Tuesday Randoms

pnwlover12

Jesslynnsell said:

Went to the pedi about the sweating. He said he was fine and maybe not to swaddle him. Now we are back home and he won't stay asleep because he is used to the swaddle. I don't know what to do. It is going to be a long night if he won't sleep.

Any suggestions?

Can you dress him lighter underneath the swaddle?

MuffinMom14

trisharenee0316 said:

SPurp13 said:

@MrsBabe614 I'm the same. I didn't want this baby to be the only child because I am, and while I didn't mind growing up, it was hard to bury my dad alone. However, I don't think I can go through another c section. I didn't know they were like that. I apparently do not heal well.

You could always VBAC!  You don't have to have another c-section just because you had one.  My first pregnancy I went slightly overdue and was basically induced with an unfavorable cervix which led to a long labor and an eventual c-section.  Although my c-section recovery wasn't terrible, I didn't want to do that again knowing I have an active toddler at home too.  My VBAC with my son was a complete 180 from my labor experience with my daughter.  I don't want any more kids, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't briefly consider maybe, possibly having a third kid someday because this experience was so much better.  And even if you don't VBAC, it seems like RCS mamas have a much easier time recovering than emergency/unplanned c-section mamas--which makes sense since they wouldn't have gone through any time laboring and then also having major surgery.

TicketTuesday said:

STMs how is it going with your toddlers? I've had help the last couple days but I've seriously been sitting on the couch with LO attached to my breast all day and I'm wondering how the crap do I take care of DS with LO constantly wanting to nurse? This kid is not a fan of a pacifier.

It's been less than a full day since we've been home with our toddler.  Last night was our first night home and it was a clusterfuck.  My ILs didn't listen to us about feeding the toddler until she is full, so she woke up at 3am hollering and hungry.  DS was hollering and hungry and I couldn't put him to sleep because he was just starving.  Then I had a crying meltdown of my own to DH saying we were crazy for having another one so soon and WTF were we thinking.  Not our finest moments as a family.

I don't know. I mean, I really didn't labor. I laid in bed all day. They broke my water and gave me an epidural. I don't know what a contraction feels like other than the night after the section on oxytocin to prevent clots.

I wouldn't consider a VBAC, mostly because the doctor claims I would have needed a section even if I went into labor on my own, because the inside of my pelvis was too small for her head (and that's why she never ever dropped, even when contractions were 1-2 minutes apart). I don't know what I believe, but hearing that did make me feel slightly better--like, I know I should have opted out of being induced, and I know I probably should have not had the epidural so fast, and I know I shouldn't have let her break my water that morning, because all things put me on the fast-track for a section. But hearing that made me feel like, well, it would have happened anyway. Even if it was bullshit, I'm going to just pretend to believe it.

Jesslynnsell

savagek7 said:

Jesslynnsell said:

Went to the pedi about the sweating. He said he was fine and maybe not to swaddle him. Now we are back home and he won't stay asleep because he is used to the swaddle. I don't know what to do. It is going to be a long night if he won't sleep.

Any suggestions?

Can you swaddle him but have fewer clothes underneath? Like instead of a footed sleeper do a onesie? Idk what climate you're in or what you already dress him in.

All I have him in is a short sleeve onesie underneath. We have the air conditioner running too.

MuffinMom14

MissMandyD said:

SPurp13 said:

@SPurp13‌ right there with you it was a pretty horrible experience. I even asked DH if he was open to adoption next time! There's just a comfort that comes with knowing that someone is always there no matter what. Damnit...

I know people who say their sections weren't that bad and they didn't even take pain meds when they left the hospital. So I was not prepared mentally. Maybe next time I would be, but it's doubtful.

My mother kept insisting that recovery after c section was no big deal and not to be worried about it. Well that was NOT my experience. 

After 36 hours of labor ending in a c section I was completely wrecked! I don't typically react well to pain meds so I told them to just give me ibuprofen for recovery in the hospital. Then at the 24 hour mark they told me to get up and walk across the room and it took a nurse on one arm and my husband on the other for me to make it the 8 steps and every step felt like my stomach was going to split open. This was the moment I asked for the meds and I never looked back! 

When they told me to get up, I had a nursing instructor and a student. The student was wonderful. The instuctor said "ok, let her get up on her own." They stood there while I struggled to get up. They would not help me, or even let me grab onto their hands. I started crying so hard I was screaming in pain, because that hurt, too. Other nurses started running in, and I started screaming for my husband to call his aunt, this wasn't right, and the nursing instructor, the whole time, just stared at me, didn't reach out to comfort me when I was crying or anything. I kept saying "let my husband help me," and she said she could not do that, I had to get up by myself.

Once my husband's aunt came and a nurse I liked (I told that nurse to not let the instructor anywhere near me, and she never came back), I got up and walked, and once I was up, I was ok. Yes, it felt like my stomach was falling out, but it was the in and out of bed that was the worst. At least now I know what to expect should I do this again (doubtful), and I will have my husband help me. I will also ask for pain medication before I even try to get out. I will be very clear about how I plan to get up and what I need from the nurse. That was half my problem. I had to beg for pain medication (I was never told, until the last night, that I had to ask for it--all the other nurses came in and gave it to me, no questions asked--but on the last night, when they were 2 hours late, I asked why, and they said "you never asked." It makes sense to not give someone pain medication unless they need it, but no one told me that.). The whole experience was scary and unknown. At least now I'll know?

Still doubtful that I'll do it again.

MuffinMom14

My husband keeps making lactation cookies, and he says I have to eat two every time I feed her. I can't eat 16 cookies a day. That's more calories than I can even eat. Does he want me to be fat forever?!

Emerald27

@TicketTuesday‌ I know I'm late to this discussion... If you're having toe-curling nipple pain and have a confirmed TT diagnosis, I would not wait to have it revised. Why endure pain and trauma (that will have to take time to heal) if you don't have to?

LightBright515

I should wake her up to feed, but she's so peaceful when she sleeps.

DreadGamerWife

Watching 19 kids a with C on my lap. I admit, I am tearing up watching the wedding episode and thinking about C getting married in 25ish years.

windwithfingers

@jesslynnsell DS is a sweaty guy too and it's cold here for the most part. He's in short-sleeved onesies all day and at night I put him in a SwaddleMe in just a diaper. He still gets a little sweaty sometimes but it seems to work.

Jesslynnsell

crawford411 said:

savagek7 said:

Jesslynnsell said:

savagek7 said:

Jesslynnsell said:

Went to the pedi about the sweating. He said he was fine and maybe not to swaddle him. Now we are back home and he won't stay asleep because he is used to the swaddle. I don't know what to do. It is going to be a long night if he won't sleep.

Any suggestions?

Can you swaddle him but have fewer clothes underneath? Like instead of a footed sleeper do a onesie? Idk what climate you're in or what you already dress him in.

All I have him in is a short sleeve onesie underneath. We have the air conditioner running too.

Oh...I see your predicament now.

Can you put him in a halo sleep sack in just a diaper? Or turn the temperature down in the room where he's sleeping?

I didn't think of the sleep sack. We have that and one that is even lighter. Great idea. I will try that after the next feeding. Thank you so much. I will let you know the results.

LightBright515

FamousEa said:

I cried after taking these pics..damn hormones..

That bottom right picture :x

bumpuser10309732

@SPurp13‌ i have a narrow pelvis too apparently. I guess that's why it hurt so damn bad being checked. Then I had the epi in the beginning but I couldn't get up at all because DD sat too high and I had random pre E. So the magnesium for the pre e caused me to not progress not the epi. My doctor also told me the epidural wouldn't stall my labor anyway. So narrow pelvis must be a thing if I've got the same problem. Does that make you feel a little better anyway? Also my discharge nurse wouldn't let anyone help me out of the bed and I bit her head off and told her maybe if i wasn't cut in half and the bed a foot off the ground compared to where my feet could touch then I wouldn't need any help. That shut her up. Lol I would've told that nurse to kiss my ass if I were you. I'm glad your DHs aunt showed up!!

Syllessa

I haven't read any randoms yet, b/c I'm worried about Alex.  I'm calling his doctor in the morning, but thought I'd ask here, too. 

He's 4 weeks old today, and until this past Sunday had only spit up once or twice.  Since Sunday afternoon he's projectile vomited every single time he eats.  It's weird though.  He'll eat, I burp (several times during meal), 5ish min after eating he does this thing where it's like his stomach is heaving or contracting, then he falls asleep.  10ish min later he projectile vomits.  He is still having wet/poopy diapers, but not nearly as many.  I haven't eaten anything different, no fever, and no let down issues.

This just doesn't seem normal, and I need someone to help me calm down. It scares me a bit.

bumpuser10309732

@keelyd‌ I've noticed my husband also seems to act like he's 2nd now that the baby is here. I don't think your DH is the only one I think they're just having a little difficulty adjusting to the new normal. I would take time to tell him you appreciate him, maybe he'll see how silly he's being?

pnwlover12

FamousEa said:

I cried after taking these pics..damn hormones..

I can't even describe how stinkin cute these are!!

MrsSinner402

@FamousEa‌ :x

pnwlover12

theresat858 said:

Mobile love tits decided to stop working. Doesn't mean I don't love your adorable photos.

I don't understand people who think newborns don't need many baths. I gave dd2 a bath last night and by 2 hours later she already smelled like sour milk again. These other babies must not spit up as much as mine...

ITA. Gav smelled like a foot before I gave him his bath today.

Emerald27

theresat858 said:

Mobile love tits decided to stop working. Doesn't mean I don't love your adorable photos.

I don't understand people who think newborns don't need many baths. I gave dd2 a bath last night and by 2 hours later she already smelled like sour milk again. These other babies must not spit up as much as mine...

DS spits up occasionally, but it usually doesn't get on him...just everywhere else.

He's had 2 baths per week and isn't stinky or milky, or maybe I'm just too tired to notice? His hairline is receding, though, despite his lack of baths. DS1 lost all the hair on the top of his head in one bath, so I've been very very careful with the hair washing on this kid. :-<

Emerald27

I, on the other hand, am suddenly super smelly and need a shower like every two hours. Deodorant doesn't work. I'm always sweaty and gross. I'm thinking hormones are to blame?


I swear every time this kid wakes up he's bigger. He looks like a completely different baby than I brought home. DS1 gained so slowly and was so tiny - this is so different. He was born in October and was in NB clothes through Christmas (granted, he started in premie size). Watching a baby grow at a normal rate is incredible!

savicke2009

DreadGamerWife said:

Watching 19 kids a with C on my lap. I admit, I am tearing up watching the wedding episode and thinking about C getting married in 25ish years.

Omg! Me too.. all the tears over here

windwithfingers

Cantisa said:

crawford411 said:

Emerald27 said:

I, on the other hand, am suddenly super smelly and need a shower like every two hours. Deodorant doesn't work. I'm always sweaty and gross. I'm thinking hormones are to blame?


I swear every time this kid wakes up he's bigger. He looks like a completely different baby than I brought home. DS1 gained so slowly and was so tiny - this is so different. He was born in October and was in NB clothes through Christmas (granted, he started in premie size). Watching a baby grow at a normal rate is incredible!

I stink too.

Ditto!!!

Me too.

Emerald27

So glad I'm not the only smelly smelly over here! \:D/


Had an interesting nursing in public experience this evening. Went to Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner and was nursing fairly discreetly in our booth. Was STARED at by a couple waiters and a few of the patrons in the restaurant. I'm used to people doing a double take. I mean, it's not too often that you see someone NIP, but most people go on with their business or even blush and actively look away. These men didn't stop looking. How weird and uncomfortable...thankfully, DH didn't notice. I just pretended not to see them and continued with my meal/conversation.

windwithfingers

And we are cluster feeding.

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So the doc appointment I had this afternoon... OB checked me, I'm 4cm dilated and 100% effaced. She did a membrane sweep (ouch!) and I've been cramping ever since. They don't hurt that badly though, just uncomfortable. Should I take a shower tonight in anticipation of going to the hospital, or am I being over eager here? I just want to be squeaky clean and prepared if it's about to go down!

Jesslynnsell

@crawford411 @windwithfingers‌ thank you so much! I have him in a swaddle me wrap, he seems cooler and he is sleeping soundly. Mom and DH have him and I am getting a couple hours sleep till next feeding.

Emerald27

@erawka‌ DS1 was exactly the same. DH spent lots of time cuddling him in the evenings because he was pretty much inconsolable. He cluster fed too, which is normal since prolactin is lower in the evenings.

Babies are often fussy in the evenings because after a full day of stimulation they're just DONE. Sometimes daddys just have that skip in their step or that loud heartbeat or low voice/hum that will make all the difference in calming LO.

Skin to skin can help calm baby in the evenings too, as can getting moving with baby in your arms or in a carrier, or even sometimes in the stroller.

narabug

I've been super stinky too. My deodorant barely touches it. And I sweat way more than I used to.

savicke2009

Im stinky too.. and I havent given the baby a bath since her first night after being born.... her umbilical cord stump fell off last night and I planned to give her a bath tonight, but we didn't get home from applebees till like 830 soooooooo I didn't.. sorry dirty baby

[Deleted User]

Well, I pooped and already feel less crampy than before. Shoot.

[Deleted User]

When does your vagina feel normal again?

windwithfingers

apk4 said:

When does your vagina feel normal again?

Since I asked this question too early on, I want to say that at 4w2d postpartum, my vag feels completely back to normal. But I'd say it took 3 weeks or so for everything to stop feeling off.

Emerald27

apk4 said:

When does your vagina feel normal again?

Mine already seems normal this time around, but I didn't tear at all. With my first, I did have a tear and a couple stitches, and I think it took at least a month if not all 6 weeks before my pp appt to feel normal.

[Deleted User]

At least there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I had internal tears and an episiotomy and all I want is a normal feeling vagina again.

MrsSarahRenee

Speaking of back to normal... Did anyone have foot swelling from labor/pitocin/fluids? I swear they got worse today. Ow!
What can I do for them and when did the swelling go down?

MollyC20

SSFC2014 said:

I think we found a solution to part of our sleep issues. Kasey slept for over 2 hours in his carseat. That's the longest stretch he's done at night since we got home.

Just be careful with leaving them in the car seat! Read in the news a while back of a baby who died in car seat because their airway was blocked when their head was drooped.

sabby2

keelyd said:

crawford411 said:

Emerald27 said:

I, on the other hand, am suddenly super smelly and need a shower like every two hours. Deodorant doesn't work. I'm always sweaty and gross. I'm thinking hormones are to blame?


I swear every time this kid wakes up he's bigger. He looks like a completely different baby than I brought home. DS1 gained so slowly and was so tiny - this is so different. He was born in October and was in NB clothes through Christmas (granted, he started in premie size). Watching a baby grow at a normal rate is incredible!

I stink too.

add me to that list...

Me too.

AmandaJean12

MrsSarahRenee said:

Speaking of back to normal... Did anyone have foot swelling from labor/pitocin/fluids? I swear they got worse today. Ow! What can I do for them and when did the swelling go down?

Yup! It was probably a good 10+ days before I woke up and discovered I had ankles again. I can finally wear shoes that aren't flip flops and it's amazing. 

Try sleeping with them up on a pillow so they're elevated. That helped. And when they super hurt I wrapped them in cold wet hand towels to bring the swelling down.

MuffinMom14

erawka said:

Ok, I need to know if I'm alone in this...

As I've mentioned, DD is a terrible daytime napper. She'll be OK in the mornings, but has giant meltdowns and cluster feeds during the "witching hours," or early evenings. I have the hardest time soothing her during this time. DH, on the other hand, will swoop in and she'll pass out in 2 seconds on his chest.

I hate to admit it but I'm jealous of this. Seriously, it breaks my heart. Am I the only person who this happens to?! Is it because she can smell the boobs or something? Or maybe it's just the change of pace from the daytime?

A loves my unicorn husband. Couldn't give two mustard yellow seedy shits about me.

MuffinMom14

MrsSarahRenee said:

Speaking of back to normal... Did anyone have foot swelling from labor/pitocin/fluids? I swear they got worse today. Ow!
What can I do for them and when did the swelling go down?

I looked like I had a fat suit for at least a week.

MuffinMom14

Is there a huge thing with newborn pacis vs. Others? I only ask because I have a bunch and they don't say what they are. The only ones I remember that said newborn on the pack are the soothies (meh) and a nuk (loves it). I have some nubys that look similar to the nuk. I just have no idea what size they are because I'm dumb and I opened the pack and didn't pay attention.