UO Thursday 3/20

likeanoldtimemovie

Myanswer true said:

Salsera29 said:

Sometimes students who get beat up by other students deserve it. (Like when the kid who has been bullied finally sticks up for himself or the boy who harasses the girls all the time meets up with a big brother).

Confession: In my many years teaching, there have been maybe 2 or 3 times when a kid goes after another kid and I take my time doing something about it. 

I will second this. I was the fat girl in middle school who got made fun of by several of the boys in my class, and one day, I just snapped. Beat the hell out of one of them with a metal yard stick. Today, that boy and I are friends, and he'd be the first to admit he deserved the beating. My mom, a veteran teacher, passed along a piece of advice she was given by her first principal when I first became a teacher: "Sometimes, there are things you just don't see." Does that mean I'm condoning bullying? No, but I do believe in a certain measure of schoolyard justice.

I feel like this as a parent, too. When our 7yo manipulates the hell out of the 5yo and makes him cry, I don't butt in when he tells her he's playing by himself and takes his toys back. She deserves it sometimes.

Obviously, hitting just to hit or being mean to each other is one thing, but standing up for themselves and ending a disagreement? I'm all for that.

Skeemer

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I don't understand joint facebook accounts for married couples.  Yes, you're married, but for heaven's sakes, you're 2 different people with different friends!! DH and I grew up 40 miles away from each other and then went to 2 different colleges...obviously we have mutual friends, but we also have other friends that we don't share.  Just because you are married doesn't mean you need to share EVERYTHING.

YES! And you know it's not the husband using that account! He probably doesn't even know the password. I really don't get the point. 

But the screen names are like follows -

JohnNAmber Smith

John&Amber Smith

Facebook is FREE people. Use it the way God & Mark Zuckerberg intended!

alyssa719

I'm pretty sure this is a bitchfest monday thing or something, but it's in line with the joint facebook accounts... my husband and I have separate fb accounts, separate emails, but 2 joint bank accounts (we also have separate ones).  I wrote an email to someone (from me, obviously), without the input of my husband (as a strong, independent woman can do in this day and age), and in return received an email back addressed to both me and husband.  I was sooo annoyed.  Of course, it came from someone with the joint email/joint facebook so, I guess I should have expected it??  I don't know.

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Jbosarge85

Myanswer true said:

Salsera29 said:

Sometimes students who get beat up by other students deserve it. (Like when the kid who has been bullied finally sticks up for himself or the boy who harasses the girls all the time meets up with a big brother).

Confession: In my many years teaching, there have been maybe 2 or 3 times when a kid goes after another kid and I take my time doing something about it. 

I will second this. I was the fat girl in middle school who got made fun of by several of the boys in my class, and one day, I just snapped. Beat the hell out of one of them with a metal yard stick. Today, that boy and I are friends, and he'd be the first to admit he deserved the beating. My mom, a veteran teacher, passed along a piece of advice she was given by her first principal when I first became a teacher: "Sometimes, there are things you just don't see." Does that mean I'm condoning bullying? No, but I do believe in a certain measure of schoolyard justice.

I also hate when parents don't believe their kids about being bullied first. SS was being bullied at school he gets called names a lot because he has a 6th finger on his right hand and is autistic. Well, he was being bullied and said to the bullies "My life is better without you" And the teacher heard told his mom who grounded him and everyday for a week made him write 100 times "Saying mean things and being a bully is unacceptable" When he came to our house for the weekend I asked him why he said that and he told me he was being bullied but his mom didn't believe me. I was so mad.

Also, my mom was always bullied in school for being overweight she was always told never to fight back and hated it. She was friends with a lot of boys and their girlfriends were jealous and beat her up one day. So all the guys dumped them and walked her to and from school everyday to protect her. She told my siblings and me that we never start a fight but if someone else does and we don't finish it then she'll be mad.

Myanswer true

Jbosarge85 said:

 She told my siblings and me that we never start a fight but if someone else does and we don't finish it then she'll be mad.

You better believe if somebody is beating my kid, he's got my full permission to give them a taste of their own medicine. And that stands for any other child I ever have, male or female.

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AutumnBonfire

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Jbosarge85 said:

Yes yes yes! And then they have to put who is posting. You are different people have different accounts. 

Also, going with the facebook. I hate how people now say relationships aren't official till it's on facebook. If your relationship is so unsteady that unless it's on facebook it's not real there are issues.

My little sister (who's 19) is dating some guy, and she told me 'yeah we're going out but we're not FBO' I had to have her explain what FBO was, and why it was a big deal, and I have never felt so old IN MY LIFE. It was almost as weird as the day she taught me what 'the wobble' was.

One of my friend's boyfriends had her make him a cake they became FBO. She posted a photo and the cake says "We're facebook official" I just roll my eyes. 

I announced my last pregnancy on Facebook after telling friends and family and one of my friends commented that I was now "Facebook official." Like I wasn't really pregnant until then. Plus we were 30, not teenagers. I don't even think this pregnancy will even make it on Facebook until after the baby is born.

cookieinva

I am pretty sure this is not so much a UO as an observation/opinion on a mentioned UO, but I found it so ironic the other day that there was one thread about all the people who are getting sterilizers or think they are necessary and at the same time a thread about one of today's UOs - not washing new clothes before wearing them. At least in this house, all new clothes (or sheets or towels or blankets, etc.) get washed before use. I'm not clutching pearls, but the idea of wearing without washing definitely grosses me out.

My actual UO inspired by yesterday's HDBD thread is that I am still not comfortable sharing my face on here yet. Not that anyone is dying to see it, I know, but I realized yesterday I am now in the minority on that.

Skeemer

Myanswer true said:

Jbosarge85 said:

 She told my siblings and me that we never start a fight but if someone else does and we don't finish it then she'll be mad.

You better believe if somebody is beating my kid, he's got my full permission to give them a taste of their own medicine. And that stands for any other child I ever have, male or female.

My mom got so tired of my cousin beating up on my brother she told my brother the next time he didn't defend himself & punch the cousin hard enough for him to remember it that she would punish him. One day the cousin was beating my brother up so my brother made a fist & knocked the crap out of him. It ended right there. The cousin never tried to hit him again.

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bullybutt

This thread should totally derail to baby cuteness!

 

AutumnBonfire

I'm not fond of shopping in Walmart and we have plenty of Walmartians at ours, but its the cheapest place around compared to the other grocery stories or pharmacies. Plus DH wears jeans for work and just bought a few new pairs for $9 and got a few work sweatshirts for $5. I will put up with it because it saves me money. I haven't really drank the Target Kool-Aid. I like them just fine, but our nearest one is about 45 minutes away and I just don't go there much.

Dh can't be bothered to learn how to use email or remember pesky things like passwords, so whenever he needs an email address, he uses mine. It bugs the crap out of me when I get emails starting off "Dear Autumn's DH," Its my email, not our email!

Basketball is boring and so are all the other sports.

I used an emoticon a few weeks ago in an email to my boss. I had an ultrasound the day before and she asked how it went. I said baby looked good and added a smiley face. I regret nothing.

cuntasaurusrex

LiteraChick said:

aliletz said:

jensavicci said:

LiteraChick said:

jessa8907 said:

ghostof5letters said:

1. I don't wash my baby clothes (or my own) before they wear them. This ruins any chance of returning things they may never wear or don't fit. Plus, it's extra work that is unnecessary. 

2. I hate women that insist on hovering over public toilet seats. 90% of the time, you're the ones making the messes. 

3. The ass kissing on this board is just annoying. It's like watching two sorority sisters make out at a bar for attention and free drinks. 

1. Yep. I rarely wash my clothes until I get a few wears in. The fit always changes after a wash.

2. AGREED!

3. I just love love titting and seeing bumps. Although I guess another UO I have - I hate when people say "I look like shit today", "I'm ugly", "I look fat", etc on the HDBD thread. It just makes you look like you are doing this:

I totally was guilty of #3 yesterday which I feel totally lame about. I agree with you, it's kind of weird to see the constant "Ignore my messy work bathroom" or "my mirror is dirty!" - Idgaf, show me the goodies.

You're kinda guilty of ghost's #3 as well.  Correct if I'm wrong anyone, as I may be making assumptions here, but watching you and Jen slobber all over each other's clits lately is kind of nauseating.  I'm a big fan of you, you know this, but really, scissor it up and move on already

-------------------------------------- I don't ass kiss anyone. I happen to be a friendly, sociable person who doesn't mind throwing out a compliment here and there. It's not my problem if you view it as anything else. I like litera as a person. She actually reminds me quite a lot of a close friend of mine. I can't help that what I do and say to someone else bothers you so much that "you felt the need to post it." Sound familiar?

Sound familiar?  Not really, no.  I'm not butthurt over you two liking one another, and I'm not basing my self-worth over your posts to me (compared to those who do via loveits).  I think it's great that bonds are forming, and there are people I like on this board quite a bit as well!  I also don't go quite as far to call overtly noticeable attention to it publicly, make it even remotely sexual, or post at length on "who's your girl crush" threads, but I suppose to each their own   Differences make the world go round, right?

@aliletz I think what might be rubbing people the wrong way is that it's being described or turned into something that's coming off as mean spirited. "slobbering all over each other's clits" I mean, it's funny to me because it's not true, therefore it's just sarcasm. But it's really not that big a deal to me. I like a lot of chicks on here, I want to say something nice to make them smile because they do the same to me and they may not know that.

But I don't kiss anyone's ass. What would I get out of it?  Instant gratification? I'm not THAT shallow. Believe me, I want to call chicks out on shit ALL OF THE TIME. There are a few on here that send me into rage mode. But honestly, I do that shit too much in my private life and I want to be better about it, so I keep my mouth shut and keep scrolling.

I'm sure you're right on that.  I'm not trying to be mean, aside from the inherent "meanness" of calling someone out, but the clit-slobbering is totally my sarcastic/inappropriate way of summing up the situation.  My steez should not be a surprise to anyone well-seasoned by now

drunkenhandstand

Spinning off the kids getting into fights….

So yesterday, my boys were outside playing, as they do everyday. My boys are 3 & 5 and they primarily play with the 5 yr old girl across the street. However, we also have an 8 yr old across the street who is a little hellion. Honestly, deep down he's a good kid. He's very tiny (like smaller than my 5yr old - which I'm assuming gets him made fun of at school). Just a combo of behavioral disorders, bad parenting, etc. Anyway, he has good days and bad days. Somedays it's fine for him to play with the younger kids (if he's taken his meds that day). Other days, I have to literally tell him he can't play with them. He's talked about inappropriate things in front of them, stolen their toys, crashed their bikes/scooters, pushed them, purposely knocked them off their bikes, etc. He just really has to be watched closely. 

Anyway…. Long story short, yesterday was a "bad" day for this kid. He kept picking on my 5 yr old, making fun of him, teasing him, etc. My 5 yr old has such a tender heart. He doesn't engage in any sort of conflict. Instead of sticking up for himself, he will come inside and cry to me privately. My 3 yr old is the complete opposite - independent, doesn't give a f*ck, fearless little asshole. 

I walk inside to pee for 2 min and I come back out and the kid went home crying and pissed off. I asked what happened and they said the 8 yr old told my 5 yr old he was going to take his toy on the bus tomorrow because I (mom) couldn't see them on the bus. My 3 yr old then proceeded to push him and tell him he was going to "punch him in the face." My 3 yr old. I was speechless. We (my family) do not speak like that. Ever. I was mortified. I brought him in, disciplined him, etc.

However, I guess my UO is that I'm secretly proud of him. I'm so sick of that little shit across the street and I can't believe it was my 3 yr old who put him in his place. 

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January Bride

Myanswer true said:

Jbosarge85 said:

 She told my siblings and me that we never start a fight but if someone else does and we don't finish it then she'll be mad.

You better believe if somebody is beating my kid, he's got my full permission to give them a taste of their own medicine. And that stands for any other child I ever have, male or female.

I definitely agree with all the stories on here so far about standing up to bullies.  I was bullied as a kid for being a bit overweight, weird hair, too talkative, "poor clothes" (ugh, kids suck), etc.  I finally stood up for myself on the playground one day and one of the teachers pulled me aside later and said "You are better than them and you know it.  Do you really want to sink to their level or rise above it?  When you are a grown up you will see that your life is so much better."

She didn't tell me to stop standing up for myself, but I really appreciated her alternative perspective on how to handle things. 

I always remembered that advice and kind of took some pride in that when I ran into one of the bullies over fifteen years later.  Her life was a total mess and I remember thinking "wow, that teacher was completely correct."

I hope to be able to give my kids a mix of the "stand up for yourself" and "rise above it, don't sink to their level" advice someday if they need it.  I think both perspectives are beneficial.

alyssa719

aliletz said:

LiteraChick said:

aliletz said:

jensavicci said:

LiteraChick said:

jessa8907 said:

ghostof5letters said:

1. I don't wash my baby clothes (or my own) before they wear them. This ruins any chance of returning things they may never wear or don't fit. Plus, it's extra work that is unnecessary. 

2. I hate women that insist on hovering over public toilet seats. 90% of the time, you're the ones making the messes. 

3. The ass kissing on this board is just annoying. It's like watching two sorority sisters make out at a bar for attention and free drinks. 

1. Yep. I rarely wash my clothes until I get a few wears in. The fit always changes after a wash.

2. AGREED!

3. I just love love titting and seeing bumps. Although I guess another UO I have - I hate when people say "I look like shit today", "I'm ugly", "I look fat", etc on the HDBD thread. It just makes you look like you are doing this:

I totally was guilty of #3 yesterday which I feel totally lame about. I agree with you, it's kind of weird to see the constant "Ignore my messy work bathroom" or "my mirror is dirty!" - Idgaf, show me the goodies.

You're kinda guilty of ghost's #3 as well.  Correct if I'm wrong anyone, as I may be making assumptions here, but watching you and Jen slobber all over each other's clits lately is kind of nauseating.  I'm a big fan of you, you know this, but really, scissor it up and move on already

-------------------------------------- I don't ass kiss anyone. I happen to be a friendly, sociable person who doesn't mind throwing out a compliment here and there. It's not my problem if you view it as anything else. I like litera as a person. She actually reminds me quite a lot of a close friend of mine. I can't help that what I do and say to someone else bothers you so much that "you felt the need to post it." Sound familiar?

Sound familiar?  Not really, no.  I'm not butthurt over you two liking one another, and I'm not basing my self-worth over your posts to me (compared to those who do via loveits).  I think it's great that bonds are forming, and there are people I like on this board quite a bit as well!  I also don't go quite as far to call overtly noticeable attention to it publicly, make it even remotely sexual, or post at length on "who's your girl crush" threads, but I suppose to each their own   Differences make the world go round, right?

@aliletz I think what might be rubbing people the wrong way is that it's being described or turned into something that's coming off as mean spirited. "slobbering all over each other's clits" I mean, it's funny to me because it's not true, therefore it's just sarcasm. But it's really not that big a deal to me. I like a lot of chicks on here, I want to say something nice to make them smile because they do the same to me and they may not know that.

But I don't kiss anyone's ass. What would I get out of it?  Instant gratification? I'm not THAT shallow. Believe me, I want to call chicks out on shit ALL OF THE TIME. There are a few on here that send me into rage mode. But honestly, I do that shit too much in my private life and I want to be better about it, so I keep my mouth shut and keep scrolling.

I'm sure you're right on that.  I'm not trying to be mean, aside from the inherent "meanness" of calling someone out, but the clit-slobbering is totally my sarcastic/inappropriate way of summing up the situation.  My steez should not be a surprise to anyone well-seasoned by now

I kind of want to punch myself for how long the quote is now but whatever...

I think there's a huge difference between a compliment on someone's picture and going on for 53 pages about it over and over.  Honestly, at that point I basically give up and can't even continue reading a thread.  It's one thing to be nice and/or compliment.  It's another when it just goes on forever.

Clit slobbering is also obviously an exaggeration?  I'm not even sure why that would be questioned.  Unless people start posting drooling pics... Okay, that's too creepy even for me.

middleschoolmommy

I hate when someone puts a selfie on fb with the caption "new haircut" (or the like) and its a picture that BARELY fits in their face, but shows ALL the clevage.

AKbadwolf

 

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abunai523

I see your giraffe, and raise you a smiley seal face!

alyssa719

LiteraChick said:

@alyssa719 ... just. Stop. If you can't stop, then I challenge you to find where in the hell the 53 pages of ass kissing ensued, because I know for a fact it doesn't exist. You can go back to the old ass "Girl Crush" thread and try and find examples but it'd be a waste of time. I already said clit slobbering was recognized sarcasm. I fail to see how you think you are clarifying.

@Literachick, you're right, "53 pages" was also an exaggeration.  WHich seems to be the issue around here.  Things like sarcasm and exaggerations are obviously being taken literally which is ridiculous.  It's not in the "girl crush" thread that I remember, but it has been in HDBD ones (I was actually too busy to even read the one from yesterday) where I'm like, past even posting by the time the "complimenting" stops.

I wasn't intending to clarify anything, but I'm permitted to throw in my 2 cents, as I would be on an internet message board.  So this is what I was doing.  Back to the baby animals.

marathonmom823

I HATE Wal-Mart and refuse to shop there. It's filthy, full of junk, and over run by white trash.The selection and quality of items is horrendous. I will drive 15 miles in the opposite direction to go to Target rather than the 1 mile to Wal-Mart. Also, the prices are cheaper at Target and the quality is better. Fortunately we have a Wegmans grocery store in town, so I can buy almost everything I need there.

My UO- I don't find Steve Carrell to be funny.at.all. I went to college in Scranton, PA, but I couldn't get into watching "The Office."

Kristy&Rodney

I can't stand food fear mongering going on lately, I don't see anything wrong with GMO's (to a certain degree) and I think naturopathy is nothing more than a scam.   There you go, my first UO.  And I also dislike Mercola and Dr. Oz pretty much equally.  Mercola I hate just a little bit more though. 

drunkenhandstand

marathonmom823 said:

I HATE Wal-Mart and refuse to shop there. It's filthy, full of junk, and over run by white trash.The selection and quality of items is horrendous. I will drive 15 miles in the opposite direction to go to Target rather than the 1 mile to Wal-Mart. Also, the prices are cheaper at Target and the quality is better. Fortunately we have a Wegmans grocery store in town, so I can buy almost everything I need there. My UO- I don't find Steve Carrell to be funny.at.all. I went to college in Scranton, PA, but I couldn't get into watching "The Office."

The prices are cheaper at Target? Not where we live. Not even close. I still prefer Target and their store brands over Walmart's but compare something they both carry in the same brand - say dog food or paper towels or organic milk… Target is usually at LEAST $1 higher. I'm in Texas though. Not sure if it's a geographical thing.

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jojobean86 said:

marathonmom823 said:

I HATE Wal-Mart and refuse to shop there. It's filthy, full of junk, and over run by white trash.The selection and quality of items is horrendous. I will drive 15 miles in the opposite direction to go to Target rather than the 1 mile to Wal-Mart. Also, the prices are cheaper at Target and the quality is better. Fortunately we have a Wegmans grocery store in town, so I can buy almost everything I need there.

My UO- I don't find Steve Carrell to be funny.at.all. I went to college in Scranton, PA, but I couldn't get into watching "The Office."

The prices are cheaper at Target? Not where we live. Not even close. I still prefer Target and their store brands over Walmart's but compare something they both carry in the same brand - say dog food or paper towels or organic milk… Target is usually at LEAST $1 higher. I'm in Texas though. Not sure if it's a geographical thing.

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Well for geographical comparison's sake, I am in Alabama and Target is always a lot higher than Walmart here as well.

hgtvmom

I have similar feelings about Walmart and Whole Foods. Some things differ - like I despise how dirty and trashy the physical walmart store is. But, some mirror each other.

The people at both places tend to be super focused on themselves. They leave a cart in the middle of an isle to go look at something, blocking everyone else's way. They run through intersections without looking for cross traffic, running my ass down. They allow their children to run amok. I always have a service dog with me. At both places, the dog gets hit with carts, taunted, pet without permission, expected to baby sit kids (I regularly hear people tell their kids to go pet the dog. Umm no. The dog is working and NOT there for your child's entertainment)

Give me Target and Trader Joes any day! MY shopping experience is just better at those places because the people around me seem to actually give a shit about the other people in the store.

abundancenow

Kristy&Rodney said:

I can't stand food fear mongering going on lately, I don't see anything wrong with GMO's (to a certain degree) and I think naturopathy is nothing more than a scam.   There you go, my first UO.  And I also dislike Mercola and Dr. Oz pretty much equally.  Mercola I hate just a little bit more though. 

I hope it is unpopular to think there is nothing wrong with GMOs.

You can start here if you were curious.

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ghostof5letters said:

I don't wash my baby clothes (or my own) before they wear them. This ruins any chance of returning things they may never wear or don't fit. Plus, it's extra work that is unnecessary. 

I hate women that insist on hovering over public toilet seats. 90% of the time, you're the ones making the messes. 

I hate facials and I'm getting one today since my skin is so dry it's literally flaking off. This will officially be torture for me. 

@Ghostof5letters  (tagging because I know I'd never see this if someone quoted but didn't tag me)

I don't usually wash my own clothing, but I do wash baby clothes.  I'm one of those crazies with a super sensitive nose and I'm sensitive to any scented detergent... sometimes I think new clothes smell like chemicals or dyes or something.  I can't tell you how many times that stupid episode of House comes to mind when I buy new clothes.  The one where multiple girls were dying because there was a chemical spilled on a box of jeans that they all purchased and wore without washing.  (Totally rational, I know.)

Agreed! Hovering is pointless, you're not going to catch herpes from a toilet seat.  In a pathology class we were asked to culture places we thought had the most bacteria.  Toilet seats came up CLEAN!  The most disgustingly filthy petri dish came from the drip tray in coffee vending machine!

I've had one facial in my life and she had to stop before she finished because my skin felt like it was on fire.  Not exactly a pleasant experience.

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abundancenow said:

Kristy&Rodney said:

I can't stand food fear mongering going on lately, I don't see anything wrong with GMO's (to a certain degree) and I think naturopathy is nothing more than a scam.   There you go, my first UO.  And I also dislike Mercola and Dr. Oz pretty much equally.  Mercola I hate just a little bit more though. 

I hope it is unpopular to think there is nothing wrong with GMOs.

You can start here if you were curious.

I am not strongly against GMOs and am no expert, but the Roundup ready crops are a lil bit scary...which is probably most of our corn, wheat, sugar, etc.  :-S

SuperTinkerham

I love whole foods, hate wal mart and target is meh. I only go to Walmart if we are in a small town and we forgot something like deodorant or toothpaste.

hgtvmom

shanicenicolle said:

Pup4gdb said:

I have similar feelings about Walmart and Whole Foods. Some things differ - like I despise how dirty and trashy the physical walmart store is. But, some mirror each other.

The people at both places tend to be super focused on themselves. They leave a cart in the middle of an isle to go look at something, blocking everyone else's way. They run through intersections without looking for cross traffic, running my ass down. They allow their children to run amok. I always have a service dog with me. At both places, the dog gets hit with carts, taunted, pet without permission, expected to baby sit kids (I regularly hear people tell their kids to go pet the dog. Umm no. The dog is working and NOT there for your child's entertainment)

Give me Target and Trader Joes any day! MY shopping experience is just better at those places because the people around me seem to actually give a shit about the other people in the store.

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nothing pisses me off more than people letting their kids pet a service dog. I was taught at a very early age when they have their vest on they're working and not to be played with.

I am 100% ok with petting IF someone asks and respects my answer. My dog is in training. He's a puppy and petting is a great stress reducer and a huge reward. If my dog's behavior has earned the interaction and someone asks, I will say yes. But don't send your brat over to bug my dog because you want a break. Don't do a "drive by" petting. Don't tell me "oh I know I'm not supposed to pet him, but I can't help myself." Yes you can. You are an adult. Grow up. And the quickest way to piss me off is to imply that I should allow you to crawl under my dining table in a restaurant to visit my dog. Sorry, I'm paying for my experience just as you are. I'm not paying to have you crawl under my table and disturb my dog's "work." His job in that moment to lie still until I ask him to do otherwise.

People who don't ask are a learning experience for my dog. I'm pretty blunt in talking "to" my dog about the rewards and consequences he faces. "Don't let someone else's bad behavior get you in trouble. You know that behavior is not acceptable." It makes people think twice about how they are directly causing any negative or positive feedback the dog is getting.