UO Thursday

JordyInIndy

What do you ladies have for us?

I know this has been said but with the crazy amount of ladies who are in L&D or delivering their LO's, I'm saying it again. If you haven't been active on this board why in the hell do you think we care that you're in L&D? Why do you think we want to read to your updates about your progression while in L&D? And finally, why do we care that you've delivered your LO?

I mean I'm all for safe deliveries of happy healthy babies but we don't know you. It's basically like walking up to a group of women who all know each other but have no idea who you are and saying OMGZZZ I HAD A BABY. My response? "I don't give any fucks!"

And also, it bothers me (more than it probably should) that so many people comment and congratulate soandso even though soandso has never been around to offer support to the board. So there!

NoelMarieFrey

My UO -  I hate going to BabysRUs.  Every time I go there I get so overwhelmed, and just turn around and walk out.  

Giraffealaff

Oh not me, I love BRU trips. I just get annoyed that I cant buy anything.

NoelMarieFrey said:

My UO -  I hate going to BabysRUs.  Every time I go there I get so overwhelmed, and just turn around and walk out.  

NoelMarieFrey

Scromlette  I wish I was that way!  I just look at how much stuff there is and pull one of these.... 

littlepig2

I 100% agree with @jordyinindy. if you're not an active poster, I don't care that you had your baby. I'm happy everyone is healthy but I'm not commenting because I don't care.

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

MamaAllison

I don't like the term "squishy" or "squishy-baby". It makes me think of people squeezing their babies in a not nice way.

kella0708

Rach521 said:

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

This. Why do some people this it's ok to treat the bump like it's their own personal blog!? I don't care if it's windy in your city today or that you farted 2 hours ago.

magentawarped

I think that society should have the right to veto ridiculous baby names. "Oh, you want to name your little angel La-a U'nique? Veto! Her name is Susan!"

ziggy903

kella0708 said:

Rach521 said:

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

This. Why do some people this it's ok to treat the bump like it's their own personal blog!? I don't care if it's windy in your city today or that you farted 2 hours ago.

But I need to know about all of your bodily functions!

TessyMessy

kella0708 said:

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

This. Why do some people this it's ok to treat the bump like it's their own personal blog!? I don't care if it's windy in your city today or that you farted 2 hours ago.

I almost posted a thread because I peed in my hand earlier.. I guess when I leaned forward to wipe it pushed a little more pee out. I was curious if this has happened to anyone else but I guess I will keep that little gem to myself! ;-)

My UO: I really, really, really don't like charm bracelets, bangles, or any other noisey jewelry. I work with a bunch of women that wear multiple Alex and Ani and other dumb charm bracelets and I can hear them coming from 50 yards away. It is even worse today because most of these bitches are back from vacation and had to wear all their new shit to show off. They should have a damn parade and get it over with. They must be in some kind of noisey jewelry competition. Well you all are losers because your choice in jewelry sucks.

 

 

dunvilles

Stophoney said:

kella0708 said:

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

This. Why do some people this it's ok to treat the bump like it's their own personal blog!? I don't care if it's windy in your city today or that you farted 2 hours ago.

I almost posted a thread because I peed in my hand earlier.. I guess when I leaned forward to wipe it pushed a little more pee out. I was curious if this has happened to anyone else but I guess I will keep that little gem to myself! ;-)

My UO: I really, really, really don't like charm bracelets, bangles, or any other noisey jewelry. I work with a bunch of women that wear multiple Alex and Ani and other dumb charm bracelets and I can hear them coming from 50 yards away. It is even worse today because most of these bitches are back from vacation and had to wear all their new shit to show off. They should have a damn parade and get it over with. They must be in some kind of noisey jewelry competition. Well you all are losers because your choice in jewelry sucks.

 

 

haha love this!!!

I purposefully do not wear loud shoes or jewelry... much easier to sneak up on my naughty students this way! Have to keep them on their toes! haha

 

dunvilles

I can't stand it when people post about going to L&D and don't update.... drives me INSANE!!!! Whether or not they are regular posters makes no difference.

(I do realize that when in L&D, The Bump is not top priority but I want to know what's up dang it!!!)

dunvilles

Oh, and I wish all updates would be added to the original post so that I don't have to scroll through pages to find it....

ziggy903

dunvilles said:

Oh, and I wish all updates would be added to the original post so that I don't have to scroll through pages to find it....

Sometimes the OP is a labor buddy, and the actual poster puts the update in. I think as long as you tell us what page it's on, that's fine.

dunvilles

@ziggy903

Realistically- I totally get it and understand... still drives me crazy though! lol

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dunvilles

@wildflower26

We call body parts by specific names as age appropriate. For example, my son calls his penis, "penis" but when he asked what my area was (he opened the shower curtain and saw me). I said that is "mommies". I don't believe he is old enough to understand that he shouldn't go around talking about "mommy's vagina"... kwim?

becausemom

WildFlower26 said:

elf828 said:

My UO?  I thought of this during the "cute flat vagina" conversation.  It annoys me when women refer to their entire lady region as their vagina.  A man would NEVER refer to his balls as his penis, or the whole area as his vas deferens or something.  Why do women do this?  It makes them sound dumb and like they don't understand their own bodies.  I think it's great that women are no longer embarrassed to say the word vagina but they "minus well" not say it at all if they're going to misuse it.  Your vagina is internal, your labia and vulva are external.  No one but a doctor sees your vagina.  You don't get your vagina waxed.  And FFS stop calling it a vajayjay.

Genuine question here... so what would you tell your 2 year old her parts are called?  Would you get specific each time you are discussing her privates, labia, vulva, vagina, etc.?  I tend to agree with your UO, but I struggle with over complicating the issue when talking to her.  We have previously discussed using the correct body part terminology with children (which is the camp I fall in), but getting into the specifics each time seems confusing? Thoughts?

Apologies for the tangent!

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He is a boy, but when I explained it to DS, I used the terms penis and testicles. He knows the actual terms. But he calls the general area his private parts.

My mother told me that the outside was the vulva, labia;etc and the inside is the vagina, but referred to the area as my privates also. I think you should teach them correctly, but give them a general term to use.

Mazingmommyof6

I am bottle feeding this baby. I am a 1099 employee who can't take much if any time off of work or my family's bill s won't get paid. In my line of work pumping and such will not work. I have breasted 5 babies and I'm sorry if number 6 gets the shaft. I'm one person and I just can't do everything..... Yet.... Tons of people make me feel like crap about this and I know it will get worse.

If someone you know chooses to bottle feed.... Please be kind to them.... You might know know all reasons behind it. Be kind. Please.

1linedrawing

Aside from yearly ornaments, I don't understand giving Christmas-related gifts for Christmas. I have a bunch of Christmas decorations I have to store for a year that I will forget I have next year. Also- Christmas blankets can't be out in April, it looks ridiculous. Same with Christmas PJs.
I sound like an ungrateful bitch. But I just don't like Santas and snowmen floating around my house all year.

kella0708

ziggy903 said:

kella0708 said:

Rach521 said:

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

This. Why do some people this it's ok to treat the bump like it's their own personal blog!? I don't care if it's windy in your city today or that you farted 2 hours ago.

But I need to know about all of your bodily functions!

Well, there is A LOT going on down there right now. I can always PM you to keep you in the loop

Mazingmommyof6

Bookshelves said:

I can't believe there are still regular posters here who haven't changed their avatars. Everyone should have an avatar -- otherwise you're just another random to me.

Guilty....will work on this. It has been since beginning of July

kella0708

Bookshelves said:

Stophoney said:

kella0708 said:

Rach521 said:

my UO: people are starting to really annoy me when they post 900 different threads a day about meaningless shit. I get one or two and I completely understand baby related things like the hospital bag. but when you're constantly posting about what shoes you're wearing or that the sky is extra blue today plus commenting on every. single. other person's thread several times, it makes me think you're just trying to up your bump points so it looks like you've been here a long time.

This. Why do some people this it's ok to treat the bump like it's their own personal blog!? I don't care if it's windy in your city today or that you farted 2 hours ago.

I almost posted a thread because I peed in my hand earlier.. I guess when I leaned forward to wipe it pushed a little more pee out. I was curious if this has happened to anyone else but I guess I will keep that little gem to myself! ;-)

I peed all over myself this morning while I was trying to leave a urine sample at the OB's. "Mid-stream catch"? I can't see the damn stream! 

(Sorry, Kella )

Funny/embarrassing stories get a pass in my book. Hell, I posted about my own unfortunate gaseous escape just a few days ago!

NoelMarieFrey

So glad to know I am not the only one who hates BRU! 

cksmith29

NoelMarieFrey said:

So glad to know I am not the only one who hates BRU! 

Definitely not alone. I can't stand that place.

sumthinsnazzi

elf828 said:

My UO?  I thought of this during the "cute flat vagina" conversation.  It annoys me when women refer to their entire lady region as their vagina.  A man would NEVER refer to his balls as his penis, or the whole area as his vas deferens or something.  Why do women do this?  It makes them sound dumb and like they don't understand their own bodies.  I think it's great that women are no longer embarrassed to say the word vagina but they "minus well" not say it at all if they're going to misuse it.  Your vagina is internal, your labia and vulva are external.  No one but a doctor sees your vagina.  You don't get your vagina waxed.  And FFS stop calling it a vajayjay.

This made me L O L.  I've actually had this conversation with men before.  "The whole area is NOT a vagina!"  I didn't realize that women did it, too.

1linedrawing

lowea1 said:

I hate BRU. Winnieella was the first name I recognized going into l&d so I kept checking that thread. The others? Not so much. (But since then there have been a few other non-randoms!)

And our lovely VeronicaAnn and her new baby boy! :-*

MamaHollywood27

1linedrawing said:

Aside from yearly ornaments, I don't understand giving Christmas-related gifts for Christmas. I have a bunch of Christmas decorations I have to store for a year that I will forget I have next year. Also- Christmas blankets can't be out in April, it looks ridiculous. Same with Christmas PJs.
I sound like an ungrateful bitch. But I just don't like Santas and snowmen floating around my house all year.

I agree 100% and did the ultimate re-gifting fail this year with my box of Christmas themed gifts I got last year! I received a Christmas bell last year, it was still in the box and my 4yo was upset he didn't have anything to give papu' (grandpa) so I let him grab something from the box of unopened Christmas stuff and wrap it and give it to him.... Come to find out after an hour of getting the stank eye from my dads girlfriend I realized she gave it to ME last year! Whoops! Lol

rachelemark

Mazingmommyof6 said:

I can't believe there are still regular posters here who haven't changed their avatars. Everyone should have an avatar -- otherwise you're just another random to me.

Guilty....will work on this. It has been since beginning of July

Very much guilty of this.

MamaHollywood27

rachelemark said:

Mazingmommyof6 said:

Bookshelves said:

I can't believe there are still regular posters here who haven't changed their avatars. Everyone should have an avatar -- otherwise you're just another random to me.

Guilty....will work on this. It has been since beginning of July

Very much guilty of this.


I'm on Mobil don't know how??

shellbell3845

1linedrawing said:

Aside from yearly ornaments, I don't understand giving Christmas-related gifts for Christmas. I have a bunch of Christmas decorations I have to store for a year that I will forget I have next year. Also- Christmas blankets can't be out in April, it looks ridiculous. Same with Christmas PJs.
I sound like an ungrateful bitch. But I just don't like Santas and snowmen floating around my house all year.

I don't mind getting Christmas decorations if they're from somebody who knows my style or buys something I collect.

My UO: I loathe Hallmark ornaments. I think they look cheap even though they're not priced cheaply. I also don't want a collection of cat hallmark ornaments just because I have cats.

Also, we received a 1st time parents Hallmark ornament this year from MIL. It's tacky, and it makes me uncomfortable. I just feel like we're not really first time parents until whenever LO arrives, so the ornament should be given in 2014. At the very least, I'm ripping the 2013 charm off it.

JackieP1023

Bookshelves said:

I can't believe there are still regular posters here who haven't changed their avatars. Everyone should have an avatar -- otherwise you're just another random to me.

Guilty! I have only logged on to the actual website one time. I'm not sure how to change it on mobile. Maybe I will look into that.

Codypup

TyrannosaurusLex said:

elf828 said:

@tyrannosauruslex that's what I'm trying to avoid.  There's got to be a happy medium right?  What would you recommend/what are you planning on doing?

I haven't figured it out yet. I've spent so many years tip-toeing around the subject, waiting to hear what the child knows already before I say anything that it feels weird to be the adult in charge of this topic.

I think I know what I won't do:

- I won't answer more than they're asking. 

Ex. "what's that?" (pointing at my breasts) "Those are my breasts." If that's followed by "why do you have those?" then I'll answer "they make milk to feed babies" but if I'm not asked any more than that, I don't see a reason to offer more. Sometimes kids guide us with what they're ready/interested in knowing, and we over explain things.

- I won't lie or make up fake names for body parts 

- I won't ever shame my child for touching or being curious about their body parts. I will suggest that the bathroom or their bedroom is a nice, quiet, private place to be curious, and that hand washing is a must afterwards. I will make it a rule that it isn't to happen in public, there is no where to wash hands and it makes other people uncomfortable. I want to encourage them to tell me when something hurts, is itchy, etc. 

- When it comes to the bigger questions (ie. not just labelling a body part) I will ask them what they think. 

Ex. "where do babies come from?" "what do you think or know?" 

Usually kids have their own ideas and they're just looking for some reassurance or confirmation. If they answer "from a mommy's tummy?" I see no reason not to agree with that. If they say "but how did the baby get in the mommy's tummy?" then they're showing me they're interested in knowing more. 

***shrug*** it's such a tricky topic and I think it only works if you handle it in a way that makes you comfortable. If you go beyond your comfort zone, kids will sense that and start to feel uncomfortable too. I don't want my kids to feel uncomfortable. Maybe a book or two will help us. Maybe a movie? Maybe dad will be really good at these chats (hahaha no). 

I heard somewhere that asking, "Why do you ask?" is a great way to find out what the root of the question actually is. Like that example:

Kid: Mom, what's sex?

Mom: (Panics, thinks about explaining a penis in a vagina, omgomg, this is awkward, what has my kid heard?!) "Why do you ask, sweetums?"

Kid: "Well, on this sheet it says 'Sex: Male or Female' and I don't know what to put."

I like the idea of asking "why?" before launching into a completely unnecessary, over the top answer. On that same note...I once asked my mom what a boner was. Hilarious.   

OutOfStep81

elf828 said:

I agree with not caring about randoms and their birth announcements.  However I feel guilty ignoring them altogether so I write something generic.  I think I'll eventually get tired of doing this though, like how I gave up on welcoming everyone with new BFPs after a few weeks.  

And I think they make you pass through BRU on your way to hell.  That place is the worst.

My UO?  I thought of this during the "cute flat vagina" conversation.  It annoys me when women refer to their entire lady region as their vagina.  A man would NEVER refer to his balls as his penis, or the whole area as his vas deferens or something.  Why do women do this?  It makes them sound dumb and like they don't understand their own bodies.  I think it's great that women are no longer embarrassed to say the word vagina but they "minus well" not say it at all if they're going to misuse it.  Your vagina is internal, your labia and vulva are external.  No one but a doctor sees your vagina.  You don't get your vagina waxed.  And FFS stop calling it a vajayjay.

Agreed!

What about hoo-haa or lady bits? Those don't bother me near as much as va-jay-jay.

cksmith29

megash113 said:

I can't believe there are still posts about hospital bags and what to buy for the baby, etc. It's the beginning of January. Not only have we already covered all of those topics, but if you haven't figured it out by now, it's time to get off TB and get your act together. Read books. Do research. TB is a decent resource but it's not the only resource. Do your goddamn homework. Every time I see a post like that, it makes me think of the teenagers who post "What is the symbolism in Huckleberry Finn and what are some specific quotes to go along with those examples?" on Yahoo Answers. No. I did my homework, you can do yours.

There has been far too much focus on hospital bags as a whole.  It's not rocket science.  You are not traveling into the wilderness or outer space.  For the most part, forgotten items are NBD or someone can go grab what you need.  Let common sense dictate your packing, and stop freaking over the small things. 

ScaredOfCats

I agree with most of the UO posts today. I must have an unpopular thought process. I have never logged in on a computer though, so I haven't been able to change my pic. I will try to remedy that later.

My UO: I can not stand root beer (or any other flavor) floats and am completely disgusted when I hear about people enjoying them. It probably because sooo small though.

cksmith29

Mazingmommyof6 said:

I am bottle feeding this baby. I am a 1099 employee who can't take much if any time off of work or my family's bill s won't get paid. In my line of work pumping and such will not work. I have breasted 5 babies and I'm sorry if number 6 gets the shaft. I'm one person and I just can't do everything..... Yet.... Tons of people make me feel like crap about this and I know it will get worse. If someone you know chooses to bottle feed.... Please be kind to them.... You might know know all reasons behind it. Be kind. Please.

This!!  Not everyone can breastfeed, and people like to make asinine comments.  Along with that, short maternity leaves....  I can only take a short period because of my position with my company.  Most people have been supportive and understanding, but some people can't help the crap that comes out of their mouths and it kills me.  Damn those mommy wars.... 

Dexter&11

My UO : people keep telling me the cat will no longer be my baby when LO arrives - I disagree STRONGLY!!! The cat is my fur baby, I will continue to carry him round like a baby and spoil him rotten!!!

sdlaura

Mevaroo said:

My UO -  I hate going to BabysRUs.  Every time I go there I get so overwhelmed, and just turn around and walk out.  

I feel the same about IKEA. Everyone acts like it's the most amazing place, but it's too overwhelming for me. It's just as well that there isn't one near me.

And how I feel about Costco.  I adore IKEA though

MrsEvinsky

I have really enjoyed this edition of UO!

I'm going to piggybank off of blscholl1645 with mine. I get really annoyed when moms post a picture (or worse, multiple pictures) of their baby every day on facebook. We get it, your kid is cute, but I don't need a daily update and it desensitizes me to the REALLY cute stuff because I'm like "oh, you again..."

gfam23

OutOfStep81 said:

elf828 said:

I agree with not caring about randoms and their birth announcements.  However I feel guilty ignoring them altogether so I write something generic.  I think I'll eventually get tired of doing this though, like how I gave up on welcoming everyone with new BFPs after a few weeks.  

And I think they make you pass through BRU on your way to hell.  That place is the worst.

My UO?  I thought of this during the "cute flat vagina" conversation.  It annoys me when women refer to their entire lady region as their vagina.  A man would NEVER refer to his balls as his penis, or the whole area as his vas deferens or something.  Why do women do this?  It makes them sound dumb and like they don't understand their own bodies.  I think it's great that women are no longer embarrassed to say the word vagina but they "minus well" not say it at all if they're going to misuse it.  Your vagina is internal, your labia and vulva are external.  No one but a doctor sees your vagina.  You don't get your vagina waxed.  And FFS stop calling it a vajayjay.

Agreed!

What about hoo-haa or lady bits? Those don't bother me near as much as va-jay-jay.

I might as well take this opportunity to say I'm really not a fan of the "lady bits" euphemism. I don't know exactly why. I just would never call my vulva/labia "bits". As in... kibbles n bits? Eehhh.. no.