Am I being a bitch?

mrshudson618

I am super pissed at DH right now which is pretty rare because he is awesome. But I am honestly not sure if I am being hormonal and over-reacting or if he is the duche in the situation.

Last night he left work a little early and came home and went to sleep because he wasn't feeling well, and now C got up early and DH asked me to take him so he can sleep in ( he has the day off today). Fine right? Poor guy isn't feeling well.

Well, last night he woke up from his nap at 10 so he could randomly go to the Casino with some of his friends.
Dude. You either get to be sick and let me deal with they baby by myself all evening and morning OR you get to go waste money and hang out with your friends, not both.

I would let him sleep in any other day off even if he was feeling fine, but today I really want to go wake him up just because I am pissed that he went out last night.

Am I being stupid?

TugboatSheila

I don't think you are being unreasonable to be upset by this.

If DH wanted to go to the Casino, leaving you alone with your child, it would be different if it had been something he brought up to you several days ago to make sure everything was fine. After all, moms and dads both need a few hours to blow off steam. 

If he came home sick and slept, leaving you to take care of your child, then left to go to the Casino, I'd be upset too. You are partners and caregivers, not babysitters for the other person. 

mrshudson618

He did tell me before hand, I just assumed that when he left work early and came home to sleep that he wasn't going anymore. He planned the time he was going so he could do some things around the house and be there for bedtime before he left. But he slept instead.

flummadiddle85

I'd be pissed too, but I'm also a PG B* about everything.

littleredfish

If you're a bitch, then I'm a bitch because I'd be annoyed too. If he is well enough to go out to the Casino all night with his buddies he is well enough to take care of his kid, especially since he had the next day off to recoup from both.

km_md

Exactly what @esd said.

Amores0121

No, you are not being a bitch. Totally valid reason to be pissed. If you are sick and that's the reason you're sleeping and can't help out with the kids/around the house, then why would you get up to go out with friends?

I'd be waking his ass up! 

mrshudson618

Thanks guys. Sometimes I am seriously nuts and I really don't know I I am being unreasonable or not.

zaraceligon

I will be mad too. But after an argument the I have with him I learn the is pointless to be mad for things like that, specially if he tell my the he is going out with his friends. When those thing happen I always tell him ok, but You need to buy whatever I want. I usually made an agreement when things like the happen. On the other hand why I should be so mad at him, when he is the one the cares and provides for my and his kids. I cannot be so selfish and not let him have his time, when he always is at home and working hard for us.

YellowLily2013

I'd give him C and have some alone time out shopping or whatever.

mrshudson618

I actually think part of the reason I am mad is that my sisters wedding is tomorrow and rehearsal today so we are SUPER busy, and he really can't be sick so he should have stayed in bed and slept to get well. If he is still sick today I am going to blame him for going out.

Littledeer84

I would be mad. No doubt.