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WasNotWas

The red number will be the death of me

WasNotWas

@elmoali make it sticky, son

itsStackie

DH is back at work after 7 weeks. I'm nervous for him. But on the plus side he has an interview for management on Friday!

lioness13

Just got a text message from our daycare that no one is there and the head DCP is on her way in from out of town. WTF! So thankful DH is doing drop off later this morning.

ColieAnn31

My ribs and my back are killing me. I have no idea what I did. I took something for the pain last night that caused me to have scary dreams. Grayson went to be an hour and a half early last night which meant he was awake an hour and a half earlier than normal. Things are still tense between SO and I. It's Monday. And I'm babysitting my friends little girl all day. Is it bedtime yet?

tiffletons518

My H is working afternoons/midnights for the 4th week in a row this week. Which leaves me with no help at all during the week. He's sleeping in the morning and doesn't get home until well after bedtime. The sickness has passed and I'm thankful. But, my house is in serious shambles and I don't even know where to start. And, knowing that I'm on my own again all week makes me want to cry. That and the fact that I'm effing late as per usual isn't helping things. I have a new form of super pms that is making things worse. Woe is me.

WasNotWas

tiffletons518 said:

My H is working afternoons/midnights for the 4th week in a row this week. Which leaves me with no help at all during the week. He's sleeping in the morning and doesn't get home until well after bedtime. The sickness has passed and I'm thankful. But, my house is in serious shambles and I don't even know where to start. And, knowing that I'm on my own again all week makes me want to cry. That and the fact that I'm effing late as per usual isn't helping things. I have a new form of super pms that is making things worse. Woe is me.

Deep breath. Big hug. Put Frozen on and start with one room at a time And plan for "you" time when H gets a spare hour (or seven).

tiffletons518

WasNotWas said:

tiffletons518 said:

My H is working afternoons/midnights for the 4th week in a row this week. Which leaves me with no help at all during the week. He's sleeping in the morning and doesn't get home until well after bedtime. The sickness has passed and I'm thankful. But, my house is in serious shambles and I don't even know where to start. And, knowing that I'm on my own again all week makes me want to cry. That and the fact that I'm effing late as per usual isn't helping things. I have a new form of super pms that is making things worse. Woe is me.

Deep breath. Big hug. Put Frozen on and start with one room at a time And plan for "you" time when H gets a spare hour (or seven).

Frozen is totally in and I'm quoting every line as it plays. I guess the plus side is I have small rooms, but I'm not sure how I manage to fit all this stuff neatly into said small rooms. I will probably leave when he gets up. I don't know where I'll go. But, somewhere. For at least a few minutes. I need to take a breath and adjust my attitude if I'm going to have any chance of surviving this day/week.

tiffletons518

Speaking of Frozen.

itsStackie

Seems like we may need to start bitchfest.

ASmallWonder

We invited BIL/SIL and their kids on our Sesame Place vacation.  They blew us off and finally said they couldn't because they didn't have enough vacation time.  Fine.  Yesterday at niece's birthday party, SIL's sister says "Oh hey, we're going camping xyz date. (it's a week long) Do you guys want to come?"  SIL - "We'll make that work!  We'll rent a cabin!"   If they didn't want to go, just say it's not a vacation they want to do right now or whatever but don't lie.  DH used to think he and his brother were close but now he just feels hurt.

WasNotWas

@tiffletons518‌ I have one of those too!!

Western Diva

elmoali said:

We invited BIL/SIL and their kids on our Sesame Place vacation.  They blew us off and finally said they couldn't because they didn't have enough vacation time.  Fine.  Yesterday at niece's birthday party, SIL's sister says "Oh hey, we're going camping xyz date. (it's a week long) Do you guys want to come?"  SIL - "We'll make that work!  We'll rent a cabin!"   If they didn't want to go, just say it's not a vacation they want to do right now or whatever but don't lie.  DH used to think he and his brother were close but now he just feels hurt.

That's rotten! I know what it feels like to have siblings do that and it's awful. Hugs.

ASmallWonder

lioness13 said:

Just got a text message from our daycare that no one is there and the head DCP is on her way in from out of town. WTF! So thankful DH is doing drop off later this morning.

Whaaa?  Like, the other workers just didn't show??

Murphie82

@elmoali said:

We invited BIL/SIL and their kids on our Sesame Place vacation.  They blew us off and finally said they couldn't because they didn't have enough vacation time.  Fine.  Yesterday at niece's birthday party, SIL's sister says "Oh hey, we're going camping xyz date. (it's a week long) Do you guys want to come?"  SIL - "We'll make that work!  We'll rent a cabin!"   If they didn't want to go, just say it's not a vacation they want to do right now or whatever but don't lie.  DH used to think he and his brother were close but now he just feels hurt.

WTH?  I'd have to confront them at this point.  They're acting like complete children.

ASmallWonder

I'm totally getting a complex about it because what if it's me?  I mean, fuck em lol but seriously, what if there's a particular issue here that I don't know about?  DH said he's going to have a real hard time not confronting his brother about what happened yesterday.  They also take a week long vacation every summer in a beach house with all of her friends (which they're also doing this summer).

WasNotWas

They are intimidated at your mod status @elmoali

tttwalters

it's Monday

tttwalters

no real point to that, I was just bored and have nothing real to contribute. Hugs @tiffletons518, I wish I could come over and help you clean and watch your kiddies. Plus drink coffee and eat all the things. 

WasNotWas

Monday you say?

ASmallWonder

kdc2007 said:

@elmoali - DH's brother and SIL are the same way. they do so much with her family and travel to see them. They've been to see us twice in 5 years. it's frustrating, but at the same time, it's who they are and we've stopped worrying about it. (well, except, we b*tch about it every once in a while). 

Yup, that's exactly it.  They bought a house to be near her family so they see them a LOT.  Our inlaws live about 2.5 hours away (it's straight shot, fast drive) and they've only been up there three times in the last four years or so.  My MIL likes to blame the DIL but really, if her own son cared about seeing his family,  he'd step up and say so, so I blame him.

ASmallWonder

heelibrarian said:

Does anyone else have that one room in their house that looks like it belongs on Hoarders?  Just me?  We have a spare bedroom in the basement used for storage, and in my mind it would be like a Container Store-Elfa Wonderland of Organization, but in reality I have to literally walk on boxes to get to other boxes.  How does it get this bad?

So, top tip: don't go in there on a Monday if you don't want to feel completely terrible.

Ugh, our bedroom!  It's the one room in the house never seen by anyone but us and it's where laundry goes to die.

needanustart

@heelibrarian‌ yes. But it's both the spare bedroom in the basement AND our attic AND our garage. I am tackling spare bedroom on my day off between jobs because my parents will be visiting and staying there for Easter. And when DH decides to come back to the land of co-parenting this weekend I am selling a bunch of baby stuff and maternity stuff in our attic which should clear things up. Nothing gets rid of my third baby wishes like a week of him being useless, so maybe that was his grand plan!

needanustart

So I had a brilliant idea this weekend. G is pretty good with eating veggies but I know not all toddlers or kids are. Would it be great if a place like mcdonalds had a chicken nugget that they mixed spinach or carrots or something into so the kids didn't notice? And made it like a hidden order option like only parents could say, like, "one four piece nugget happy meal, one special" so the kid or toddler would think their order was the same (because G would call me on this if he heard a different order). Wouldn't you pay more for that as a parent? I know I would sometimes!

ColieAnn31

WasNotWas said:

Monday you say?

I might need that later tonight!!

ColieAnn31

We have a garage and 2 unfinished areas in our basement that we store everything. It's a mess. But I've moved out and back in a few times so I just keep piling stuff up in my parents house lol

ASmallWonder

@workinit I just put my new registration sticker on my car yesterday - almost a month late - and realized that I accidentally threw away the actual registration.  So now I have to pay $25 for my stupid mistake to be corrected.  Grr!

tttwalters

I just figured out how to get rid of those bumpjackie announcements and "dismissed" them. All is right on my bump page now. 

tttwalters

CL8badB said:

@tttwalters‌ oooo how do you dismiss them??

there is an option button to the right hand side of the title. (same as the edit button on your own post) you just click it and only one option comes up (dismiss) and you click that. 

BC&LM

I can't wait for the summer.  I miss having alone time with LO like I did on maternity leave.  Usually, when I am home, DH is home.  I don't mind sharing most of the time, but sometimes I want my own baby time!

PinkPuffyHeart2

@heelibrarian‌ I feel like we have a junk pile in every room. We were just talking last night (well, I was talking and h agreed) to go room by room and start clearing out. Anything that doesn't have a place to be gets donated. (We have piles of laundry sitting in our bedroom and no more dresser space, for example). I really want it all cleared up. I can't stand clutter.

Murphie82

This would be a Monday B*tchfest thing, but it happened a while ago and I forgot to share until now.

A few weeks ago, MH did my taxes for me.  Awesome except he saw that Intuit was offering some deal that would give us another 10% back on our return if we would accept half of the return in Amazon gift cards.  So without asking me, he took the deal.  I now have $2,750 in Amazon bucks.  Last year I spent maybe $100 on Amazon...at that rate, B will nearly be my age before I use this credit up.

When he told me what he did, all I did was laugh.  Now, when unexpected expenses come up like the cat needing to go to the vet, I ask him if they accept Amazon bucks as a form of payment.  (It's all in good fun because there's nothing we can do to change it now, and I know he won't ever do something like this again without asking me...but it is a pain in the arse to plan ahead and shift some of our spending over to Amazon.)

ASmallWonder

Someone told my brother that Reese's PB eggs are called Reeseter eggs.  Neither of us has ever heard them called that.  Is this person talking out of their ass or are we not up on our Reese's lingo?

HeartLikeMine3

@elmoali‌ that is my very favorite candy but I've never heard them called that!

BunnyLove416

GiggleJiggle said:

CIO peoples: how do you know the baby didn't poo? ETA: we did cry it out but the past few nights he has been waking up in the middle of the night and won't cry as much as yell, then lay back down and stand up and yell some more. I will come in finally after awhile of this and he has a poopy diaper. After I chang him he falls right back to sleep.

If he doesn't quiet down after a few minutes I'll go in there to see if there's any other problem besides he wants my butt up, so I check his diaper, make sure he's not tangled in his blanket, make sure the sound machine's still going etc. If all's well I do the same quick lay down routine as I do at bedtime (quick rock, kiss, mommy loves you etc.) and leave. Sounds like he's learned to self soothe so going in for a quick diaper change and letting him put himself back to sleep after is exactly right.

PinkPuffyHeart2

@heelibrarian‌ yes, enlist that man to help! My LO isn't mobile yet and gets cranky if I'm not paying attention to her so I will probably strap her on my back and dive in. It's a little intimidating to think about though...

Murphie82

@Steamboat1679 said:

Wow @Murphie82‌ DH was telling me about that last night and I was annoyed he didn't convert some of our refund into Amazon dollars, but we actually buy from Amazon. And I was thinking like 500 to get 50 free. 2700 is a lot of Amazon spending.

You get to choose the amount??!!  Ugh...I thought you had to do half to get the 10%. 

I think MH explained that he was trying to get enough extra back to cover an iPad mini, which I might add, we don't need.  I misunderstood what he was saying as, "We had to do half to get the 10%."  Erggghhh!!  <raising clenched fists in the air>

PinkPuffyHeart2

@Murphie82‌ you could do "subscribe and save" items and get all your diapers, wipes, baby shampoo, etc mailed to your door with free shipping if you are a prime member. And that also brings the price down on those items by 30% I think? Maybe 20%. But it will help you eat those bucks. you can probably do the same for other household type items but I've never tried. You set the frequency for how often the items are delivered too. It's kinda nice. Or, just blow it all on whatever you want without consulting your h since that's basically what he did.

Murphie82

@pinkpuffyheart2 That sounds like a good plan - the subscribe and save/Amazon Prime one although I do like the "blow it on whatever" plan too.  The hard part is sitting down and planning everything out, but I guess I've been forced to do that anyway.  My parents said they'd order stuff and pay me back for what they order so that will help too.

SLaBM2B

It's sad when your weekend is so stressful that you look forward to coming to work. 

I also feel terrible for feeling that way.  I really don't know how SAHMs do it.  Babies are hard :-(

WasNotWas

@murphie82 I spend $100/month on Amazon through the subscribe and save. I would actually dig that much Amazon dollars