Wondering when those of you who have done second-parent adoption completed the process. I know it can be started before the baby is born and can't be completed until after birth, but I'm wondering if anyone waited a while after birth and whether or not that was an issue.
We just started the process of having wills, POA, health proxies etc drawn up and I really don't think we have the cash at this point to complete SPA as well. To me, the wills etc are more important, particularly because we live in MA, are legally married, my wife will be on the birth certificate, and within the first couple years of our son's life, it's extremely unlikely that we would be traveling anywhere outside of a handful of northeastern states that also have gay marriage and recognize ours. We also have very supportive families we are close to, and I am literally 100% sure that my family would never try to take our son away from my wife if anything happened to me. And my wife, who is the most at risk in the absence of a SPA, is the one who is most hesitant to go through with one at this point (mostly because she is also the one who manages our money).
About how much did you pay an attorney for SPA? How about for wills, health proxies, POA, etc?
Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14