Stupid Questions Thread

justxlaugh

Ok, so I'm watching 16 and pregnant (I know, I know...) and they are doing cervical checks while she is in labor and she is literally screaming in pain everytime they do one. Why is she screaming?! Are they really that painful?! It's freaking me out...

thomas930

justxlaugh said:

Ok, so I'm watching 16 and pregnant (I know, I know...) and they are doing cervical checks while she is in labor and she is literally screaming in pain everytime they do one. Why is she screaming?! Are they really that painful?! It's freaking me out...

I've never found them to be painful, even in labor. 

RedDawnsRevenge

@justxlaugh‌ sounds like tv drama. I didn't feel the check I had before we got into the birth tub. But I was at home in a safe loving environment. I didn't feel the 2 I had at the hospital either. I did however feel the stupid ass nurse put the scalp electrode in my cervix by mistake. That hurt, it also lead to a cervical lip that never went down.

snmetz7

can someone link me to the brewers yeast that you buy on amazon? there is power and flakes and all sorts of other things....

ASasquatch

How exactly is one supposed to properly wear their seatbelt at this point? I know everything says below the belly but my belly is meeting my thighs when I sit so the belt it's just all loosey goosey in a weird belly-thigh canyon and won't sit flat. I don't feel properly restrained and it's making me nuts.

ksulli

@ASasquatch said:

How exactly is one supposed to properly wear their seatbelt at this point? I know everything says below the belly but my belly is meeting my thighs when I sit so the belt it's just all loosey goosey in a weird belly-thigh canyon and won't sit flat. I don't feel properly restrained and it's making me nuts.

I try to stretch when I get in and squish the belt onto my lap under the belly- in that fold. It feels suuuuper attractive, but does seem like I'm actually going to be held in place if something doesn't go right.

nikki912

justxlaugh said:

Ok, so I'm watching 16 and pregnant (I know, I know...) and they are doing cervical checks while she is in labor and she is literally screaming in pain everytime they do one. Why is she screaming?! Are they really that painful?! It's freaking me out...

The checks weren't so bad but having to endure a contraction flat on your back is misery.

baileymama3

SLSchuerg said:

Question spurred from the weight thread: when do your hips start widening? I haven't noticed a change in mine at all, but that could be due to the fact that my growing belly is a much more noticeable change in body.

I think it depends on your body shape. I always have had wider hips and mine have stayed the same. I have friends who are tiny (under size 6) and all said their hips spread and never went back. If its hasn't happened yet, it may not happen for you.

 

jgreig83

I am pretty sure this has not yet been asked: 

Does the baby get quieter (i.e. less movement) when approaching delivery? Like maybe the few days prior? 

baileymama3

Okay so perineal massage?? anyone do it in the past or doing it currently?

My hub read about it in his Birthing Partner book and was like, "umm I don't feel comfortable stretching out your vag." haha and it sounds awful. I heard it doesn't necessarily help either way.

thoughts??  sorry if it was posted...don't remember seeing it!

ksulli

@baileymama3 said:

Okay so perineal massage?? anyone do it in the past or doing it currently?

My hub read about it in his Birthing Partner book and was like, "umm I don't feel comfortable stretching out your vag." haha and it sounds awful. I heard it doesn't necessarily help either way.

thoughts??  sorry if it was posted...don't remember seeing it!

My OB did it while I was pushing- I can see it helping at that point, but prior to delivery... Eh, not so sure. And it was not comfortable.

nikki912

baileymama3 said:

Okay so perineal massage?? anyone do it in the past or doing it currently?

My hub read about it in his Birthing Partner book and was like, "umm I don't feel comfortable stretching out your vag." haha and it sounds awful. I heard it doesn't necessarily help either way.

thoughts??  sorry if it was posted...don't remember seeing it!

That's funny because my husband is also rereading The Birth Partner and last night wakes me up when he gets into bed to say, "we should really start your perineal massages. Have you bought EPO yet?"

We tried it a few times last time but I pretty much hated it and he didn't mind when I said no more. I was surprised e brought it up! I guess I'll give it a try again- but it's not at all comfortable.

nikki912

jgreig83 said:

I am pretty sure this has not yet been asked: 

Does the baby get quieter (i.e. less movement) when approaching delivery? Like maybe the few days prior? 

I remember feeling baby during labor but he wasn't super active.

baileymama3

nikki912 said:

Okay so perineal massage?? anyone do it in the past or doing it currently?

My hub read about it in his Birthing Partner book and was like, "umm I don't feel comfortable stretching out your vag." haha and it sounds awful. I heard it doesn't necessarily help either way.

thoughts??  sorry if it was posted...don't remember seeing it!

That's funny because my husband is also rereading The Birth Partner and last night wakes me up when he gets into bed to say, "we should really start your perineal massages. Have you bought EPO yet?" We tried it a few times last time but I pretty much hated it and he didn't mind when I said no more. I was surprised e brought it up! I guess I'll give it a try again- but it's not at all comfortable.

HAHAHA-- glad your husband is more accepting...mine was like, "no".

sounded terrible when he described it. "hooking" *gag.

nikki912

baileymama3 said:

nikki912 said:

baileymama3 said:

Okay so perineal massage?? anyone do it in the past or doing it currently?

My hub read about it in his Birthing Partner book and was like, "umm I don't feel comfortable stretching out your vag." haha and it sounds awful. I heard it doesn't necessarily help either way.

thoughts??  sorry if it was posted...don't remember seeing it!

That's funny because my husband is also rereading The Birth Partner and last night wakes me up when he gets into bed to say, "we should really start your perineal massages. Have you bought EPO yet?"

We tried it a few times last time but I pretty much hated it and he didn't mind when I said no more. I was surprised e brought it up! I guess I'll give it a try again- but it's not at all comfortable.

HAHAHA-- glad your husband is more accepting...mine was like, "no".

sounded terrible when he described it. "hooking" *gag.

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Yeah it feels pretty terrible too- probably because normally when DH is down there he's not "hooking" and stretching my perineum. It's a bit of a mind warp

Heeb918

celticlullaby said:

So... My hair gets pretty oily fast if I don't blow dry after washing it, and usually have to wash at least every other day or it gets pretty gross. Is it normal to take a hair dryer to the hospital if you shower? I feel like it would be really loud if baby is in my room but didn't know the protocol. I typically have to use dry shampoo on the second day, and by day 3 it's beyond needing a wash. TIA!

The baby will probably dig the sound - most like white noise and vacuums. I'd think a hair dryer would fall in that category.

I found out they do supply one! It was surprising but I am happy that it is something I can use and not feel stupid for

lilmama412

Can you use a used car seat base? With DS I bought a used car seat before I knew it was faupax baby 101. I bought a new one for this LO, but would like to use the base from the other one in our second car. Is it just the car seat itself you're not supposed to use, or the base as well? I know that you don't need a second one and can just buckle the car seat in, but the snap and go base is much easier.

lilmama412

Thanks! Wasn't sure if it was just the car seat straps that could be bad or what it is.

AcaAwkward

Yep, every piece of the car seat should be new (or 100% guaranteed accident free by a trusted friend or family member), including the base.

rockstarlaw

I think I've decided against getting a crib mobile & have decided to get somethig that will project stuff to look at on the ceiling for baby boy to look at. Does anyone have any particular item recommendations for one of these? There are a lot of options out there...

irisheyez7

I got a twilight turtle. Haven't used it yet but have heard good things...

fourthnlast

irisheyez7 said:

I got a twilight turtle. Haven't used it yet but have heard good things...

My daughter has one, she's 9 and still uses it every night.

CodiSichling

Not sure if this has been asked before. I'm mobile so it's hard to go back and search. But I just had my
Membranes swept. Anyone see any baby action after the procedure? After how long?

ashcole28

CodiSichling said:

Not sure if this has been asked before. I'm mobile so it's hard to go back and search. But I just had my
Membranes swept. Anyone see any baby action after the procedure? After how long?

I had mine swept and it started some contractions for me the night before I was induced. I was over due and still had to have cervidil and pit so idk if that helps at all.

nikki912

CodiSichling said:

Not sure if this has been asked before. I'm mobile so it's hard to go back and search. But I just had my
Membranes swept. Anyone see any baby action after the procedure? After how long?

Membranes swept around Sunday at 11am- contractions started that evening but could sleep through them until about 5am Monday. Baby was here Tuesday around 7am.

CodiSichling

Thank you very much. @ColleenSwerb‌

Jesster11

I had my GBS test today, and they only tested vaginally. I thought it was supposed to be front and back based on what others have experienced?

hlm184

Jesster11 said:

I had my GBS test today, and they only tested vaginally. I thought it was supposed to be front and back based on what others have experienced?

I've heard that some places do it one way and some the other.  I've also heard that just vaginally is preferred since you aren't butt-pregnant (we hope) and so what does it matter if you have GBS back there?

hlm184

aviola329 said:

Jesster11 said:

I had my GBS test today, and they only tested vaginally. I thought it was supposed to be front and back based on what others have experienced?

I've heard that some places do it one way and some the other.  I've also heard that just vaginally is preferred since you aren't butt-pregnant (we hope) and so what does it matter if you have GBS back there?

I would imagine it matters if you tear that direction, then bacteria can be introduced to the vaginal area.

That definitely makes sense!

I am still happy I got to use the phrase butt-pregnant though.  

Sisimama10

Jesster11 said:

I had my GBS test today, and they only tested vaginally. I thought it was supposed to be front and back based on what others have experienced?

Mine was only vaginal.

zoopsiedaisy

I had like 30 minutes of period like cramps with different waves of intensity around 3 this morning. They have stopped now but it got me wondering.... When you say contractions are "timeable", is there literally a point where you are pain free in between or is it more consistent pain with waves of intensity that you time? Or could it be either depending on the person? I'm going to ask at my next appt but some experienced mamas answers would be great right now. Thanks!!

thomas930

Heidiman said:

I had like 30 minutes of period like cramps with different waves of intensity around 3 this morning. They have stopped now but it got me wondering.... When you say contractions are "timeable", is there literally a point where you are pain free in between or is it more consistent pain with waves of intensity that you time? Or could it be either depending on the person? I'm going to ask at my next appt but some experienced mamas answers would be great right now. Thanks!!

I'm sure it may be different for everyone but I know that between contractions (even during transition) I could actually fall asleep (first labor) or was carrying on a conversation (second labor) between contractions. The pain would subside between each one. 

amhah09

thomas930 said:

Heidiman said:

I had like 30 minutes of period like cramps with different waves of intensity around 3 this morning. They have stopped now but it got me wondering.... When you say contractions are "timeable", is there literally a point where you are pain free in between or is it more consistent pain with waves of intensity that you time? Or could it be either depending on the person? I'm going to ask at my next appt but some experienced mamas answers would be great right now. Thanks!!

I'm sure it may be different for everyone but I know that between contractions (even during transition) I could actually fall asleep (first labor) or was carrying on a conversation (second labor) between contractions. The pain would subside between each one. 

^^^ this for me too. I was perfectly fine and could probably jog down the halls between contractions this time even at 8+ cm dilated. Even during the worst of transition in between contractions I was talking and able to rest a bit.

janellemj928

hlm184 said:

aviola329 said:

hlm184 said:

Jesster11 said:

I had my GBS test today, and they only tested vaginally. I thought it was supposed to be front and back based on what others have experienced?

I've heard that some places do it one way and some the other.  I've also heard that just vaginally is preferred since you aren't butt-pregnant (we hope) and so what does it matter if you have GBS back there?

I would imagine it matters if you tear that direction, then bacteria can be introduced to the vaginal area.

That definitely makes sense!

I am still happy I got to use the phrase butt-pregnant though.  

I feel like I'm the only person who was sent home with a swab and instructed how to do it and bring it back at my next appointment... But they did tell me to do both!

rockstarlaw

Had my GBS test today. They definitely swabbed my bunghole.

zoopsiedaisy

ColleenSwerb said:

Contractions are usually described like ocean waves. The crest is the most painful, but then the wave crashes and you're in the "trough" between the waves and it's less painful/not at all painful. Varies for everyone, but that's the general description.

Thanks for the descriptions everyone. This makes sense to me. My 36 week appt is Tuesday so I will definitely mention it. They started after my scared of storms dachshund jumped on my side when I was asleep. Thanks ladies!!

irisheyez7

mamrotu73 said:

When you feel hiccups is that feeling coming from LO's mouth or chest? So, if I point at my belly right where I feel the spasm, am I pointing at his head or at his diaphragm? 

My LO had hiccups during an US and the movement was definitely coming from her chest/tummy. Hiccups help strengthen their little muscles to practice for breathing IRL :-)

BabyBsMommy

Jessieann1020 said:

Do any of you STM's have experience with a LO who doesn't want to "drop". My little guy is still hanging around up high and I am going to do some research and reading but I wonder what will happen if he never drops down? Would that mean a c section would be necessary or could labor "force" the little guy where he needs to be?

DS never dropped before I was induced but I had a successful delivery.

Edit: he had a short cord I believe.

bacorrea

I just got my boppy and two slip covers. Should I wash these before use?

Is the general answer for everything just to wash everything? *Sigh* I hate doing laundry.

edoliesmom

I read that oxytocin causes the uterus to contract, and that's released during sex. But my stupid question is: wouldn't that mean I'd have to orgasm in order for that hormone to be released? And if I don't hit the big O, does that mean it didn't in any way help to induce labor or help prep for labor?