FFFC

hmp1

jessk86 said:

Wtf. Why does her quote say Bump and not what she wrote?!

I edited it because I decided I didn't think h would like that I said that, although I don't know why it just showed up as 'bump'. I'm on mobile and it's been glitchy, but still no clue. Anyway, I can see your point as to why that seems extra cunty. That's not why I have chosen my poorly thought out revenge plan. Like I said in response to someone else, I just found out about this yesterday so I'm stabby about it. I will get over it whichever ending plays out, and most likely won't care either way by the time that weekend rolls around. Just upset that we had this mini trip planned and I'm being deceived as to what's apparently happening.

Are you positive he is going to ditch you for his friends? I can totally see DH making plans with his friends because he forgot about our plans. A simple reminder to him that we are going out of town that weekend would be enough for him to come up with a compromise to make me happy about him still going or he would cancel on his friends since our plans were first. Waiting until the last minute when you know about both trips now is a recipe for disaster. Just say something tonight and give him and you time to work it out.

Since both parties are going to the same place, maybe offer a night out with his buddies while you do a spa night with room service and a chick flick in your room. I know I love solo hotel nights.

tinyhumantoe

If anyone orders a starfucks drink with the full amount of syrup, I think you're crazay. Scale that shiz back yo, it's still delicious with half as much (or less).

@cheeseandrice I never name names. Let me marinate on it.

Pokedot

Cheenomae said:

Pokedot said:

hmp1 said:

eshee8198 said:

The last time DH's car registration came due, I misunderstood it and threw out the notice, and a month later he got pulled over and the car got towed. He blamed it on the fact that "the registry doesn't send out notices anymore" and I didn't say anything. That was two years ago. It just came due again, and I meant to pay it and totally forgot. He found out the registration was expired when he went to get it inspected. I feel awful, but he totally blames the registry again.

In TX the registration sticker is on the front windshield so it is easy to glance at the sticker and see the date. In TN, it is on the plates and I never look at my plates. I am positive my registration will expire without my knowledge. I also don't read my mail so hopefully DH will catch it.

terri_doula2010 said:

BunkinMama said:

BunkinMama said:

I may or may not be hungover. Also no coffee

Why the heck don't you have coffee? Recipe for disaster.

Yep, woke up late. I may need to mosey on over to Starbucks, but I never get it so I don't know what is good. All I know is PSL and I am pumpkined out. Any suggestions? I prefer mine blonde and sweet.

Peppermint Mocha is released today!

That is my absolute favorite combination!!!!! The closest SB to me is 1 hour North. Not.going.to.happen ugh! On a side note anyone remember the Hershey's Cookies & Mint candy bar? What the F happened to those? They were delish. Now all they have is the stupid Cookies & Cream, blah to white chocolate!

ETA: Spelling

Please don't let me ever hear you say that again! On the other hand, yes, I miss the Hershey's Cookies and Mint. Mint chocolate is my favorite!!

I can't stand white chocolate. And I actually prefer dark to milk. Is this a FFFC? As I said we don't have a SB near us so during Christmas time I always have to treat myself to a mint hot chocolate from McDonalds, SO GOOD!

hmp1

tinyhumantoe said:

@tonir319 I don't remember what thread it was, but I wanted to tell you that when someone in your office thinks you don't work as hard as them because you work different hours (but a similar amt of hrs), send them emails at the edge of your time.  If you work 6-6 and they work 9-9, send them shit at 6a.  If it's the reverse, send them shit at 9p.  It gives them some perspective and has always worked for me.  In fact, if I'm working a solid 8p-3am block of overtime, I'll cc a couple people so they don't roll their eyes when I waltz in at *gasp* 9:05 the next morning.  I don't do this on the regular, but occasionally I will include an asshole an a relevant email so he can suck on it.

If I'm online working at 10pm, I always find a reason to send my boss an email

Cheenomae

Pokedot said:

Cheenomae said:

Pokedot said:

hmp1 said:

eshee8198 said:

The last time DH's car registration came due, I misunderstood it and threw out the notice, and a month later he got pulled over and the car got towed. He blamed it on the fact that "the registry doesn't send out notices anymore" and I didn't say anything. That was two years ago. It just came due again, and I meant to pay it and totally forgot. He found out the registration was expired when he went to get it inspected. I feel awful, but he totally blames the registry again.

In TX the registration sticker is on the front windshield so it is easy to glance at the sticker and see the date. In TN, it is on the plates and I never look at my plates. I am positive my registration will expire without my knowledge. I also don't read my mail so hopefully DH will catch it.

terri_doula2010 said:

BunkinMama said:

BunkinMama said:

I may or may not be hungover. Also no coffee

Why the heck don't you have coffee? Recipe for disaster.

Yep, woke up late. I may need to mosey on over to Starbucks, but I never get it so I don't know what is good. All I know is PSL and I am pumpkined out. Any suggestions? I prefer mine blonde and sweet.

Peppermint Mocha is released today!

That is my absolute favorite combination!!!!! The closest SB to me is 1 hour North. Not.going.to.happen ugh! On a side note anyone remember the Hershey's Cookies & Mint candy bar? What the F happened to those? They were delish. Now all they have is the stupid Cookies & Cream, blah to white chocolate!

ETA: Spelling

Please don't let me ever hear you say that again! On the other hand, yes, I miss the Hershey's Cookies and Mint. Mint chocolate is my favorite!!

I can't stand white chocolate. And I actually prefer dark to milk. Is this a FFFC? As I said we don't have a SB near us so during Christmas time I always have to treat myself to a mint hot chocolate from McDonalds, SO GOOD!

I love white chocolate, but I also love dark chocolate. Not the biggest fan of milk chocolate. I also have never gone into a Starbucks before.

Cheenomae

LoisLayn23 said:

WHITE CHOCOLATE IS NOT CHOCOLATE.

I'm fine to come up with another name for it, but not to like it is just sad!

MRoxy0628

A couple of weeks ago I was "jamming out" to Michael Bolton.  Today it's the NSync Pandora station. We don't have students here today, so I'm also singing along. 

eta: I know this is a lame confession.  I wouldn't have even shared it, but I'm bored. 

Cheenomae

LoisLayn23 said:

Cheenomae said:

LoisLayn23 said:

WHITE CHOCOLATE IS NOT CHOCOLATE.

I'm fine to come up with another name for it, but not to like it is just sad!

Oh, it definitely has a place in my belleh, but it contains no cocoa.

It's true. probably why I like it so much!

jenndub

LoisLayn23 said:

Cheenomae said:

LoisLayn23 said:

WHITE CHOCOLATE IS NOT CHOCOLATE.

I'm fine to come up with another name for it, but not to like it is just sad!

Oh, it definitely has a place in my belleh, but it contains no cocoa.

I'm allergic to cocoa, so I can only have white chocolate. It's not even worth it.

FFFC, I make more money than DH, I work more than DH (by at least 20 hours a week), so I feel like he should clean the house and do laundry and cook. But he doesn't, at all. He only keeps the baby alive. It's making me want to kill him. The second I walk in the door he's all, "What's for dinner, we're starving."

Cheenomae

jenndub said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Cheenomae said:

LoisLayn23 said:

WHITE CHOCOLATE IS NOT CHOCOLATE.

I'm fine to come up with another name for it, but not to like it is just sad!

Oh, it definitely has a place in my belleh, but it contains no cocoa.

I'm allergic to cocoa, so I can only have white chocolate. It's not even worth it.

FFFC, I make more money than DH, I work more than DH (by at least 20 hours a week), so I feel like he should clean the house and do laundry and cook. But he doesn't, at all. He only keeps the baby alive. It's making me want to kill him. The second I walk in the door he's all, "What's for dinner, we're starving."

Um, you need to punch him in the face. Okay, so I'm a bit dramatic.

MarisaKathleen

Cheenomae said:

jenndub said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Cheenomae said:

LoisLayn23 said:

WHITE CHOCOLATE IS NOT CHOCOLATE.

I'm fine to come up with another name for it, but not to like it is just sad!

Oh, it definitely has a place in my belleh, but it contains no cocoa.

I'm allergic to cocoa, so I can only have white chocolate. It's not even worth it.

FFFC, I make more money than DH, I work more than DH (by at least 20 hours a week), so I feel like he should clean the house and do laundry and cook. But he doesn't, at all. He only keeps the baby alive. It's making me want to kill him. The second I walk in the door he's all, "What's for dinner, we're starving."

Um, you need to punch him in the face. Okay, so I'm a bit dramatic.

Both of these made me LOL.  One of my co-workers came to ask me what was funny because we're the only 2 in our hallway today. :-)

@.  Come on already.

tyrannasaurusjess

hmp1 said:

jessk86 said:

Wtf. Why does her quote say Bump and not what she wrote?!

I edited it because I decided I didn't think h would like that I said that, although I don't know why it just showed up as 'bump'. I'm on mobile and it's been glitchy, but still no clue. Anyway, I can see your point as to why that seems extra cunty. That's not why I have chosen my poorly thought out revenge plan. Like I said in response to someone else, I just found out about this yesterday so I'm stabby about it. I will get over it whichever ending plays out, and most likely won't care either way by the time that weekend rolls around. Just upset that we had this mini trip planned and I'm being deceived as to what's apparently happening.

Are you positive he is going to ditch you for his friends? I can totally see DH making plans with his friends because he forgot about our plans. A simple reminder to him that we are going out of town that weekend would be enough for him to come up with a compromise to make me happy about him still going or he would cancel on his friends since our plans were first. Waiting until the last minute when you know about both trips now is a recipe for disaster. Just say something tonight and give him and you time to work it out.

Since both parties are going to the same place, maybe offer a night out with his buddies while you do a spa night with room service and a chick flick in your room. I know I love solo hotel nights.

I don't know how old you are, but you're wise beyond your years. Your plan is definitely the more civil and rational of the two. Once I have had time to cool off I will discuss it with him like normal functioning people do, and whichever way it works out will be fine. His friends don't live near us, so it's nice when they can all get together. We haven't gone away in a while, but also have loose plans for a small getaway in February. I can wait that long if need be And if he isn't home with me, then I can schedule time with my friends, or perhaps reschedule my shopping trip. 

pharmer78

jbBeans said:

I inwardly roll my eyes when people are obviously afraid of dogs ( exaggerated avoidance of a dog on a leash, etc). I'm especially annoyed when kids are scared and it's clear the parents have shown or encouraged their fear.

I kind of understand this because my husband is NOT a fan of animals/pets and I think that's rubbed off on my children...however, I do keep a respectable distance from dogs I don't know.  I think that's just common sense!

Hyaline

jenndub said:

FFFC, I make more money than DH, I work more than DH (by at least 20 hours a week), so I feel like he should clean the house and do laundry and cook. But he doesn't, at all. He only keeps the baby alive. It's making me want to kill him. The second I walk in the door he's all, "What's for dinner, we're starving."

Wait, is he home with LO while you're expecting him to clean, do laundry and cook?  Because while I do think that he should  be pitching in, it's a lot to ask some days to keep the kid from killing herself and get all the housework done.  I do dinner every day, but the housework often slides.  I don't want to get all mommywars on this, but caring for a kid is kinda a full-time occupation some days.  I don't expect that just because you SAH you have to do *all* the housework.  Maybe more, but all is a lot to ask.

MississippiCatfish

jbBeans said:

I inwardly roll my eyes when people are obviously afraid of dogs ( exaggerated avoidance of a dog on a leash, etc). I'm especially annoyed when kids are scared and it's clear the parents have shown or encouraged their fear.

DH hates dogs but he's been bit twice. Like, dogs running up to him and biting him for no reason. He's been afraid of them since he was little and a big dog chased him, so it's not like he's walking up to them or petting them or anything, it's just happened. But because of that just the sound of a loud, "scary" bark puts him on edge. I don't like it but I can't say I blame him.

ETA: he's trying really hard to hide it from LO so he's not afraid.

pharmer78

My FFFC- For whatever reason, some of the pictures people post don't show up on my computer here at work, and many times I want to "love it" anyways b/c I don't want the person to feel bad that I "loved" all the other pictures that I actually could see. 

And with that being said, I fully realize that no one really cares if I'm "loving" their pictures!!!!

hmp1

pharmer78 said:

My FFFC- For whatever reason, some of the pictures people post don't show up on my computer here at work, and many times I want to "love it" anyways b/c I don't want the person to feel bad that I "loved" all the other pictures that I actually could see. 

And with that being said, I fully realize that no one really cares if I'm "loving" their pictures!!!!

I do that on IG. I am usually checking IG at a time that isn't appropriate for me to watch a video. I usually like the video even though I haven't watched it for the reason that I don't want them to see me on liking stuff and not theirs.

pharmer78

Yet another FFFC-

I'm just as bad about being sick as the stereotypical man is.  The whining, the aching...even I get tired of hearing myself mope and complain!

jbBeans

MississippiCatfish said:

I inwardly roll my eyes when people are obviously afraid of dogs ( exaggerated avoidance of a dog on a leash, etc). I'm especially annoyed when kids are scared and it's clear the parents have shown or encouraged their fear.

DH hates dogs but he's been bit twice. Like, dogs running up to him and biting him for no reason. He's been afraid of them since he was little and a big dog chased him, so it's not like he's walking up to them or petting them or anything, it's just happened. But because of that just the sound of a loud, "scary" bark puts him on edge. I don't like it but I can't say I blame him. ETA: he's trying really hard to hide it from LO so he's not afraid.

Yes, I realize some people unfortunately have legitmate reason to be scared of dogs, which is why I figured my post was confession-worthy, since it's douchey to judge without knowing the story. I appreciate that he tries to hide it from your LO. 

I guess it pisses me off especially because we're in the city and you can't really avoid walking close to a dog that's passing you. But I also kind of assume that the vast majority of dogs are totally safe if they are on leashes and not wearing muzzles or something. You should be cautious about strange dogs by letting them sniff you, asking the owner if you can pet them, etc, (and I'll teach Linden to do this) without being ZOMG so scared of them. 

willy_gert

tinyhumantoe said:

A bunch of people gained some points and others lost points on my personal point system after the posts this week.  The points are very important because for every 7500 points you get JudgeBucks where you earn $25 off every $50, but you have to shop between 11:00-11:03 am on Nov 13 (a weekday during work hours).  JudgeBucks cannot be used on sale,or clearance items [other arbitrary exclusions apply].  When you get to the register after spending two hours picking out stuff, you won't be able to use them on anything you selected because I'll be running a parallel sale with only two small signs posted in the back facing the wall, indicating that 3/4 of the store items are 3.2% off, therefore excluding them from your JudgeBucks eligibility.  That's how the buck-things work, right?

Anyway, it's fair for me to judge threads I wasn't able to participate in because I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have said anything mean or completely cunty had I participated.

I must say that I was honestly surprised that you did not come in to the BOAB thread and sum things up nicely or do something with that shit.  But I figured you have more important things to do with your life!

tinyhumantoe

Drum roll..............I can only remember some of the violations.

1.  Anyone who thought the second husband joke was in poor taste got docked 1/8 of a point for being a fuddyduddy in general.  Please don't hang around me, because I've got that joke's crudeness beat ten fold by 9am on a Tuesday (and I probably love my husband more than you do yours - we razz eachother; it's flirting - not crossing some sacred line of respect). 

2.  Those who decided that the joke was tasteless only given Willy's situation can go suck a big fat dick.  Why hold her to a different standard?  That's fucking bullshit. 

3.  Afunky earned points for pointing out the fact that someone may not be thinking about their terrible situation when they make a joke that would normally be acceptable.  Let's be extra hard on the person who is having a hard time.  God forbid she forget the overhanging tragedy for a few minutes a day.  And if she said it with the situation in mind?  Who fucking cares. 

4.  The original post by Angeleighhhhhhh was pretty bad, but it was worded with some sensitivity and with a facade of caring (which I opine, was bologna).  Dudes, anger IS a MAJOR part of the process with tough situations.  Anyone take psych 101?  Been around someone facing tragedy?  Faced it yourself?  You're a real shithead to criticize someone for how they're handling adversity, on a message board, that is probably their only outlet for venting. 

5.  Things got taken to another level when Kenmar came in to back up that post with zero sensitivity.  Dude, you don't word things well.  Who cares 90% of the time, but this time it was mean and uncalled for.  Don't confuse your being annoyed with someone's posts with being concerned for her husband.  Puhlease. 

6.  And Angel's post was totally not about that motherfucking joke.  Two out of seventy sentences may have been.  And don't act like you care about someone when you act the opposite.  You could have helped her slip deeper into depression and really fucked her head up.  I was probably overly disappointed in Angel because she's usually so supportive and level headed, and I really like her.  It seemed out of character.  At some point say - well, I do think my post was worded wrong and I wish I could take it back.  I'm sorry.

7.  I think Willy did a great job of defending herself, which surprised me since she was in such a vulnerable position.  ROCK ON for knowing that you're doing the best you can and that all the things you're feeling are normal. 

8.  LL lost a point early on for seeming irrationally grumpy/angry at the world/bored?, but gained back 2 for being supportive to Willy and providing good points.  Everyone who offered good insight for Willy's situation gets a point, because really all sides to that issue were covered very well. 

9.  Betty - anyone going through a rough time gets a free pass from me.  But no, a free pass for someone's venting is not the same as a free pass for someone's chronic hostility.  FWIW, I give free passes for both for all who are going through rough things that I may never understand in my lifetime, but they are not the same.

If anyone I named thinks I don't like you, you're super wrong.  I didn't call out anyone that didn't say something mean or snarky yesterday.    ;;)  Now don't be one of those who can dish snark but can't take it!








And yah, I know it's Kemare ) 

kelbel527

hmp1 said:

Afunky6 said:

jbBeans said:

I inwardly roll my eyes when people are obviously afraid of dogs ( exaggerated avoidance of a dog on a leash, etc). I'm especially annoyed when kids are scared and it's clear the parents have shown or encouraged their fear.

We have so many kids like that at our apartment. Bigger dogs that are bigger than the kids, I can understand that, but dude, our dogs are 10lbs and 20lbs. They couldn't hurt someone if they tried.

James is weird and is only afraid of little dogs. I think because in general they are more jumpy and the sudden movement is what scares him.

Little dogs used to freak Brody out too (he's getting better) - but we have two large chocolate labs - so I just thought it was because they were more his size.  No idea.  We used to just laugh at him (while calming/reassuring him at the same time).  It makes me laugh that he can get knocked on his ass by a tail from his dogs, but a cute little pug dog freaks him out. 

kelbel527

jenndub said:

FFFC, I make more money than DH, I work more than DH (by at least 20 hours a week), so I feel like he should clean the house and do laundry and cook. But he doesn't, at all. He only keeps the baby alive. It's making me want to kill him. The second I walk in the door he's all, "What's for dinner, we're starving."

I work a ton more, I make a ton more.  DH makes dinner.  I trained him early on in our marriage (pre-kids).

Frankly - his choice is - eat at 7pm (or later) or make it yourself.  Oh and DH is actually a better cook than I am, that helps.

Now - doing the dishes?  He's great...but I can't figure out how to get him to do it more than me.  :P  Oh and he also does laundry 90% of the time.

tinyhumantoe

willy_gert said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I must say that I was honestly surprised that you did not come in to the BOAB thread and sum things up nicely or do something with that shit.  But I figured you have more important things to do with your life!

I've only been able to read at night, if at all, so it was over.  I thought anything I would have said was better covered by multiple other posters. 

willy_gert

tinyhumantoe said:

willy_gert said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I must say that I was honestly surprised that you did not come in to the BOAB thread and sum things up nicely or do something with that shit.  But I figured you have more important things to do with your life!

I've only been able to read at night, if at all, so it was over.  I thought anything I would have said was better covered by multiple other posters. 

LOL, well I feel like you did a lovely job summing things up here!    

hmp1

I would be so freaking pissed if DH ever made the fact that he makes more money than me as a reason for him doing less around the house. So pissed.

MRoxy0628

kelbel527 said:

hmp1 said:

Afunky6 said:

jbBeans said:

I inwardly roll my eyes when people are obviously afraid of dogs ( exaggerated avoidance of a dog on a leash, etc). I'm especially annoyed when kids are scared and it's clear the parents have shown or encouraged their fear.

We have so many kids like that at our apartment. Bigger dogs that are bigger than the kids, I can understand that, but dude, our dogs are 10lbs and 20lbs. They couldn't hurt someone if they tried.

James is weird and is only afraid of little dogs. I think because in general they are more jumpy and the sudden movement is what scares him.

Little dogs used to freak Brody out too (he's getting better) - but we have two large chocolate labs - so I just thought it was because they were more his size.  No idea.  We used to just laugh at him (while calming/reassuring him at the same time).  It makes me laugh that he can get knocked on his ass by a tail from his dogs, but a cute little pug dog freaks him out. 

This is us too. We were over at a friends house and they "attacked" Lily with kisses and she was upset and overwhelmed. When our 70 lb Goldendoodle does it, she loves it. I think it's just the familiarity and relationship they have with their own dogs.

MeatballEsq

Now that I know there is a point system, I'm stepping up my bump game. I'm totally motivated by earning things, even points I can only use for 13 minutes in the middle of the night at THT's online store

kelbel527

hmp1 said:

I would be so freaking pissed if DH ever made the fact that he makes more money than me as a reason for him doing less around the house. So pissed.

For us, it's not about the $.  It's about the hours (two are directly correlated FTR).  I put in significantly more hours a week than him (20-30), so I expect he helps with nightime things that otherwise wouldn't get done.  If I get home in time for dinner (about 2-3 days a week), then I still have to work after the kids are in bed, until I go to bed.  So if I also have to clean the kitchen, cook dinner and take care of the dogs, then I have to stay up another hour later to get my work done - while he watches TV.

Now on the weekends we make it more equal (though I still work on the weekends, just usually during naptime, bedtime or I take a kid to the office).

tinyhumantoe

hmp1 said:

I would be so freaking pissed if DH ever made the fact that he makes more money than me as a reason for him doing less around the house. So pissed.

I do agree.

Money aside, DH's job is 9-5 for 90% of the year, uncompleted work from one day doesn't leach into other days, they are not understaffed, and it's a mildly stressful job at worst.  My job is ridiculously long hours, lots of travel, lots of responsibility/stress, and never off the clock.  He leaves for work at 830 and gets home at 530.  I leave at 745 and get home at 7/8/9.  I'm okay that he does more cleaning and more morning duties with W, and dare I say that I expect it.

melody921

jessk86 said:

jessk86 said:

H and I have been planning a trip to New Orleans to visit a friend in December. I just found out he is planning the same trip with his college friends, no gfs or wives allowed. I plan on milking this as long as possible, making plans for things to do and such, to see how he plays this (he doesn't know I know about his 'bro sesh' [thats seriously what they call it--they're fratty]). Also, most likely it will end up being him and his friends rather than he and I, which pisses me off bc we haven't had a vacay in forever. SO if we end up pregnant this month, I've passive aggressively decided to withhold that information until the day before they leave for NO ( I planned on waiting until thanksgiving anyway, so it'd only be an extra few days) knowing he wouldn't leave me newly pregnant and alone for an extended weekend. If I can't go, ain't no one goin'! ETA- spelling

Total dick move.  I laughed about it, but yea, totally a dick move.  Why don't you just tell him you don't want him to go?  A guilt trip would be more much effective on my DH vs being PA with him.

Oh I'm sure it'd backfire on me. I just found out about the double plan yesterday so I'm fired up. I'll probably cool off by the time it actually comes up. Plus I'm fairly certain we won't be preg this month anyway. I'm just salty about it at this point in time.

Why don't you just ask him straight out if he still wants the two of you to take the trip? It seems exhausting to keep planning and for him to plan on the side. Just get an answer from him.

hmp1

kelbel527 said:

hmp1 said:

I would be so freaking pissed if DH ever made the fact that he makes more money than me as a reason for him doing less around the house. So pissed.

For us, it's not about the $.  It's about the hours (two are directly correlated FTR).  I put in significantly more hours a week than him (20-30), so I expect he helps with nightime things that otherwise wouldn't get done.  If I get home in time for dinner (about 2-3 days a week), then I still have to work after the kids are in bed, until I go to bed.  So if I also have to clean the kitchen, cook dinner and take care of the dogs, then I have to stay up another hour later to get my work done - while he watches TV.

Now on the weekends we make it more equal (though I still work on the weekends, just usually during naptime, bedtime or I take a kid to the office).

Making it about time is fine, working f/t vs p/t. But Jen started by saying she makes more money. If DH ever started a convo that way, that is all I would hear because steam would be pouring out my ears.

MarisaKathleen

FFFC: I don't like little dogs. At All.  They make me nervous, they bark too much and they're typically hyperactive.  I don't know why everyone takes their big dogs to obedience classes, or training or whatever but no one gives a shit about the ankle biters.  And I don't want to hear "oh, fluffly mc flufferton is just like having a cat!"  No.  He isn't.  He's a spaz.  A barking, spaz that drives me bonkers.  I'm talking specifically about the white old lady dogs.  My sister has one.  Sophie.  Sophie the Psycho is what I call her. 

melody921

TheAnne said:

AND WHEN THE EFF DID FUN SIZED CANDY BARS GET SO LITTLE?!?!?!

for. real.

Yep, nothing fun about it

Hyaline

FFFC: The best conversation with a grown-up I've had this week was with an ex.  This should probably not become a normal thing.  

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melody921

Holly_1007 said:

DH has been sober for over 6 weeks now. I'm so proud of him and so happy with the positive direction our relationship is headed. I'm a little mad at myself for the way I went about things (giving him an ultimatum) and the way he has since handled everything. He is a recovering alcoholic but won't admit that. He has basically told all his friends/ family that I just don't like having alcohol around. We haven't hung out with anyone in over 6 weeks because everyone drinks. I don't want to put him in a situation that he is uncomfortable or will be tempted to drink, so I'm ok with that. My issue is that none of our friends and family are being supportive. They aren't being supportive because they don't realize what an issue it was. Part of that is my fault. I care too much about what other people think and don't really want people to think my husband is a raging alcoholic. So I let him tell people that the issue was me. Last night we went trick or treating with our neighbors and they kept trying to offer H a beer, saying how he is no fun anymore etc. I'm proud of H for turning down the beer and shrugging everything off, but I can't really blame the neighbors for saying that. I know that if people knew the truth they would be so supportive but I don't know what to do at this point. andplusalso? who brings a wagon with a cooler full of beer to ToT for an hr with a bunch of 3 yr olds? I don't even know if that makes sense. ha.

I think he needs to take ownership that this is his problem and he's working on it, rather than shifting the blame to you. Can you talk to him about it? And then, encourage him to be open with family/friends. If he's getting offered alcohol all the time, I feel like it's going to get increasingly more difficult for him to turn it down.

jbBeans

Hyaline said:

FFFC: The best conversation with a grown-up I've had this week was with an ex.  This should probably not become a normal thing.  

I had a dream this week that I was pushing my ex in a double stroller with Linden. Um... fcked up.

Hyaline

jbBeans said:

Hyaline said:

FFFC: The best conversation with a grown-up I've had this week was with an ex.  This should probably not become a normal thing.  

I had a dream this week that I was pushing my ex in a double stroller with Linden. Um... fcked up.

Bahahah I'd wake up having terrorsweats.  Was he kinda a big baby when you dated?

hmp1

jbBeans said:

Hyaline said:

FFFC: The best conversation with a grown-up I've had this week was with an ex.  This should probably not become a normal thing.  

I had a dream this week that I was pushing my ex in a double stroller with Linden. Um... fcked up.

LOL!