Still pregnant and trying to be Zen not miserable. Anyone else? Come in!

jennbaylor12

@pepperedmoth‌ - glad DH is home and handling matters! Drink up and enjoy!!

pepperedmoth

Everyone in this thread should go get a warm drink, sit down, and relax. I will lead by example!

jennbaylor12

pepperedmoth said:

Everyone in this thread should go get a warm drink, sit down, and relax. I will lead by example!

Trying to find my Zen today! Only got about 3.5hrs of sleep, traffic was a bitch, now waiting for my Dr to come in..... He offered an induction last week and we declined, we'll see how things are shaping up today!!

AnonymousMotherOfOne

@wearebirds‌ @akflutterby‌ No, he promised we would spend our first night together in the new house last night, and changed his mind around 10:30pm. I was livid, and couldn't sleep after that, so I drove back to the old place where he was, and we spent the night here.

He'd had a couple drinks, and wasn't going to drive, which in thankful/stabby for. He felt so bad though that he held me while I angry cried on his shoulder, promised he wouldn't be an ass like that again, and then gave me a back rub before we fell asleep. He also finally discussed baby names with me (still nothing chosen, but it's a start) and promised he would go to the grocery store so that our refrigerator wouldn't be bare at the new place.

After he found out I had a couple of real, but unproductive CX yesterday, he woke me up with lots of (hopeful!) baby inducing sex. I know it's still early, technically, but who would complain if she came today or tomorrow? Certainly not this mama!!!

I have my zen back now, temporarily. We shall see what the day brings. Small goals for today:

1. Wash my sheets. For the love of all that is beautiful, wash the sheets.

2. Maybe fold the sheets. I dunno. If I feel like it...

3. Make a grocery list for MH so that we actually get more than a box of cereal and some bananas or lunch meat and cheese.

MeganFrench120389

I'm having issues finding my zen. I got 4 hrs of sleep, woke up to my dog puking, my husband is being whiny... And to top it off, I had my 38 week appt today. I'm barely dilated and baby isn't dropping like she's supposed to. I know I still have some time (10days until my EDD) but I'm having a hard time dealing. I have a feeling it's going to be one of those days where I crawl back into bed and just have a lazy day despite the pile of laundry needing to be done and a dirty kitchen.

WoodShopGirl

I am at work and dealing with an issue on a very large job.

My Zen....the issue is due to the customer's mistake, not ours.  So we won't have to eat the cost.  Just now awaiting for their approval on the change order cost.

Oh, and I've decided that I deserve a break from said issue to go out to lunch.  Usually I am an eat-at-my-desk-and-power-thru-lunch kinda girl, but I think I need to get out today.  MH can cover the office.

rockopera

Zen mode is fleeting today. Got the call from the scheduler and I go in at 4am to be induced.

So now I'm freaking out about everything. Including opting to try for a vaginal delivery even though my doc recommends a section. Baby is big. Est 4600 grams on Friday (~10lbs). The recommendation is 5000g, and we aren't there yet. And the recommendation is weak because true fetal macrosomia is rare. But since he has to give me all the risks, now I'm letting it creep in that I'm just being selfish and putting baby at risk for no reason. Although logically, I know that I'm not. Vaginal should be safer/better than a section for multiple reasons, and the risk of shoulder dystocia is small. I just want to try.

I'm also stressed out about the epidural. I'm going to agree to one in order to mitigate the risks of giant baby, including the pain of any maneuvers/forceps/etc, and to be prepped for a c section in case baby really is too big. The idea of loss of control and movement is big for me.

I know that I've researched and assessed risks when I was unemotional and not exhausted, so I should trust myself there. But SGR and today is tough.

Rita092010

Zen goal of the day: in sitting in the nursery in the sun, rocking, and drinking a cup of tea. I'm trying to keep it together today.

Sanibel21

Nice zen work @pepperedmoth!!
@bridenamedmegg I hope the testing goes well!
I totally need to work on my zen for the day today. At work and just going to do the best I can do. Not going to worry about not being able to do as much as I normally can. And not going to worry what others think of me, mostly the coworker I don't get along with.
I also need to accept that my mother and stepdad may be upset with me over something I had to address with them. She has been very cool and aloof with me, but I can only control how I act and react. I cannot control how anyone else acts, reacts, and feels. And I certainly cannot back down from something I am uncomfortable with just to spare their feelings. I just hope if it comes up that I can maintain my composure and discuss logically instead of emotionally.

pepperedmoth

More hugs all around.

I thought I'd suggest my fave guided meditations? If you have an iPhone check out "Headspace" in the app store (dunno about Android. They're available on the web though for anyone).

It gives you ten free guided meditations that I think are VERY well done, plus the guy has a very pleasant voice with a British accent. You can then subscribe and get a lot more guided meditations after that if you're into it. But the ten free ones are great, and meant to be done one a day anyway, so they may get many of us up to delivery day!

My favorite resource for Christian/Quaker meditation is Thomas Kelly's A Testament of Devotion. There's no Kindle edition but it's available on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0060643617

Super helpful.

jennbaylor12

pepperedmoth said:

More hugs all around.

I thought I'd suggest my fave guided meditations?

Super helpful.

Thanks @pepperedmoth‌!!

aLsMay24

I'm really really trying for zen today but I don't know where to start. I had my 40w check up with DS on his edd and they admitted me to L&D that day for high bp and I had him the next morning. I had my 40w check up yesterday and bp was fine. So as of 8:56am tomorrow morning I will officially be the most pregnant I've ever been.

I really should have planned something for today because sitting here thinking about it is harder then I thought it would be. DH doesn't get it and thinks he should get to go out for beers with his coworkers since this could be the last time for a while. I'd like to do something just me but that's not going to happen.

I just want to be able to be ok with this no control thing but I can't figure it out.

jennbaylor12

Holding on to my Zen..... Had 39/40wk appt this morning, making some small progress but we know that means squat. Dr stripped my membranes and scheduled me to come in for an induction Friday evening due to this being my 4th week on bedrest due to BP, severe swelling, apparent large baby, etc.
Am very pleased that he took the time to have a long discussion with me about my wishes and concerns, his methods, etc. Plus he is on call and will be at the hospital Saturday, so will likely deliver.
Now just trying to focus on not focusing too much on if the stripping will work and relaxing....

KayCee85

aLsMay24 said:

I'm really really trying for zen today but I don't know where to start. I had my 40w check up with DS on his edd and they admitted me to L&D that day for high bp and I had him the next morning. I had my 40w check up yesterday and bp was fine. So as of 8:56am tomorrow morning I will officially be the most pregnant I've ever been. I really should have planned something for today because sitting here thinking about it is harder then I thought it would be. DH doesn't get it and thinks he should get to go out for beers with his coworkers since this could be the last time for a while. I'd like to do something just me but that's not going to happen. I just want to be able to be ok with this no control thing but I can't figure it out.

My H wanted to go out Saturday night to celebrate St. Paddy's day with his friends. I'd also love to go celebrate my favorite holiday, but considering I'm as big as a house and extremely pregnant, I don't get to do that. I gave him the option, but I think he knew better because he ended up staying in with me.

aLsMay24

KayCee85 said:

aLsMay24 said:

I'm really really trying for zen today but I don't know where to start. I had my 40w check up with DS on his edd and they admitted me to L&D that day for high bp and I had him the next morning. I had my 40w check up yesterday and bp was fine. So as of 8:56am tomorrow morning I will officially be the most pregnant I've ever been.

I really should have planned something for today because sitting here thinking about it is harder then I thought it would be. DH doesn't get it and thinks he should get to go out for beers with his coworkers since this could be the last time for a while. I'd like to do something just me but that's not going to happen.

I just want to be able to be ok with this no control thing but I can't figure it out.

My H wanted to go out Saturday night to celebrate St. Paddy's day with his friends. I'd also love to go celebrate my favorite holiday, but considering I'm as big as a house and extremely pregnant, I don't get to do that. I gave him the option, but I think he knew better because he ended up staying in with me.


Yeah he thought he should get to go out last night too but at the last minute decided it was a better idea to come home. If I'm still pregnant on Saturday I'm getting at least a pedicure no matter what he says!

WoodShopGirl

@Sanibel21

I need to borrow some of your Zen you have going on with your Mom.  Not with my Mom specifically, but just that I need to stop trying to reason out why other people conduct themselves/make the decisions that they make.

I need to let go that some people just suck and rather than try to rationalize why they do what they do I need to say oh well.

Sorry to be vague, just a very long story with my ILs. 

Sanibel21

@woodshopgirl I was pretty vague too so I understand. It really is amazing when you realize that you can only really control yourself and not others. I can't remember if I got that from The Power of Now or The Worry Cure but I highly recommend both of them.
@pepperedmoth thanks for the meditation suggestions. I'm going to check them out when I get home. I sometimes listen to one online called The Secret Garden. I think you just have to give them your email (I have a junk email for that type of thing) and it's free.
Hugs to everyone. I really like this thread. It makes me atleast try to be more positive

CruiseGirl28

Last night DH and I did laps around the mall for an hour trying to self-induce.  I got a pretzel, so clearly I wasn't walking to lose weight (well maybe 7-8 lbs).  We are planning on doing this every night until she arrives.  Tonight I'm getting ice cream or pop corn lol

I hope we don't do it too many times (can I go into labor now?), but it is fun.  These are our final "date nights" just the 2 of us, and I think we will look back fondly on these nights.

WoodShopGirl

Warning: total AW

I **think** I just sold a 5-figure job which if it gets final approved will book out my job schedule through the middle of May for my guys. 

This makes me very Zen in that they will be booked the entire time I plan on being out of the office.

Happy thoughts to all you ladies today.

pepperedmoth

bennieangel said:

My doula sent this:  https://www.mothering.com/community/a/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between

I've read it like 3 times...and probably will read it again. 

Oh, I really liked that. Everyone else, go read it!

pepperedmoth

Anneplusone said:

@rockopera You're not being selfish. I'm sure you already know that estimates can be off and people have given birth to big babies. Good luck and keep us posted on what happens.

This!

kmeyers0611

WoodShopGirl said:

Warning: total AW

I **think** I just sold a 5-figure job which if it gets final approved will book out my job schedule through the middle of May for my guys. 

This makes me very Zen in that they will be booked the entire time I plan on being out of the office.

Happy thoughts to all you ladies today.

Oh that's so exciting!! FX for your deal!!

kkranberry

On my worst day so far I ended up shut in the nursery with a jar of Nutella and a spooN. I do recommend this!

Today has been okay. I am at work and also just booked a big job, but this stresses me out because I will not be here to watch over the details and my workers can be complacent. I wish I could get myself to turn my taxes in for the business but I just can't find the motivation. My acct made the mistake of telling me he filed for an extension so I will probably just put it off for 2 more months! Needless to say I am ready for this baby but work is not at all ready and since I run the business I don't think I will ever feel like it is a good time. Nutella is calling my name...

WoodShopGirl

kkranberry said:

On my worst day so far I ended up shut in the nursery with a jar of Nutella and a spooN. I do recommend this! Today has been okay. I am at work and also just booked a big job, but this stresses me out because I will not be here to watch over the details and my workers can be complacent. I wish I could get myself to turn my taxes in for the business but I just can't find the motivation. My acct made the mistake of telling me he filed for an extension so I will probably just put it off for 2 more months! Needless to say I am ready for this baby but work is not at all ready and since I run the business I don't think I will ever feel like it is a good time. Nutella is calling my name...

I am totally putting mine off.  Extension please!

aLsMay24

pepperedmoth said:

bennieangel said:

My doula sent this:  https://www.mothering.com/community/a/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between

I've read it like 3 times...and probably will read it again. 

Oh, I really liked that. Everyone else, go read it!

Probably shouldn't have read this in the back yard while all the parents come park on my street to pick their kids up from school. They are all just staring at the very pregnant crying lady!

NoelleZako

pepperedmoth said:

There is absolutely an end coming, we just don't know when!

I've thought about how it would be if I had an induction or RCS date and I think that would be HARDER. I could watch it coming, but I think I would be more anxious.

I'm pretty happy thinking, "well, any day now, and it can't be much longer no matter how it goes...."

You are so right! I was doing fine until Monday when they scheduled my induction, now I am going insane! I made DH come home early from work because I just don't know what to do with myself! I painted a cute owl on my finger today ... That's positive right? Here's a pic

benevolentforce

WoodShopGirl said:

Warning: total AW

I **think** I just sold a 5-figure job which if it gets final approved will book out my job schedule through the middle of May for my guys. 

This makes me very Zen in that they will be booked the entire time I plan on being out of the office.

Happy thoughts to all you ladies today.

Awesome!!! FX!!!

cdnmomma

Hang in there mommas! I have had my hands full so haven't read the entire thread but the title called to me as my lo was born 12 days past my due date. It is hard for sure, and uncomfortable. I tried everything trick in the book to initiate labour - sex, pineapple, bouncing on a yoga ball, stretch and sweep x2, spicey food, walking, stairs, rrl tea, etc etc. the only thing I found that actually got some contractions going was nipple stimulation. Maybe worth a try? In the end I'm happy she baked for the extra almost two weeks. She was born at 6lbs 13oz. Had she been born on time she would have been tiny and feeding likely would have been more of a challenge.

Edit: had to add this. At 41 weeks doc said she was almost 9 lbs and would be over 9 at birth. I wish I had never asked cause that made me anxious. He was way off. By 3 lbs!

cdnmomma

@Jt7dreamz‌ -try, if you can, to put the number out of your mind. I know it's easier said than done. They are almost always off!

My OB doesn't usually let women go past 10 days so at 12 days she and I decided that the best thing would be to induce me. I know a lot of women are worried that being induced can lead to cs etc. I was able to deliver vaginally and although it wasnt the birth I envisioned, it was amazing, magical and wonderful just the way it was. I would not have changed a thing.

akflutterby

Can I just be sad for a minute that this is the last time I'll ever be pregnant? Yes I want to see her and hold her and HAVE her, but it's hard to know that I'll never feel little baby kicks and rolls ever again and that every first she ever has will be my last first as a mommy.

myfriendscallmemeg

I love how supportive & positive all you women have been for PAGES! I've enjoyed reading this thread, and I've even employed a few tricks that I've been using to help keep my cool. Still not due for 9 days, but the anxiety is real! So thanks for all the helpful tips!

benevolentforce

Had a mini meltdown at home again last night from work stress, but back at it again today and feeling better. Refocused with help from a supportive DH, reading your posts and recommended article (so thank you, ladies)!

benevolentforce

^I have been watching for mine, too (nada so far). It'll be awesome when I can stop being obsessively interested in used toilet paper.

myfriendscallmemeg

benevolentforce said:

^I have been watching for mine, too (nada so far). It'll be awesome when I can stop being obsessively interested in used toilet paper.

This!

lnvane00

Ditto on the mp... every time I wipe im like Dang it!!!! Nothing.

I have been lurking on this thread. And I love how positive you all are. Its hard for me to feel positive being 41 weeks today and absolutely no signs of labor.
So I have just been more of a lurker lately because I feel very stabby. Especially when I hear women complaining that they are 'only' 2 cm and still have 2+ weeks to go.' Try being 41 and not dilated at all. Although I know that it all means nothing.. see what I just did. That is why I have stayed in the shadows. . Stabby. Lol sorry ladies. Zen on. Xoxo

benevolentforce

@lnvane00 I couldn't post on the 'when are you going back to work' thread the other day because my (stabby) answer would have been 'f*cking tomorrow!'. You are totally within your rights. *hugs*

AnonymousMotherOfOne

Zen should be easier to achieve today; I finally have something to occupy my mind and time! Not to mention I'm getting paid for it, and I don't have to leave my super comfy pillow top mattress! (That's right, we finally slept in the new house last night!!!) I have Frozen downloaded on my phone, and I have been asked to plan not only my grandparents' 50th Anniversary celebration, but also my great-grandmother's 100th birthday celebration, AND my aunt's 20 year military anniversary celebration. I have three years to plan all three, with complete creative freedom, and I'm getting paid $10 an hour to do it.

Got my pineapple core handy, and might even get some hot soup into my system today. Besides all the awesome, the universe has to temper my happiness with a runny nose and a scratchy throat. And an inside baby.

lnvane00

Jt7dreamz said:

lnvane00 said:

Ditto on the mp... every time I wipe im like Dang it!!!! Nothing.

I have been lurking on this thread. And I love how positive you all are. Its hard for me to feel positive being 41 weeks today and absolutely no signs of labor.
So I have just been more of a lurker lately because I feel very stabby. Especially when I hear women complaining that they are 'only' 2 cm and still have 2+ weeks to go.' Try being 41 and not dilated at all. Although I know that it all means nothing.. see what I just did. That is why I have stayed in the shadows. . Stabby. Lol sorry ladies. Zen on. Xoxo

It's ok to be Stabby. I go back and forth too. It's nice to be reminded ESP when you're overdue that others are as well. If I hadn't fought to change my edd I would be 8days overdue. It's scary but all we can think is that our bodies know what to do. (Try me later when I'm panicking yet again!!)

You are right... I just get nervous that the more overdue I get and that there are no signs of labor that it means there is something wrong with baby.
But he is perfectly fine... just mom nerves. And my hips hurt SO bad.

peachy0709

All I wanted was to feel like I was progressing, but after spending all last night timing [false] contractions, I have a new challenge to being zen  

Yesterday DH and I caught up on movies.  I hope that getting out of the house today will be more beneficial - staying inside all day was actually a bit rough. 

kkranberry

After a terrible night of heartburn and a 2 yo kicking me out of bed I am surprisingly motivated today at work. I have so much to get done and I might actually do it! Maybe this is my last burst of energy before labor. Still I feel I can't really complain since my dd is a week from today.

Hang in there ladies...we are all a little bit closer.