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Guilty complaint *long*

So I remember back when we were in 3T or the IF boards we always said we'd never complain about our children, how we'd love sleepless nights cuz we'd have kids etc etc.

I just need to vent a little, I'm feeling very overwhelmed. Hannah is having another sleep regression, awesome... BUT to make it all the more worse. I think it's b/c of a growth spurt, I say that b/c all she wants to do is NURSE. Holy smokes, I haven't nursed her this much in a long time. And she only wants me, my hubby tries to snuggle with her in the evening and not happening. She only wants to either cruise around, which doesn't help her go to bed on time. Or she wants me to hold. her. Normally I wouldn't mind, but I've got so much going on/to do before Christmas. I used to love that Hannah wanted to see daddy when he got home, now it's like "nope, mommy only".  It's very exhausting being the only one who can do something with the baby. I look forward to hubby being home so I can have a little break and have adult time. And since she's not sleeping, she's up later cuz she won't go to sleep, she just stands in her crib crying and won't lie down. So we try to put her down asleep, and she frequently wakes up as soon as we put her in the crib. And if she does fall asleep in the crib it only lasts a few hours. So at 1:00am when she's standing up and screaming, I pick her up bring to her to my bed, nurse her, try to put her back in her crib, not happening. I end up kicking DH out of bed so that at least we all can sleep. It's so not ideal. Please tell me it gets better. That she will eventually want to go to my hubby again.
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First M/C December 2010 Second M/C August 2011
Oct 2011~Second round clomid 50 mg; BFN
Nov 2011~Third round clomid 50 mg: BFP
Dec 11- Beta #1 91;Dec 13- Beta #2 186.2
Dec 27- third miscarriage
May 25th- Beta #1 369;May 27th- Beta #2 798
Baby girl born Jan 23, 9lbs 3oz, 21 1/2" long
May 27th-Beta #1 80; May 29th- Beta #2 304; May 31st- Beta #3 860
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  • Hugs. My LO has gone through phases like this and it does get better. Sleepless nights and being the number one caregiver 24/7 is so exhausting. Hope this passes soon. Hang in there mama.
  • I'm sorry robeano. With littles, just remember that almost everything is just a phase, and this too shall pass. I know it's a bad time of year for it, but in a few months H will be like E and you can't get her to cuddle for anything. Too busy playing. GL, I hope it passes soon and you get some rest. Big hugs!
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  • I agree with MrsLee04 - totally unrealistic to say you will never complain. It is such a challenging job to be a parent especially when there is lots on your plate before the holidays. This will pass - we've been through spurts like this over here too. Something I always try to remember is that LO will be 15 in like a minute and so I just try to trudge through the challenging time and just make the most of when he wants to snuggle with just me. Gotta live in the moment while they are so little because time marches on! It will get better, and things will turn around! Hope you are able to get some rest and find some peace soon! 
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  • ((Hugs)) just because we went through a ton to have our Littles doesn't mean we can't get frustrated like every other parent! I have not been through this yet, but each rough patch seems to a phase. I try to keep the 'this too shall pass' idea in mind when we are in a rough patch. I hope you all get some sleep and some alone time soon :)
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  • Don't feel bad hon! It is so hard when you're not sleeping! It does get better, but that doesn't help when you are in the middle of it. Sleep is such an elusive thing when you have a baby, but you will all figure it out together and you will sleep again. (((((Hugs)))))
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  • Hugs! I feel your pain. J is cutting tooth #6 and she started waking up at 8:30, then 9:30, then I don't really remember because I had her in the bed and she kept crying and eating. don't feel guilty about venting for being tired and exhausted. Hang in there!
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  • Don't feel guilty! We've all been there. It is rough to be the one who is needed. They do grow out of it, but that doesn't make being in the thick of it easier.
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  • Going into infertility as a mother, I knew there were going to be times of utter frustration no matter how wanted and loved my next baby was.  That's being a parent and normal.  So, big hugs to you there.

    As for the sleep, yea, it can be so rough.  Maren has been really back and forth with her sleep and with each growth spurt and big teething push she is much like you describe, standing up in her crib and screaming until someone comes to get her.  I don't nurse though so she seems equally happy with either daddy or mommy.  I can tell you this though, my others weren't quite this needy if that is the right word so not only will she grow out of it but if you ever have another that baby might be completely different and sleep right through teething and growth spurts (if we could all be so lucky.)

    Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

    Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

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  • ((BIG HUGS)) mama. No matter how easy or how difficult your road to motherhood was, being a parent is hard. Period. You are "allowed" to feel frustrated and shouldn't feel guilty for it (I know, much easier said than done).

    DS1 went through phases where he ONLY WANTED MOMMY ALL THE TIME, but they always passed. DD is going through a super mommy phase right now, and when I get tired of all of the extra cuddling with her and want to actually get something done (like make dinner, change DS2, pee, breathe.....) I get incredibly frustrated. This too shall pass. I promise. Hang in there!  

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  • As usual, I agree totally with @itsmevkb!  They all go through phases and they are all different.  DS never slept, no matter who was with him ;)  DD#1 needed mommy all the time, but would go right to sleep if she was in our bed with me when teething or growth spurt.  DD#2 is a mix of the 2 - she will eventually go to sleep in our bed after some ibuprofen while teething, but only after a little while of yelling and fighting sleep like DS.  Just when you think you have it all figured out, they switch it up on you!  Good luck - lack of sleep is painful whether you have had IF or not.
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