June 2014 Moms

MONDAY, 5/12 AW/SS/Random thoughts thread!

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Re: MONDAY, 5/12 AW/SS/Random thoughts thread!

  • @whoberry‌ - I'm also in this conundrum. I just finished all my thank you notes and just don't want to write individual cards for 20 people for a few joint presents. At work we have this product that we sell that turns PowerPoint into video so I'm thinking of making a thank you video.
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  • KrystaJ said:


    whoberry said:

    What's the best way to thank work people for a group gift? They are not all in the same location so we can't post something on a bulletin board at the office. Individual thank you cards? Group email thank you? Other ideas?

    @whoberry - How many people is it? I'm planning on doing individual cards for the group gift my teammates gave me (even though our company paid for the gift).

    @KrystaJ‌ 10 people

     

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  • @whoberry We had 50 people at our work shower, luckily all in the same location. I sent out a group thank you email and brought in breakfast the next day (bagels, cream cheese, juice = easy peasy)

    For 10 people in different offices, I would send a thank you email

  • b48kateb48kate member
    snuff9861 said:
    I think that depends.  My husband and I had a secret city hall wedding, which was very special, but then we had our church wedding 3 years later. It wasn't a pretty princess day at all, but it was very traditional and beautiful!  We both still felt like it was a huge deal, because it was in the church and was such a beautiful ceremony, and all our friends and family celebrated with us!  It just meant a lot to us in our hearts to have the church wedding, and somehow we felt "more married." LOL.  It's weird, but it does happen that way sometimes. :)
    See I disagree. You had a wedding at city hall. For whatever reason, be it you wanted insurance, one or the other was being deployed etc, you chose to get married that day. I don't judge the reasons for city hall marriages. That was wedding day. If having a church ceremony was so important then you should have waited. PPD (which is a wedding when you're already married) is gift-grabby and AW. Yes it sucks that your family wasn't there when you got married at city hall but that was your choice. Personally as a guest, I've been to a wedding like this (found out after the couple had been married for 3 years). It felt cheap to me, like they just wanted a party. And also it cheapens the weddings of those who choose city hall weddings, like they are somehow less of a wedding or less of a marriage because a big party wasn't thrown.
    As long as there is an open bar, I will happily attend anyone's PPD!  

    BTW, that (PPD) is a totally new term to me, but made me laugh because I have long considered most weddings in those terms. 

    We eloped to Vegas, but I still insisted that I have my hair and makeup professionally done, so I am as guilty as anyone as having a vanity play a role in my marriage decision making.
  • @snuff9861‌ you were quoting the quote I quoted... lol mine was the last paragraph. Not the bit you quoted me saying lol this is what I said:

    "I agree, it depends on the situation. DH and I were both in military schooling when we got married- we would have preferred waiting but we were going to be stationed across the country from each other. We had an officiant read us "vows" in the parking lot of a bank where we got the certificate notarized- not our ideal situation but hey it got the job done. We will one day have a ceremony with all of our family and friends, and I don't see anything wrong with wanting that. :)"

    The bit you quoted was from @lizardbreath14‌.

    Just for clarification lol

    But I will say that if someone does their private wedding and then later has a ceremony and doesn't say "no gifts" in one way or another, I agree that it is gift grabby. I will be making it clear that no one is to bring gifts. It will more or less be a vow renewal, but just a little bigger. If that makes sense lol

    And yep, I will AW it up- that's what a wedding is, so I will do that with my ceremony. ;)
  • @snuff9861‌ its ok I'm mobile too, that's why I figured I'd clarify :)

    Our vow renewal (granted we can afford it) is going to be at 5 years, mostly because of the fact that we didn't have a family wedding. Now like I said, it's not going to be exactly like a wedding- no bridesmaids or groomsmen, no white dress, and no gifts- but it will be similar. It's important to me, just like us being married before we were stationed apart was. I totally get that a lot of people will side-eye me for it, but shit the people that love us and really care about us will be happy no matter what, and that's what matters. :)

    But I will say that I don't think having a wedding after a courthouse wedding cheapens anything for anyone else- it matters how you feel about your chosen ceremony, not others. If a courthouse wedding is what you want, more power to you. I just know that there are situations where people feel they have no other option but to have a courthouse wedding even though that is not their chosen style. In which case I say AW it up and have your family wedding! :)
  • Pepper6Pepper6 member
    Just wanted to clear up that to me, it's just the saying "real wedding" that bothers me on my friends behalf (and mostly then it's the people who ask her as if they don't consider her marriage valid without the party), not the actual choice to have a courthouse wedding and then a more traditional ceremony later.
  • lest12lest12 member
    @pepper6 - I totally understood your post and thought you made a good point!

     

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  • @CAMag‌ - you looked awesome btw, congrats again!
  • JNerdJNerd member
    CAMag said:
    What is more important? The ceremony or the marriage? People can do whatever the hell they want, but IMO just need to be okay with what they prioritize. If being married is more important than the ceremony, why complain about not having the hoopla later? If the hoopla was so important, why didn't you do it the first time - or wait until the hoopla was available/apprpriate?
    No one holds a gun to your head and says 'you must be married NOW' so figure out what you want most, and do that - then be okay with what you decided. If you are doing it because of outside pressures, maybe you need to take control of your own life and not let other people make big decisions for you. And if you let others make big decisions - like when you get married- for you, you need to be okay with that choice too! 
    Why is it so hard to take responsibility for your own choices?
    Is this directed at me? I don't even get what you're trying to say.
    Not directed at anyone - just expressing an opinion.
    Congrats! You did look fantastic!
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    @CAMag‌ congratulations! God Bless!
  • JNerdJNerd member
    snuff9861 said:
    ElTrain5 said:
    @snuff9861 "That was your real wedding" is phrasing it as if that is a fact, Since that is actually a subjective thing, which will differ for each person, it's really just your opinion. Which is fine, we all have different opinions, but the way you're saying it is as if that's some absolute fact and anyone who disagrees is "wrong". Marriage, to me personally, is a commitment made according to the traditions of my particular religion. So if DH and I had gotten married in a civil ceremony, that would have meant (to me personally) a formation of a formal, legal relationship in the eyes of the state, as opposed to being married in my church, which would me to me to be married in the eyes of my God. (Not that there's anything wrong with that civil ceremonies at all. My sister was married by a judge and I certainly don't consider her to be any "less married", but she's also of a different religion, so she did what felt right for her, which was absolutely beautiful and awesome.) So, yes....we all view marriage (and therefore weddings) differently. And what you view as a "real wedding" is different than what I do. And that's ok, provided we both realize that and don't push those beliefs onto others as "facts".
    Fact: a court house wedding is a real wedding. In which you are really married. Therefore not subjective.

    That is your assumption of what I'm saying...so not a fact.

    Fact: a wedding does not make a marriage. 
    I just dont get it. If it is to the same person, and there hasn't been a divorce in there, the 'real' wedding is the first one. Celebrations are great, blessings are great, but the ceremony that made it 'real' is the one that happened first. If all the other stuff was so important, why wasn't it at the first time?
  • Pepper6Pepper6 member
    CAMag said:

    Pepper6 said:

    Just wanted to clear up that to me, it's just the saying "real wedding" that bothers me on my friends behalf (and mostly then it's the people who ask her as if they don't consider her marriage valid without the party), not the actual choice to have a courthouse wedding and then a more traditional ceremony later.

    Nope. Would never consider someone else's marriage as 'real' or not. I would be happy for them. That's just me. I was only speaking about myself and for myself.
    I know ;-) it just occurred to me re reading my post that I didn't want anyone to think I was assuming that about anyone here. It was just a general observation about my irl encounters with the topic.
  • JNerdJNerd member
    I wanted to stay out but... if the first one doesn't count, or isn't real enough, why bother doing it in the first place.
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  • I was so depressed looking at my clothes in my closet... I don't want any of it. I wouldn't care if a fire burned all my clothes.
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  • Pepper6Pepper6 member
    edited May 2014
    jwarnerb said:


    SarahS11 said:

    Anyone else find themselves standing in their closet looking longingly at your old wardrobe? I haven't bought a ton of maternity stuff so I pretty much just wear the same few outfits each week. A lot of those items are starting to get too tight but it's late in the game, and I don't want to buy any more... I'm getting tired of wearing the same thing and wish I could wear some of my old stuff... End of whine for now...

    Ugh, totally.  I didn't buy many maternity clothes either and I wear the same 5ish outfits over and over again.  I try to change it up with accessories and scarves but I'm BOOOORED.  And since none of the maternity clothes fit very well (pants are always falling down, etc) I'm ALSO not very comfortable (the worst part!).  I do miss my old clothes but mostly I just wish I could be nekkid all the time.  





    I've been wearing slightly inappropriate tops to work lately because they're all that fit at this point. They aren't terrible, just definitely more casual weekend tank tops that I never would have worn to work before.
  • lest12lest12 member
    CAMag said:

    lest12 said:

    lest12 said:

    I forgot to mention that my Vegas wedding was streamed live on the internet so people at home could watch it. I think that makes it the most realest wedding ever.

    But.....was Elvis there?!?
    No :( But there was a giant Elvis cut-out outside, right between the drive-thru window and the sign mentioning that Michael Jordan, Frank Sinatra and Britney Spears all were married there (though not to each other, of course). That should count for something!
    Love the drive-thru option!
    For the couple on the go!

     

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  • Maybe this thread will die when it's Wednesday everywhere. ;-)
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