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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
KingLED
member
The linked threads are full of advice from people that have been there. I hope they help you.
Miscarriage
M/C with Cytotec (misoprostol)
D&C
Ectopic
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Advice and Experience
KingLED
member
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Miscarriage
M/C with Cytotec (misoprostol)
D&C
Ectopic
Molar
**Please feel free to add your own experiences and advice to the threads for future women going through the same.
**Please feel free to add your own experiences and advice to the threads for future women going through the same.
Re: Advice and Experience
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Thank you for sharing your stories. I had no idea what to expect from a natural miscarriage. I was going to try but since my body had already been holding on for a month my Dr. advises the surgery.
I had the option of pills or d&c. I opted for d&c. I don't think I'm strong enough to deal with it at home by myself. My appointment is in the morning
I'm grateful to have this forum to share my experience with those who understand the feeling of this kind of loss. My heart goes out to everyone who is in here, and I pray for healing for all of us.
Aaron (my husband) and I have experienced a tragedy and a sigificant loss. He and I have been keeping a secret from most of our friends. We were excited to learn that we were pregnant about 7 weeks ago. Aaron and I were elated! We attempted to keep it a secret from everyone with the exception of close friends and family.
About 3 weeks ago, we went in for our first ultrasound and the embryo measured at about 6 weeks. Which I thought was about right and what all my baby apps were stating as well. Our due date would be November 7th!
On Tuesday of last week, we went back to the doctor for a second ultrasound. Before the ultrasound, we met with a nutritionist who gave us ideas for meal planning, foods to avoid, and took some medical information from both Aaron and I.
Upon meeting with our doctor, she asked about delivery, genetic testing, and gathered some health information. She began to conduct the second ultrasound. Upon starting the ultrasound, I watched the doctor's face drop. She stated that she was incredibly concerned because it appeared as though the embryo had not grown since the last ultrasound. The embryo should have measured almost 9 weeks and still was measuring 6 weeks. She also stated she could not see the fetal pole nor did the embryo have its own heartbeat. She immediately began apologizing and stated that we needed to go get a second ultrasound in order to confirm the results. However, she let us know that the embryo was likely not viable. The doctor stated that this was a miscarriage which hadn't passed through my body. Aaron and I were in shock. We had to wait close to an hour to get the second ultrasound. Aaron and I held each other's hands and attempted to comfort one another, which was incredibly difficult.
The second ultrasound that was conducted confirmed the same results. The ultrasound technician was incredibly apologetic and told us how sorry she was for our loss.
Aaron and I had to wait for what felt like an eternity to talk to our doctor. She pulled us into a room and told us she was so sorry that I had miscarried. She discussed multiple options as to what we could do. I was offered surgery, a pharmaceutical intervention, or I could "wait it out." Aaron and I decided to take the day and think about the options.
We decided to go the pharmaceutical intervention. I began taking medication on Wednesday in order to induce a miscarriage. However, the medication did not induce the miscarriage. I had mild cramping and no other signs. After this, I elected to have a D & C. This is a procedure to remove the tissue that is inside my body. The procedure was quick and initially painless.
Aaron and I have been to the doctor too many times to count. It is incredibly difficult going in to have blood work done and shots administered and have the individuals who are drawing blood and providing shots to ask how far along I am. It's hard to imagine moving forward and feeling some semblance of normalcy after such a traumatic event. Both Aaron and I feel exhausted both mentally and physically. It's a very difficult feeling to have when you thought that there was a life growing inside you when in actuality that life stops growing. When you are preparing for motherhood and now, trying your best to take it day by day.
Personally, I go through many emotions throughout the day. The first day, all I could do was cry. Today, I go through feeling incredibly emotionally numb to feeling an overwhelming sense of sadness. Additionally, the physical pain is constant reminder of what is transpiring inside my body.
Words cannot describe how both Aaron and I feel. We are devastated, angry, and have periods of feeling numb. We have been assured and reassured that the likelihood of us having a miscarriage again is pretty low. Regardless of these optimistic to statistics, right now we are incredibly sad and feel an incredible, indescribable amount of sadness and loss. We love and appreciate our close friends and family for the outpouring of love and support for us. This is an incredibly hard process to be going through as a newly married couple.
My hope with sharing our experience is that others who have had a similar experience will feel as though they are not alone. Miscarriages are common and up to 25% of all pregnancies end in a naturally occurring miscarriage. Aaron and I recognize that this situation happened and that there is nothing we should have or could have done differently. We both believe that everything happens for a reason.
With time, Aaron and I will heal from this process and be ready to try to start a family once again. Aaron and I are trying our best to support one another. We have taken some time off of work in order to allow ourselves to grieve. My belief is that time heals.
Thank you to those of you who share your stories. It's so helpful to realize that you are not alone.
We look upon ourselves like, "why me, why should I go through this" with all my friends around me having healthy beautiful pregnancies and babies. I envy the experience they had and now dread being around pregnant moms because of my jealousy. But this hurt will end and in the end, we will be all infinitely stronger as women.
I also noticed that when we told our closest relatives that we were expecting they had plenty to say and when they learned that we miscarried we didn't get the support that we hoped for. As if no one knew what to say to comfort us in any way. That was also a harsh reality.
We are taking it easy this weekend, took some days off of work and hope to recover from our babies loss.
Good luck to everyone. Xoxo
I really am sorry! This is not a board you want to be a member of, but everyone is very supportive.
GOD bless
Until now , everything seemed normal. I don't bleed and I don't know what to do.. Shall I wait or just undergo d&c. This could have been our first baby.
We are heartbroken and devastated. We are having a wedding in the weekend and would have announced our pregnancy on the same day. Now I feel empty..
The physical pain was unbearable, but that may have been emphasized by the emotional pain that I wasn't yet acknowledging. I felt pretty good once the day was done and thought I was in a good place. But I just realized today that I won't be a mom on mothers day unless I get pregnant again and I broke down in tears
I find these forums and discussion groups so so helpful. They have helped me a great deal in understanding and accepting.
Sending baby dust to all.
Leonie xx
This is my second time joining this forum. Yesterday I was diagnosed with a mmc at 9weeks. The baby's HB must have stopped just before the U/s. The doctor was very surprised this happened to us again in such a similar way than last time: we had see the HB at 6-7 weeks and then 9-10 weeks mmc (no HB), no signs that anything was wrong. I never thought I would go through this again. I am trying to stay calm and patient. My doctor wants to investigate further since it is twice in a row and so similar. Both baby and I will be tested and hopefully we get some answers.
In our case we will have faith that we can get some answers and keep trying. One of the wonderful things that has come out of this, besides knowing (for a short while) and loving my babies, is how much it has strengthen my marriage.
I wish everyone here love and support needed to get through this sad moments and strength to move forward in whatever way you decide.
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016