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  • helloblueeyeshelloblueeyes member
    zarkarella said:
    Pup4gdb said:
    New FFFC... I absolutely do not get it when people say they will have to see if the name they have picked out fits their baby when he/she is born. I am not pin pointing anyone specific with this, I have heard it for years. But, how can you decide if it fits when they are born? They don't come out with much of a personality. I wasn't sure about my son's name until it just grew on me to the point of "of course that is his name" at like 2 or 3 years old. By that time, it's not like I can change it. I feel like you pick the name you like and they will grow into it. They don't come out with a name stamped on them somewhere.
    I feel the same lack of understanding for people who pre-name their children. I have met many people in my life who l don't think fit their name. Even just when first meeting them - he/she doesn't look like a "Bob" or whatever. I also have good friends who pre-named their daughter. Then renamed her (with all the paperwork and hassle) a month later, because the first wasn't the right name for her. I'm not naming the idea of a child. I'm naming a child. So, I want to look at that face before I pin a name to it. We have narrowed our choices down to 2 girl names and 2 boy names. And I believe, when I look at the child for the first time, I will lean more towards one name or the other. At this point, I like all the names equally, but I'm sure I will have a preference when I look at the kiddo
    It's just, when you meet them when they are born, how do you know they aren't going to look like a Bob when they are older?
    DH and i are having a hard enough time agreeing on one name, i'm not pushing it with wanting a couple to take with us. 

    Honestly at this point i will be shocked if we can get one we agree on. 

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  • kay anthonykay anthony member
    zarkarella said:
    LOL. FWIW, I am a glorified secretary who hasn't finished her bachelors. I am just surrounded by professors and I think they are in the same field as Kay Anthony.
    I'll PM you with my field when I finish making my way through this thread. I'd rather not put identifying information on a public forum.
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  • hgtvmomhgtvmom member
    zarkarella said:


    Pup4gdb said:

    zarkarella said:

    New FFFC... I absolutely do not get it when people say they will have to see if the name they have picked out fits their baby when he/she is born. I am not pin pointing anyone specific with this, I have heard it for years. But, how can you decide if it fits when they are born? They don't come out with much of a personality. I wasn't sure about my son's name until it just grew on me to the point of "of course that is his name" at like 2 or 3 years old. By that time, it's not like I can change it. I feel like you pick the name you like and they will grow into it. They don't come out with a name stamped on them somewhere.

    I feel the same lack of understanding for people who pre-name their children. I have met many people in my life who l don't think fit their name. Even just when first meeting them - he/she doesn't look like a "Bob" or whatever.

    I also have good friends who pre-named their daughter. Then renamed her (with all the paperwork and hassle) a month later, because the first wasn't the right name for her.

    I'm not naming the idea of a child. I'm naming a child. So, I want to look at that face before I pin a name to it. We have narrowed our choices down to 2 girl names and 2 boy names. And I believe, when I look at the child for the first time, I will lean more towards one name or the other. At this point, I like all the names equally, but I'm sure I will have a preference when I look at the kiddo

    It's just, when you meet them when they are born, how do you know they aren't going to look like a Bob when they are older?

    Who knows! But, feel like I have a better chance of getting that part right if I can see who I am naming.

    It's just what feels right for us. I want to meet the kid before naming it. Maybe it's that I have a subconscious "look" for each name and we will go with which ever fits better when we see the kiddo. We have one name for each that is more Irish than the other (we are both mostly Irish), so coloring could be part of that. But, I don't want to have my heart set on a name, then feel like it was the wrong choice and have to scramble later.



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  • kay anthonykay anthony member
    birthjunkie13 said:
    Now I have this witch in my head...

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    It is a really unfortunate coincidence. I chose my screen name on the knot several years ago before that terrible woman went to trial for the murder of her daughter. 

    I would love to change my screen name but don't think it's possible without opening up a whole new account.
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  • mrscurlygurlmrscurlygurl member
    Pup4gdb said:
    New FFFC... I absolutely do not get it when people say they will have to see if the name they have picked out fits their baby when he/she is born. I am not pin pointing anyone specific with this, I have heard it for years. But, how can you decide if it fits when they are born? They don't come out with much of a personality. I wasn't sure about my son's name until it just grew on me to the point of "of course that is his name" at like 2 or 3 years old. By that time, it's not like I can change it. I feel like you pick the name you like and they will grow into it. They don't come out with a name stamped on them somewhere.
    I feel the same lack of understanding for people who pre-name their children. I have met many people in my life who l don't think fit their name. Even just when first meeting them - he/she doesn't look like a "Bob" or whatever. I also have good friends who pre-named their daughter. Then renamed her (with all the paperwork and hassle) a month later, because the first wasn't the right name for her. I'm not naming the idea of a child. I'm naming a child. So, I want to look at that face before I pin a name to it. We have narrowed our choices down to 2 girl names and 2 boy names. And I believe, when I look at the child for the first time, I will lean more towards one name or the other. At this point, I like all the names equally, but I'm sure I will have a preference when I look at the kiddo.
    While I understand what you are saying @Pup4gdb, newborns look NOTHING like what they look like a week, a month, and most definitely a year later. I'm not saying it's the wrong approach, but either way the parents are picking the name that the child may or may not ever grow in to. 

      
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  • sxymamakatsxymamakat member
    TurtleMonsters said:
    There are plenty of "degreed" people who are rather stupid and annoying. There are amazingly smart people without higher education. Flaunting papers about which one you are is INTENSELY annoying and would make me never want to talk to you.

    There are definitely people with degrees where I wonder how in God's name they earned them.  Additionally, while I agree that people who throw their education or degrees out there all the time are annoying as sin, I'm also DAMN proud of the hard work I've put in and the degrees I've earned, so I have no problem mentioning it when it is applicable.  I don't open every conversation with it.  If you have specific education that gives you knowledge for a specific conversation, I have no problem with people throwing it out there.  It doesn't automatically make an opinion more valid, but it can lend weight to other's perceptions of the idea.
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  • kay anthonykay anthony member
    edited April 2014
    ChiMom85 said: kay anthony said:
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    I find the picture in your siggy far more offensive than sexy pictures of men or women.
    The Barbara Kruger image,     Your gaze hits the side of my face, or the book cover? 

    The Kruegar image I chose because it was relevant to the conversation I was initiating. The book cover in my actual siggy I just have because I thought it was funny. I'm curious what about the image(s) you are offended by?
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  • kay anthonykay anthony member
    uws22 said:
    my confession - this has been bothering me all day, and since she didn't address it, I'll just leave it here.

    https://www.diffen.com/difference/Ethics_vs_Morals

    although, for all I know she's drawing up a Code of Ethics for us right now.
    Haha, touche'. I do ALWAYS get confused and have to look them up, and didn't this time.
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    mrscurlygurl said:


    futuremrsbrian said:

    @helloblueeyes - the question is, which version? Or all of them? I'm a TNG fangirl myself, but I also enjoy Voyager. ToS is ok but cheesy, like watching the Adam West version of Batman. I actually really don't like DS9 or Enterprise.

    Who doesn't love a good screening of Star Trek 4 though? "We must go back in time to rescue some whales so that they can save us from the aliens!" Hilariously epic.

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    I love DS9. I love how they made the Ferengi a comic release plus I love Dax and Quark. But nothing beats Data.

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  • kay anthonykay anthony member
    edited April 2014
    uws22 said:
    I mean, all I'm saying is - if you're going to be condescending and judgemental about our morals, at least use correct terminology when you do so... otherwise, it just looks silly.
    I'm sorry you took it that way. I was saying that this was something that bothered me personally. But you go girl! You do what you want!
    (Edit: I hope that gives you BINGO. And please don't confuse a statement of "I wish..." with a command. Ultimately, we will both do what we want ;)

    Actually ethical and moral evaluation don't factor heavily in my field. The study of culture does. The moral evaluation, as you kindly corrected me, of our society's acceptance of gender-based objectification was my own. 

    Edited to add: I did not mention my degrees in this thread. I mentioned it in another about my insecurities surrounding becoming a SAHM after the baby is born. I also mentioned working in academia before because I'm tremendously nervous about how having a baby in my field will effect my professional prospects (most female senior scholars that I know do not have children). Someone else went and looked that up and brought it in here. I said that I have made a career out of discussing these types of issues only to illustrate how much I enjoy talking about them. I'm sorry if you took it as me being a braggart. 

    I was the first person in my family to ever get a higher degree. I'm enormously proud of all the work it took to get it, but I don't necessarily think it makes me smarter than anyone else. My father, who went no further than HS, is the smartest person I've ever met.  

    If I really thought I was smarter than all of you, than I wouldn't try to engage in this discussion with you.
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  • kay anthonykay anthony member
    Ha, ok. You go boy. My bad.
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  • Myanswer trueMyanswer true member
    My extremely late to the party FFFC is that I don't know which one makes me more upset, when people tell me I look ready to pop, or that I hardly look pregnant. Ready to pop makes me think, "great, so you're saying I look huge", meanwhile, hardly look pregnant makes me wonder just how fat you think I was before I got KU.
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  • mrscurlygurlmrscurlygurl member
    LiteraChick said:
    @mrscurlygurl I agree, most newborns look like bullet headed messes. I am relying on cute hats and ironic onesies to divert the frozen smiles off of my fam/friends faces .

    "ohhh.. he's ... (cough cough) sooo kyoooot!"
    :-??

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    mrscurlygurl said:
    LiteraChick said:
    @mrscurlygurl I agree, most newborns look like bullet headed messes. I am relying on cute hats and ironic onesies to divert the frozen smiles off of my fam/friends faces .

    "ohhh.. he's ... (cough cough) sooo kyoooot!"
    :-??

    --snipping baby--
    hehe...reminds me of the Seinfeld breathtaking scene...sorry it's not a gif, couldn't find one
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  • ghostof5lettersghostof5letters member
    One of my cousins, and a very close family friend (who I consider a brother) were apparently the ugliest babies ever. To hear my mom and dad mention it, is hilarious. Both of them, grew up to be dream boats. I mean, make-you-gasp pretty. Go figure. 
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  • ksuRN09ksuRN09 member
    zarkarella said:

    New FFFC... I absolutely do not get it when people say they will have to see if the name they have picked out fits their baby when he/she is born. I am not pin pointing anyone specific with this, I have heard it for years. But, how can you decide if it fits when they are born? They don't come out with much of a personality. I wasn't sure about my son's name until it just grew on me to the point of "of course that is his name" at like 2 or 3 years old. By that time, it's not like I can change it. I feel like you pick the name you like and they will grow into it. They don't come out with a name stamped on them somewhere.

    For us, we're waiting because we can't decide between two names and I'm hoping we'll see her and know which name to choose. I'm fully aware I'm probably kidding myself. Lol
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  • TallMomma29TallMomma29 member
    edited April 2014
    ghostof5letters said:
    One of my cousins, and a very close family friend (who I consider a brother) were apparently the ugliest babies ever. To hear my mom and dad mention it, is hilarious. Both of them, grew up to be dream boats. I mean, make-you-gasp pretty. Go figure. 
    Just like me  :x

    Juuuust kidding (mostly).  But seriously... relative cuteness or ugliness as a baby is (fortunately or unfortunately) NO indication of how attractive someone will be when they grow up. 
        



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  • TugboatSheilaTugboatSheila member
    jessa8907 said:
    JP27 said:
    I was a Ravenclaw too!
    I'm sorry! Did I miss you?
    haha no, I was actually going to post a longer list of reactions to the many FFFCs but my husband said something about "dinner" and "mexican food" so I hit enter and went and ate my heart out.

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    The last 24 hours I have been on a junk food bender. Pringles, crunch n' munch, sour patch kids, baby Ruth, Pepsi and cinnamon toast crunch. I don't feel guilty in the slightest bit. Honestly I feel free!
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    mana84 said:

    I'm an auntie! Welcome baby Zoe. And btw, my sis didn't steal my baby name, whew!


    She's so cute!
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