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cuterusaurus

Iand LoveandYou said:

mainerocks said:

I think Good Night Moon is a stupid book. I hate it. I donated our copy to the library book sale.

LadyBlue07 for giving me the idea with your book post!)

I don't get what people love about it.    FFFC- I know they are frowned upon, but my shower was a book shower, but it wasn't my idea!    I was so relieved to only get one copy of Goodnight Moon.   I did receive 3 copies of Guess How Much I Love You which I also don't care for, AND each one came with a personal note inside!    No regifting that.

book showers are frowned upon? Meh that's what was planned for mine. I loved it. I thought all of the notes were a sweet touch. We used to worry that number 2 & 3 would feel unloved because all of our books had special notes for Isaac. In hindsight, what a silly thing to worry about.

KKinATX

maryannespier said:

I also had a book shower (I didn't know it was happening and TBH 75% of the guests helped plan it anyway?) and the best book I got was Here Comes The Poo Bus. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0141333995

I remember when we were pregnant some poster got flamed for having a book shower.  I thought that was ridiculous.  People were calling her selfish and a brat, etc. I don't really think that can be deduced just from her posting about her baby shower.  Obviously your situation was not the same, but I don't get why people get so worked up about this stuff.  

We threw a book shower for a friend and she loved it.  It's dumb that people here who had book showers have to put some kind of disclaimer on it, as if it's even flameful.  

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stephyfaith

DH and I did it while DD played on the floor on her activity mat, cheesy music and all. How romantic.... :P

Given how exhausted we are we probably wouldn't last til later tonight and DD won't nap in her crib so.... Yeah.

sparkymcgeee

I have two. 1) I really wanted DH to get me a spa package for V-Day. I gave him a tablet and I really wanted this spa package. I told him weeks ago. This morning he asked if the bedroom set we are in desperate need of and have already saved up for and earmarked money for and waited until the sale for can count. I said it was fine but I'm disappointed and I may still get myself the spa package. Even though I'm disappointed I still got him a case for his tablet today. I love him lots. 2.) One of the chicks at corporate used to head the department I work in. She was pretty much a one man show and was fouling everything up so they took it away from her three years ago and moved her to a different department. In those three years she still tries to tell us how to do the job. Yesterday she set up a conference call to go over something that doesn't need to be gone over. I was out of the office on Wednesday when all of this went down. My boss asked me to respond to her so we could hopefully eliminate the meeting. Even though I addressed every single thing and proved a meeting wasn't necessary she still insists but said that only my coworkers were really needed in the meeting. Um I'm the only one in the department that is a part of every step of the process. She tried three times to edge me out of the meeting. She doesn't like me because I don't roll over for her and take her crap. My boss and the team lead have both said, Meims absolutely needs to be at the meeting since she's an integral part of the process. Really she just doesn't like that I push back on her stupidity. @nkaeding, you'll appreciate this. It's in reference to outside business activities. It's not this complicated. Truly.

sparkymcgeee

mystererae said:

H is usually a champion gift giver but I said I didn't want anything for v day. Woke up and made him non Paleo brownies (which means I can't even have any) and gave him a card. Where's mine??? I'm sure he's on his way to get me supermarket flowers now. I really just want some new baking supplies. I plan to lure him to home goods when he takes me to lunch today. Shameless.

Wait, you told him you didn't want anything but now you're upset you didn't get anything? That's completely manipulative and just seems childish to me. Why play the games? Men aren't mind readers.

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karen0477

On valentines....ds took scooby doo with suckers.....dd was told by her teacher to not bring in store bought cards, it only really counted if they were homemade!! Luckily for me she's crafty and loved doing it, but it would have been like pulling teeth to get my son to do something like that.....

My FFFC: for each of the kids first birthdays we did the book instead of the card.....I loved it and some of my cousins even went back and brought their favourite book from when they were kids.....now to look at all those books and all those messages, it is something really special for my kids! I will do the same for Allie, flame away!!

Caitable25

My FFFC: I didn't know how to spell diarrhea until I had a baby.

EagleWife

Karen0477 said:

On valentines....ds took scooby doo with suckers.....dd was told by her teacher to not bring in store bought cards, it only really counted if they were homemade!! Luckily for me she's crafty and loved doing it, but it would have been like pulling teeth to get my son to do something like that..... My FFFC: for each of the kids first birthdays we did the book instead of the card.....I loved it and some of my cousins even went back and brought their favourite book from when they were kids.....now to look at all those books and all those messages, it is something really special for my kids! I will do the same for Allie, flame away!!

Uuuh, I don't think it's very nice for a teacher to tell a kid that. What about the kids that bring in store bought ones. Theirs don't count? That's kind of rough.

lancomechica

I don't see anything wrong with a book shower. I had one. I didn't choose it..the people holding the shower for me did. Who cares. If you think it's tacky don't buy a book or don't come. FFS. A lot of people don't follow registries, I have found.
I really didn't give a shit about the gifts...we can afford everything and didn't need anyone to get us anything but getting someone's favorite book with an inscription to V in it was MEANINGFUL!
A box of diapers doesn't say...I'm thinking of you and your child and I chose this special box of disposible shit holders to share with you.

Mommy1stTimer

I might need bail $. I have been snowed/iced in since Monday & LO & I were gonna finally break out & go to Target. Open garage door: DH took my car. Wtf? He drives a stick, so I can't take his car. So. Ragey.

EagleWife

A real FFFC: I'm having ice cream for my lunch dessert. Not even sorry.  B-)

lancomechica

mainerocks said:

lancomechica said:

I don't see anything wrong with a book shower. I had one. I didn't choose it..the people holding the shower for me did. Who cares. If you think it's tacky don't buy a book or don't come. FFS. A lot of people don't follow registries, I have found.
I really didn't give a shit about the gifts...we can afford everything and didn't need anyone to get us anything but getting someone's favorite book with an inscription to V in it was MEANINGFUL!
A box of diapers doesn't say...I'm thinking of you and your child and I chose this special box of disposible shit holders to share with you.

I am at the other end of the spectrum... I thought diapers were by far the best baby gift because it was pretty much guaranteed to be something I could use, which wasn't the case for some of the other things ;-)

Not saying they are not a great gift. Love em. But when V is older he is not going to have a connection with the diapers like he would a book.

Pink724

@livvyx - as long as it's not comic sans

cuterusaurus

Uo i love comic sans

cuterusaurus

maryannespier said:

2012ames said:

Uo i love comic sans

No longer friends.

That's not fair. We can work this out!

sparkymcgeee

somerandomchick said:

I don't think just because inscribed books are cute/treasured that its right to ask for them. I love LaMaze toys but I would never put on a shower invite to bring a LaMaze toy instead of a card. Its rude to tell people what to buy you, PERIOD, no matter how awesome/special/cute something is. And for the record I do think a pack of diapers communicates love too because I felt pretty loved that my family spent their time & money to buy me diapers & wipes

reallylongusername

2012ames said:

And you know those automated voice phone activated thingies that more and more companies are using for tech support?  I hate them with a passion.  I try to say things in funny accents to them just to get them to switch me to a real person.

One time when we were using OnStar, d.h. wondered if it would understand Spanish.  I needed to cancel something, so I said cancelo (in a Spanish accent) instead (I don't even know if that's cancel in Spanish) and it changed everything to the metric system on me.  Took twenty minutes of playing around w/voice commands to get it back the way it was.

shara3333

I had a book shower too. I loved it and many people commented on how great of an idea it was (my MIL and mom threw the shower). A few people didn't include a book. No big deal. I'm happy to have the books and only got one repeat. My DHs favorite book as a kid was Poky Little Puppy. Well we read it and OMG its crazy, doesn't teach consequences, and the puppies get fed CHOCOLATE. Lol.

fabk

I loved my book baby shower. We didn't get any dups! If you knee me IRL,you would know just how much a book shower meant to me. Books are my life.

lancomechica

somerandomchick said:

I don't think just because inscribed books are cute/treasured that its right to ask for them. I love LaMaze toys but I would never put on a shower invite to bring a LaMaze toy instead of a card.

Its rude to tell people what to buy you, PERIOD, no matter how awesome/special/cute something is.

And for the record I do think a pack of diapers communicates love too because I felt pretty loved that my family spent their time & money to buy me diapers & wipes

Ok so a registry is what?? Telling people what to buy you?? Seriously?

lancomechica

If its that common maybe it's not as heinous as you suggest SRC?
A shower is about showing love and passing on well wishes...IMO. And at mine people were getting so excited telling me why they chose the book they did (child's fav, their fav). It wasn't offputting. It is sharing culturally as well. We have an Australian friend who got us a popular Australian children's book.
I'm done with this topic but I don't think you understand sentiment and I can't help you relate. Sorry.

MRads

SRC, I like you. But it does seem like you find a hill to die on every week.

We had a book shower for my sister. I'm so jealous. She has so many books and my LO has about 20. Plus, have you seem how expensive cards are these days? So cheap looking and $6! You can buy a book for less.

MRads

Also, I know it isn't a big deal, bc I can just scroll past, but this board has way too many check ins.

NKF312

also jealous of those who had book showers.. I thought it was strange that lo only got like 2 books at the shower and those were my favorite gifts, especially b/c they had personal messages. I wish my mom kept all my books from when I was a kid, we had shelves full that she loaned out and we never got back

jackson290721

I'm team SRC on this.

Also, dollar tree for cards.

pgermain11

I'm jealous of these book parties! 

I want to have a wine baby shower and tell everyone to bring me bottles of wine so when I have the baby I will have a huge stash to go to town on. 

NKF312

So many of these "etiquette" rules are ridiculous.. Etiquette to me equals: Welcome your guests, say thank you/send thank you letters, be a gracious host, thank your hosts, say please & thank you, bring a gift to the host of a dinner party, make sure to RSVP...

All these specific rules to what is/isn't good etiquette for a party make me nuts.. I guarantee the party planners are not trying to single anyone out by having themed parties.. if we want to get super nit picky we can also say themed parties are rude and bad etiquette b/c they are telling us how to dress.. how rude.

jackson290721

NKF312 said:

So many of these "etiquette" rules are ridiculous.. Etiquette to me equals: Welcome your guests, say thank you/send thank you letters, be a gracious host, thank your hosts, say please & thank you, bring a gift to the host of a dinner party, make sure to RSVP...

All these specific rules to what is/isn't good etiquette for a party make me nuts.. I guarantee the party planners are not trying to single anyone out by having themed parties.. if we want to get super nit picky we can also say themed parties are rude and bad etiquette b/c they are telling us how to dress.. how rude.

Huh.

jackson290721

Hahaha hahaha and I thought I was in the generation of entitlement!!

NKF312

jackson290721 said:

So many of these "etiquette" rules are ridiculous.. Etiquette to me equals: Welcome your guests, say thank you/send thank you letters, be a gracious host, thank your hosts, say please & thank you, bring a gift to the host of a dinner party, make sure to RSVP...

All these specific rules to what is/isn't good etiquette for a party make me nuts.. I guarantee the party planners are not trying to single anyone out by having themed parties.. if we want to get super nit picky we can also say themed parties are rude and bad etiquette b/c they are telling us how to dress.. how rude.

Huh.

Huh? or Huh. just so I get the feeling correctly

jackson290721

NKF312 said:

jackson290721 said:

NKF312 said:

So many of these "etiquette" rules are ridiculous.. Etiquette to me equals: Welcome your guests, say thank you/send thank you letters, be a gracious host, thank your hosts, say please & thank you, bring a gift to the host of a dinner party, make sure to RSVP...

All these specific rules to what is/isn't good etiquette for a party make me nuts.. I guarantee the party planners are not trying to single anyone out by having themed parties.. if we want to get super nit picky we can also say themed parties are rude and bad etiquette b/c they are telling us how to dress.. how rude.

Huh.

Huh? or Huh. just so I get the feeling correctly


Mmm little of both.

MRads

mainerocks said:

MRads said:

SRC, I like you. But it does seem like you find a hill to die on every week.

We had a book shower for my sister. I'm so jealous. She has so many books and my LO has about 20. Plus, have you seem how expensive cards are these days? So cheap looking and $6! You can buy a book for less.

It doesn't seem to me like she's finding a new hill to die on, she is just one who is not afraid of sharing her point of view. I'm pretty sure I've had my own set of discussion/arguments with her too, but I enjoy the back and forth with her because she generally writes thorough responses. I don't always agree with them, but at least she is never "you don't know my lyfe, I'm done".  It's a FFFC thread, isn't it assumed that people are not going to agree on stuff in here?

I do enjoy her perspective. I like her ability to express herself. And I admire her ability to care about so many topics so much that she takes the time to share her opinion.

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Well, if I wanted to spend my day in the BSB I would've clicked right on over there

MRads

Asbromle said:

Well, if I wanted to spend my day in the BSB I would've clicked right on over there

Definitely reading this as back street boys

lancomechica

Ok I gotta jump back in. @somerandomchick if you felt condescended...not my intention however, I think you are self aware and your argument comes off as..."give me what is on my registry and follow the books of etiquette, follow the rules that I in my head believe are the rules".
In a multi-cultural household the US definitions of etiquette are different than those of my husbands family.
Do I expect them to conform to my norms? No. I used to but that is bullshit on my part. So you just roll with it...you just live and know things will be fine instead of scrutinizing every movement/detail/thing done out of my set of expectations.
That being said things are different in Ohio or New Jersey or DC than they are in the Pacific Northwest. Not everyone has the same norms.

Dang bump...posted before I was ready. But I respect where you are coming from on this.

jackson290721

Hahaha I knew someone would throw in the regional thing. Man this is like the BSB.

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Mmmmmbop.

jackson290721

Did you know in Afghanistan ( I believe there,i learned a lot about the cultures of different areas when I was going to be deployed) anyway, there, you are supposed to deny a gift a few times first and then take it? You don't just take it right away. Kinda strange.