The motherthread of hormonal bitching!!

arynras

BrittP10 said:

I've gained a total of ten pounds this pregnancy . It just happened to all he in the past four weeks. My doctor told me to lay off the carbs today. I bought a donut right after my appointment and cried while I are it. Not my proudest moment .

OMG! Yes! I've gained 14 pounds total and I'm almost 7 months. My doctor told me to be careful I'm not eating for 2. Are you kidding me?! I have tried to be so conscientious about how I'm eating because I was overweight to begin with. According to this weight gain calculator thing I downloaded I'm still in a healthy range from where I started and how far along I am. I wanted to eat 10 poptarts after she told me that just to be like...watch me!!!

argyledogs

arynras said:

BrittP10 said:

I've gained a total of ten pounds this pregnancy . It just happened to all he in the past four weeks. My doctor told me to lay off the carbs today. I bought a donut right after my appointment and cried while I are it. Not my proudest moment .

OMG! Yes! I've gained 14 pounds total and I'm almost 7 months. My doctor told me to be careful I'm not eating for 2. Are you kidding me?! I have tried to be so conscientious about how I'm eating because I was overweight to begin with. According to this weight gain calculator thing I downloaded I'm still in a healthy range from where I started and how far along I am. I wanted to eat 10 poptarts after she told me that just to be like...watch me!!!

Both of those weight gains are totally normal! Asshole doctors. I started out overweight and one doctor told me not to gain more than 10 lbs total... uhhh, no. Baby plus blood plus placenta plus boobs is more than 10.

All the doctors clearly expected me to gain 50+ pounds. They made me go to a dietician, a cardiologist who literally rolled his eyes that they sent me there, etc.

Jokes on them, I'm up less than 7 pounds.

BayCamp

A friend and his wife are coming to stay with us in mid-February when they come to town. Now this is a guy I was friends with in college and even was in our wedding, the first thing he says is "you'd better find an over night baby sitter so we can smoke" ummmm... No? This isn't college, and I'm not leaving my infant at someone else's house so I can smoke pot with you. Even if I was comfortable with that, I'll be breast feeding. I don't think they make test strips for THC in breast milk! And this guy and his wife are TTC, I think they need to grow up a bit first (or at least he does, she's lovely)

leoandethansmom

BayCamp said:

A friend and his wife are coming to stay with us in mid-February when they come to town. Now this is a guy I was friends with in college and even was in our wedding, the first thing he says is "you'd better find an over night baby sitter so we can smoke" ummmm... No? This isn't college, and I'm not leaving my infant at someone else's house so I can smoke pot with you. Even if I was comfortable with that, I'll be breast feeding. I don't think they make test strips for THC in breast milk! And this guy and his wife are TTC, I think they need to grow up a bit first (or at least he does, she's lovely)

OMG! On a similar note my best friend is TTC with her husband and they party every weekend. By party I mean get shit faced, do coke, and smoke weed. She complains to me every month when she gets her period that she just doesn't understand why it's so hard for them (granted they've been trying for 2 months, not long at all) but I just tell her over and over again that the choices she's making on the weekends are not exactly making a good home for a possible embryo. It is infuriating, she needs to grow up.

argyledogs

@baycamp @leosmom25

Wow. There aren't words. 

I guess not taking folic acid before the pregnancy wasn't the worst thing I could do! Hahaha

Shortstack06

On the weight gain, my doctor's office gave me a break down and the amount of weight to gain is like 26.5 lbs but depending on height, age, and over all health not being taken into consideration, this is a breakdown they gave me.

Baby 7.5 lbs
Placenta 1.5 lbs
Amniotic fluid 1.75 lbs
Uterine Enlargement 2 lbs
Maternal breast tissue 1 lb
Maternal blood volume 2.75 lbs
Fluids in maternal tissue 3 lbs
Maternal fat 7 lbs

arynras

jessblair101 said:

I'm getting really annoyed with people making snide remarks when they ask why i didn't answer my phone or a text and I tell them oh I'm sorry I was tired so I had a nap! I'm tired of the oh you can't be that tired your barely pregnant, or you think when that baby comes you'll just be able to drop everything and go for a nap! Like seriously screw off! Or when someone asks me to go our but I'm not feeling g good or in sore or just plain not in the mood to go out getting the quit using your pregnancy as an excuse your not the only pregnant woman in the world!! It's like seriously go away! I don't complain about being pregnant because it was a miracle that we got pregnant in the first place but seriously u can shove your opinions up your ass people!!!!

I could not agree with this more. Especially when it's people who have never been pregnant...how can you possibly know how I'm feeling asshole? Just let me curl up and bed and watch Law and Order okay?!

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designchica

 Baby daddy has contacted me about 8 times in the past week and not ONCE has he asked me how my pregnancy is going, how is my placenta, is it healed, etc.   Nothing.  Sure, he tells me he misses me and our LO, but he has not so much as asked me how I am feeling,  how has my doctor appointments gone.  NOTHING. Yet, he took the time to tell me what a mistake I made in ending the relationship, etc.   But no questions about the pregnancy or my heath.  And I am so pissed that he gets to do NOTHING while I run around trying to find daycares that still have a space open,  go to doctor appointments,  try to negotiate with my job to get some time off after the baby is born, and work full time ON MY FEET ALL DAY while 24 weeks pregnant!!!!     I am so PISSED at MYSELF for having reproduced with a man who is completely unreliable and self-centered.  For someone who supposedly wants to be  a "very active part" of LO's life, he is showing no genuine interest in this pregnancy.     I have people I hardly even know who show more interest in how my pregnancy is progressing than he does! 

BayCamp

@designchica‌ further proof that you made the right decision. I hate that he's only paying lip-service to you in the daddy department, but your baby will be lucky to have you!

ninee88

Thanks @3girlsnthepup. He did get it in gear and today wasn't nearly as bad as I dreaded. Glad your heartburn is better!

nopegoat

Making my boys pick up their toys has become the bane of my existence. Why must it take 2hrs to clean up a bin full of hotwheels? Why?!!!

I just couldn't even do it anymore. I grabbed a bowl of pistachios, a full glass of ice water and told my H to just deal with it. O.M.G. 

hollycn

kdm06c said:

Making my boys pick up their toys has become the bane of my existence. Why must it take 2hrs to clean up a bin full of hotwheels? Why?!!!

I just couldn't even do it anymore. I grabbed a bowl of pistachios, a full glass of ice water and told my H to just deal with it. O.M.G. 

With my SO's 2 kids (3&11)... I absolutely have to be a part of the clean up. It's enough for me that they are willing to pitch in, but heaven forbid I let them do it alone... They'd never get it done!

feeshah

H chewing with his mouth open.

Chomp...chomp...CHOMP...CHOMP!!!

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!

He caught me staring at him with a hint of murder in my eyes. He said it was cuz of the peanutbutter in his sandwich and he would stop.

He's lucky he is sexy. (And he feeds me)

BayCamp

DH invited our best "couple" friend over to watch football tonight. It's his team vs his friends team. Awesome, no big deal. Somehow this has morphed in to having 10 people over to watch this game in our tiny apartment. Now I feel like I need to clean the whole house since people I barely know will be here, and he left me with a shopping list for the additional food we'll need. Grrrrrrr...... I know I have a million things to do, but for now I'm bumping in protest.

hellopartyof5

BayCamp said:

DH invited our best "couple" friend over to watch football tonight. It's his team vs his friends team. Awesome, no big deal. Somehow this has morphed in to having 10 people over to watch this game in our tiny apartment. Now I feel like I need to clean the whole house since people I barely know will be here, and he left me with a shopping list for the additional food we'll need. Grrrrrrr...... I know I have a million things to do, but for now I'm bumping in protest.

MH loves to do this.  We were going to have a small xmas party this past year.  How many people got invited? 67!!!!! Thank god there was a huge snow storm so we only ended up having around 35.  Did I mention we live in a 1600 sqft house?  Not huge by any means.  It also has 4 bedrooms so there's not that many common areas.

nopegoat

@hollycn‌ our deal with the boys is they have to start and do a good job (no reminding them to keep cleaning and no fighting/talking back) and then we will help.

If they are putting forth a good effort I don't mind helping, if they are turds they get no pity or help from me lol.

BayCamp

@nauticallife‌ I'd kill, that is sooo many people!! Lol but really I love having people over, I'm just a planner and don't like to be rushing around on the day of. Especially when he's at work all day.

hellopartyof5

@baycamp honestly? It was our first party which was what really got to me. When we bought this house we came from a 500 sqft apartment.  Soooo I was freaking out.  My anxiety went into overdrive lol.

nopegoat

I have my 3hr gtt tomorrow. H was suppose to be off so I didn't have to take the boys with me. He had an emergency call and had to go out to a ship yesterday and was suppose to be home tonight. I haven't heard from him at all today and I am starting to get pissed. I know it comes with the job, but dammit I need to mentally prepare myself if I am going to have to take the boys to this appointment, freaking answer my text dude!!!!

feeshah

DH wants to "Do it" again

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agsgrrl

I feel like shit today, I'm tired and feel like fainting. Chugging all the water today!

abcmom12

feeshah said:

DH wants to "Do it" again (

@Feeshah, send him to that special store every city has at least one of to buy himself a "girlfriend" as I call it.  at this point, a fake va-jayjay is better than a prego lady suffering through the act and refusing to put out!

CandaceC1020

I have a fucking cold.  I can't breathe through my nose.  I'm a snotty mess and carrying around a box of tissues.  Couldn't sleep last night even though I had a vaporizer on my nightstand and three pillows under my head to keep me propped up.  Stupid freaking cold.

agsgrrl

My mother is driving me fucking crazy. I get chewed out for buying anything at all for the baby because she seems to think everybody else is going to buy everything. Um no. That was #1 on things I got yelled at in public for just now. I bought a hat on clearance by the way.
#2 at the self checkout, I finished my transaction fast and saw that she was digging through her coupons. Machine has a button you push to alert cashier that you have coupons. I push it. A normal persons response would be "thanks" but no. I get yelled at "I don't need that! Don't help me, I'm not retarded" X( I've asked her repeatedly to stop using that word. The last time I asked couldn't have been more than a week ago. I just grabbed my things and left. Apparently I've embarrassed HER.
I am still fuming.

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leoandethansmom

Being the manager of a staff of about 90 people is bound to bring some unwanted conversations, but I swear if ONE more person asks me today if I'm ready to "pop" yet, I'm going to get fucking violent. No, I'm not ready to pop mother trucker, I have 3 months left and NO I'M NOT HAVING TWINS. I effing hate you and you're stupid.

irish2014

@slaps I would be livid too... Besides, how does he expect to be involved in a kid's life telling you? Freaking ridic. I hope he didn't tell them not to tell you, that's the worst.

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feeshah

abcmom12 said:

feeshah said:

DH wants to "Do it" again (

@Feeshah, send him to that special store every city has at least one of to buy himself a "girlfriend" as I call it.  at this point, a fake va-jayjay is better than a prego lady suffering through the act and refusing to put out!

He has one (or two?) of those things tucked away but I realize its not the same as the real thing….So I put out. 

CandEChicago

Slaps said:

I am livid!
After 20 yrs of nothing, it would seem my ex husband has decided to contact my two older kids, and how do I find out, pictures of him with them tagged on it, I am so angry.
That they didn't tell me, and the fact that as they are friends of mine on fb if they tag me or pictures of N he can see, so I have deleted my kids off my fb and it's now getting deactivated.

@Slaps‌ - just saw this and I would be pissed as well.

jessikarr

JRod13 said:

So H just came up and took my granola bar (the sweet and salty kind) out of my hand and took a bite of it....then handed it back like nothing happened. I think I blacked out for a second. Why the fuck would you literally take food out of a pregnant woman's hand? He's lost his damn mind.

Hahaha blacked out.. Mine does this all the time... I've never felt so defensive about something before, and about food- like GET YER OWN! ugh the rage is hilarious though.
We laugh about it after the fact. Well, I do. Lol

leoandethansmom

amw0914 said:

@Slaps‌ that's awful! I'm sorry and I know it sucks. My sisters douchebag sperm donor just tried to contact my 14y old niece through social media and it FREAKED HER OUT! He hasn't seen her since she was 6 months old and had given up all parental rights. Some people suck a lot. @leosmom25‌ I'm there with you. We have ~140 employees of which approximately 125 are female. Talk about a good freaking emotional time with a ton of "wow are you sure you can go until December?"

Is it worse because the people saying this shit to me are MEN? Ugh. And I'm officially in the men's uniform shirt for work, my female shirts are midriffs now. I want to hide in a cave.

smack427

My mom is a good person, bless her heart... But today she said something to the effect of how much my hips and ass were spreading and how hard it's going to be to get back down to my pre-preggo size. My mouth literally dropped and I just looked at her trying not to use some colorful language. People can really say some stupid stuff.

smack427

Also, has anyone had issues with their MIL not being into shopping? Mine came with us earlier this week and did not buy a single thing for my child. Is there something you STMs can tell me about how your mothers were more into your LO than your MIL?

CandEChicago

smack427 said:

Also, has anyone had issues with their MIL not being into shopping? Mine came with us earlier this week and did not buy a single thing for my child. Is there something you STMs can tell me about how your mothers were more into your LO than your MIL?

You are upset since MIL didn't buy anything for the LO? I would not expect my MIL to buy anything.

Maybe MIL wanted to spend quality time with you? Maybe MIL has something else planned? If people (parents, ILs, etc) want to give you a gift that is fine but it irks me that it seems you expected MIL to buy you/LO something during a shopping trip.

Just because she didn't buy anything does not indicate a lack of interest in your LO.

CandEChicago

@gradschoolmom1234‌ - I am sorry that is a crappy night.

leoandethansmom

CandEChicago said:

smack427 said:

Also, has anyone had issues with their MIL not being into shopping? Mine came with us earlier this week and did not buy a single thing for my child. Is there something you STMs can tell me about how your mothers were more into your LO than your MIL?

You are upset since MIL didn't buy anything for the LO? I would not expect my MIL to buy anything.

Maybe MIL wanted to spend quality time with you? Maybe MIL has something else planned? If people (parents, ILs, etc) want to give you a gift that is fine but it irks me that it seems you expected MIL to buy you/LO something during a shopping trip.

Just because she didn't buy anything does not indicate a lack of interest in your LO.

Yeah @CandEChicago‌ I'm with you on this one. Gifts aren't mandatory and to be of the belief they are is very rude.

hellopartyof5

smack427 said:

Also, has anyone had issues with their MIL not being into shopping? Mine came with us earlier this week and did not buy a single thing for my child. Is there something you STMs can tell me about how your mothers were more into your LO than your MIL?

It's no one else's job to provide for your baby. Neither my parents nor my husbands parents have offered/ bought anything, and I don't expect them too. If they want to buy a present for the shower cool. If not, they've offered to be daycare after baby is here and that is awesome. You sound kind of spoilt and entitled. I'm sure you didn't mean it like that, just wanted to let you know that's what that came off like.

smack427

CandEChicago said:

smack427 said:

Also, has anyone had issues with their MIL not being into shopping? Mine came with us earlier this week and did not buy a single thing for my child. Is there something you STMs can tell me about how your mothers were more into your LO than your MIL?

You are upset since MIL didn't buy anything for the LO? I would not expect my MIL to buy anything.

Maybe MIL wanted to spend quality time with you? Maybe MIL has something else planned? If people (parents, ILs, etc) want to give you a gift that is fine but it irks me that it seems you expected MIL to buy you/LO something during a shopping trip.

Just because she didn't buy anything does not indicate a lack of interest in your LO.

Maybe I should have mentioned that I had a pass for her to come with us to a market that I signed up for in July. She was my guest. She walked around without me for an hour or two and showed no interest the entire time. My mom and I showed her several things and she turned her nose up. My mom was offended too that she was acting very stand-offish and not participating in the market with us.