UO Thursday!

nunzchucks

mrsgerman said:

StinaLeigh said:

lalala8 said:

For my extremely lame UO:

I think french manicures are terrible. Why do you want to highlight the white, dead part of your nail? Ew.  I guess I can tolerate french manicures a little (although they look super dated now), but french pedicures are sick. I can't take 'em.  

A nice, classy, nude polish is sooo much better if you don't want a color. Or clear?  Just stop with white tips.

Rant over.

I'd like to go back to this.  Ha!  I agree, but more so I hate fake nails.  I mean come on.  They look fake.  Why do you want to look fake?  I mean everyone knows they aren't real... right?   simple polish (even fun colors) and clean cut looks so much better. 

Every time I see acrylics I just think "Hey 1998 called and they want their nails back"

LOL! My SIL gets them. Now I won't be able to get this out of my head. Hahahahah

lzmac11

For those who don't know which acronym means what.... I just posted the glossary!

ruby3583

What does UO stand for?  All of these posts cracked me up!  I will even accept any snarky responses to my question too

Valie18

KristaU831 said:

I think backing into a parking space is a waste of time. It takes you just as long to back out when you leave as it does to back in when you get there. Drives me nuts!

I'm going to take this a step further and say that people who do this in busy parking lots are complete assholes

Pulling out of a parking space is a lot safer than backing out. Especially for little things close to the ground that might dash out of a nearby parking spot.

Pepper6

mrsgerman said:

StinaLeigh said:

lalala8 said:

For my extremely lame UO:

I think french manicures are terrible. Why do you want to highlight the white, dead part of your nail? Ew.  I guess I can tolerate french manicures a little (although they look super dated now), but french pedicures are sick. I can't take 'em.  

A nice, classy, nude polish is sooo much better if you don't want a color. Or clear?  Just stop with white tips.

Rant over.

I'd like to go back to this.  Ha!  I agree, but more so I hate fake nails.  I mean come on.  They look fake.  Why do you want to look fake?  I mean everyone knows they aren't real... right?   simple polish (even fun colors) and clean cut looks so much better. 

Every time I see acrylics I just think "Hey 1998 called and they want their nails back"

I think my mom has had acrylics continuously since 1998....

CreEspree

@ruby3583 - Unpopular opinion.

MollySm

I always return my cart. I never leave my kid in the car, I just walk her to the cart return with me. When I was pregnant with her my board had this same exact discussion, and some BTDT moms said the same things about how the first timers wouldn't when they really had a kid.

I agree with whoever said just because you are a first timer it doesn't mean you are an idiot or incapable of making choices. And just because you are a 2nd time mom it doesn't mean you know what you are talking about. Having a baby makes you a mom, but it doesn't necessarily make you good at it.

KristaU831

I hate the posts on here that are like 'hoping to be a June mom blah blah blah do you think I'm ku?'
No I just think you are crazy.

nunzchucks

KristaU831 said:

I hate the posts on here that are like 'hoping to be a June mom blah blah blah do you think I'm ku?' No I just think you are crazy.

I was just thinking this.

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curlylocks3

I love the term preggly. Preggers, not so much. And I'm kind of in love with the term pregosaurus. 

Also, some people are WAY too attached to their cars. 

twistsandturnsto2

ljs4117 said:

KristaU831 said:

i dont exactly like the area i live in... so i wouldnt leave my daughter unattended, it is kind of a shit hole when i go off base to do anything. 

LOL ^^ sounds like Norfolk to me..

Whaaaa? How dare you speak of my hometown like that! :P

AllyTales

curlylocks3 said:

I love the term preggly. Preggers, not so much. And I'm kind of in love with the term pregosaurus. 

Also, some people are WAY too attached to their cars. 

Attached when it's very very new! And you just put a big down payment down.  After some time, I'm not so attached.

Marcilene1

I know I am late to this, but I just had to add that the shopping cart debate is hilarious.  It comes up quite often on the bump.  It was the subject of a pretty heated thread on June 2011 way back when.  Haha!  I try to return my cart, but it's not always possible.  I always leave it out of the way though.  Where I do my food shopping it's a HUGE parking lot with like 2 cart returns (not designed very well).  I am usually able to get a close spot, but if it's super busy I am not leaving my kids in the car unattended.  I would never forgive myself if something were to happen to them because I was worried about someone's car getting scratched.  Again, I would never just leave it out in the open.  I do put it to the side or on a median, but it's not always possible to get it to the return. 

About the FTMs vs. STMs knowing more or less that each other, I think it depends on the person and their experience and expectations as well.  I definitely, absolutely do things that I said I would never do as a parent, but I forgive myself   I do cringe sometimes though when I think about how stupid I was before I had kids (not to say that everyone was as stupid as I was lol).  For example, I used to judge my friend for allowing her daughter to sleep in the bed with her.  Yeah, guess who sleeps with us?  Our 2 year old! 

flerlgirl

Erica314 said:

meladoriestar said:

Erica314 said:

I get a little angry inside whenever I hear someone puts their god before their children...

(Sorry to any religious folk... but to me your babies should *always* come first no matter what!)

I'm curious for examples of this. I mean, I can obviously think of that UO last week in May's board about the woman who said she'd rather die with baby than have a c-section. But that seemed pretty extreme to me. Are there other instances you can point out? 

I can think of a few examples, but I just kind of mean in general.  I have a few friends on Facebook with children who constantly post about how God is the most important thing in their lives.  Maybe this is more of a FFFC, but I find it hard not to shake my head and think, "Shouldn't your son be the most important thing in your life?"

Although, you could most certainly extrapolate this to more head-shaking scenarios - like the parents from my hometown with a diabetic daughter. She died because "mom" and "dad" chose to pray for her health instead of seeking medical care for a very treatable condition.

^ In this case though, I'm sure it's not an unpopular opinion.

I get this. As in, I do put God before my children. Being a Christian defines who I am as a mother, wife, daughter, friend, girl with fabulous hair, etc. It doesn't mean I would allow my baby to die or refuse medical treatment because God doesn't want me to. I believe God has given us the doctors and technology to treat so many things and it's ridiculous not to take advantage of that. So I both agree and disagree with you

flerlgirl

meladoriestar said:

deepoceanmama said:

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

Pepper6 said:

I think people that don't return shopping carts to the corrals in parking lots are assholes.  It takes all of a minute at most to walk it over there, so there's no excuse to not do it.  Every time I see someone walk away from a shopping cart, I feel like hurtling one towards their car as they leave and just say "oh I'm sorry, I assumed that's what you wanted because you left your cart in the parking lot to hit other cars, so I figured you probably liked them hitting yours too"

im guilty of this. sometimes when you have a toddler you have to do things that make you angry lol. 
especially in the rain when your kid wont wear a coat. 

because you cant leave your kid alone in the car... 

I would be the asshole that would allow my kid to get soaked then, if they refused to wear a coat  And still bring the cart back. 

you say this now.... 

This might be another UO of mine, too.. when people assume first timers don't know anything. Or can't have opinions.   It's one thing to say "I won't ever let my kid watch tv before 3!!" or "I won't let my kid have fast food until they're 6!!" I won't say those things. Ever.  I'm not naive.  I will ALWAYS return carts to where they belong.  No matter how old my kid is, how many I have, what the weather is like...  it's the thing to do.  You just do it.  Otherwise, you risk hitting someones car.  And if someone EVER did that and my car was damaged because of them, I'd be spitting freaking nails.

I agree with this UO 100%! I am so annoyed by people who assume that I'm just blundering around in a hazy, naive fog because I'm a FTM. This doesn't happen on this board as much as IRL. I have these parent friends who keep talking to me like I have no understanding of what a baby is. It's driving me nuts. (Also, I, too, will ALWAYS return the cart.)

Another UO that's probably not actually a UO here at all: people who ask "are you SURE you want to have kids?" make me want to punch a wall. I have a few friends that, every time a baby is crying or throwing a tantrum or sassing his mom, will say "are you SURE you want one of those?" And it's like, yes, bitch, step off! I'm in this long-haul, good, bad, ugly.

I think I'm sort of split on this. I definitely think that people who doubt my abilities to deal with toddlers and tantrums are annoying as shit. It is, literally, my job. I do behavior therapy and a huge part of it is parent training. So I know all the things that I should do, and I can deal with a tantrum like it's nothing. (Seriously, I regularly deal with full-blown tantrums, getting hit, having things thrown at me, etc - that last for hours sometimes). 

But.... I know for sure that it is one thing to do the right thing and what you know you should do when you're well-rested, in a good mood etc. But when you haven't gotten any sleep, had a shitty day at work, and all that- well, it's a lot harder to do all the right things. I'm pretty used to going home at the end of the day and having some peace. I'm pretty curious whether all of my years of telling parents what to do, and all of my education and experience in the area, will actually work on myself lol.

meladorie star is wise

flerlgirl

I don't have a UO today. I hate getting my nails done but I don't like people touching me. I always try to return my cart and if I can't for whatever reason I ask someone else to return it for me. 

As far as FTM vs STM... I don't think I know everything, not by a long shot. And I don't think FTMs are morons. Think of it like this: You can study up on skydiving your whole life and know every single thing about it. But it's a lot crazier when you're in the plane ready to jump and you have to make quick decisions and not hurl. So I think all FTMs will be surprised when their baby arrives. And I think as a STM I will also be surprised by my new baby

Lavender739

It bugs me when people constantly reply on a message that now has 20+ responses now attached to it and making me scroll continuously in order to see what was actually last said...start a new reply people after like 5.

JNerd

I'm late to the party today, but I have a few: It takes a while to adjust to not drinking coffee everyday or being able to have a glass of wine or a beer. So please don't rub it in how much you are enjoying yours. Also, if should go somewhere to help someone, don't be miserable and snarky the whole time! If you really didn't want to be there then Go Home! I would much rather not have your help than deal with your attitude. I'm a STM and this still feels new to me- I feel like I can't really remember all the details of what it was like the first time and am scared that I have forgotten how to deal with a newborn. Finally: I view pregnancy as a time where you should strive to be your healthiest, not as an excuse to sit on your ass and eat anything and everything you want, then complain that you've gained all this extra weight. Eating right and getting a healthy amount of exercise are hugely important on a regular basis, why should pregnancy be any different?

SandyD83

I'm late too, but my UO is that I usually think it is best to stay as far away from the UO posts as possible because they often seem like fights just waiting to happen.
Today though? My opinion might change if they could be like this more often- hilarious and harmless.

ljs4117

twistsandturnsto2 said:

KristaU831 said:

i dont exactly like the area i live in... so i wouldnt leave my daughter unattended, it is kind of a shit hole when i go off base to do anything. 

LOL ^^ sounds like Norfolk to me..

Whaaaa? How dare you speak of my hometown like that! :P

Oh, no!!  I'm sorry!! LOL  You know, driving up and down Tidewater and living on Ocean View Ave might have skewed my view of the fair town of Norfolk!  

ETA:  Or was it OV drive?  I don't remember.. either way.  Interesting place!!

NYChick

Marcilene1 said:

I know I am late to this, but I just had to add that the shopping cart debate is hilarious.  It comes up quite often on the bump.  It was the subject of a pretty heated thread on June 2011 way back when.  Haha!  I try to return my cart, but it's not always possible.  I always leave it out of the way though.  Where I do my food shopping it's a HUGE parking lot with like 2 cart returns (not designed very well).  I am usually able to get a close spot, but if it's super busy I am not leaving my kids in the car unattended.  I would never forgive myself if something were to happen to them because I was worried about someone's car getting scratched.  Again, I would never just leave it out in the open.  I do put it to the side or on a median, but it's not always possible to get it to the return.  

This.

I always used to return my carts, but now I sometimes just put it somewhere that it won't roll away, and I make sure its safe. It's not a matter of laziness, it's a matter of priorities and anxiety about my son's safety. I know not everyone's as anal as I am, but I am happy with my level of anxiety, it works for me. Also, where I live, they have people for that (collecting carts). In my opinion it is and should be the store's responsibility, I'm not leaving my son unattended to walk half way across a huge parking lot. That's not going to happen.

As for the age old debate about whether FTMs are stupid or STMs are arrogant, I think that the "just you wait" comments are really patronizing, but I also think that it is unreasonable to expect that you might not change your mind about something that is going to change our life in such a fundamental way. It just doesn't make sense.

kaitlin&kurth

I know it's Friday but... people who type like this: r u srius? y u no answer me! plz call me back!! Really people?! Use words! 

twistsandturnsto2

@ljs4117 no worries at all! Ocean View would sku anyone's idea of Norfolk, and it is such a weird place to begin with

nunzchucks

njbabymama said:

SandyD83 said:

I'm late too, but my UO is that I usually think it is best to stay as far away from the UO posts as possible because they often seem like fights just waiting to happen. Today though? My opinion might change if they could be like this more often- hilarious and harmless.

I like to read them but I generally don't comment either, they can get out of control super fast - like yesterday's UO on TTGP, someone got banned for calling someone else the c-word.  

SandyD83

LilNunz1 said:

njbabymama said:

SandyD83 said:

I'm late too, but my UO is that I usually think it is best to stay as far away from the UO posts as possible because they often seem like fights just waiting to happen.
Today though? My opinion might change if they could be like this more often- hilarious and harmless.

I like to read them but I generally don't comment either, they can get out of control super fast - like yesterday's UO on TTGP, someone got banned for calling someone else the c-word.  

Maybe this should be in FFFC, but I will admit that as much as I don't like the UO posts that turn into people spewing hate at each other, I did waste about 3 hours of my life reading the ones in Dec.13's biweekly report or whatever snowflake called it. It was like a train wreck- I wanted nothing to do with it, but I couldn't help reading and staring with my mouth hanging open at the ugliness of it all.