Who ever thought ice cream would be a tell all? #coldstoneftw

hullabalou

katnhiding said:

Dear Jr/Lovely/Librarian if you are able to lurk this post after being banned,

When you message me asking for names and I tell you no at least 4 times, then refuse to respond to you, that does not give you the right to convince someone to give you my FACEBOOK link and start to message me there. I've blocked you. Do not message me again. I'm making this public here on the boards so that if anyone else is feeling friendly and wants to pass on my personal information to her please fucking do not.

Whoa, Kat...what an invasion of privacy. So obviously there are people on her 'side' who are helping her out...I just don't get it. Why?

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BankerBSN

ScrappyLika said:

Let me just say that IDGAF if you are someone's best friend that just got caught up in all her lies...you DO NOT give that person someone else's IRL name so they can message them. WTF just happened...? Definitely watch who you worship around these parts. CLE said it best.

I have a feeling there are going to be a lot of avatars changing soon...

KingLED

byegurlbye said:

LindsRockies said:

B S C

This is DEFCON 5 threat-level orange batshit crazy.

Oh this is so fucked. Wow. Whoever gave Lovely Kat's FB information should just PTFO now because this shit WILL get out and it will not be cute.

I could guess who it was. 8-|

lizzyp9112

And that is why @katnhiding is a class fucking act.

nikiz628

katnhiding said:

I will quite happily keep my awesome avatar. I've handled the issue with the person who did it and I can kind of put myself into their shoes. I wanted to put it out there though for anyone else that she may contact to get a hold of me since she was being quite persistent.

@katnhiding- I am glad you handled it and that the person apologized. I don't think this needs to turn in to yet another witch hunt.

BankerBSN

byegurlbye said:

I will quite happily keep my awesome avatar. I've handled the issue with the person who did it and I can kind of put myself into their shoes. I wanted to put it out there though for anyone else that she may contact to get a hold of me since she was being quite persistent.

Ok but didn't this happen the last time she went off the deep end? She stalked people incessantly and wouldn't quit. Why is this person enabling that level of BSC? I don't have a single fuck to give if they're BFFs or not, you don't give out people's private information, PERIOD.

I would be losing my fucking shit if my personal info was handed out without my permission.  I don't give a fuck who gave it out, no forgiveness or empathy would be given.

AmandaLeeBest

chrain said:

BankerBSN said:

byegurlbye said:

I will quite happily keep my awesome avatar. I've handled the issue with the person who did it and I can kind of put myself into their shoes. I wanted to put it out there though for anyone else that she may contact to get a hold of me since she was being quite persistent.

Ok but didn't this happen the last time she went off the deep end? She stalked people incessantly and wouldn't quit. Why is this person enabling that level of BSC? I don't have a single fuck to give if they're BFFs or not, you don't give out people's private information, PERIOD.

I would be losing my fucking shit if my personal info was handed out without my permission.  I don't give a fuck who gave it out, no forgiveness or empathy would be given.

Well thankfully my FB profile is pretty locked down unless I add someone as a friend. They can see my cover photo and my picture and that's it. I don't even use my full name so she doesn't have that much information on me, but I don't want it becoming more. I swear if she gets a hold of my phone number...

All of that said, it appears it WAS necessary for me to post it here (and she is lurking, waves) because she managed to get a message to a completely different person for me to read.

------ Jaw drop. Whoa. Do you need a safe house?

I would let you come here... BUT NO ONE CAN KNOW WHERE I LIVE... You crazy peoples! lol

KingLED

katnhiding said:

I would suggest anyone that hasn't deleted/blocked her on SC to do so.

It's the whole friends of friends bullshit on FB that gives me the creeps.

divinemsbee

I'm just sitting here love-titting and sipping my rosé,  but there's a lot of WTF here, and every time I refresh it just gets F-ier.

I just don't get that if someone was coming back here after a total train wreck (and I was on the board, but not in chat for the Lovely/Librarian business) that they would start trying to get to know people IRL and get involved in all of that. Because when people start knowing you IRL, it's a lot harder to keep that shit under wraps. If you wanted support through your IF journey, it's really easy to get that support on the board. Maybe in anonymous chat if you felt the need. But once why on earth if you were trying to come back from something like that would you not just bury it. Or find another board.

It's times like this (and really, most all of the time) that I'm okay being a second or third string reg. I'm not saying that in a self-deprecating way, it's true and it's fine. I've never felt like I had to be something I wasn't to be here. Granted, there are a few people on the boards who know my real first name from PMs. And there are a very few (one's a reg here) who I was on another board with that know a fair amount about my life. And if there was a Southeast or Texas GTG, I'd probably go if I was invited. But, right now, I'm pretty happy with my level here. Noticeable, accepted as a part of the team, able to give and get advice, but not a 'cool kid'. I've been here in varying degrees for almost 18 months (the first 6ish were an occasionally participating lurker, I remember when Darcy first intro-ed), but I'm happy on the board.

That's not to say I don't really love this board. There are women on here that I would totally be friends with IRL, and (wine is making me super emotional) this board has been a total godsend to me over the past year. I have received a massive amount of support and love and I do truly feel cared about by my internet 'stranger' friends. And I feel all of this just by being on the board. This is not to say I'd never go RL with people (because I have nothing to lie about and haven't misrepresented myself on here), but it is to say that one can get all of that just by being on the board. So, to bring it back around, I don't understand the need to go off-board if you had something to hide in the first place.

Sorry for the wall, I have lots of feels and lots of wine.

BankerBSN

CaterinaC said:

So... This may be an silly question. How can she lurk if she is banned. Wouldn't she need to be under another AE?

This is a completely public board.  You do need to be a member to read it,  just to comment.

AmandaLeeBest

She is always watching .....

AmandaLeeBest

LindsRockies said:

Yep.  Taking my kids out of my siggy now.

Boo Linds, your kids are so cute. 

I understand though,

renbee

LindsRockies said:

Yep.  Taking my kids out of my siggy now.

Aww sad! They're sooo cute!

But also, totally understandable.

GirlOnTheBeach

byegurlbye said:

Ok I will say this and then I'm hauling my crampy ass to bed:

We are a sometimes hateful group of over sharing hoars but there are few absolutes that we stand by as a group besides whatever the TOS says and the one that has always been highest is "do not post/share IRL personal information" especially to people with a history of instability and stalkerish personalities.

Don't do it. This is a safe ass place for people to share otherwise mortifying things in semi-anonymity. Let's keep it that way.

This. I'm always so surprised how willingly people share their personal information here. We all know a lot of personal things about each other and I think that can lead people into a false sense of security. It's easy to feel that you "know" someone when you see their name popping up all the time.

At the end of the day, everything someone has told you about themselves could be a downright lie and how would you know? How would you feel safe enough to be sharing personal information back and forth? Even with Facebook, friending someone allows them access to your pictures, your friends, your family. It's a pretty steep risk in my opinion.

I love this board and all the information and humor here. It's great to learn from and support each other. But instead of moving these relationships to Facebook or getting to a point where I share personal information, I'd rather just keep posting gifs and love-titting things and sharing things that are safe enough to be on a public forum... But maybe I'm just paranoid. Especially after seeing all this unfold.

SCSmith2011

I'm so late to this but I'm glad it's over. Kudos to the people who started to piece this together.

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barely

I don't have time to read all of the comments right now because I have to go to work, so if this was already answered please ignore it. I'm also not up to date with all of the lovely drama because I came shortly after, so I might be missing something. So were you ever pregnant at all then? Because you told me that you had a miscarriage during a conversation in chat right after my loss. If you made that up, that's messed up.

suzysurparis

Wow, I miss one day with worky-work work work, and a whole drama explosion happens. It's gonna take me all weekend to figure out the backstory and what happened. Or I can get drunk and buy shoes. I do need new shoes.

MrsMCBMar2014

JFC I'm only on the bottom of page 3 and I'm wanting a drink now.  WOW.

almostamissus

*** dirty lurker here****

I read BOTH the threads. This is some seriously scary shit! So sorry you guys are going through this.

Pintobean39

Barely5feet said:

I don't have time to read all of the comments right now because I have to go to work, so if this was already answered please ignore it. I'm also not up to date with all of the lovely drama because I came shortly after, so I might be missing something. So were you ever pregnant at all then? Because you told me that you had a miscarriage during a conversation in chat right after my loss. If you made that up, that's messed up.

In oct/nov I was in chat in June BMB and she told me she was preg too. She was under a diff name but once everyone left she came clean to me about who she was.


Seriously she's obviously got some kind of mental sickness to constantly keep coming back and making up lies. She needs some serious help.

If she wanted to just come for support because of IF she would have just gone there introduced herself and stayed. Instead she came here and got all involved and pretended to be someone else. She's got a sickness.

Let me just say we have some awesome investigators here to figure all this out. I'm still trying to put it all together.

MrsMCBMar2014

What other thread is there? Am I missing something?

kellyrn9956

Lovely, you are like a freaking toddler that won't stay in time out. And like a middle schooler trying to fit in. I wouldn't be surprised if you are really a 12 year old boy IRL. 

First of all, the whole wanting to stay because of needing support through IF thing is bullshit. You could have recreated yourself and gone to 3T or IF (PLEASE don't really do that - wouldn't that be a nightmare...). There are also a million and one sites that you could go on other than TB. You wanted to be on TTGP because you wanted this very thing to happen. You crave attention. If you didn't want this to happen, you wouldn't have started telling people "one by one". You would have kept that shit under lock and key. 

Second of all, you have revictimized @snakefisherbub in your post AGAIN. If you truly were sorry, you would have just said, I'm sorry. Not rehashed the whole shitty thing all over again. Not nice. 

MrsMCBMar2014

ScrappyLika said:

What other thread is there? Am I missing something?

The thread got edited because it was a callout. It was only up for like 3 minutes before someone paged Darcy.

Ahhh gotcha. I miss everything when TB give me technical issues. I couldn't get in last night for some reason.  I blame lovely/librarian/JR for it. 

nittanyllama

I'm with you @divinemsbee. I don't want to be a cool kid and I'm pretty sure you will never find my butt in chat.

ScrappyLika said:

What other thread is there? Am I missing something?

The thread got edited because it was a callout. It was only up for like 3 minutes before someone paged Darcy.

Also the "Uh" thread.

lizzyp9112

Ok wait... her siggy even says she had a loss in 10/13... but in the main post she says she never claimed she was pregnant.

My brain is still putting all this together, as well, and I was around last night catching it live.

Ducktale

Dafuq? Summary of what the hell happened here yesterday please.

Lizbeth2462

I'm catching up too. This is just crazy. And scary. I'm sorry for those who felt close to her and then found out about this...

merc5411

This while thing makes me really mad, sad, and completely creeped out. I'm a very trusting person and probably give out too much personal info on the web. I have met some wonderful ladies IRL from here, but this makes me uneasy about meeting anyone else.

On a side note, my damn computer broke yesterday so I've been mobile bumping. Keeping up with everything and trying to figure out what's going on is nearly impossible on my phone. I'm buying a new computer today. Sorry DH!

MAdams728

TB drama strikes again. We had such crazy crap happen on my BMB, from a mom lying about the death of her baby (and entire pregnancy, obv) to real life stalking, that nothing on here surprises me anymore.

People have issues, yo.

lizzyp9112

@MAdams728....wut??  Holy shit that is terrible.  I am so sorry your BMB went through that.

Like I said before, I have no idea why someone would want to lie like this (or like the girl on your BMB).  It just makes no sense.

smg2302

@MAdams728 and I are on the same BMB.  It was crazy, to the point where people were sending money to "help" her.  I know I'm newer to this particular board but I am so sorry for all of the stress this has caused.  I hope she chooses to get some help.

ngolimento

Wow. I'm disappointed on multiple levels. Mostly I'm just disappointed that this was revealed by icecream. I'm still WTFing over that.

rockopera

dorothyzbornak97 said:

If she was really just some poor innocent girl who's just been trying to fit in, she wouldn't keep coming back and starting trouble. Last week's shit storm (and the attempts to keep it going) prove that she lives for the drama, and she loves stirring it up and pitting people against each other.

This. Actually participating in the community wasn't exciting enough. It was boring and she needed the attention. Lots and lots of attention. And she got it. And it wasn't even enough to be a dick and start drama on the boards this time. She needed to try to manipulate people offline and "collect" them, if that makes sense. Have "friends" who would be her secret keepers and defend her.

Even at the beginning of this thread, she had people thanking her for coming clean, she must have been tickled. Thank you? No, fuck you. You ARE a bat shit crazy person and you must be enjoying this immensely. Or are completely delusional an believe all your innocence and justifications. Now on to the next board/community to fuck with.

SCSmith2011

I'm sure everybody cares what I think about this but I feel the need to say some things.

For those who haven't been around for all of Lovely's antics beginning with the Mrs.W screen name, this is same shit different day. I don't believe anything she's written in this post. But if it is true then, frankly, all it shows is that she truly doesn't get it. Unless she's been IP banned again I fully believe that she'll be back if she hasn't already created another SN.

And to anyone who feels compelled to be nice to her or help her reach out to people, just fucking stop! She has clearly shown time and again that she's BSC.

Also, to whoever is the AE that outed her, my hat goes off to you. You're the true Bumperhero here.

lizzyp9112

@rockopera, I think the "thank you's" were more for giving us an answer without a longer delay more than anything else.  Yeah, she did it for her own AW gain, but at least we knew then instead of a few days later or however it worked out.

I applaud the work that went into the callout, even though it most likely should have been done through mods instead of in the thread last night.  It also sounds like the people that knew that JR was Lovely ahead of time took proper measures to let moderators know so they could do their job properly.

KingLED

ScrappyLika said:

katnhiding said:

ScrappyLika said:

wickedsugar said:

So who knew she was Lovely, and didn't say anything ?? Because to me, that is a dick thing to do..

It shouldn't be that hard to figure out. Who was her bump BFF as jr? My bet is with that person.

I might be lost, but I actually don't know the answer to your clue there Scraps. I didn't notice that she had a particular bump BFF as Jr.

Hmm idk then. I never paid attention to her so I am no help.

Just looking at who posted on her wall all the time was when I got suspicious.

KingLED

BatMacy said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

Wow. I'm disappointed on multiple levels. Mostly I'm just disappointed that this was revealed by icecream. I'm still WTFing over that.

Way to ruin icecream forever.

... If only someone could have prevented this shit. 8-|

ImJessesGirl

Wow... I am still trying to piece this together because I wasn't here apparently for her antics, but wow... Someone clearly didn't get enough hugs as a kid.