Pour the wine, light the fire... Girl your wish is my com-spam

WasNotWas

Lizzybizzy80 said:

Hugs, ladies. It is tough balancing holiday traditions/food and in-laws. I bring stuffing and two bottles of wine. Only DH and I drink wine.

(I'm going to keep going and continue to make this all about me, sorry guys I know how selfish I'm being)

that's exactly it, you have to balance the holiday traditions and consider your guests. When I host I go to great lengths to make everyone feel welcome and at home and invited. Unfortunately the only holiday tradition my ILs have is the actual hosting of the event...I don't know how to say nicely "we can totally have it at your house as long as I can organize everything". It just chaps my ass that you could have someone over for TG and not even consider their traditions or what they might want.

My mom used to always say that TG is for friends and Christmas is for family and I wish that were the accepted tradition...

GraceInCA

mcbush said:

subliminalrabbit said:

@mcbush, they won't LET you bring a pumpkin pie? They have been explicit about it?! That is insane. Bring a damn pie just for you if you want it!

When I brought up to my FIL (who I'm pretty candid with - we work together) that I had been given my food assignment for TG, and that, oh by the way "there's only apple pie? I'll bring a pumpkin pie for us" I was asked by him "Please don't bring a pumpkin pie. SIL M and MIL will be insulted and feel like it's a competition." 

I might bring pumpkin cheesecake squares or something. Or I'll make a pumpkin pie and eat the entire thing by myself before dinner on Thursday.

I haven't finished reading so this might have already been said, but can you join them on Thanksgiving, but on another day prepare a traditional Thanksgiving feast for just your family? I have done this before. We used to have to eat at the home of a relative who used to make what my husband fondly calls "turkey jerky", i.e. she would open roast a turkey for about 20 hours, and when you cut into it, it would literally crumple and just fall in little dry bits. She loved it too, but the rest of us would use a pint of gravy each just to drown it. Anyway, my husband threw a fit about not getting his annual Thanksgiving turkey fix, so I went the next day to the store and bought a big old turkey (on sale), and everything to fix the sides he likes. We had Thanksgiving #2. Now, it's such a tradition that we do it anyway, regardless of where we have Thanksgiving. Just a thought.

megaroo64

@mcbush‌ - I am also team bring the pie. They are going to be catty either way- that seems to be how they role. They are being insensitive and really rude. Honestly, there is food that I don't even like that I need to see on the table because it reminds me of loved ones. I say bring the pie and enjoy it and don't even share

I agree that to me, a lot of the holidays are all about the food. I really struggle at my ILs because--- well--- they don't make good food.

ColieAnn31

@mcbush‌ BRING A PIE!!!!!! Lol

WasNotWas

you will need to PIP your pie if you bring one @mcbush

itsStackie

@trutru127 ygpm

everyone else

WasNotWas

babygsmommy said:

Anyone else feel the newbie is a catfish?? The more I read, the more I wonder why intro on a board you've "never" lurked on. I hope she's legit but I wonder...

I honestly don't, I think she probably came on to join June 2014 and was like "hey I have another kid who probably has a board I can join"...that's kind of what I did but May 2011 was super dead and so was the Jacksonville local board. Tin foil hat is always tight though

WasNotWas

stargazer763 said:

I'm still down for TG at @wasnotwas's. @mcbush my place is kind of small (TWSS), but come on over!

I would host the shit out of you guys!!

momofcatan

Did not get awesome feelings about this interview, but thinking maybe I'll make it through to round 2. Already have a message from yesterday's interview need to call them back.

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needanustart

@wren1212‌ so far this thread has made me super appreciative of both sides of our extended family. They all love to party, love any and all food no matter who brought it, and drink all the wine and/or champagne if they get the opportunity.
And they were all super supportive of breast feeding too. I am definitely a lucky girl!
Definitely team bring all the pies. I think a lot of things get overthought in advance, but seriously if you show up with a pie who is going to complain in the moment? And if they do they look crazy.

TheTamedShrew

Good lord, this thread is moving fast today! I feel like I'm already late to the party, but @mcbush I just want to say your post is bringing up a lot of emotions for me. This will be our first holiday season without my mom.

Your ILs are being absolutely ridiculous. I would personally call it to their attention that not every guest is vegan, so it stands to reason that they should offer other options or allow others to bring what they want. Can you get your DH to talk to them? Absolutely petty and ridiculous. Did I mention RIDICULOUS?? I am so irrationally ragey over your situation right now...

nikel13

Let's add to my letter before.  SFH didn't tell me that there was an initiation fee.  It was $159.   :-w  Really?  I'm pissed and all he will say is that I want to be pissed and whatever.  Can I be added to the bail fund?  Right now my mantra is "He isn't worth the bail money..." 

itsStackie

@nikel13 Bail money goes to you getting your own personal trainer and then kicking his but again when you get out of jail.

eta: messed up some words.

ColieAnn31

@Michelin82‌ no keys yet, but I will have the car the rest of the week! We seriously have no idea where they went!

GraceInCA

This just showed up in my email. I kind of want to make it.

GraceInCA

42Butterflies said:

@GraceInCA‌ OMG - the turkey - are you married to Clark Griswald?

I have a family member who doesn't like "wet food" and she also used to insist on hosting Thanksgiving. She got injured a few years ago and we have been spared her cooking.

needanustart

Sorry you're going through that @HoneyB1993‌ good luck and I'm sure with you being such a good, vigilant mom and doing everything she needs to improve she will absolutely thrive with the therapy!

Cricket81

Jut let LO watch 2 episodes of Daniel Tiger since he is refusing to nap and I needed some sanity time. Caught up on 157 posts!

@mcbush I can't add anything that hasn't been said, but just wanted to send you hugs and pie.

@subliminalrabbit‌ LO had a really bad cold and cough and it ended up irritating his air passages and that was causing him to cough until he puked (usually right after nursing). He ended up needing an inhaler for 10 days and it really really helped.

needanustart

Lo has been following me around whining, crying and saying "mama" like Stewie from the family guy since 4:45am. And DH has recording time tonight so I have solo double bedtime. And I think my right quad may have died and is just rotting under my skin. Stairs are my enemy.
Wine will fix all this, right?

GraceInCA

I'm sorry @HoneyB1993.  Please keep an open mind about ST, PT and OT.  They can work wonders. 

When my son was 3, we had him in ST for a year and a half.  I honestly didn't feel like it was something he needed but in hindsight it was a good decision, and hearing him today you'd never know there was ever any issue with his speech.

megaroo64

@WasNotWas‌ - I made the pork that you posted in the meal planning thread-- so good! Thanks for posting!!

needanustart

G and I can sing "a whole new world" as a duet like Peabo Bryson and Regina Bell. It's pretty awesome.

riansmommie

@NaChelleBeck‌ sorry about that. I would be bummed too. My Hubby isn't like that thankfully. In July I drove from VA to FL and back alone. Is his only reason for not wanting you to go is because he is uncomfortable? What's the cause for his discomfort over the situation?

megaroo64

Just got settled in to nurse Nora- and the power went out! H is not home yet and it is pitch black- I'm using the flashlight on my phone so B can see--- I feel like this could end badly...

megaroo64

And now B discovered is shadow and is waving at it and saying hi- I think well be ok.

riansmommie

That's a tough one @NaChelleBeck‌ but I'm also not a paranoid traveller so it's hard for me to see that side. How long of a flight would it be?

needanustart

@NaChelleBeck‌ I would probably laugh at my husband if he said that. But I've always been really independent and a really experienced solo traveller. DH might feel differently if I wasn't the way I was because I honestly flew back to Boston for 24 hours to fly with DH and the boys to buffalo for my grandpas funeral because I didn't think he could handle flying with the boys alone so I guess I know what the reverse feels like. And for the record if DH said he could and wanted to fly with the boys alone I would let it go.

needanustart

steamboat123 said:

Email from DH- I can't wait to watch Wolf Blitzer play with ridiculous holograms tonight.

We are election night nerds too. You should have seen our media set up for the presidential elections.

WasNotWas

I leave for California tomorrow and MH has declared that he will "fix" Tyler's whining (caused by the 3 teeth coming in) and bradleys sass...

needanustart

@WorkinIt‌ that is definitely a start! Lo has very few but it seems he has skipped to trying full phrases. He has about 5 real words, but yesterday he said to DH when he got home, "how doin' buddy?" We started laughing and DH was like, "good! How are you doing?" And he said "guh!" And toddled away. It was hilarious and we realized how often we call the boys buddy!

needanustart

steamboat123 said:

NaChelleBeck said:

My H doesnt like to fly, which is fine. I completely understand. I think his discomfort is that fact that his family could be gone in one incident ( there really is no way to put that nicely). Which is true for either driving or flying, but like @CL8badB‌ said, I think he wants to be there should anything happen.
and he of course wants to go, he just cant always get off work & such.

This would never even occur to me. Not sure if that makes me relaxed or callous.

I'm going with relaxed - I can't live in fear. It would drive me nuts.

I'm not relaxed generally but I certainly wouldn't live in fear of this happening. Especially when this is far more likely to happen when I am driving the boys somewhere in Boston down route 1. I actually have thought of how sad mike would be if we all died in the car because I always feel like that drive is kinda dangerous. I also got in a car accident on the Tobin bridge last year so I'm a little biased in air vs. car travel.

GraceInCA

Waiting on election results is making me anxious.  I feel like there will be many drinks in my future.

WasNotWas

@42Butterflies said:

TMNT is on Nick Toons and they show commercials. DS officially wants all the things for Christmas. Stupid commercials.

Preach! I try to fast forward and he's all "nooooo I want commercials" just so I can hear "I want" for 3.5 minutes

WasNotWas

O and @42Butterflies‌ they say shoot and heck, as an fyi

WasNotWas

Holy crap. Bradley just ate a whole thing of raspberries. That can't like make him sick or anything?

needanustart

I'm trying to let it go but the competitive OCD type person I am is having a really, really hard time accepting that I LOST my matchup in the head to head on Sunday because of my stupid glitchy fitbit. I can't even look at matchup without my blood pressure rising.

riansmommie

WasNotWas said:

Holy crap. Bradley just ate a whole thing of raspberries. That can't like make him sick or anything?

Your sending him to day are tom right!? I would not want to be the one changing that diaper

Edit: I just mixed your kids up didn't I. Bradley is the older one. So in that case hope he is near a bathroom all day tom

riansmommie

@NaChelleBeck said:

@riansmommie the flight is a little over an hour non stop, but if we stop in Dallas it's 30 minutes a pop.

That's such a short flight! He should totally put aside his fears and let you go.

lioness13

Sweet potato pie is better than Pumpkin pie. Period.