Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

eireyes

KendraColeslaw said:

My friend is 10 weeks pregnant and her idiot OB actually instructed her to get rid of her cat because the feces will cause birth defects (toxoplasmosis scare). Now her husband is freaked out and adamant that they boot the cat out ASAP - like tomorrow. I'm trying to convince her to do more research and talk to another doctor, but she says she has and her husband won't budge on the matter. So heartbreaking. Her doctor is a fucking whack job.

I would be dropping that OB so fast I probably would have walked out of the appointment. Poor kitty.

Ashleypixie

KendraColeslaw said:

My friend is 10 weeks pregnant and her idiot OB actually instructed her to get rid of her cat because the feces will cause birth defects (toxoplasmosis scare). Now her husband is freaked out and adamant that they boot the cat out ASAP - like tomorrow. I'm trying to convince her to do more research and talk to another doctor, but she says she has and her husband won't budge on the matter. So heartbreaking. Her doctor is a fucking whack job.

That's awful! I'd never get rid of my cats, I can't believe an OB would suggest that!

hlm184

I am so annoyed by all the OBs who are all "MUST INDUCE BY 41 WEEKS!!!"

MadBloom

Lost my baby cork and it really wasn't as gross as I thought it would be....

MrsL13

macgrs said:

Hope you don't mind if I join in, I know I've only been around for a little over a month so I get kind of self conscious about being a random, I just need to vent a little.

Had an appointment yesterday on my due date. The doctor told me he thought I would go by the end of the weekend (based on dilation, etc., but who the hell knows) and it's just totally messing with me. I'm trying so hard to be fine with baby being late and I keep telling myself that having to get induced if needed is NBD, etc. But on the other hand I KNOW I'm going to be crushed if Monday rolls around and I am still pregnant. I really wish he hadn't speculated at all.

I know it's a stupid complaint compared to some stuff other people are dealing with which just makes me feel dumb. Anyway, thanks for all the entertainment, info, and support over the past month or so. I'm kicking myself for not being more involved sooner, but I hope that A14 stays active after everyone has their babies.

I'm feeling the exact same way. I was due yesterday too and will be induced on Tuesday if LO doesn't come on her own. DH doesn't seem to understand that I want to avoid induction. I was told since 36 weeks there's no way I would make it to my due date. Ugh false hope sucks.

Ashleypixie

macgrs said:

Hope you don't mind if I join in, I know I've only been around for a little over a month so I get kind of self conscious about being a random, I just need to vent a little.

Had an appointment yesterday on my due date. The doctor told me he thought I would go by the end of the weekend (based on dilation, etc., but who the hell knows) and it's just totally messing with me. I'm trying so hard to be fine with baby being late and I keep telling myself that having to get induced if needed is NBD, etc. But on the other hand I KNOW I'm going to be crushed if Monday rolls around and I am still pregnant. I really wish he hadn't speculated at all.

I know it's a stupid complaint compared to some stuff other people are dealing with which just makes me feel dumb. Anyway, thanks for all the entertainment, info, and support over the past month or so. I'm kicking myself for not being more involved sooner, but I hope that A14 stays active after everyone has their babies.

It's not a stupid complaint, we all feel that way! I'm only 37 weeks and I'll be disappointed if I go one more, only because my first came at 38 weeks. I know people get a lot of shit for getting impatient, especially on other boards, but you're just being honest! But it looks like you're just a day past your DD, so it'll be soon if you're not induced next week, so hang in there!

kseccomb17

A week PP and my spd seems to finally be going away

BiggerinRealLife

Pregnancy hormones + grief is hard. I've overextended myself several times this week, and DH is starting to get strict with me about talking breaks, but it's hard when I'm a task-oriented person and I'm starting to get really frustrated with not being able to do all that I would normally be able to do. But I know I'm exhausting myself. I'm having a hard week, RTT. DH and I both are. And I'm over a lot of the things I was so excited about with this pregnancy. Which makes me sad.

Eta: reading over my post, apparently hard is my new favorite word. Sorry for being such a complainer.

MrsL13

5 minutes until nap time for DD. Which also means 5 minutes until I get to eat angel food cake and strawberries.

AmyV416

I forgot that I ate grapenuts this morning until just now when I changed my bra. My boobs were like a sand trap. How did I not feel that?! I must be in labor......

nicole mackenzie

KendraColeslaw said:

My friend is 10 weeks pregnant and her idiot OB actually instructed her to get rid of her cat because the feces will cause birth defects (toxoplasmosis scare). Now her husband is freaked out and adamant that they boot the cat out ASAP - like tomorrow. I'm trying to convince her to do more research and talk to another doctor, but she says she has and her husband won't budge on the matter. So heartbreaking. Her doctor is a fucking whack job.


OMG that is so not necessary!?!?!  The OB clearly knows nothing about toxoplasmosis!  You are more likely to get it from eating undercooked raw meat!  And have DH change the litterbox.

As a vet tech I put little cat poops in tubes to send to the lab all the time and handle people's cats daily!  I wear gloves with the poop and DH cleans the litterbox at home.  My baby is fine! 

So are all the other technicians children!

Oh god I just cannot stand the idiocy!  Another cat ends up in the shelter for no real reason!?!

nicole mackenzie

hlm184 said:

I am so annoyed by all the OBs who are all "MUST INDUCE BY 41 WEEKS!!!"

My MW will let me go to 43.  I think they start to try to encourage things to get moving at 42 weeks.  Like cervix ripening stuff and such.  41 weeks is a little early to induce I think unless medically needed...

hlm184

MrsL13 said:

5 minutes until nap time for DD. Which also means 5 minutes until I get to eat angel food cake and strawberries.

OMG I want this so bad now.

fourthnlast

Mamamonzo said:

@nicole mackenzie‌ :-h I'm the phone addict in our house. You just described my life...hangs head in shame.

Same. I'm totally the iPhone addict in our house. 

hlm184

nicole mackenzie said:

hlm184 said:

I am so annoyed by all the OBs who are all "MUST INDUCE BY 41 WEEKS!!!"

My MW will let me go to 43.  I think they start to try to encourage things to get moving at 42 weeks.  Like cervix ripening stuff and such.  41 weeks is a little early to induce I think unless medically needed...

I took DH to my appt yesterday in case I needed backup holding my ground on not inducing (I didn't, fortunately).  The MW gave us their standard spiel - "Risk to the baby increases after 42 weeks, so our practice has decided that we want babies here BEFORE 41 weeks."

DH was like "...What!  How does that make any sense?!  That is not logical!!"

snmetz7

fourthnlast said:

Mamamonzo said:

@nicole mackenzie‌ :-h I'm the phone addict in our house. You just described my life...hangs head in shame.

Same. I'm totally the iPhone addict in our house. 

me too...thanks to the bump and facebook. i'm trying to get better...but I just can't quit you!

fourthnlast

lia619 said:

Good luck to you too @fourthnlast‌!

Thanks, no baby today. Labs looked great, blood sugars are great and my blood pressure was down in the normal range again. Next and final OB appt is next Friday with the c-section the following Tuesday. 10 days and counting.

PoppySeedWindsor

ColleenSwerb said:

OMG. Nothing like my SIL and MIL walking in the door as I'm SCREAMING at the stupid dog to eat her breakfast and DS is flipping out on the couch because I made him leave the kitchen to try and get the dog to eat. ::sigh::

Hang in there!

PoppySeedWindsor

MrsStanton87 said:

KendraColeslaw said:

My friend is 10 weeks pregnant and her idiot OB actually instructed her to get rid of her cat because the feces will cause birth defects (toxoplasmosis scare). Now her husband is freaked out and adamant that they boot the cat out ASAP - like tomorrow. I'm trying to convince her to do more research and talk to another doctor, but she says she has and her husband won't budge on the matter. So heartbreaking. Her doctor is a fucking whack job.

Oh my gosh that poor cat! She needs to start researching things on her own and become informed, or this is going to be a loooonnnnggg pregnancy!

If need be we can start a "I'm pregnant and still have my cats" thread and then you can point her to it (even if it is A14) so she can see that you can totes have kittiez when you're pregnant. I've got two. I traveled in a car across country with mine (It was the fucking worst. We have a tiny ass car and it was full of a ton of our crap) when we moved...cat litter included...and I'm fine and so is baby (Well, so far). 

How can OBs like that exist? Ay yi yi.

fourthnlast

Ashleypixie said:

macgrs said:

Hope you don't mind if I join in, I know I've only been around for a little over a month so I get kind of self conscious about being a random, I just need to vent a little.

Had an appointment yesterday on my due date. The doctor told me he thought I would go by the end of the weekend (based on dilation, etc., but who the hell knows) and it's just totally messing with me. I'm trying so hard to be fine with baby being late and I keep telling myself that having to get induced if needed is NBD, etc. But on the other hand I KNOW I'm going to be crushed if Monday rolls around and I am still pregnant. I really wish he hadn't speculated at all.

I know it's a stupid complaint compared to some stuff other people are dealing with which just makes me feel dumb. Anyway, thanks for all the entertainment, info, and support over the past month or so. I'm kicking myself for not being more involved sooner, but I hope that A14 stays active after everyone has their babies.

It's not a stupid complaint, we all feel that way! I'm only 37 weeks and I'll be disappointed if I go one more, only because my first came at 38 weeks. I know people get a lot of shit for getting impatient, especially on other boards, but you're just being honest! But it looks like you're just a day past your DD, so it'll be soon if you're not induced next week, so hang in there!

I was that way when I hit 36 weeks, I legit thought I would go at 36 weeks again because the last two babies came that early. Here I sit at 38 weeks (tomorrow), this kid isn't coming on her own.

sking72

Just want to thank the bump for educating me. My doctor asked me if I wanted my membranes stripped today and the only reason I knew about this was because of you guys. Yay for being prepared (sort of).

Miss504NOLA

BiggerinRealLife said:

Pregnancy hormones + grief is hard. I've overextended myself several times this week, and DH is starting to get strict with me about talking breaks, but it's hard when I'm a task-oriented person and I'm starting to get really frustrated with not being able to do all that I would normally be able to do. But I know I'm exhausting myself. I'm having a hard week, RTT. DH and I both are. And I'm over a lot of the things I was so excited about with this pregnancy. Which makes me sad.

Eta: reading over my post, apparently hard is my new favorite word. Sorry for being such a complainer.

You sound like me. It's hard right now, but things are going to improve, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. I'm still a work in progress, but each day has been getting better. Do some things that usually bring you joy. It could be the simplest thing, but it helps. I hope things get better for you.

PoppySeedWindsor

I'm so mad at hubster. He worked every night this week and now is too exhausted to take me out on the date he said last week he was planning for us tonight. This is the third time this has happened. We're not going to get these opportunities ever again because it won't be just us ever again. I get that he's tired but he's being a big baby boob head about it and it's frustrating as hell.

Also, I realize that I am also being a big baby boob head about this. He worked his ass off this week so he could be ready for whenever baby comes but that doesn't make him cancelling our plans any easier to swallow.

Sorry for so much venting today. Having a hard time this Friday.

thomas930

@BiggerinRealLife‌ ((hugs))

snmetz7

poru said:

And I just peed right before going to the appointment so I have no pee for the damn cup. Doh

Blah I hate when I do that!

PoppySeedWindsor

Thanks @macgrs. I did buy tickets for a concert for us today...in June...

Just having a pity party today. 

nicole mackenzie

celticlullaby said:

My friend is 10 weeks pregnant and her idiot OB actually instructed her to get rid of her cat because the feces will cause birth defects (toxoplasmosis scare). Now her husband is freaked out and adamant that they boot the cat out ASAP - like tomorrow. I'm trying to convince her to do more research and talk to another doctor, but she says she has and her husband won't budge on the matter. So heartbreaking. Her doctor is a fucking whack job.

I'm not a cat person - I'm really allergic - so I haven't looked into the details. But WTF? I thought you just shouldn't touch the litter? And isn't it only a risk with outdoor cats, or am I making things up? Maybe this is just the excuse her husband's been waiting for?

Would be more likely with an outdoor cat because cats get it from eating the infected intermediate host.  I live in an old farmhouse so my indoor only cat has caught mice before and could technically get infected.  So just being an indoor cat isnt a guarantee.

Here's the life cycle https://www.cdc.gov/parasites/toxoplasmosis/biology.html

You could get it from gardening if a local cat is using your garden as a litterbox.  Or from undercooked meat.  Its very easy to avoid getting it from your cat.  Dont eat your cat or any other animal unless you cook it thoroughly.  And either wear gloves and wash your hands after cleaning the litterbox or make DH clean it.

Her husband may just not like the cat.  Which I also think is bullshit.

On a side note.  Its a good thing my cat is very tolerant of a dirty litterbox because DH may be cleaning it but not nearly often enough. 

nicole mackenzie

dani+california said:

I have the ultimate first world problem. Cue your violins! 3 years ago I set my long-time masseuse up with a friend and they've been dating ever since. He just broke up with her, which means I need to find a new masseuse. Nooooo! He's the only masseuse I've ever found who does super hard deep tissue massages. DH says I should keep seeing him but it's pretty much Girl Code that since he did the dumping, I should be on her side and not see him anymore. I think I'm more upset about the breakup than my friend is...ahaha.

Noooo!!!! So sorry

RocksInTheWater

poru said:

And I just peed right before going to the appointment so I have no pee for the damn cup. Doh

That was me today.  Had to guzzle a bottle of water in the waiting room to get some results.

Ashleypixie

Holy shit. So, apparently LO is a very tiny baby and hasn't been growing like she should. I will be induced if I don't have her in two weeks. THe crazy part? Dr wants me to EAT MORE AND MOVE LESS. I don't think that's possible, I've practically made a career out of not doing exactly those things. If I've been eating less it's because god only knows where my stomach is! I could feasibly drink a bottle of water for lunch and be too full for dinner at this point. But...Drs orders, eat more donuts I guess.

nicole mackenzie

snmetz7 said:

fourthnlast said:

Mamamonzo said:

@nicole mackenzie‌ :-h I'm the phone addict in our house. You just described my life...hangs head in shame.

Same. I'm totally the iPhone addict in our house. 

me too...thanks to the bump and facebook. i'm trying to get better...but I just can't quit you!

I mean I enjoy the internet on my phone too... but I wouldnt turn down sex because I was busy playing with my phone.  And when DH is talking to me I dont ignore him and continue to play with my phone.  I put it down and listen.  And plus also.  After sex you cuddle... you dont roll over and continue to play with your phone.  It makes your partner feel like a used peice of shit.  (

Sorry...its just getting worse every year and he really needs to make some changes in his behavior.  I love him... but I feel like he just loves his phone.

rockstarlaw

Yay! My labor buddy has her beautiful baby girl! Congrats to @DemoDoll‌!! Post is up, go see the picture

knotty-girl

Just popping in to say hi. My back ache is gone and I woke with a burst of energy and nesting motivation, so Im going to clean my entire house with a q-tip for the next few hours. Have a wonderful day everyone!!

KatieGummow

So I had a growth scan today. Baby B is presenting so he might come first, but he is also slightly transverse (it was a toss up between calling him head down or transverse, but ultimately head down). Measured 7.1lbs with a good heart beat. Baby A was measuring 8lbs and has a little more amniotic fluid than there should be as well as a bit of kidney dilation, which I am not supposed to worry about because it could/should clear up on its own. He is calling my OB to have her move up my induction date because he doesn't want me to go a day over 38 weeks which is next Thursday (thank God).

Bittersweet news? Anyone else have experience like this?

avidkeo

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Eat your cat???? What???
Yeah that OB is a douche! My cat is an outdoor car who brings us her catches (got a rabbit last week, I was so proud!) no way you could ever convince me to get rid of her! She doesn't have a litter tray and DH takes care of her kills. No issues here!

nicole mackenzie

avidkeo said:

Ok thay quote may have failed...
Eat your cat???? What???
Yeah that OB is a douche! My cat is an outdoor car who brings us her catches (got a rabbit last week, I was so proud!) no way you could ever convince me to get rid of her! She doesn't have a litter tray and DH takes care of her kills. No issues here!


I was joking about eating your cat

mrscrcalli

So far today I've accomplished nothing.. I have bounced on my yoga ball and stimulated my nipples.

avidkeo

nicole mackenzie said:

avidkeo said:

Ok thay quote may have failed...
Eat your cat???? What???
Yeah that OB is a douche! My cat is an outdoor car who brings us her catches (got a rabbit last week, I was so proud!) no way you could ever convince me to get rid of her! She doesn't have a litter tray and DH takes care of her kills. No issues here!

I was joking about eating your cat


I thought you were! Sorry got distracted trying to cut down quote tree on mobile!!

RocksInTheWater

Hang in there @KatieGummow.  Sounds like you've done a fine job growing your two little boys!

pineconey

I've spent the entirety of my waking hours today trying to plan summer travel. I hate that DH gets hardly any vacation time, even after he puts in a few years. I used to get TONS of paid time off. Hmmmph
The good news is my BFF was planning on surprising me by coming out in July! Now she's coming here AND we are planning to go there too (it's where all of my family lives). Just gotta wait to purchase tickets until DH gets the green light from his boss...