I saw a bag today that says "infertility makes me stronger if it doesn't ruin your marriage" I'm not in the closet about infertility and don't mind discussing with my friends and family but I thought this bag was a little much to carry around in public all the time. What do you all think?
Yeah, that isn't really for me but I am more private about it. Not that it is a secret, I just don't like to talk to anyone but DH about it. My friends all know what the situation is but they don't bring it up.
So I had a thing open on my browser about rainbow babies and my gay cousin was like, "are these babies of us gays? I'm not there yet." And I realized- my family just wasn't ready for any of that knowledge. That being said I am totally making a onsie for next baby that says Science Baby!!! No one will get it.
January 2007- Stop BCP! Let's DO this! June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS.
November 2010- FAILED FET! BS! January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS! February 2011- lost twin. BS.
SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world! November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs) April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs. FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP BABY BOYVINCENT!
We can't wait to meet you! Conception: Potato Love!
I would never carry the bag but I would be more likely to tell a stranger than my family. There are different reasons that I didn't tell my moms family versus my husbands family.
I don't think I could carry a bag like that. Most of my family and DH's know that we have been struggling, but even they don't get it. I also wouldn't want to have a ton of strangers asking questions I already get enough of the you only have one? when will you have more.
Me DOR amh .64 ng/mL
DH Brain Cancer
BFP #1 12/11/08 DS born 8/23/09
BFP#2 10/13/11 DC 11/4/11
BFP#3 12/6/13 Lost 12/29/13
Told IVF is the only option and have not found a clinic that will take me.
definitely would not carry that bag around. The first time around, I told no one except, my very best friend and dh. As the questions started about #2 I realized that I didn't feel the need to be quite so secretive about it anymore and slowly I started to talk about it. I don't broadcast, but I will share at appropiate times and it does feel a little better that atleast I'm not stressing about people finding out my secrets or quietly sucking up stupid comments that people make.
TTC#1 May 2009- July 2010 on our own with no luck
Started with RE in August 2010, dx with unexplained IF and then finally our 3rd IUI cycle using Follistim and Trigger resulted in our wonderful little man. Born 12/2/11
TTC#2 Never really prevented, but were careful early on as Dr. reccomended
Surprise BFP 12/16/13, started progesterone immediately as first numbers came back low, but betas were good. Progesterone wasnt enough. Natural MC 12/24/13.
I would not carry the bag, but that's just me. I am pretty open about our struggle, or, at least I have been since our loss. I wear a little charm on my necklace for the baby we lost, next to the charms for DD, if anyone asks I don't mind telling them our story.
DD 12/1/2009
TTC#2 Since May 2012
Dx PCOS February 2013 on Metformin 1500 mg
Met with RE October 2013, we've got a plan!
Surprise BFP on "break cycle" 10/12/13. EDD 6/17/14.
MMC discovered 11/25/13 at 10 weeks. D&C 11/27/13.
Seems like everyone agrees with me. I don't mind discussing it when asked but don't need to broadcast it either. I think some people can be too "shary" sometimes.
I'm pretty open about our IF journey. If it comes up or someone asks I have no problem sharing. However, that bag is a bit tasteless. There are much better slogans that could be used to support Infertility.
DD conceived after 3 years of ttc.
MFI - DH had varicocele repair and took Clomid to get DD b. 02/2010
TTC #2 since 6/2010 10/2012 DH diagnosed with Epilepsy A few failed IUIs summer 2012 and 2013. DH taking clomid and waiting to see if he needs another vericocele repair. Hoping for a 2015 baby or babies. Wishing, hoping, waiting.
I think that's great that most of you are open about your journey! We are SO in the closet about ours, but that's due in part to the huge gap between when DS was born, and when we finally decided to TFAS. Everyone knows we had a m/c, but assumes we feel we "dodged a bullet" as my mother once said to a co-worker (ouch!).
No one realizes we haven't gotten pregnant again in 2 years because we keep having losses... they just assume it's because we don't want to. It's gone on so long now, it will be hard to come out of the closet once we start treatments.
I give major props to someone being open about their journey, but think the bag is a little too much sharing.
Infertility has also brought DH and I closer together, but perhaps this would be different for a couple that is yet to conceive one child?
Re: What do you think?
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS.
November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS! February 2011- lost twin. BS.
SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
BABY BOY VINCENT!
We can't wait to meet you!
Conception: Potato Love!
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
TTC#1 May 2009- July 2010 on our own with no luck
Started with RE in August 2010, dx with unexplained IF and then finally our 3rd IUI cycle using Follistim and Trigger resulted in our wonderful little man. Born 12/2/11
TTC#2 Never really prevented, but were careful early on as Dr. reccomended
Surprise BFP 12/16/13, started progesterone immediately as first numbers came back low, but betas were good. Progesterone wasnt enough. Natural MC 12/24/13.
Back with RE as of January 2014...
5/27/14- Chemical Pregnancy
April 2015 IVF#1
5/13/15- BFP, please stick LO!
Oh and I'm a major Harry Potter Nerd
TTC #2 since 6/2010
10/2012 DH diagnosed with Epilepsy
A few failed IUIs summer 2012 and 2013.
DH taking clomid and waiting to see if he needs another vericocele repair.
Hoping for a 2015 baby or babies.
Wishing, hoping, waiting.