July 2014 Moms

When will you try for another baby?

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edited November 2014 in July 2014 Moms
Curious to hear what your plans are if you are going to try for another. When will you start trying (or stop preventing)? DH is already making comments about trying for a sibling, but I want to wait until next summer. Anyone actively trying now?

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  • I'm still waiting for my first PP period (on docs advice, I know you can get pregnant before this) then we'll go to NTNP until DD2 is 12-18 months old before actively trying. We had some issues before and would rather start sooner and unexpectedly fall pregnant straight away than put off trying until the "ideal" time and have another 5 year age gap.
  • huggabunchhuggabunch member
    edited November 2014
    My hormones want to start trying soon, but my rational side says no. We can't afford 2 kids in daycare yet. Plus I need to get healthier before getting pregnant again. I'm hoping around DDs first birthday we will be in a better financial situation.
    My husband is terrified of me getting postpartum pre-e again. It really shook him up, so it may take longer for him to get on board.

    Edited bc I can't spell today.


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  • DS2 was my second c-section, so if we try for another, and that's a big if, we will wait a full year from his birth before starting to try to give my uterus time to heal. 
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  • If we can make it with FAM until this kiddo is at least 2 I'm counting that as a win. I would like to start trying when he is about 3 for a 4ish year age gap.
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  • I always said we would adopt an older child for #2 then would be done... But my hormones are pulling at my emotions and kinda of want another pregnancy and little baby. Dd is growing to fast and I feel like this stage is flying by. Don't know where this is going to lead but I have an iud so it gives us time to plan without surprises
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  • I'm just about 30, and with the issues I had with both my pregnancies, my doc doesn't want me waiting too terribly long to try again. He said at least 8 months before trying again, since I had a cs. We may wait until LO is about 18 months old to try again, though. Then DD1 would be in school, and it would make things easier on our babysitter. That would put me about 32 when I have our next.
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  • We're both on board for a third, but #3 will require an addition to our house (neither of us wants to move).  I also had a second section, so like PP, I need to let my body heal.  All that being said, we'll probably seriously discuss timing around DD's birthday.
  • We aren't preventing now. I haven't gotten a period yet. But pretty much are wanting another right away. I'm 35, had to do 3 rounds of IVF to have him after 5 years of actively trying.

     

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  • Originally we were thinking around 18 months we would start trying for #2. However, if we got pregnant quickly, like we did with DS I realized I would be pregnant for an entire summer, and after our July baby, I'm not sure that's something I want to do in this FL heat. So I think we will start trying closer to DS's 2nd birthday, and fingers crossed end up with a March-May 2017 baby.
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  • huggabunchhuggabunch member
    edited November 2014
    @ZeroZeroOne‌ my doctor told me the risk of me getting it again postpartum is 5% (the normal is 2-3%. VERY rare) and that the risk of me getting it prior to delivery is 12%, which is only a little higher than someone who has never had it before.
    I asked if there was anything I could do to help prevent it, and she said no. She told me that they still have no idea why it happens.
    Now since you progressed to HELLP syndrome, I think you may be higher risk. I would suggest making an appt to have a heart to heart with your doc to get all the facts. That's what I did.
    Talking to my doctor made me feel more confident about having another someday. Prior to talking to her, we were thinking we might have to be one and done.
    It was a scary time, but I'm glad we know to keep an eye on my BP even once we are home. (Just in case.)
    If you talk to your doc, please let me know what he/she says. (If you don't mind.) I'm curious if it will be similar to what mine told me.
    I'm so glad my post helped you. I'm a nurse practitioner and I was shocked when it happened. I knew it was a possibility, but I didn't have "textbook" symptoms like headache,etc. I ended up with double vision but not until I was already in the ICU. I think they need to do a better job educating moms about it before they leave the hospital.


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    I'm still a bit sad to admit, but with 2, the game is over for my ute.
  • Nope, one and done  :)  

    I love the heck outta this baby, but this mom shit is hard....way harder/more exhausting than I imagined.  How can people do this with another little one already running around??  Hats off to you ladies!  
    I was really considering OAD those first few weeks at home. I can't imagine what it will be like with another one running around, which is why I'm especially keen on a slightly larger age gap.
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  • We had three in three years. So we want to wait a couple years before trying for any more. To let my body heal, to enjoy the time with these three, to make sure we get some time as a couple.

    But sometimes the idea of waiting makes me feel sad; I'm loving the baby stage and my 19lb 4 month old is feeling less and less like a baby!!
    But logic is telling me: wait a couple years
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    Nope, one and done  :)  

    I love the heck outta this baby, but this mom shit is hard....way harder/more exhausting than I imagined.  How can people do this with another little one already running around??  Hats off to you ladies!  
    I'm finding the baby stage a lot less overwhelming this time. It helps greatly that DS2 is a chill baby but I was scared to death of going through the newborn stage again and I found I was much, MUCH more relaxed this time around because I knew what to expect and I knew it wouldn't last forever. Of course, you can't predict your kid's personality or any health issues that might impact them, but I do think overall the baby stage is less intimidating the second time around.

    It also helped that DS1 was 3 1/2 when this LO was born so he was more independent and goes to school 3 mornings a week. I don't think I would have the patience for 2u2.

    Three kids might be overwhelming in a different way because we will be outnumbered but we'll probably go for it anyway around the time LO turns 2. I'd like a minimum of 2 1/2 years between them.

    *Now that I think about it, maybe I should add that DS1 was such a shit sleeper for his whole first year that waking up once or twice a night is NBD to me. And now I get so tired from his bedtime shenanigans stalling and whatnot that even though he typically STTN, I'm more exhausted by the time he goes to bed than I am from waking up with the baby. lol
  • Dcwtada said:
    Well I am already pregnant, I think that may speak for itself. We wanted another baby but even I was shocked at how quickly everything happened. I took to motherhood much easier and more naturally than I thought I would and we decided last month that I was going to resign (my condition for having another baby) so November 28th is my last day. Everything just fell into place and 3 weeks later I had my BFP.
    Congratulations @Dcwtada!
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  • I want to wait until dd is at least one year. But every single time she wakes up in the middle of the night and every time DH and I fight due to my exhaustion I'm like 'I'm never having another one' I know I'm just kidding myself though.
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  • I had a c section, so we need to at least wait a year. I would love to time it so we have #2 when DS is 2 or 3, but I'm not sure if DH will be ready then. We also are planning to buy a house in the meantime.

    I had pregnancy induced hypertension which turned into pre-e and was on bedrest for a month. For those reasons, I'm anxious about a second pregnancy, but I do want to try for another one. My doctor said the risk of getting pre-we again is low, about 20% or so if I remember correctly.
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  • My dr recommended 18 months so thats what we will do. I want to run the Walt Disney World Marathon in 2016, which is the beginning of January and right around when LO is 18 months. We will start trying again then!
  • @ZeroZeroOne‌- I did not have gestational diabetes.
    It's is definitely traumatizing. I think talking to a high risk doc is a good idea. They see moms after HELLP syndrome all the time.
    Mag sulfate is the spawn of satan. I would rather go thru another 37hr labor than have it again.


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  • After she's a year old.  I am not on any BC now, but using condoms... and pretty much being a good ole celibate most of the time, too. ;)
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    Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia.  5lb12oz 19"
    #2 due Christmas 2016. 





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  • Neverrrrrrrr.

    In all seriousness, we have 27 and 30 month age gaps and have found the spacing to be ideal for us. Not too close together but not so far apart that we were ever really out of baby mode.

    Also, I've found that that fleeting feeling of having a newborn never goes away, and we just can't logically keep having kids for that alone. It's time to be done, even if it's rather depressing to be 32 and know that that era of life is already over. It's gone way too fast.
  • Going to wait at least the 18 recommended months for post c-section.  But I don't want to wait too long since I have PCOS and that made the first time around pretty maddening.  We just mainly want to be sure I'm healed up and okay since the labor and delivery for DS were scarier than they needed to be.

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  • @ZeroZeroOne and @huggabunch I had pre-e and HELLP with DS1 prepartum. I was considered high risk for DS2 mainly for that reason, but add on AMA as well. I saw a perinatologist from the beginning with this pregnancy. The plan my doctor suggested was a baby aspirin regimin and I monitored my blood pressure daily. I only had GD with DS2.

    The daily BP monitoring was very helpful because I never felt any different, so no real symptoms to indicate taht anythign was wrong. At 35wks I noticed my BP increasing. This time around I had PIH and trace amounts of protein. So based on my history, DS2 was born at 36wks in order to avoid full on pre-e and HELLP. Of course the decision was made after consulting with the perinatalogist.

    I am highly likely to develop it again in any future pregnancies. I highly recommend a consult with a perinatologist if youhave any concerns.

    11.2011 - DS1

    02.2013 - loss at 6 wks

    06.2014 - DS2

    10.2015 - loss at 12 wks

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  • My OB and Dentist think I should start trying immediately. Yea, my dentist. WTF?

    But, I do want more kids. 

    I'm still pretty young (28), IVF worked for us on the first try.. no frosty eggs left over though, boo. 

    We will most likely do another IVF cycle after DD turns 2, unless my ute decides to get it's shit together and function like a normal ute. 

    I pretty much have loved every minute of the newborn baby stage, but I want to be able to enjoy DD without having to worry about splitting my time and affection with another baby. I want to see the little person she becomes before we start to grow our family anymore. 

    And plus also... Kids are $$$$$$$$$$$$ 
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  • We've started trying already. No protection but I'm only charting when we have sex- no temps or anything. I also haven't gotten my first PP period yet either so the chances are lower at the moment (I'm breastfeeding as well). Once we are done BFing, I'm going to ramp it up.
  • Ditto @jessafishy
    Baby boy "F" was born on 7/11/14!!


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  • If money was no issue immediately....but it is. We'll be waiting until dh finishes school. Well at least his bs degree....stupid finances.
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  • After my labor complications dr strongly advised I not have any more :( so I am 1 and done
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  • We aren't preventing and plan on going back to our fertility specialist is January or February to do another round of IVF.
  • We too are an IVF couple. DD#1 was a fresh cycle. DD #2 was a frozen embryo. We are out of embryos. Not only that, but those 257 shots I did for DD #2 kinda put me over the edge.

    Two girls, we are done!


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    Beta #2 (4w4d)- 4,577
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  • Csltdk said:
    After my labor complications dr strongly advised I not have any more :( so I am 1 and done
    Yes, I'm remembering your story now. It was really, really scary. How are you now @Csltdk ?

    Would you let someone else carry your baby?

    I wish I wasn't 37. I love being pregnant and pregnancy was very easy on me, both times. If I were younger, I would try surrogacy for a couple or two.
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  • We are totally done here! Love my little ones time a million, but this ish is hard. I've never known the true meaning of tired until now.

    Happy thoughts to all that are trying! Let us know the results after you POAS!! Exciting!!!!!

    We have our "Irish Twins"

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  • I originally figured sometime after DD turns one, assuming I stop BFing then. But, honestly her sleep has been so horrible lately with no foreseeable end in sight that I don't know if I can do this again while working. I'm assuming I'll change my mind again when this stage is over, but going on a month where her sleep just gets worse is the hardest thing I think I've had to do.
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  • Probably in another 6 months.
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  • We'll wait until LO is close to a year old. We're not using any sort of protection though and so, it could be sooner. I'm just hoping to see AF and then, be able to chart my temp and do natural family planning.
  • I still don't know if I want a third. DH says he would like the try for a girl. Our boys are just a few months shy of 3 years apart but DH would want to have the 3rd before he is 40 which is in 27 months. We also would have to do some updates to the house to accommodate a third. I told him I wouldn't want to work or only work part time too. A 3 year old and 4 month old and working is a lot of work not to mention since DH works 12 hour swing shifts so it's like being a single parent on the days he works.

    *sighs* I just don't know.


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