I thought that if someone was fired they weren't eligible for unemployment.
Confession: I would be super pissed at my husband if he was the soul provider and got fired from his job. Laid off I would understand.
I am super pissed. Confession number 577743: my husband I are not doing well at all as a married couple. There was a letter in his termination paperwork that described how to apply for unemployment. I don't know what we will do if he gets denied.
I'm sorry.
Have you looked for jobs?
Yes. We are both looking. I was going to ask one of the HR ladies on here to check out our resumes over the weekend, we aren't even getting any responses
I'm struggling to see why someone who is posting about their financial struggles, problems, questions, etc is fodder for a flaming at all.
It shouldn't be. Let me rephrase that, IMO, it shouldn't be. Then again, I don't really care about drug testing those who may be abusing the system. Why?If they have kids, those kids suffer enough having a parent that may be a drug abuser. Kids need to eat, period.
I agree with this. I'll only speak for myself, but the thing that rubbed me the wrong way is that it seemed people were saying that even if you don't NEED it, if you qualify you should take it. I also agree that you should use services if it will help you pay for bills that help you keep your house, electricity, car, etc.
I thought that if someone was fired they weren't eligible for unemployment.
To my knowledge, you are only guaranteed ineligible if you quit. That's why some companies make life miserable for the employees they want to get rid of rather than fire them.
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I applied for state health insurance and food stamps this week. I cried. I hate that we put ourselves in this position.
You are being resourceful to provide for your family during a hard time. You're a good mom and wife for taking care of this. I just wanted you to read that. Hugs.
I never feel like keeping up with the Jones - or whatever that saying is. I like my small house and my used car. I don't care if the neighbour leases brand new cars every six months. I also don't care if they live in a 10 bedroom mansion. I like my life and I don't care if everyone thinks I live this way because I have no money. I live quite comfortably. I've never quite understood the premise of keeping up with your neighbourhood. Who cares?
Edit: Just to add a little more to this... I highly doubt anyone is going to be at your funeral thinking, "Jeez, it's a shame Bob is gone. He had such a huge house and fancy car. We'll miss him."
Me: 27 DH: 28
Diagnosis: PCOS, irregular cycles, old lady eggs. DH is fine.
Started TTC in January 2010. BFP December 25, 2011 between IF appts.
I like having nice things because they are nice. I wish I could have bought a more expensive car, because it would last us longer. But not because I want to tell everyone I have a fancy car.
Right. You bought a new car because you made the decision based on your family. You didn't buy a fancy car because lots of other people have new cars.
Me: 27 DH: 28
Diagnosis: PCOS, irregular cycles, old lady eggs. DH is fine.
Started TTC in January 2010. BFP December 25, 2011 between IF appts.
I applied for a new job a few weeks ago on a whim when I was super pissed off at my current job. I got an interview for it, and now I'm kind of terrified. What if I get it, and don't like the new job? I can't hop another job after 6 months...
My friend keeps asking me if I think she's in over her head on the house she bought. I keep telling her it's not what I would've bought, but if she loves it that's all that matters. I don't know how much longer I can hold back that I think it was fiscally irresponsible of her to buy a house that was the top of her budget and needs a ton of modernizing and improvements. I'm having a hard time balancing being supportive and being real with her.
I like having nice things because they are nice. I wish I could have bought a more expensive car, because it would last us longer. But not because I want to tell everyone I have a fancy car.
Right. You bought a new car because you made the decision based on your family. You didn't buy a fancy car because lots of other people have new cars.
I was agreeing with you
Indeed you were! haha
Me: 27 DH: 28
Diagnosis: PCOS, irregular cycles, old lady eggs. DH is fine.
Started TTC in January 2010. BFP December 25, 2011 between IF appts.
Sage gave me the "damien" look last night. DH also saw this look. For half a second I pondered if my child was a spawn of the devil. Then it followed with laughter and hopes that she never does this again.
DH and I had an argument over buying DD a bed, actually bed linens, because he says I have quality standards on absolutely everything I buy. Which is sort of true... I like to ensure I get the best quality products for the price, and do a lot of research to make sure that's the case. I think our backgrounds can sort of strain things for us sometimes, because he was one of ten kids and his family scraped by more, and my mom was a doctor's kid, so was just used to living with better quality products.
I just don't know if there's a compromise to be had there...
I never feel like keeping up with the Jones - or whatever that saying is. I like my small house and my used car. I don't care if the neighbour leases brand new cars every six months. I also don't care if they live in a 10 bedroom mansion. I like my life and I don't care if everyone thinks I live this way because I have no money. I live quite comfortably. I've never quite understood the premise of keeping up with your neighbourhood. Who cares?
Edit: Just to add a little more to this... I highly doubt anyone is going to be at your funeral thinking, "Jeez, it's a shame Bob is gone. He had such a huge house and fancy car. We'll miss him."
This is the root of all happiness for me. Graitude for the gifts I have. Chasing materistic things is a never ending uphill battle that a person can't "win"....
I never feel like keeping up with the Jones - or whatever that saying is. I like my small house and my used car. I don't care if the neighbour leases brand new cars every six months. I also don't care if they live in a 10 bedroom mansion. I like my life and I don't care if everyone thinks I live this way because I have no money. I live quite comfortably. I've never quite understood the premise of keeping up with your neighbourhood. Who cares?
Edit: Just to add a little more to this... I highly doubt anyone is going to be at your funeral thinking, "Jeez, it's a shame Bob is gone. He had such a huge house and fancy car. We'll miss him."
I've been waiting for 3 days and I didn't forget. I also haven't read any of the thread yet.
FFFC: I walked into our bathroom and found my five year old playing with my Luna Cup. He'd used it to drink from. It was clean and in the drawer, but still....yuck!!!! Moty
My SIL is having a super hard time with her new baby. She won't talk to her doctor about PPD because some bozo told her that she couldn't BF if she were taking any kind of meds. I told her whoever said that was a bozo.
I know she's super sensitive, but 99% of the shit she's worrying about really is totally stupid shit. She keeps asking me if she's overreacting, or if it's supposed to be this hard, and I finally told her that no, the only person judging her was herself and she can't be so hard on herself because this baby will never remember that she didn't do x, y and z like the baby book said.
I just can't understand feeling pressure about not doing something you read in a book. Your kid is 2 weeks old. You're still getting to know each other!
I thought that if someone was fired they weren't eligible for unemployment.
Confession: I would be super pissed at my husband if he was the soul provider and got fired from his job. Laid off I would understand.
I am super pissed. Confession number 577743: my husband I are not doing well at all as a married couple. There was a letter in his termination paperwork that described how to apply for unemployment. I don't know what we will do if he gets denied.
I'm sorry.
Have you looked for jobs?
Yes. We are both looking. I was going to ask one of the HR ladies on here to check out our resumes over the weekend, we aren't even getting any responses
I would be more than happy to look at them for you!
Our video monitor is on the fritz. We have had it for almost 5 yrs . I want to ask a question about a new one but I feel like everyone will judge me for spending money on something like that (I'm having some major insecurity issues)
Shop around for a model you like and then hit up your local consignment shops. I buy and sell a ton of stuff at ours and they only take the good stuff. I'm sure you can find a good model for a fraction of the price.
and don't be ashamed, a monitor is still a family need.
Also, my DH is completely incapable of managing money. The only debt we have is our house. In the last year we've paid off my car and my student loan. Yet he's still nervous about buying a new car (that we desperately need) and that we might not qualify for financing. Uh, FTR, our credit is fantastic. When DH and I got together, his credit was like a 4 due to his ex wife and her shenanigans. Now it's 720+. Mine is higher than his. Why would we not qualify for a car loan?!
This is one more reason I've suggested us having only 1 account, but the fact that I'd have to "share" money, or that he would see that I buy something online at least once a week really bothers me.
Our video monitor is on the fritz. We have had it for almost 5 yrs . I want to ask a question about a new one but I feel like everyone will judge me for spending money on something like that (I'm having some major insecurity issues)
I just read three Summer Infant models were recalled for the same reason I called a requested a new one last year. The handheld monitor is overheating. I knew I wasn't crazy!
Yeah, we had this problem in the past too, as well as the battery not keeping a charge, and the monitor losing the signal all.the.time. I finally got rid of ours last month bc I had just had enough of it not working.
I thought that if someone was fired they weren't eligible for unemployment.
Confession: I would be super pissed at my husband if he was the soul provider and got fired from his job. Laid off I would understand.
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I believe it is if you quit, you are not eligible.People get fired for some pretty absurd reasons.
Yeah, I have known some people who got fired and could still collect. It really depends on if the employer fights it.
Ok I have a FFFC that I'm actually nervous about posting. We got pregnant before my DH's new insurance kicked in. I figured it would work out because his insurance goes into effect after his 91st day of employment and I would have been 8.5 weeks by then. Of course now that I lost the baby, I still have to wait until the 12th to be seen.
I felt bad about having a break in insurance, but there was no way we could have afforded COBRA. It was over $1000 a month.
H accidentally (not really, he just wasn't paying attention) canceled my coverage on his plan before my benefits kicked in. That was awesome...and expensive.
Also, my DH is completely incapable of managing money. The only debt we have is our house. In the last year we've paid off my car and my student loan. Yet he's still nervous about buying a new car (that we desperately need) and that we might not qualify for financing. Uh, FTR, our credit is fantastic. When DH and I got together, his credit was like a 4 due to his ex wife and her shenanigans. Now it's 720+. Mine is higher than his. Why would we not qualify for a car loan?!
This is one more reason I've suggested us having only 1 account, but the fact that I'd have to "share" money, or that he would see that I buy something online at least once a week really bothers me.
I am still surprised how easy it is to get loans.
In the last 6 months, H and I were approved for a decent-sized unsecure loan (to pay off CCs and a student loan), a mortgage (higher than we wanted), a CC (that ended up with a ridiculous limit) and 2 car loans. We are going ot pay of the first loan with the check from insurance for the totaled car, but the bank didn't know that (or care) and we decided to wait a year to buy a house, but still. Given our combined income, I'm still surprised by how many lines of credit we were approved for.
DH and I marveled at this when we bought our house. According to the lender, we could have bought something that cost twice as much. Uh, no, we actually couldn't afford that every month. It's crazy, and I can totally see how people would get in over their heads if they didn't sit down and crunch their own numbers.
Oh! Here's one. I started thinking about when TB is going to do away with our board, and got kinda sad. The FB group is lovely, but it's just a different atmosphere- and I think I would miss our conversations here. I also don't think any other board could tolerate me...
Before TB kills our board, I'll need a warning so I actually join the FB group.
Oh! Here's one. I started thinking about when TB is going to do away with our board, and got kinda sad. The FB group is lovely, but it's just a different atmosphere- and I think I would miss our conversations here. I also don't think any other board could tolerate me...
Before TB kills our board, I'll need a warning so I actually join the FB group.
I don't want I put a bra on today because I'm feeling laz actually get away with no bra. Trying to figure out if I'll see anyone of consequence and then making my decision.
If you don't put on a bra you are guaranteed to run into every person you have ever met. Ever.
The last time I left the house without a bra was just to take Jesse to work. Our car had a flat and I ended up being stuck walking, going into places, etc, for a few hours without a bra.
The time before that was to get Jesse from work. That's when I was pregnant with Hazel and a car ran into ours.
I don't leave the house without a bra for any reason anymore.
Ok I have a FFFC that I'm actually nervous about posting. We got pregnant before my DH's new insurance kicked in. I figured it would work out because his insurance goes into effect after his 91st day of employment and I would have been 8.5 weeks by then. Of course now that I lost the baby, I still have to wait until the 12th to be seen.
I felt bad about having a break in insurance, but there was no way we could have afforded COBRA. It was over $1000 a month.
cobra is insane. If things get to be too much, please get seen. You're doctors office will work with you to pay it off, and medical bills can't affect your credit.
I ate my scrambled eggs with my hands yesterday morning to avoid LO seeing my fork and asking me for one. She's so frackin slow with it, and we had to gtfo of the house!
Re: FFFC
Thanks! I really had no idea how that worked.
Yes. We are both looking. I was going to ask one of the HR ladies on here to check out our resumes over the weekend, we aren't even getting any responses
By myself.
To my knowledge, you are only guaranteed ineligible if you quit. That's why some companies make life miserable for the employees they want to get rid of rather than fire them.
I'm on mobile right now. I will grab the laptop when it put Colby down for his nap!
My ute wants a baby.
that would be my train of thought too.
I just don't know if there's a compromise to be had there...
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FFFC: I walked into our bathroom and found my five year old playing with my Luna Cup. He'd used it to drink from. It was clean and in the drawer, but still....yuck!!!! Moty
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Have you looked for jobs?
Yes. We are both looking. I was going to ask one of the HR ladies on here to check out our resumes over the weekend, we aren't even getting any responses
I would be more than happy to look at them for you!
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The time before that was to get Jesse from work. That's when I was pregnant with Hazel and a car ran into ours.
I don't leave the house without a bra for any reason anymore.
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cobra is insane. If things get to be too much, please get seen. You're doctors office will work with you to pay it off, and medical bills can't affect your credit.
oh man, $150k would buy you a double wide up here.