Still pregnant and trying to be Zen not miserable. Anyone else? Come in!

miramirror

lnvane00 said:

I declined cervical checks until last week when I hit 40&1. I wasn't dilated at all...

I'm a STM, 40+1, and had also declined all cervical checks until my 40-week appointment. 

(I'm GBS+ and am worried about accidentally passing along that bacteria via a check. I had a million checks last GBS+ pregnancy and DS was born with an unexplained infection, so I'm a little paranoid.)

Anyway, after several days of 8-hour long bouts of irregular contractions, I decided I'd have my doc check my cervix and strip my membranes yesterday. I was tired of the false labor and figured she could get something started. Turns out she couldn't, because I'm not even fingertip dilated. I wasn't at this point in my first pregnancy either, but I also hadn't been having days of contractions last time. I've been telling myself that this false labor is wonderful, that I'm shaving hours off the real thing, that every contraction is doing something. I almost cried when I found out that it's all been completely ineffectual.

Even worse, my OB couldn't hide her surprise at how completely not progressed I am for a STM. 

Now resolved to not check again until 42 weeks. I need to be able to hold on to my positive delusions that my body is moving things along in unseen ways. lol

myfriendscallmemeg

My zen happened yesterday. I was glowing! I did not feel 9 months pregnant! I felt amazing! I had energy, I wasn't angry at anyone or anything. I had a heart to heart with my boss who told me wonderful things about paying me while I'm out on maternity leave (I was not expecting that at ALL!) and plans for my next to nonexistent return, how much we don't like the new girl, and then I spent the afternoon shopping for organizers to setup my home office for where I'll be working post baby.

Then my husband & i went out for dinner and I got to hang out with my suuuuper cute 5 month old nephew. It was so nice to feel normal and good!

Unfortunately this morning I feel like I got hit by a train. My zen has slowed down. But I'm working from home today! So I'm going to keep it positive! Baby will just come whenever she wants. Not a big rush, no hurry. Mama's got a big mess she needs to take care of today before you can arrive!

saisongbird

Even though I'm tired this morning, I'm a little more zen.  It's in the 50s, temp-wise today, which means it's FINALLY warm enough to walk around outside and go get that mani-pedi I want!!!

MeganFrench120389

Zen has been hard to come by this morning. I didn't sleep; spent all night tossing and turning so I'm crabby and don't really want to deal with anyone. I've already recieved a few of the "is baby coming?" texts. No, baby isn't here yet. No, I don't know when she will be here. No I don't want to discuss how dialated I am. And then when I say I feel like garbage, it becomes "oh just wait.." blah blah blah. Just once I would love a text or phone call that starts with asking how I am, not when is she getting here.
I am hopeful that I'll get out of this funk at some point today... Just not too sure when.

kmeyers0611

I was so zen yesterday, even tried to help others find theirs and then last night for no reason, BAM! Started crying and have no idea why. I also could not fall asleep at all. Then, DH woke up with a swollen foot that he can't even Stand on, out of nowhere, and we're hoping it's just an infection and not something like a bone spur bc with my due date a weeek away, we really don't have time for surgery, plus I really need him to be mobile when I go into labor... He has a dr's appt tomorrow at 7 am so we'll see what they say. Of course, this also meant I only got 2-3 hours of sleep last night so I am like a zombie today

lnvane00

I kind of feel in a funk today too.. we really thought last night I would go into labor.

Two reasons, the first because I have always had the date March 20th pop up in my mind for baby to be born and second TMI I started losing my mp yesterday and that has been the only thing new and exciting to happen other then the constant intense BH contractions.... so I for sure thought something would happen last night. And of course, nothing. Im trying to stay positive but its hard I have a midwife appt today and I hope I am making good progress!!!

@Jt7dreamz‌
Enjoy your lunch and acupuncture! Hang in there cuz I know how you feel

WoodShopGirl

Jt7dreamz said:

@lnvane00‌ and to think you were jealous of my plug just yesterday!!! (Were so gross) gl at the midwife. I just had my scan. Our little one is perfect and healthy and the doc told me to not worry. So I am up a bit. I stopped by a fancy Sammy place and had a truffles grilled cheese with asparagus which was delicious. And now I'm getting yet another mani pedi and heading to Accupuncture in a few.

And now my leftover pizza from our late night delivery last night looks so unappealing.  I think I will make up for it with peanut M&Ms.

jennbaylor12

Keeping the positive Zen vibes flowing - had a beautiful walk in the sunshine with DH, we walked about a mile! Then my sister came over and brought the blocks I'd been hoping to find for newborn pictures and my mom found the cloth diapers for burp cloths that is been looking for and now we're all going to Chick-fil-a for lunch!

ewallace00

I'm having lunch at home, then plan to walk around Target for a while .. maybe hit up Michael's next door. Zen!

AnonymousMotherOfOne

Jt7dreamz said:

bennieangel said:

. Because that makes things so much better? Ugh. 

I warned my husband. I am so grossed out by it. Trying to decide if we should do it tonight or tomorrow. And I know the answer is both.


I am of the opinion that pregnant sex at nine months is just gross. It doesn't feel sexy, and more often than not I'm not thinking about how it feels for me, I'm thinking about the fact that while we're DTD, she's in there moving around. Which is just total weirdness.

WoodShopGirl

Where is our Zen master @pepperedmoth ? Is she having that baby and abandoning us?

AnonymousMotherOfOne

@WoodShopGirl‌ FX that's what's happening, because SOMEONE in this thread needs to be able to move on from "trying to be zen" to "now I can try to be zen while I feed this little thing that fell out of my vagina".

Sanibel21

Keeping zen despite not liking the covering doctor at all and needing $400 of work in my car, on top of needing new tires in the near future. What other choice do I have?
I just saw two peeps on a tandem bike go up the road. It made me giggle atleast.

KayCee85

kmeyers0611 said:

jh&kh said:

My zen is diminishing. I thought for sure as a STM I would have recognizable contractions by now, but I've still got nothing. (39 +1) my doctor keeps telling me something is happening because I'm 2cm, but my cervical checks are the MOST horribly painful because my cervix is still posterior... Same thing happened with DD1 and my cervix didn't tilt anterior til actual labor. I feel like that was rambling but I'm just getting more anxious!

FTM, but mine is so far posterior she can't even reach to see if I am dilated at all! It sucks so bad!

Mine is also posterior, and baby's head is so low she struggled to reach it and it hurt like a b*tch!!! Next week's appointment I'll be 40+5 and my induction is scheduled for the next day, so I will most definitely be refusing the internal.

kkranberry

Well no progress here either. Baby is still way high and I amat like .5 cm! So I got a haircut and manicure. Now I need a nap!

kaking78

LO got an eviction date today of March 27 and I'm freaking out a little bit. I'm restoring my zen through dessert - I went to the store and got the stuff to make labor cake. Worst case scenario, it doesn't work and I still got to eat chocolate cake.

https://www.justmommies.com/pregnancy/labor-and-childbirth/labor-cake-chocolate-cake-to-induce-labor

pepperedmoth

Anneplusone said:

WoodShopGirl said:

Where is our Zen master @pepperedmoth ? Is she having that baby and abandoning us?

Haven't seen her all day! Hope she's in labour

Awww, thanks guys. 

Nope, no labor, I wish! Just having trouble mobile-bumping. Dunno what the problem is but it won't let me type responses very well at all though I can read. I hopped on my laptop when I saw you were enquiring!

pepperedmoth

We can continue to be Zen together!

This morning my goal was to take things minute by minute and I have succeeded until just about right now. I just kept asking myself, "what do I want to be doing with this moment in time?" and then I did it. 

Some of it was productive (folded two loads of laundry,, started another) and some of it wasn't (binge-watched Prime Suspect with Helen Mirren) but it worked pretty well for me!

Having trouble with the weather here. Forecast to be 30's and overcast for the foreseeable future . . . sigh. I really want some warmth and some sun. 

BUT ANYWAY I recommend the "what do I want to be doing in this moment?" trick. If you can provide yourself with realistic answers, it works. 

WoodShopGirl

pepperedmoth said:

Awww, thanks guys. 

Nope, no labor, I wish! Just having trouble mobile-bumping. Dunno what the problem is but it won't let me type responses very well at all though I can read. I hopped on my laptop when I saw you were enquiring!

Booo!  We were hoping for you.

pepperedmoth

WoodShopGirl said:

pepperedmoth said:

Awww, thanks guys. 

Nope, no labor, I wish! Just having trouble mobile-bumping. Dunno what the problem is but it won't let me type responses very well at all though I can read. I hopped on my laptop when I saw you were enquiring!

Booo!  We were hoping for you.

Thank you! :-) I am hoping for me, too . . . but I would also be OK with going a little longer. My mom's birthday is Sunday, just the day before my due date, and I'd love to have the baby on her birthday (she'd love that too). 

WoodShopGirl

Does anyone find a zen moment in the fact that as of midnight tomorrow we will be having Gemini babies instead of Taurus?

I am not really into signs, but MH brought it up.

Edited: Astrological sign fail.  MH was looking at May.  Please please don't let me be pregnant in May!  Any thoughts on Pisces versus Aries?

pepperedmoth

LOL, @woodshopgirl, I am soooo not into astrology that I had to look it up. But it looks like they'd be aries babies now, instead of pisces?

Is that good or bad?

WoodShopGirl

pepperedmoth said:

LOL, @woodshopgirl, I am soooo not into astrology that I had to look it up. But it looks like they'd be aries babies now, instead of pisces?

Is that good or bad?

No idea, I am not really into it either.  Here is from a link I found.  Just something entertaining.

Aries Strength Keywords:

- Independent
- Generous
- Optimistic
- Enthusiastic
- Courageous

Aries Weakness Keywords:

- Moody
- Short tempered
- Self-involved
- Impulsive
- Impatient

It goes into more depth if you want to read.

https://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/zodiac-signs/aries.htm

kmeyers0611

@WoodShopGirl‌ I am an Aries and I am delightful!

pepperedmoth

@kmeyers0611, your siggy is making me want a glass of wine like whoa. 

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. 

ewallace00

I'm a Virgo, and all I know is both Pisces and Aries are pretty different from me. I do wonder how that works / how well that clicks in a mother/son or mother/daughter combo

WoodShopGirl

@ewallace00 and others.  Just found this.  You put in your sign and the child's sign and it gives you a profile.

https://www.babycenter.com/horoscopeCompatibility.htm?r=pnc&sign1=libra&sign2=aries

kmeyers0611

@pepperedmoth‌ that was the point of the March challenge! I already have 3 bottles picked out to enjoy sporadically in the months after this baby is born ETA: and that is my zen thought for this evening lol

CruiseGirl28

WoodShopGirl said:

Does anyone find a zen moment in the fact that as of midnight tomorrow we will be having Gemini babies instead of Taurus?

I am not really into signs, but MH brought it up.

Edited: Astrological sign fail.  MH was looking at May.  Please please don't let me be pregnant in May!  Any thoughts on Pisces versus Aries?

A few months ago, I told DH i was going overdue because LO is going to be an Aries. I read about it again today, and her personality (over energetic, etc) is already 100% Aries.

CruiseGirl28

ewallace00 said:

I'm a Virgo, and all I know is both Pisces and Aries are pretty different from me. I do wonder how that works / how well that clicks in a mother/son or mother/daughter combo

I'm a Virgo too, and I put our signs into the site @WoodShopGirl‌ mentioned. Basically, it will be a bit of a challenge, since we're so orderly/neat and LO won't be like that. I think my daughter is going to make me more relaxed haha.

lnvane00

@lnvane00‌ anxiously awaiting an update!


@Jt7dreamz‌
well.. I left my midwife appt in tears I haven't dilated at all and just writing that is making me tear up. They tried to comfort me and tell me that there is nothing wrong. Baby just isn't ready to come out. My husband even started tearing up cuz he didnt like seeing me upset.
So..I am going in on Tuesday and they will check me again and I will be 42 weeks on Wednesday and they will send me to get an NST done... I hope it doesn't come to that though and baby decides to come this weekend or something...

akflutterby

Man, I hadn't even thought about the astrology thing. Apparently LO and I are NOTgoing to get along. Oh well, that's what happens when they're teens anyway. Already had a HUGE fight tonight with my 16yo and I have decided I am done with today and going to have dinner with a girlfriend and maybe even a glass of red wine. This far along I'm sure it's totally fine. My zen will be at the bottom of that glass I am certain.

ewallace00

CruiseGirl28 said:

I'm a Virgo, and all I know is both Pisces and Aries are pretty different from me. I do wonder how that works / how well that clicks in a mother/son or mother/daughter combo

I'm a Virgo too, and I put our signs into the site @WoodShopGirl‌ mentioned. Basically, it will be a bit of a challenge, since we're so orderly/neat and LO won't be like that. I think my daughter is going to make me more relaxed haha.

My younger brother is an Aries. He has more of the self absorbed and active all the time traits. WE Get along fine, but we know we are pretty different from each other.

lnvane00

Laura8388 said:

@lnvane00‌ I came creeping in this thread (I have no place in here) just to check if you were still around! I had my fingers crossed for a 03/20 baby for you! Ah well, it's a dumb date anyways.

I think you will go into labour late Friday night. That's what my bet is on. Sorry you had a dumb appt today

That would be awesome! Saturday is DH birthday!
But dont hold your breath
This kid is stuuuuuborn

lnvane00

Hey girls I wanted to update here since I've been hanging out here for the last few days I also posted in the Roll Call thread.
I think im in labor. Contractions woke me up and a minute later I felt leaking so I ran to the toilet and more fluid came out before I started peeing..sorry for the details we've been timing contractions and they are 2-4 minutes apart and last a minute or less.. been texting my Doula!
I dont have a labor buddy so I guess this is the 'im in labor post' pray for me!? Im scared and excited and nervous!

myfriendscallmemeg

I've made pampering appointments & dinner plans for Monday. It'll make it easier to wish labor off for a few more days! But! My EDD countdown is 7--one week from today! SGR!

benevolentforce

So excited for you @Invane00! You are going to be amazing, and your little boy is going to be the cutest. Will be thinking of you!! *hugs*

pepperedmoth

Congrats @lnvane00! We're rooting for you!

kmeyers0611

Yay! So happy to hear things are moving @lnvane00‌ keep us posted!

My zen for the day - I got a full 7 hours of sleep last night and feel amazing! My zen will be ruined by a meeting with my boss later this morning who is driving me nuts but hopefully restored at lunch when I will get to see my besties

WoodShopGirl

@lmvane00 good luck!

My zen today, I have my 40 week appt. This may or may not be zen after a cervical check, but at least I know that no matter what I only have a week+ left (my OB will only let me go to 41).

Plus my appt means that I get to play hooky from work for a few hours!