Weight Gain.... How much is too much?!?!

riddlek2

Apparently my concerns or questions about my first pregnancy are just a big joke to others and frankly that's pretty ridiculous that i can express them and ask for others with possibly the same concerns or questions to discuss them with me. This is a DISCUSSION board - I didn't know there were feeds for bullying on The Bump.... pretty low guys....

steprozz

if your dr isn't worried I wouldn't be worried. you gain what you gain. nothing you can do about it.

flojo973

riddlek2 said:

I am 26 weeks and I am struggling with this weight gain thing. I was a frequent smoker/coffee drinker prior to pregnancy and did not have a super healthy lifestyle (I ate a good fulfilling dinner every day, but besides that, coffee and cigarettes were my daily diet. I know, really healthy...), but my weight never fluctuated and i was 5'7" at a steady 140 lbs....

The DAY we found out i was expecting I quit the smoking AND the coffee cold turkey, immediately began daily vitamins and adjusting to actually eating 3-4 meals a day and paying attention to my diet. I knew this would have an effect on my weight, but i didnt know how much to expect.

At 10 weeks, i had gained 7 lbs = 147 total
At 15 weeks i had gained 3 more pounds = 150 total
At 19 weeks i had gained 10 more pounds! = 160 total
At 23 weeks i had gained another 16 pounds! = 176 TOTAL!

Most of my books and things are telling me its very difficult to estimate how much weight is healthy. But most are saying at 23 weeks i should have gained 10-12 pounds total, where as I have gained 36! My Dr. doesn't seem to be too worried. Test are coming back normal, but i personally am concerned and am curious to find out if this is ore common than the books say or if I really need to be careful and something could be wrong? Mt Dr says its all water weight and not to worry.... Im not swelling and my rings and things are all fitting just fine as always. It appearsto me to be all boobs and belly at this point.... Confused and worried!!!

There is your answer.

riddlek2

I'm not worried I'M too heavy by all means, i think i may have been under weight to begin with and I actually like what pregnancy is doing for my body! :-).... My concern is how much weight is HEALTHY to gain during pregnancy. Like i said, I dont know where it is all going but the scales don't lie and 16 pounds in 4 weeks just sounds like an unhealthy amount of weight to put on your body at one time. I was curiouse to fund out if others have similar weight gain over the course of a single month or if that is something i need to be looking into more and/or monitoring....

nunzchucks

lyracelesti said:

OP I stopped reading at "My Dr. doesn't seem to be too worried," because you shouldn't worry if your doctor isn't worried. I'm glad s/he's not worried and you should be glad too!

 

 

This. I'm not sure what else there is to discuss.

BabyCurtiss2014

Ummm you are going to gain weight when you are pregnant. If it was an issue your doctor would say something! I'm 5'1 and at 30 weeks I'm up 21lbs and my doc said I'm on track so I wouldn't worry about it!

izzetoot

But honestly, like PPs said if your DR isnt worried you shouldn't be either.

Read247

BabyCurtiss2014

Mease8 said:

As PP has said, if you're doctor isn't worried, you shouldn't be. Honestly, this post feels very AWish to me, the photos only added to that...

AGREED!!!!!!

riddlek2

Wow - this is my first pregnancy and all i have to go by are the books and information i have been reading about what to expect and what is healthy and what to look out for. I thought this was supposed to be a community blog where people with legitimate concerns or questions can go to ask opinions and/or advice from others who are experiencing something similar! I posted the photos to show according to each week i stepped on a scale where the weight is going. By all means this was not intended to be a "woe is me" post and i wast looking for flattering comments. I was looking for comments a little more like "at 23 weeks i gained _____," and have more actual pregnant moms to communicate with as opposed to text books.

Guess this was my first and last time trying to get active with the pregnancy community. Those last few comments were really uncessecary and pretty rude.

crhein26

I've actually lost weight during my pregnancy since I started out way overweight. Every pregnancy is different. If your weight gain were all in your ass and legs instead of your belly, I might be concerned. But clearly your doctor isn't concerned so you shouldn't be either. Also, HDBD is tomorrow. You should have waited to post your belly pictures there! If you don't know what that is, try reading the New Here thread!

stephpaez

...just go away already. I don't even know why I read this thread...

Read247

Here ya go newbie:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12215781/new-here-read-me-first

Also at the bottom of your screen you'll notice the page numbers. To the right of that is a magnifying glass. Click on it and you can search the board for weight gain discussions. There used to be a weekly weigh in, but it stopped. It's a pretty sensitive topic for a lot of people.

I agree with PP. If your doctor isn't concerned it's not a "legitimate concern." Every pregnancy and every body is different.

flerlgirl

riddlek2 said:

I'm not worried I'M too heavy by all means, i think i may have been under weight to begin with and I actually like what pregnancy is doing for my body! :-).... My concern is how much weight is HEALTHY to gain during pregnancy. Like i said, I dont know where it is all going but the scales don't lie and 16 pounds in 4 weeks just sounds like an unhealthy amount of weight to put on your body at one time. I was curiouse to fund out if others have similar weight gain over the course of a single month or if that is something i need to be looking into more and/or monitoring....

I don't understand this. You're not worried that you are too heavy but you are worried that you have surpassed some kind of magic weight gain number? I don't understand. 

Read247

chickpea912

CDK211 said:

riddlek2 said:

Wow - this is my first pregnancy and all i have to go by are the books and information i have been reading about what to expect and what is healthy and what to look out for. I thought this was supposed to be a community blog where people with legitimate concerns or questions can go to ask opinions and/or advice from others who are experiencing something similar! I posted the photos to show according to each week i stepped on a scale where the weight is going. By all means this was not intended to be a "woe is me" post and i wast looking for flattering comments. I was looking for comments a little more like "at 23 weeks i gained _____," and have more actual pregnant moms to communicate with as opposed to text books.

Guess this was my first and last time trying to get active with the pregnancy community. Those last few comments were really uncessecary and pretty rude.

I am really tired of people coming on here, participating in ONE thread (which just so happens to be a thread they started) then complaining about us not being a community. We are a community, you have not tried to be part of it. If you had tried, you would know that SS posts like this, that are bragging while complaining, just do not go over well. If you'd like to be part of the community, try participating. 

I am so sad I missed this party and arrived too late and missed the guest of honor.  I think the problem is that people mistake TB (and the BMBs) as Yahoo Answers or Baby Center or something else - you know, a place where either a) we are a waiting audience, waiting for YOU, the special guest, to grace us with your presence and fawn over whatever you have to give us or b) we're going to fluff you up and make you feel super special/beautiful/not fat/whatever.  It's amazing.  It amused me, months ago, when people wanted to make a FB group, and those who wanted to wait said they chose to do so because we wanted to weed out the crazies.  And here we are, 25ish-30ish weeks in and THEY ARE STILL EMERGING FROM THE WOODWORK.  It never ends.  

emilyh107 said:

Why are people so shocked when they get negative responses? That confuses me. Were we all supposed to be all NO way! You are not fat! You look AMAZING. Sure, this is a discussion board, OP, but that doesn't mean I have to give a shit about what you are wanting to discuss.

I want to thank @lizardbreath14 for posting the screenshot - those just aren't photos (which obviously didn't come along with the QFP and I was sad), they are AMAZING photos with words and stuff.  OP clearly wasn't THAT upset with her body that she couldn't post.

To the OP... I have nothing for you.  I usually try to be the super nice supportive rube around here, but today, man, I've got nothing for you.  I'd point out the usual cliches about communities - that you get what you give, and since this was your first and only post (I'm not counting the name thread post from an hour ago - that doesn't count), I'm sorry your experience has led you to miss out on this amazing, supportive, hilarious, snarkalicious community of awsome women.  Salty hoes, if you will.  They fucking kick ass, as is evidenced by this post, and clearly this might not be the best place for you.  If you ARE looking for a community, I'd suggest starting over at Baby Center or Baby Gaga (does that even still exist?).

diagonalley

I still don't understand the purpose of your original post.  Like others have said, if your doctor isn't worried, you shouldn't be either.  I'm not sure why you would want to compare your weight gain to other woman who have different body types than you.  As long as you are eating healthy and giving up unhealthy behaviors (which you said you did) what's to worry about?  An average is just that, an average.  That means there are people who have gained less than the average amount and people who have gained more than the average amount.  Ever learned about a bell curve?  Would you have preferred me state my weight gain which has been minimal (most likely due to being shorter and overweight when I got pregnant) so that you could feel worse?  That just seems silly.

And how can you really have an opinion about our board when you have never posted here before?

Read247

She even posted a pic in the baby name thread!!

Yet she's SO concerned about weight gain?!?

ElTrain5

Wait.....wait...so....

-You get all your information from "text books" and the internet, and dismiss your doctor's medical opinion that you're weight gain is fine.

-You were 5 foot 7 and 140 lbs pre preg. and thought you might have been underweight (which you could easily discover is not true just by looking at a BMI chart)

-You are "not worried I'M too heavy by all means...and I actually like what pregnancy is doing for my body! :-)"

So...you just came on here to ask about OUR weight gain then? And not to compare it to your own, of course, because you are absolutely not worried about your weight gain.....??

Seriously. WTF.

Oh, and please refer to this article for the proper use of the word "bully". Lest you continue tobelittle the experience of those who are actually bullied. https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/2188819?utm_hp_ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false

KTHNXBI

chickpea912

BrightEyes112 said:

Snarkalicious. @chickpea912 you win.

Oooh - does that mean if I keep practicing, I, too, might be a Snarky Queen?  I feel like we need a badge for that - I am very goals-oriented and need external praise to feel good about myself.

ElTrain5

chickpea912 said:

BrightEyes112 said:

Snarkalicious. @chickpea912 you win.

Oooh - does that mean if I keep practicing, I, too, might be a Snarky Queen?  I feel like we need a badge for that - I am very goals-oriented and need external praise to feel good about myself.

You and OP both!

nunzchucks

BrightEyes112 said:

BrightEyes112 said:

Snarkalicious. @chickpea912 you win.

Oooh - does that mean if I keep practicing, I, too, might be a Snarky Queen?  I feel like we need a badge for that - I am very goals-oriented and need external praise to feel good about myself.

-------- The "special guest" and all..everything was just great. I just hope she read it.

Hasn't yet, but there is still hope. Last active at 2:38

puttyeast

It drives me nuts that you would use this being your first pregnancy as an excuse for your post. You do realize there are plenty of women on this board who are also in their first pregnancy? Yet we know how to use the board, not be AWs, are actually part of this community and most importantly, have a sense of humor.

lest12

@read247 & @lizardbreathe14 - Killing it with the GIF's, thank you for the loll's.

The bear and the cocaine is pretty hysterical, too.

rainbowdashh

Guuuuuurl, don't listen to these salty hoes. They're just jealous. They're probably all fat and have husbands who don't love them!

You guise are so mean. She posted in the name thread, so she's totes a reg.

BMaidPlanner

Info for everyone, but especially AW's: here is a link to some general guidelines. I didn't have the energy to actually read through this thread after the "doc isn't concerned" part but I thought some of the info on this page was interesting when I was wondering what this weight gain thing was all about. 

https://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/aboutpregweightgain.html

flerlgirl

God bless @bmaidplanner for giving a real response that will actually help someone. Now, how do we make people read it? 

Susanrush13

Lol every dr appt my dr let's me know how quickly I'm creeping up to

 the "30lb" max healthy weight gain for my size. In reality though her math has been wrong and I hit 30lbs 3lbs ago

Susanrush13

I'm just gonna leave this here...

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12076371/geez-rude-mommas-on-here/p2

MNOpea

Thanks for the QFP's and screenshots!

crhein26

Susanrush13 said:

I'm just gonna leave this here...

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12076371/geez-rude-mommas-on-here/p2

OMG! She didn't learn apparently! Maybe she did figure out how to search through threads though.

nunzchucks

Also, most dead board on TB. I can't wait to see the fruits of her research.

steprozz

seriously I love you guys. I can't believe she thought complaining about our board on another board would maybe go over a little better? she will never learn

BabyCurtiss2014

I think she likes how she looks and was trying to show off! I think she was fishing for compliments! And you know, if she had posted her bump pics in HDBD threat she probably would have gotten it, but starting this thread was a BAD MOVE OP!!!

flerlgirl

I had no idea that board even existed. So I guess I should thank the OP for the info! 

Read247

Combination butt hurt/ eye roll.
ETA: or maybe it's a fart? I dunno. Thought it was funny so I posted it.

k318

thanks for the entertainment

crhein26

Read247 said:

Combination butt hurt/ eye roll. ETA: or maybe it's a fart? I dunno. Thought it was funny so I posted it.

@Read247 - WTF?  I'm literally laughing my ass off at this gif!

nunzchucks

Rachel5130 said:

I'm curious to know what would have happened if someone was like, "Holy shit, 36 pounds? What a fatty!" Because it VERY WELL could have gone that way on the interwebz. People are mean. I think everyone was actually pretty nice.

LOL, Rachel! I thought the same thing!

chickpea912

KrystaJ said:

Lesson here: TB isn't for everyone. I probably should have included a babycenter link for her. It might be more her speed.

@KrystaJ I followed her to the other board and linked to that one as well as the WTEWE forums

tbmadeamistake

So....no.  Just nope.

I'm 5'7".  Not pregnant, I weigh 110lbs.  You, my friend, at 140lbs, are in no way underweight to begin with.  Thanks for that hit to my self esteem, I hate how I look on a daily basis, too damn bony, and to hear that someone with 30 lbs on me thinks she's underweight?  Yeah. 

With my first pregnancy, I gained a total of 65 lbs.  My doctor's didn't seem too concerned because C always measured right on track and I didn't have GD.  Trust your doctors.  Don't get bent out of shape because people gave you reasonable answers.  Although, I have a feeling, had anything other than "wow, you look amazeballs" been said, you'd have taken offense.  Go away.