Prayer needed for one of the babies

babymillerontheway

Thank u

jnowosielski

Cheese?

bakingmama123

jnowosielski I am all about those first 3 gifs, but that last one just made me sick.  :-&

jnowosielski

I'm sorry @bakingmama123

Does this make up for it??

Lark425

thejucheidea

I work 50-55 hours a week and take 12 credit hours. I haven't been able to take lunch more than once a month since October, and my lunches average about 7-10 minutes. We don't get breaks because patient load makes it impossible.

I think you're being a trolly little baby.

bdazzld

thejucheidea said:

I work 50-55 hours a week and take 12 credit hours. I haven't been able to take lunch more than once a month since October, and my lunches average about 7-10 minutes. We don't get breaks because patient load makes it impossible.

I think you're being a trolly little baby.

She probably won't come check the thread but every pregnancy is different and if she's feeling physically overwhelmed that's a legitimate feeling. 

I'm struggling to work 40 hours a week atm and without my breaks my feet would be even more swollen and my headaches worse as well as my carpal tunnel--so yeah I'd be PO'd if they took my breaks. 

If she's legally allowed breaks she should be getting them and she's carrying twins--some of the twin expectant moms have been told they can't even do anything more strenuous than walk around the block for exercise so carrying ladders etc probably not awesome. 

marissalucia

I know she probably won't be back, but just wanted to add that I empathize. I usually only work 40-45 hours a week, but lately by Wednesday/Thursday I'm just so overwhelmed and exhausted, and have little to no patience. This week i will be working 75 hours. After 12 hours today, I'm now in bed, I'm so much pain, and having been fighting tears for hours now. I've always had bad knees and back, and being pregnant and working all day the pain in both is ridiculous right now. I'm planning on asking my boss if I can go down to working 35 hours. Yes I need the money, but idk if it's worth the stress and exhaustion.

finallyourturn2

I sort of empathize...I'm a teacher(our 15 min breaks aren't a legal right), I work 50+ hours a week (no paid overtime), I'm a full time grad student, and I'm pregnant with twins. It's tough, but you see your other option and don't like it so you kind of have to suck it up. On the lifting, it's early so lifting shouldn't be an issue unless your doctor specifically said no or it's causing pain. Mine said all of my regular activities are fine, and there are plenty of women who have moved while pregnant.

skatergrl

I wonder what state she lives in. 15 minute breaks aren't required by federal law (except for nursing mothers if your company meets the requirements) - not even lunch breaks or bathroom breaks. Only about 20 states require meal breaks and even fewer states require non-meal breaks. Surely HR would have told her that when she went to them if her state didn't require them but the fact that they weren't concerned made me wonder...

Haps92907

I would suggest talking with your doctor about the ways in which you feel your job is too strenuous. If she feels you need restrictions, get a note. If your work place can't accommodate medically necessary restrictions, you may have to go on disability. I agree that your health and the health of the babies needs to come first, but your doc may be able to reassure you that some of the things you are worried about are actually ok to do. Or maybe not. Either way, you're better off with a doctor supporting what you need.

Be prepared t just deal with people being mad at you about restrictions. Justified or not, people tend to respond that way, and you just have to prioritize your and your babies needs over others' feelings

wishiwaspreggo

Yeah, breaks aren't necessarily required by law, but they could be written into the HR policy where she works.  If it's policy they should grant her the breaks but I doubt there would be any legal recourse.  Employers have us by our necks and we have very few rights which is sad but... 'Merica!

The cheese looks delicious, even the 4th gif.  I can just imagine sopping up that gooey cheese with a warm, soft roll fresh from the oven.  *drool*

Ashlee692

babymillerontheway said:

Hey guys I have some concerns I'm about 18 weeks and being pregnant with twins and working 40 hrs a week is really stressing me out. I have talked to my hr director because of cuts in my employees hours my boss has kinda stoped scheduling our 15 min breaks. I need them and it's required by law. But hr didn't seem concerned when I talked to them. They said they would look into it. I try to tell my boss I can't lift certain things and she rolls her eyes or if I need to get something down now I feel pressured to just get the ladder myself so I won't get my boss mad. Idk what to do I don't want to quit because of my benefits. But I want my babies safe.

Well do what you feel is right and go with what your doctor recommends your work load should be. I know that my OB said that she didn't want me working as much because I am required to lift and restrain dogs that may be over 50lbs, And I'm only having a singleton. I also don't get lunch breaks or get a chance to sit down lol It seems to be okay though, as a tip I usually just sneak to the bathroom and scarf down lunch.

babymillerontheway

Thanks for everyone who has supported me . I haven't been on because I was very very ill the past week or so . I have a Docters appt today pray it goes well. I really thank everyone who was nice. And people who weren't ... Well I am happy your pregnancy is going well u guys r very lucky

babymillerontheway

And I live in california

skatergrl

That's great that you live in California. They have some of the strictest rules for employers when it comes to breaks for employees. You do have the legal right for a break and a lunch break (depending on how many hours/day your work). I'm shocked your HR department wouldn't have jumped on that so I would recommend you stay on top of them about it and forget what your supervisor perhaps says or does. You are protected and have the right to those breaks. Good luck.

babymillerontheway

I'm full time . I run my own department. But ya I'm working on it for sure. She seems to be getting better I think hr did talk to her , and it really has nothing to do with the hours it has to do with the physical part of my job. But praying and talking about it helps. Thank u for all the feedback

babymillerontheway

Until recently I haven't been able to work my app on my phone very well. And thanks for starting a bully fest against me.....

kellbell1982

I was serving in the Navy as a frickin boatswains mate during my whole pregnancy with dd so I have zero sympathy sorry not sorry

babymillerontheway

Thank u for serving our country

kellbell1982

Now I feel bad lol you'll be fine and work makes it go way faster in my opinion cause I'm not working now and it kinda blows

babymillerontheway

Love working always have. I think that I'm just one of those people who have a hard pregnancy I have seen some who have had high risk so there on bed rest and I see some that it's like nothing has changed. Hoping to find out what is going on today . but thanks I really hope I can stay working I want my bonuses lol

jnowosielski

I will not apologize for cheese.

RMama2012

kellbell1982 said:

I was serving in the Navy as a frickin boatswains mate during my whole pregnancy with dd so I have zero sympathy sorry not sorry

It's great that you felt well enough to do this or were able to make it through but you're assuming every pregnancy is the same as yours.  I don't know the details of your pregnancy but some people really can't get through work or other typical daily activities. 

I was lucky in both pregnancies so far but the different in the 2 made me realize how different pregnancies can be from one to the next.

ngolimento

babymillerontheway said:

Until recently I haven't been able to work my app on my phone very well. And thanks for starting a bully fest against me.....

Obviously you've never actually been bullied, or you would not grossly misuse the word like this. That's like comparing yourself to someone dying of cancer when you have a sprained ankle. Treat the issue with more respect.

MrsPope1770

kellbell1982 said:

I was serving in the Navy as a frickin boatswains mate during my whole pregnancy with dd so I have zero sympathy sorry not sorry

Would you like a cookie? I would offer you some of mine but I've eaten them all!

I am stuck at home unable to work due to bedrest--with a singleton..right at 15 weeks. Can't imagine working with twins, in a job that requires physical exertion, at 18 weeks without breaks! I WISH that I could be at work, I loathe sitting at home and not even being able to do housework...does that make me someone you wouldn't sympathize too?

Appreciate your service, but that doesn't make you stronger or better than anyone else.

MrsPope1770

@babymillerontheway‌ just like pp's have said, know your rights and don't allow anyone to make you feel like you can't do what is best for you and your baby.

kellbell1982

MrsPope1770 said:

kellbell1982 said:

I was serving in the Navy as a frickin boatswains mate during my whole pregnancy with dd so I have zero sympathy sorry not sorry

Would you like a cookie? I would offer you some of mine but I've eaten them all!

I am stuck at home unable to work due to bedrest--with a singleton..right at 15 weeks. Can't imagine working with twins, in a job that requires physical exertion, at 18 weeks without breaks! I WISH that I could be at work, I loathe sitting at home and not even being able to do housework...does that make me someone you wouldn't sympathize too?

Appreciate your service, but that doesn't make you stronger or better than anyone else.

Sure you got any chocolate chip?

kellbell1982

MrsPope1770 said:

kellbell1982 said:

I was serving in the Navy as a frickin boatswains mate during my whole pregnancy with dd so I have zero sympathy sorry not sorry

Would you like a cookie? I would offer you some of mine but I've eaten them all!

I am stuck at home unable to work due to bedrest--with a singleton..right at 15 weeks. Can't imagine working with twins, in a job that requires physical exertion, at 18 weeks without breaks! I WISH that I could be at work, I loathe sitting at home and not even being able to do housework...does that make me someone you wouldn't sympathize too?

Appreciate your service, but that doesn't make you stronger or better than anyone else.

I spent plenty of time with this pregnancy on bed rest and I have a child with special needs that I couldn't take care of so do I win the sympathy contest cause no I actually don't feel sorry for you plenty of people have it worse and you don't hear them complaining. I'm sorry you are having problems but don't act like you're the only one

MrsPope1770

I'm not complaining at all guys. I didn't mean for it to come across that way, I was just saying that some people don't have perfect pregnancies and/or don't have the ability to work at that kind of job. I'm not asking for sympathy---I was making a point. I know that people have tough pregnancies---never expected to be one of them, but here I am.

@tunnel‌ I have a subchorionic hematoma and have had heavy bleeding. Been on it since 12w3d and unless the specialist says something different on Friday I will be on it until at least 10/14. Technically it's "modified", but my doctor basically said you can shower and walk to the bathroom or move the couch--nothing else.

kellbell1982

MrsPope1770 said:

I'm not complaining at all guys. I didn't mean for it to come across that way, I was just saying that some people don't have perfect pregnancies and/or don't have the ability to work at that kind of job. I'm not asking for sympathy---I was making a point. I know that people have tough pregnancies---never expected to be one of them, but here I am.

@tunnel‌ I have a subchorionic hematoma and have had heavy bleeding. Been on it since 12w3d and unless the specialist says something different on Friday I will be on it until at least 10/14. Technically it's "modified", but my doctor basically said you can shower and walk to the bathroom or move the couch--nothing else.

No hard feelings at all and I truly hope your pregnancy progresses in the healthiest way possible and that your sch clears up fast, good luck

MrsPope1770

@kellbell1982‌ thanks! It's scary but trying to take it one day at a time!

jnowosielski

Now I am going to have to get myself a cookie

MrsPope1770

Really not sure what you guys are getting at, since I made it abundantly clear that I was not complaining/asking for sympathy--that I was making a point. Just the same as several other pp's, I just used my personal situation as an example.

Let me clarify, one more time, that I was in no way trying to talk about my own situation in a way that would make my pregnancy worse/more "painful" than anyone else's. I was making the point that just because someone made it through their pregnancy without a hitch doesn't mean that they can criticize another person who isn't.

MrsPope1770

{tucking tail}

kellbell1982

Edited cause I just got it

wendyld

kellbell1982 said:

Is it me cause I don't think working while pregnant is a big deal nor do I think anyone was bullied in this thread? I was being sarcastic when I said do I win the sympathy contest, I'm not even sure if this is about me I doubt it cause I didn't say anything that would qualify as pain Olympics but if it is I truly didn't mean to offend anyone

Holy run-on sentence, Batman! Yes, I do think you were playing a game of one-upmanship here (and that's not exactly a first). Your experiences don't invalidate the experiences other people have.

kellbell1982

Yeah I still feel like the op was overly dramatic, maybe it came off the wrong way but all I was trying to point out is that tons of women on this board and in this world work super physical jobs while pregnant. Just trying to point out that it is possible to be pregnant and work wasn't trying to offend anyone and I'm truly sorry if I did.