I can't believe there are still posts about hospital bags and what to buy for the baby, etc. It's the beginning of January. Not only have we already covered all of those topics, but if you haven't figured it out by now, it's time to get off TB and get your act together.
Read books. Do research. TB is a decent resource but it's not the only resource. Do your goddamn homework.
Every time I see a post like that, it makes me think of the teenagers who post "What is the symbolism in Huckleberry Finn and what are some specific quotes to go along with those examples?" on Yahoo Answers. No. I did my homework, you can do yours.
There has been far too much focus on hospital bags as a whole. It's not rocket science. You are not traveling into the wilderness or outer space. For the most part, forgotten items are NBD or someone can go grab what you need. Let common sense dictate your packing, and stop freaking over the small things.
Omg. ALL OF THIS.
Maybe it's because I've been hospitalized without notice more times than I can count. Maybe it's because I didn't have my bag packed yet with my first L/D at 33 weeks. But packing bags ahead of time, for me... it's a damn luxury.
I realize many FTMs have never been hospitalized before. But seriously. Get a grip. The hospital has every thing you need. I promise. You will be fine!
I can't believe there are still posts about hospital bags and what to buy for the baby, etc. It's the beginning of January. Not only have we already covered all of those topics, but if you haven't figured it out by now, it's time to get off TB and get your act together.
Read books. Do research. TB is a decent resource but it's not the only resource. Do your goddamn homework.
Every time I see a post like that, it makes me think of the teenagers who post "What is the symbolism in Huckleberry Finn and what are some specific quotes to go along with those examples?" on Yahoo Answers. No. I did my homework, you can do yours.
There has been far too much focus on hospital bags as a whole. It's not rocket science. You are not traveling into the wilderness or outer space. For the most part, forgotten items are NBD or someone can go grab what you need. Let common sense dictate your packing, and stop freaking over the small things.
Omg. ALL OF THIS.
Maybe it's because I've been hospitalized without notice more times than I can count. Maybe it's because I didn't have my bag packed yet with my first L/D at 33 weeks. But packing bags ahead of time, for me... it's a damn luxury.
I realize many FTMs have never been hospitalized before. But seriously. Get a grip. The hospital has every thing you need. I promise. You will be fine!
now, i obviously have no idea what you need that's specific to L&D, but my first couple nights here all i had was some pajamas and my phone charger. and that was just fine.
My UO is totally a "kids these days have it so easy" old lady thought: I think giving kids trophies for everything is ridiculous. Participation trophies/medals are not a thing in real life. If you are 7th best at what you do at your job, chances are you won't be getting anything for it.
When I was a kid (and this wasn't crazy long ago), last place teams didn't get anything physical. You got friendship, the chance to learn about sportsmanship, and maybe a pizza party at the end of the season (okay that's a physical thing). When we lost, we were told to suck it up and be okay with it, because it happens to everyone at some point. Be a good sport about it. Not getting a trophy does not damage a kid's self esteem.
All of this! And along the same lines, I think it's ridiculous that a lot of sports programs, gym classes, etc don't keep score during games so that nobody gets their feelings hurt. If you don't teach kids how to be gracious winners and losers, they don't just magically pick up this skill later on in life! We're doing kids a disservice by sheltering them from disappointment because then they never learn how to cope with it later. Ok, rant over.
I totally agree. But I also think they do this because parents are CRAZY. I've been to plenty of children's sports events where the parents took it more seriously than the children. Just sad.
My UO (might be flame-worthy)- I won't be taking my LO to the movies until I know she's able to handle it/at an appropriate age. Of course children's movies are an exception (if I see a Disney movie, I totally expect to be surrounded by kids. NBD.) But last night I went to a PG-13, totally adult movie, and there were kids EVERYWHERE. Not older kids, but kids way under the age of 10. I didn't pay $9 to hear your 5-year-old complain about his candy, have him kick my chair for two hours, and cry because the movie is too scary for him. Also, I don't want to hobble over some lady's stroller to get to the bathroom. Just get a babysitter, or wait until the movie comes out on dvd.
I agree. DH and I were pretty horrified when we went to an action movie with his brother, who brought his 4 month old along. The baby did pretty well, but he changed her poopy diaper right there in the theater which was smelly enough to make me stop eating my popcorn. And, not to mention how freaking loud a shoot 'em up action film is in the theater for her poor little ears. I don't know, I'm not a parent yet so I shouldn't judge, but I'm fairly certain I can wait for the movie to come out at Redbox if I can't find a babysitter.
SO GROSS. No. That is not acceptable. I totally agree with not bringing underage kids to adult (or PG13) movies, and the diaper thing is just ridiculous. Why would anyone think that's okay??
NO. Just so much no. He couldn't run to the bathroom real quick? There was a woman last night with an infant, but no diaper changes.
NO. Just so much no. He couldn't run to the bathroom real quick? There was a woman last night with an infant, but no diaper changes.
Yep. I couldn't believe it! He's overall one of those people who does what he wants and doesn't give a shit about social norms or common courtesy. I don't understand how he and DH came from the same mother, because they are total opposites, thank God.
They have something at our local theatres called 'stars and strollers' which is once a week, babies welcome. The lights are turned up abut, so you can actually see together something out of a bag, and the sound is turned down.
I haven't been to one yet, but I have a feeling that as soon as I do, my new pet peeve will be the people who go to these events but don't have a small kid, and then complain about crying. Why go to THAT movie specifically if you don't like it!
My UO is totally a "kids these days have it so easy" old lady thought: I think giving kids trophies for everything is ridiculous. Participation trophies/medals are not a thing in real life. If you are 7th best at what you do at your job, chances are you won't be getting anything for it.
When I was a kid (and this wasn't crazy long ago), last place teams didn't get anything physical. You got friendship, the chance to learn about sportsmanship, and maybe a pizza party at the end of the season (okay that's a physical thing). When we lost, we were told to suck it up and be okay with it, because it happens to everyone at some point. Be a good sport about it. Not getting a trophy does not damage a kid's self esteem.
All of this! And along the same lines, I think it's ridiculous that a lot of sports programs, gym classes, etc don't keep score during games so that nobody gets their feelings hurt. If you don't teach kids how to be gracious winners and losers, they don't just magically pick up this skill later on in life! We're doing kids a disservice by sheltering them from disappointment because then they never learn how to cope with it later. Ok, rant over.
To tag onto the movie theater UO, It bothers me when DH and I have a date night at a restaurant/movie etc and there are screaming kids near us. We try to pick places that aren't "family" type places so that we can avoid this. When we go out of our way to find a babysitter and have a night out we do NOT want to listen to kids screaming next to us....
Yeah, I'm ALL for teaching proper names for body parts, but I've seen (heard?) it go too far in the daycare bathroom.
Preschool boy: "I pee with a penis so I stand up! Girls sit and pee from a vagina."
Preschool girl: "No, this isn't my vagina it's my vulva. My vagina is inside and leads to my uterus. My mommy is growing a baby in her uterus right now. Daddy gave her the gift of his sperm, and now the egg and sperm have made into a baby in her uterus. The baby will come out of mommy's uterus through her vagina, but we'll just see the vulva."
**Cue looks of confusion, terror, and discomfort from all other children present**
WORD FOR WORD. From a 3.5 year old.That was a fun chat with 15 other children's parents. I do believe there is such a thing as too much information too soon.
DH has sat through the majority of my pregnancy-related RE/OB appointments and a birthing class, and he's read a book, but I think that kid still has a better understanding than he does.
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We had a daycare conversation similar to that with my 4 year olds. They were talking about me being pregnant and one child asked how the baby would come out. I replied, "I will go to the doctor and he will help." I don't want to say something that contradicts another parent's answers. A different child said yeah they will probably cut it out of her tummy. I just let the children converse to avoid toe-stepping when another child spurts out, "No, she is going to push him out of her vagina, you know what she pees with." At that point, a little girl goes "Oh that is just RIDICULOUS!" I had to step out for a second to chuckle. When I regained my composure I explained that he was right and then had to tell the story to all of the parents so they didn't think I just offered that information on my own.
My UO is when people use the saying "Boys will be boys". Drives me bonkers as most of the time it's used is when their boy is doing something one of my girls would do. Sorry, that's just a kid being a kid.
My UO is when people use the saying "Boys will be boys". Drives me bonkers as most of the time it's used is when their boy is doing something one of my girls would do. Sorry, that's just a kid being a kid.
every time someone says this, i just want to ask them what else they would be.
NO. Just so much no. He couldn't run to the bathroom real quick? There was a woman last night with an infant, but no diaper changes.
Yep. I couldn't believe it! He's overall one of those people who does what he wants and doesn't give a shit about social norms or common courtesy. I don't understand how he and DH came from the same mother, because they are total opposites, thank God.
They have something at our local theatres called 'stars and strollers' which is once a week, babies welcome. The lights are turned up abut, so you can actually see together something out of a bag, and the sound is turned down.
I haven't been to one yet, but I have a feeling that as soon as I do, my new pet peeve will be the people who go to these events but don't have a small kid, and then complain about crying. Why go to THAT movie specifically if you don't like it!
My UO is totally a "kids these days have it so easy" old lady thought: I think giving kids trophies for everything is ridiculous. Participation trophies/medals are not a thing in real life. If you are 7th best at what you do at your job, chances are you won't be getting anything for it.
When I was a kid (and this wasn't crazy long ago), last place teams didn't get anything physical. You got friendship, the chance to learn about sportsmanship, and maybe a pizza party at the end of the season (okay that's a physical thing). When we lost, we were told to suck it up and be okay with it, because it happens to everyone at some point. Be a good sport about it. Not getting a trophy does not damage a kid's self esteem.
All of this! And along the same lines, I think it's ridiculous that a lot of sports programs, gym classes, etc don't keep score during games so that nobody gets their feelings hurt. If you don't teach kids how to be gracious winners and losers, they don't just magically pick up this skill later on in life! We're doing kids a disservice by sheltering them from disappointment because then they never learn how to cope with it later. Ok, rant over.
Bahaha this is one of the best things I have seen in a while. This may be a joke, but this is seriously what the world is coming to!
One of the schools I work for removed their Honor Roll because " it was not fair to the children who will never have grades good enough to be on it" WTF?
They have something at our local theatres called 'stars and strollers' which is once a week, babies welcome. The lights are turned up abut, so you can actually see together something out of a bag, and the sound is turned down.
I haven't been to one yet, but I have a feeling that as soon as I do, my new pet peeve will be the people who go to these events but don't have a small kid, and then complain about crying. Why go to THAT movie specifically if you don't like it!
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Now that would be annoying too. I wouldn't complain if it was my fault for going to that particular event. (And that's awesome your theater does that! Never heard of that before.) In our defense, we went to a regular showing of 47 Ronin (for those that don't know, it's a samurai movie with plenty of blood/monsters/people dying and whatnot) that was not quite appro for children around the age of 5.
My UO is when people use the saying "Boys will be boys". Drives me bonkers as most of the time it's used is when their boy is doing something one of my girls would do. Sorry, that's just a kid being a kid.
It pisses me off when I hear it and we only have a boy right now.
I usually hear it when a boy is being an excited kid (bouncing down the stairs) and it has nothing to do with sex, or when the boy is being a total brat (tackling other kids, throwing things, etc) and it's an excuse to ignore bad behavior.
One of the schools I work for removed their Honor Roll because " it was not fair to the children who will never have grades good enough to be on it" WTF?
Are you freaking kidding me?! Wow.
When I was in high school, they stopped putting your class rank on report cards because it was "too discouraging." If you want to know, you have to make a special appointment with the counselor to find out.
Please excuse how inelegant this might sounds, I'm not really sure to how convey what I'm trying to say, just know that if it offends anyone, I don't mean it to.
I feel like a lot of kids these days are coddled. It's all about "feelings" and "inclusion" and "encouragement". And while all these things are good and should be taught, I feel like it's neglecting the fact that life in and of itself is not any of these things. Yes we should teach our children about fairness and equality. We should teach them to be gracious and humble, but how are we helping them by feeding them a Utopian ideal of constant warm and fuzzies? Aren't we doing them a disservice by not preparing them for the sometimes harsh realities of the world?
I think that kids sometimes need to be taught to suck it up. I think they have a right to know that it's not always easy. It's not always fair. It's not always glitter and rainbows. Not everyone will like you, you won't always win, and sometimes no matter how hard you try, you might not be the best fit for what you are trying to achieve. This doesn't mean you should ever discourage them from trying things, but it does mean you should be realistic with them.
“Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. It’s not the time that matters, it’s the person.” — The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
@Scromlette agreed, even if you didn't have sunshine, rainbows, and the idea that the world revolves around you taught to you from a young age growing up and hitting reality is still really hard. Why make it harder?
I can't believe there are still regular posters here who haven't changed their avatars. Everyone should have an avatar -- otherwise you're just another random to me.
Guilty! I have only logged on to the actual website one time. I'm not sure how to change it on mobile. Maybe I will look into that.
... Took awhile, but I figured it out finally... No longer a rando!
dx PCOS 2007
BFP #1 (natural) 12/23/2010. Stillbirth due to IC 4/2/2011
TTC #2 starting 03/2012
RE starting 07/2012
05/2013 BFP on a Letrozole (Femara)/trigger!
Cerclage, Procardia, Makena, GD (with insulin), MBR, and we made it!
Our Angel was born sleeping at 20 weeks due to IC.
My UO is when people use the saying "Boys will be boys". Drives me bonkers as most of the time it's used is when their boy is doing something one of my girls would do. Sorry, that's just a kid being a kid.
every time someone says this, i just want to ask them what else they would be.
My MIL does this. "He's such a boy." "Boys will be boys" "It's just a boy thing"
>:/
stop it.
And she also told me not to put him in time out because he doesn't understand it. Because implementing a discipline routine at an early age is such a terrible idea. Time out stops him from doing whatever it is he is doing. She makes me want to throw things. Obviously I'm in a rant-y mood. Sorry about that~
We went to see The Hobbit : The Desolation of Smaug last weekend.....it was 09:00 on a Sunday so we expected a couple of kids to be there, but one sat behind my seat repeatedly kicking it for about 10-15 mins, until I reached behind me and grabbed his foot whilst turning round and fake roaring! Little sod nearly shat himself, but he stopped kicking my seat
His mother wasn't too impressed with me at the end of the film, but I'm a hormonal pregnant woman and she clearly didn't fancy her chances of winning that argument lol
@Scromlette agreed, even if you didn't have sunshine, rainbows, and the idea that the world revolves around you taught to you from a young age growing up and hitting reality is still really hard. Why make it harder?
Totes agree, ladies! And @scromlette, you using the phrase "in and of itself" gave me the warm fuzzies. "> We can add "in it of itself" to the cringeworthy phrases I have seen, barf.
Lol, Glad to make the list
“Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. It’s not the time that matters, it’s the person.” — The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
@scromlette Well said and I completely agree. As a teacher, I see this far too often from parents. I had a disagreement not too long ago because I had a student who initially failed an assignment. She re-did it really well but I wouldn't give her full credit because she didnt do it right the first time and there were kids that did. The parents got all over me because I wasn't being fair
Also, my brother is totally a victim of being raised with this mind set. He graduated from college and expects to walk into any job and get it and to be making big bucks without laying his dues because he's so awesome. So frustrating to watch.
@scromlette Well said and I completely agree. As a teacher, I see this far too often from parents. I had a disagreement not too long ago because I had a student who initially failed an assignment. She re-did it really well but I wouldn't give her full credit because she didnt do it right the first time and there were kids that did. The parents got all over me because I wasn't being fair
Also, my brother is totally a victim of being raised with this mind set. He graduated from college and expects to walk into any job and get it and to be making big bucks without laying his dues because he's so awesome. So frustrating to watch.
I think that's a big part of it. A lot of kids today feel entitled to things. They can have it because they deserve it, regardless of if they actually did anything to earn it. I understand times change and all, but it's sad to see certain kinds of mindset and ethics just fall to the wayside.
“Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. It’s not the time that matters, it’s the person.” — The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
Re: UO Thursday
Omg. ALL OF THIS.
Maybe it's because I've been hospitalized without notice more times than I can count. Maybe it's because I didn't have my bag packed yet with my first L/D at 33 weeks. But packing bags ahead of time, for me... it's a damn luxury.
I realize many FTMs have never been hospitalized before. But seriously. Get a grip. The hospital has every thing you need. I promise. You will be fine!
Have you heard about the kids soccer league that not only doesn't keep score, it doesn't USE A BALL!!! https://www.cbc.ca/thisisthat/blog/2013/09/03/to-ensure-every-child-wins-ontario-athletic-association-removes-ball-from-soccer/
Bahaha this is one of the best things I have seen in a while. This may be a joke, but this is seriously what the world is coming to!
One of the schools I work for removed their Honor Roll because " it was not fair to the children who will never have grades good enough to be on it" WTF?
When I was in high school, they stopped putting your class rank on report cards because it was "too discouraging." If you want to know, you have to make a special appointment with the counselor to find out.
— The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
dx PCOS 2007
BFP #1 (natural) 12/23/2010. Stillbirth due to IC 4/2/2011
TTC #2 starting 03/2012
RE starting 07/2012
05/2013 BFP on a Letrozole (Femara)/trigger!
Cerclage, Procardia, Makena, GD (with insulin), MBR, and we made it!
Our Angel was born sleeping at 20 weeks due to IC.
>:/
stop it.
And she also told me not to put him in time out because he doesn't understand it. Because implementing a discipline routine at an early age is such a terrible idea. Time out stops him from doing whatever it is he is doing. She makes me want to throw things. Obviously I'm in a rant-y mood. Sorry about that~
His mother wasn't too impressed with me at the end of the film, but I'm a hormonal pregnant woman and she clearly didn't fancy her chances of winning that argument lol
— The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
Also, my brother is totally a victim of being raised with this mind set. He graduated from college and expects to walk into any job and get it and to be making big bucks without laying his dues because he's so awesome. So frustrating to watch.
— The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6