Would you be mad? I'm pissed -update in spapeggy thread

Spapeggy

Back story my husband and his brother play jokes and mess around a lot. My dh has always been a big joker. My dh LOVES to hunt it is a passion he loves so much.

A few weeks ago he got a certified letter in the mail from oklahoma wildlife saying he won sportsman of the year. Saying he was entered in a drawing when he sent his tag from a duck he killed. He won a elk hunt with processing and a shoulder mount. A about $14,000 hunt of a lifetime we would never be able to afford. They said a package was on its way with more info. The whole thing looked so legit.

My husband has been waiting everyday for the mail and so excited. Today we got a box and sure enough it was full of pink hunting stuff and a shirt all his dad and brothers signed laughing at him about his "free hunt". Dh knew the package came and told me to open it. My heart broke as soon as I opened it. It was a joke. Would you be upset? My husband is very hurt. He never jokes like this. It was a huge thing he was so so excited

Pips09

I'd be pretty pissed, but I rarely think practical jokes are funny. Maybe you can do something to cheer your H up.

Spapeggy

You should have heard his voice when I told him what was inside. He sounded like his heart was crushed. I mean they let him talk about it for weeks. He's very hurt.

littlestjerry

If they saw how excited he was and heard him talk about it, yeah, I think it's pretty mean. Poor guy!

Spapeggy

Pips09 said:

I'd be pretty pissed, but I rarely think practical jokes are funny. Maybe you can do something to cheer your H up.

We don't have much money and when I say hunt of a lifetime I meant it. We couldn't afford it ever and he was so so excited. He doesn't get excited much. So it just hurts me they did this

MrsCodeMonkey

That's taking it a step too far.

BluepointToasted

I think I would be very upset, and I know my husband would be hurt, but I know he would try and hide it and laugh it off.  My husband is a firefighter and they (especially his current crew) are huge pranksters, and sometimes they really cross the line.  Feelings do get hurt, but everyone gets over it, because I think they know that the intention was not to be hurtful. 

theseaword

That seems mean  spirited to me. I'm not a big fan of pranks, but what was the thought behind this one? Did they really think any good would come of it?

RondackHiker

Holy crap that is mean.

I'd be furious.... And my family is big into jokes.

This wasn't funny.

theseaword

Also, is there any chance at all that he really did win, but his family sent their own package as a joke? Or did they cop to the original letter?

Helenahhandbasket

I do think they went too far-- esp when they mentioned prize money. 

I do also think it probably would have been a good idea to do a quick google search to see if there was such a contest in existence, but you know that whole thing about hindsight.

ReeseFox

A joke is a joke, but this just seems really mean spirited. The fact that they all ganged up on him like that makes me sad for him.

Eleventy11

That hurts my heart for your DH. I think that was taken way too far. Have they ever done something similar your DH was involved in?

iwantnoworld

I would be really, really upset. Unfortunately, I feel like bringing it to their attention would just make it worse bc they would probably give him a hard time for getting "butthurt" over a "joke."

I hate messing with people in a way that would cause people negative feelings, even short, light hearted ones.

Saran Wrap someone's car? Funny.
Make someone think their car was stolen? Not okay.

And jokes that start with happiness and end in disappointment is just a whole next level of cruel. Like people that give people fake winning lottery tickets? How can you crush someone like that in "good fun"?

Idk, maybe I just have too many feels on the subject, but I'm extremely sensitive to other people's feelings and emotions. Any kind of prank that makes someone feel badly even temporarily breaks my heart and I refuse to have any part of them.

MrsT0514

I agee with PPs. I'm all for joking around, but that's taking it too far. I'm sorry :-( I'd be pissed too.

MJN9510

TwilightMV said:

Also, is there any chance at all that he really did win, but his family sent their own package as a joke? Or did they cop to the original letter?

Yes, maybe this is the case.  Maybe they heard him talk about the letter and then decided to send the package of all pink stuff?

Spapeggy

Nope it was all a joke. I saw the letter on his dads computer but didn't read it so I didn't realize it was that. His dad confirmed it was a joke and it was to finally get Jonny since they never have been able too. His dad laughed and just thinks it's funny. So 9 people in his close family that we see often knew and they just let him brag and be happy about it.

Helenahhandbasket

AuburnGirlSC said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

I do think they went too far-- esp when they mentioned prize money. 

I do also think it probably would have been a good idea to do a quick google search to see if there was such a contest in existence, but you know that whole thing about hindsight.

I think she said it was a contest that he had actually entered and that it came by certified mail. That makes it even worse.

Yeah-- I know nothing about hunting so there was some stuf fin the OP that I didn't quite understand. 

That is sh!tty,

Spapeggy

Just sucks. He talked about it at work and to his friends. Was reading about it. Watching hunts online for elk. I mean really so excited. Now just hurt.

Spapeggy

Helenahhandbasket said:

AuburnGirlSC said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

I do think they went too far-- esp when they mentioned prize money. 

I do also think it probably would have been a good idea to do a quick google search to see if there was such a contest in existence, but you know that whole thing about hindsight.

I think she said it was a contest that he had actually entered and that it came by certified mail. That makes it even worse.

Yeah-- I know nothing about hunting so there was some stuf fin the OP that I didn't quite
understand. 

That is sh!tty,

He shot a rare bird that had a tag. Sent the tag in and the letter stated that's how your entered. And that was how he was picked.

snowclouds

That is super mean.

Spapeggy

I've been telling dh I want to love north for a long time. He's been saying no not to move our kids away from family and cousins. He said we may be moving sooner than planned. I know he's just really hurt. I cried when I opened the box because I knew

iwantnoworld

 

FhSTAR81 said:

That's just wrong. It's one thing to do the whole fake lottery tickets but this is just so wrong

I think fake lottery tickets are cruel depending on the situation.  Someone that isn't struggling, has it all together and is sitting on a surplus of money?  If you go "pfft" to winning extra money (even just a few hundred dollars) then I could see it being okay.

But I know if someone did that to me or my family, where just a few hundred extra dollars could make the difference between my son having Christmas or not?  I would be absolutely crushed and so hurt.

I just don't get the joy of seeing someone be so excited and happy about something only to get disappointed when they find out it's not real.  How is that funny?

And this isn't any way directed at you, lol.  I just quoted because I mentioned fake lottery tickets in my post. I just really do have a lot of feelings about jokes and I don't even know the OP's DH, but my heart is so sad to know people he loves would do something that would hurt him for fun.

RondackHiker

I'm so sad for your dh.

It reminds me of a "prank" my friend's step-father played on her. For weeks leading up to Christmas he hinted she'd get the biggest gift she'd ever gotten. On Christmas Day she unwrapped a halter with a tag that said, "I'm in a stall in the barn". They had an unused barn on their property.

There was a motherfucking stick horse in the stall. She was twelve.

I think that kind of joke is so, so mean.

Helenahhandbasket

Hawkward said:

The more I think about it, the shittier I think it is. Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't your H have some PTSD stuff going on from his military service?

Oh no-- I hope this isn't the case.

iwantnoworld

RondackHiker said:

I'm so sad for your dh. It reminds me of a "prank" my friend's step-father played on her. For weeks leading up to Christmas he hinted she'd get the biggest gift she'd ever gotten. On Christmas Day she unwrapped a halter with a tag that said, "I'm in a stall in the barn". They had an unused barn on their property. There was a motherfucking stick horse in the stall. She was twelve. I think that kind of joke is so, so mean.

@-)

He did that to a TWELVE year old?  I mean, like I said, not cool no matter what age, but to a child?  I honestly just cannot wrap my head around where someone's thought process goes that connects hurting feelings to funny.  I mean, I get that some adults enjoy pranks and having pranks played on them and it's a game (though I still won't participate, because even if I know they won't be sad, I can't stop thinking about how I would feel if it were me).  I just don't understand what makes doing that fun.

I promise guys, I really can take jokes, it just makes me sad to see or hear about other people being sad or disappointed unnecessarily.  I'm a sentitive sally.

Spapeggy

Hawkward said:

The more I think about it, the shittier I think it is. Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't your H have some PTSD stuff going on from his military service?

Hawkward said:

The more I think about it, the shittier I think it is. Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't your H have some PTSD stuff going on from his military service?

Yes he has tbi and PTSD

Spapeggy

Apparently his grandpa did the same thing to his dad when he was younger. Apparently that's supposed to make it ok. I'm just sad for dh and pissed. I can never make it up too him unless I win him a hunt. Shit

Spapeggy

They sent him a pink shirt they all signed and a pink duck, pink browning sticker and a pink camo blanket. With this letter

Spapeggy

Letter

wiggyslilsis

It sounds like they did it to be mean. Especially after reading the letter and the last couple lines about a deer out of season and taking credit for doves.

I'm so sorry he has every right to be pissed as do you.

SGC29

I would be absolutely livid. And I'd make sure they knew that.

I'm so sorry that happened to your DH. That is just so cruel.

msdrdg

Wow!  That's really shitty!

CinemaGoddess

Those guys all deserve serious kicks to the nads.  By people with a lot of leg strength wearing Doc Martens.  

Spapeggy

OhBenji said:

Spapeggy said:

Letter

Is "Duck Butt of The Year" an actual legit title?  That right there would raise some flags with me.

They sent a fake duck butt decoy painted pink with glitter

Spapeggy

You know what else pisses me off. His dad has taken him on a bear hunt and a deer, plus a lot of dove and stuff. So at first he thought of bringing me and the kids because it was supposed to be a 3 day thing where we could come. But then he thought he would never be able to repay his dad for those hunts so he asked his dad to go with him on this hunt and his dad acted so excited and honored. Im boiling

bullybutt

It would have been a "prank" if they had just sent the shitty letter that accompanied the box, not the original "official" letter that got all his hopes up.  I'd regift all those POS pink Browning crap to those assholes for Christmas. 

Spapeggy

I know my dh is a prankster and has been his whole life, BUT he would never do something like this or let it go this far. 3 weeks hes been So excited. I wish I was making this all up. My poor hub

Spapeggy

yes we were out of town at his brothers wedding for 3 full days together

missymo

That is a really shitty thing to do to someone you supposedly care about.  It's just so mean spirited.  The fact that he struggles with PTSD makes it 1000 times worse.  Ugh.  What a bunch of assholes.  

LoveActually4

@spapeggy is there any bad blood between them? The letter seems malicious at the end with the part about hunting out of season, etc.

I'm sorry this happened to your H. That's awful:(