3 1/2 when this LO was born so he was more independent and goes to school 3 mornings a week. I don't think I would have the patience for 2u2.
Three kids might be overwhelming in a different way because we will be outnumbered but we'll probably go for it anyway around the time LO turns 2. I'd like a minimum of 2 1/2 years between them.
*Now that I think about it, maybe I should add that DS1 was such a shit sleeper for his whole first year that waking up once or twice a night is NBD to me. And now I get so tired from his bedtime shenanigans stalling and whatnot that even though he typically STTN, I'm more exhausted by the time he goes to bed than I am from waking up with the baby. lol
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
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- Albus Dumbledore
I had pregnancy induced hypertension which turned into pre-e and was on bedrest for a month. For those reasons, I'm anxious about a second pregnancy, but I do want to try for another one. My doctor said the risk of getting pre-we again is low, about 20% or so if I remember correctly.
It's is definitely traumatizing. I think talking to a high risk doc is a good idea. They see moms after HELLP syndrome all the time.
Mag sulfate is the spawn of satan. I would rather go thru another 37hr labor than have it again.
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
In all seriousness, we have 27 and 30 month age gaps and have found the spacing to be ideal for us. Not too close together but not so far apart that we were ever really out of baby mode.
Also, I've found that that fleeting feeling of having a newborn never goes away, and we just can't logically keep having kids for that alone. It's time to be done, even if it's rather depressing to be 32 and know that that era of life is already over. It's gone way too fast.
@ZeroZeroOne and @huggabunch I had pre-e and HELLP with DS1 prepartum. I was considered high risk for DS2 mainly for that reason, but add on AMA as well. I saw a perinatologist from the beginning with this pregnancy. The plan my doctor suggested was a baby aspirin regimin and I monitored my blood pressure daily. I only had GD with DS2.
The daily BP monitoring was very helpful because I never felt any different, so no real symptoms to indicate taht anythign was wrong. At 35wks I noticed my BP increasing. This time around I had PIH and trace amounts of protein. So based on my history, DS2 was born at 36wks in order to avoid full on pre-e and HELLP. Of course the decision was made after consulting with the perinatalogist.
I am highly likely to develop it again in any future pregnancies. I highly recommend a consult with a perinatologist if youhave any concerns.
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Two girls, we are done!
Would you let someone else carry your baby?
I wish I wasn't 37. I love being pregnant and pregnancy was very easy on me, both times. If I were younger, I would try surrogacy for a couple or two.
Happy thoughts to all that are trying! Let us know the results after you POAS!! Exciting!!!!!
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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*sighs* I just don't know.