UO Thursday!

deepoceanmama

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

Pepper6 said:

I think people that don't return shopping carts to the corrals in parking lots are assholes.  It takes all of a minute at most to walk it over there, so there's no excuse to not do it.  Every time I see someone walk away from a shopping cart, I feel like hurtling one towards their car as they leave and just say "oh I'm sorry, I assumed that's what you wanted because you left your cart in the parking lot to hit other cars, so I figured you probably liked them hitting yours too"

im guilty of this. sometimes when you have a toddler you have to do things that make you angry lol. 
especially in the rain when your kid wont wear a coat. 

because you cant leave your kid alone in the car... 

I would be the asshole that would allow my kid to get soaked then, if they refused to wear a coat  And still bring the cart back. 

you say this now.... 

This might be another UO of mine, too.. when people assume first timers don't know anything. Or can't have opinions.   It's one thing to say "I won't ever let my kid watch tv before 3!!" or "I won't let my kid have fast food until they're 6!!" I won't say those things. Ever.  I'm not naive.  I will ALWAYS return carts to where they belong.  No matter how old my kid is, how many I have, what the weather is like...  it's the thing to do.  You just do it.  Otherwise, you risk hitting someones car.  And if someone EVER did that and my car was damaged because of them, I'd be spitting freaking nails.

I agree with this UO 100%! I am so annoyed by people who assume that I'm just blundering around in a hazy, naive fog because I'm a FTM. This doesn't happen on this board as much as IRL. I have these parent friends who keep talking to me like I have no understanding of what a baby is. It's driving me nuts. (Also, I, too, will ALWAYS return the cart.)

Another UO that's probably not actually a UO here at all: people who ask "are you SURE you want to have kids?" make me want to punch a wall. I have a few friends that, every time a baby is crying or throwing a tantrum or sassing his mom, will say "are you SURE you want one of those?" And it's like, yes, bitch, step off! I'm in this long-haul, good, bad, ugly.

Pepper6

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

Pepper6 said:

I think people that don't return shopping carts to the corrals in parking lots are assholes.  It takes all of a minute at most to walk it over there, so there's no excuse to not do it.  Every time I see someone walk away from a shopping cart, I feel like hurtling one towards their car as they leave and just say "oh I'm sorry, I assumed that's what you wanted because you left your cart in the parking lot to hit other cars, so I figured you probably liked them hitting yours too"

im guilty of this. sometimes when you have a toddler you have to do things that make you angry lol. 
especially in the rain when your kid wont wear a coat. 

because you cant leave your kid alone in the car... 

I would be the asshole that would allow my kid to get soaked then, if they refused to wear a coat  And still bring the cart back. 

you say this now.... 

This might be another UO of mine, too.. when people assume first timers don't know anything. Or can't have opinions.   It's one thing to say "I won't ever let my kid watch tv before 3!!" or "I won't let my kid have fast food until they're 6!!" I won't say those things. Ever.  I'm not naive.  I will ALWAYS return carts to where they belong.  No matter how old my kid is, how many I have, what the weather is like...  it's the thing to do.  You just do it.  Otherwise, you risk hitting someones car.  And if someone EVER did that and my car was damaged because of them, I'd be spitting freaking nails.

This...if my car gets dented or scratched because you didn't put your cart back it doesn't matter to me the reason why, my car is still damaged, and you're still the dick that caused it.  It's also a major safety issue...what if someone hits the cart that you left in the parking lot, sends it flying down the lane, and hits me or my kid?? 

I think people use their kids too much as an excuse to be rude.  I get that things are more difficult when you have kids, and I'm not naive enough to think I'll be perfect with everything when mine comes, but it's still not an excuse to do something that will cause physical damage to people or their property.  

MrsAMB07

LilNunz1 said:

KristaU831 said:

Pepper6 said:

I think people that don't return shopping carts to the corrals in parking lots are assholes.  It takes all of a minute at most to walk it over there, so there's no excuse to not do it.  Every time I see someone walk away from a shopping cart, I feel like hurtling one towards their car as they leave and just say "oh I'm sorry, I assumed that's what you wanted because you left your cart in the parking lot to hit other cars, so I figured you probably liked them hitting yours too"

im guilty of this. sometimes when you have a toddler you have to do things that make you angry lol. 
especially in the rain when your kid wont wear a coat. 

because you cant leave your kid alone in the car... 

Maybe I'm in the wrong then. I will always return the cart even if it means DD is in the car for 5 seconds while I run it to the return. However, I do my errands early in the morning so I can usually just park next to the cart return.

Yup! I can't see how that's considered leaving your kid unattended. Buckle the kid in then walk the 30 seconds to the return, and go back. I even lock my car doors with the remote so I know no one can get in, but I can always see the car from the carts, it's never that far. Of course I'm soaked by that point, but no avoiding that.

Even with two it's hard for me to use my kids as an excuse. If someone near me leaves theirs, I usually make a point of returning theirs, too, so they feel like an asshole.

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KristaU831

lalala8 said:

I have to say, this passionate exchange about cart returning has me baffled. I really don't care?  I return my cart 99% of the time to the proper place, but have put it up on the grass median (where it can't roll off) if I've had a crazy situation going on (sick screaming infant, sprained ankle, etc).

However, when I see a cart in a space, it really doesn't bother me unless I wanted to park there. Maybe because it's not that windy where I live?

Anyway, just surprised at the reactions. Carry on...

i too cant believe it went on so long and i was involved. 
must be the hormones? 

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abbyful

I think pregnant women shouldn't bitch and moan about their symptoms. It comes with the territory. Be happy you're pregnant, many women would love to be pregnant even if it meant having all the terrible symptoms in the world.

MrsAMB07

I have another. It might seem like it's not an UO, but it's so common on these boards and IRL that I'm going to assume its kind of unpopular.

I can't stand pregzillas. Pregnant women who think everyone should be uber excited about their pregnancy and all things related to it. I'm betting a lot of these women were the bridezillas of the past.

Pepper6

lalala8 said:

I have to say, this passionate exchange about cart returning has me baffled. I really don't care?  I return my cart 99% of the time to the proper place, but have put it up on the grass median (where it can't roll off) if I've had a crazy situation going on (sick screaming infant, sprained ankle, etc).

However, when I see a cart in a space, it really doesn't bother me unless I wanted to park there. Maybe because it's not that windy where I live?

Anyway, just surprised at the reactions. Carry on...

This doesn't bother me that much either, as long as you make some attempt not to damage other cars, I'm good.  I brought this up because when I was at the grocery store yesterday, I saw a cart rolling towards my car after someone 'tapped' it out of the middle of a parking space.  It got stopped in one of the drainage gates before it hit my car this time, but I definitely have a couple of dents and scratches that are likely from carts.  And yes...I also think part of it is the pregnancy hormones that are making me extra irritable.  LOL.

AshB11

People that whine about their baby not sleeping through the night at like 6 weeks make me crazy. We're all tired, and you signed up for this. So yeah...

KristaU831

AshB11 said:

People that whine about their baby not sleeping through the night at like 6 weeks make me crazy. We're all tired, and you signed up for this. So yeah...

your ticker just cracked me up. 

tbmadeamistake

abbyful said:

I think pregnant women shouldn't bitch and moan about their symptoms. It comes with the territory. Be happy you're pregnant, many women would love to be pregnant even if it meant having all the terrible symptoms in the world.

I guess my UO is that I think we should be able to bitch and moan.  I don't do it in public, but you're damn straight when I'm home or with family I complain about it.  I love my child, and I will love this next one, and yes, at the end of the day this is all worth it, but it doesn't mean I have to grin and bear it.  If it sucks, it sucks.  I am happy I'm pregnant, I'm not happy I'm achy/nauseous/can't sleep/have feet the size of a hippo.  Again, I don't bitch and moan to the general public, or friends I know don't care about it, but my husband and mom hear about it. 

AshB11

KristaU831 said:

AshB11 said:

People that whine about their baby not sleeping through the night at like 6 weeks make me crazy. We're all tired, and you signed up for this. So yeah...

your ticker just cracked me up. 

I thought I deleted it! I can't see it from my phone haha.

KristaU831

AshB11 said:

AshB11 said:

People that whine about their baby not sleeping through the night at like 6 weeks make me crazy. We're all tired, and you signed up for this. So yeah...

your ticker just cracked me up. 

I thought I deleted it! I can't see it from my phone haha.

you are 102 weeks and 6 days pregnant. your baby is still only the size of a watermelon though.. lol

keetaskye

chusum said:

AllyTales said:

meladoriestar said:

I think the phrase 'rainbow baby' is stupid. And 'baby dust?' Don't even get me started on that one (though I think here on TB very few people actually say baby dust fortunately).

Add BD (baby dancing) - it's sex people, it's sex.
And preggers. 
... and I'm with ya.

Ehh, I used to get annoyed by rainbow babies, but I just eventually gave in (just used the term on my intro to PGAL...). Baby dust is really annoying, BD is even more annoying, and preggers is like scratching a chalkboard. I also used to refuse to use TB acronyms because I thought they were just a way to by lazy! Not anymore!

And here I thought BD was "Big Deed" lol. Baby dancing? Weird. A lot of the acronyms confuse me, but I always look them up. I'm guessing it's not an UO, but I find it annoying when posters ask what they mean in the middle of a thread or even make a new thread about it. Obviously if people use this short hand there is a resource out there on the big vast internet that will explain it to you..

I'm also waaay against no returning your cart. But it sounds like I'm on the popular side of that UO as well lol.

abbyful

lalala8 said:

abbyful said:

I think pregnant women shouldn't bitch and moan about their symptoms. It comes with the territory. Be happy you're pregnant, many women would love to be pregnant even if it meant having all the terrible symptoms in the world.

Like, not bitch ever? To anyone?

Yeah, I'm not capable of that kind of restraint.  I also don't think that bitching=ungrateful.  I wouldn't complain to friends undergoing IVF treatments, but certainly to DH, my mom- That's fair game.

I'm thinking more about the people that do it ALL THE FREAKING TIME. 

Like when you work with someone and they are just constantly complaining about their pregnancy symptoms every freaking day.

Or the chick on 1st tri a couple weeks ago that couldn't fathom that her doctor scheduled her first appointment for 9:30am because "haven't they ever heard of morning sickness?!".

To those people: Suck it up, buttercup.

tbmadeamistake

lalala8 said:

abbyful said:

I think pregnant women shouldn't bitch and moan about their symptoms. It comes with the territory. Be happy you're pregnant, many women would love to be pregnant even if it meant having all the terrible symptoms in the world.

Like, not bitch ever? To anyone?

Yeah, I'm not capable of that kind of restraint.  I also don't think that bitching=ungrateful.  I wouldn't complain to friends undergoing IVF treatments, but certainly to DH, my mom- That's fair game.

I'm thinking more about the people that do it ALL THE FREAKING TIME. 

Like when you work with someone and they are just constantly complaining about their pregnancy symptoms every freaking day.

Or the chick on 1st tri a couple weeks ago that couldn't fathom that her doctor scheduled her first appointment for 9:30am because "haven't they ever heard of morning sickness?!".

To those people: Suck it up, buttercup.

 

Ok, that I can agree with

CreEspree

Moms who are obsessed w/ the idea of having multiples.. And treat everything as a sign that they're destined to have multiples!
"My beta levels are super high.. Must be twins!" "I'm showing already.. Must be twins!" "My morning sickness this time is worse than w/ my last pregnancy.. Must be twins!" "I've been eating soooo much.. Must be twins!" "The Chinese gender chart said boy.. And the lunar chart said girl.. Must be twins!"
Like stfu already! You're having one baby!! And if it's more than one.. I hope it's quadruplets!! Is that enough multiples for you?! Ughh! Okay.. Rant over.

GretchenWeiners7

I hateee walking across the street when it says "don't walk" ...I have seen multiple people in the last 3 months get pulled over (if you can call it that) by a motorcycle cop for walking when it says not to. I will stand there and wait until the little person turns white.

mom2be614

I put my daughter in the car first when it's raining, and I try to park next to the cart return. Or sometimes she stays in the cart until it's in the cart return, then she walks back to the car with me (or I carry her). Not putting carts up is a huge pet peeve for me, too.

chickpea912

meladoriestar said:

I have another one, but I think it will be pretty split on whether it is popular or unpopular: sometimes (often?), snarky responses are totally deserved. 

A life lived without snark is a life half lived.

mom2be614

@meladoriestar I remember thinking a lot about this during my first pregnancy, whether my professional experience would make being a mom easier. I've done a lot of behavioral intervention, too, and was working with some kids with severe disabilities before. It's definitely much different to be the parent 24/7 without time off for sick day or vacation, but I do think it's helpful to have that knowledge beforehand. I can see the difference in mine and my husband's instincts for behavior management, for example.

 In any case, all the experiences and learning we've had ever will contribute to how we are as parents, so I don't think that FTMs are automatically naive or STMs automatically know what they're talking about!

StinaLeigh

lalala8 said:

For my extremely lame UO:

I think french manicures are terrible. Why do you want to highlight the white, dead part of your nail? Ew.  I guess I can tolerate french manicures a little (although they look super dated now), but french pedicures are sick. I can't take 'em.  

A nice, classy, nude polish is sooo much better if you don't want a color. Or clear?  Just stop with white tips.

Rant over.

I'd like to go back to this.  Ha!  I agree, but more so I hate fake nails.  I mean come on.  They look fake.  Why do you want to look fake?  I mean everyone knows they aren't real... right?   simple polish (even fun colors) and clean cut looks so much better. 

Cherylwang

Some people may not agree with this but I hate when people say "we're pregnant" WE are not pregnant. I am...
Oh and I always bring my cart back. 2 kids and all. I either bring them with me to return or leave them in the car for a min while I run and do it. I try to park close to one. People are just lazy if they don't.

erind228

keetaskye said:

chusum said:

AllyTales said:

meladoriestar said:

I think the phrase 'rainbow baby' is stupid. And 'baby dust?' Don't even get me started on that one (though I think here on TB very few people actually say baby dust fortunately).

Add BD (baby dancing) - it's sex people, it's sex.
And preggers. 
... and I'm with ya.

Ehh, I used to get annoyed by rainbow babies, but I just eventually gave in (just used the term on my intro to PGAL...). Baby dust is really annoying, BD is even more annoying, and preggers is like scratching a chalkboard. I also used to refuse to use TB acronyms because I thought they were just a way to by lazy! Not anymore!

And here I thought BD was "Big Deed" lol. Baby dancing? Weird. A lot of the acronyms confuse me, but I always look them up. I'm guessing it's not an UO, but I find it annoying when posters ask what they mean in the middle of a thread or even make a new thread about it. Obviously if people use this short hand there is a resource out there on the big vast internet that will explain it to you..

I'm also waaay against no returning your cart. But it sounds like I'm on the popular side of that UO as well lol.

What does UO mean again? Kidding.

ljs4117

KristaU831 said:

i dont exactly like the area i live in... so i wouldnt leave my daughter unattended, it is kind of a shit hole when i go off base to do anything. 

LOL ^^ sounds like Norfolk to me..

ljs4117

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

AllyTales said:

KristaU831 said:

Pepper6 said:

I think people that don't return shopping carts to the corrals in parking lots are assholes.  It takes all of a minute at most to walk it over there, so there's no excuse to not do it.  Every time I see someone walk away from a shopping cart, I feel like hurtling one towards their car as they leave and just say "oh I'm sorry, I assumed that's what you wanted because you left your cart in the parking lot to hit other cars, so I figured you probably liked them hitting yours too"

im guilty of this. sometimes when you have a toddler you have to do things that make you angry lol. 
especially in the rain when your kid wont wear a coat. 

because you cant leave your kid alone in the car... 

I would be the asshole that would allow my kid to get soaked then, if they refused to wear a coat  And still bring the cart back. 

you say this now.... 

This might be another UO of mine, too.. when people assume first timers don't know anything. Or can't have opinions.   It's one thing to say "I won't ever let my kid watch tv before 3!!" or "I won't let my kid have fast food until they're 6!!" I won't say those things. Ever.  I'm not naive.  I will ALWAYS return carts to where they belong.  No matter how old my kid is, how many I have, what the weather is like...  it's the thing to do.  You just do it.  Otherwise, you risk hitting someones car.  And if someone EVER did that and my car was damaged because of them, I'd be spitting freaking nails.

I dunno.  I've done a lot of things that I said I would never do.  

I guess my UO is that we should never say never.. lol

ljs4117

lalala8 said:

I have to say, this passionate exchange about cart returning has me baffled. I really don't care?  I return my cart 99% of the time to the proper place, but have put it up on the grass median (where it can't roll off) if I've had a crazy situation going on (sick screaming infant, sprained ankle, etc).

However, when I see a cart in a space, it really doesn't bother me unless I wanted to park there. Maybe because it's not that windy where I live?

Anyway, just surprised at the reactions. Carry on...

Here, here.  Jesussss.

KristaU831

ljs4117 said:

KristaU831 said:

i dont exactly like the area i live in... so i wouldnt leave my daughter unattended, it is kind of a shit hole when i go off base to do anything. 

LOL ^^ sounds like Norfolk to me..

Nope, husband is army. But i think outside of every base is a shithole. I'm in the Baltimore area... Not pretty!

ljs4117

abbyful said:

I think pregnant women shouldn't bitch and moan about their symptoms. It comes with the territory. Be happy you're pregnant, many women would love to be pregnant even if it meant having all the terrible symptoms in the world.

My UO in response to this is that while being pregnant is a HUGE blessing and yes I know many women would take having 24/7 m/s for the entire 9-10 months.... No one likes feeling like dog shit..  and telling someone that they shouldn't ever vent is like telling someone to stop complaining about being hungry because people in Africa are starving.  Also, just because you're having a bad day and vent, doesn't mean you are being unappreciative of your pregnancy.

(I will also say though, that yes.. some women take it overboard.  I crave margaritas like nobody's business but I'm not going to complain about not being able to get my booze on.. that just seems silly.  Maybe I'm being a hypocrite.. lol)

ljs4117

abbyful said:

lalala8 said:

abbyful said:

I think pregnant women shouldn't bitch and moan about their symptoms. It comes with the territory. Be happy you're pregnant, many women would love to be pregnant even if it meant having all the terrible symptoms in the world.

Like, not bitch ever? To anyone?

Yeah, I'm not capable of that kind of restraint.  I also don't think that bitching=ungrateful.  I wouldn't complain to friends undergoing IVF treatments, but certainly to DH, my mom- That's fair game.

I'm thinking more about the people that do it ALL THE FREAKING TIME. 

Like when you work with someone and they are just constantly complaining about their pregnancy symptoms every freaking day.

Or the chick on 1st tri a couple weeks ago that couldn't fathom that her doctor scheduled her first appointment for 9:30am because "haven't they ever heard of morning sickness?!".

To those people: Suck it up, buttercup.

Now this I can subscribe to!!!

HeyAmberNicole

Pepper6 said:

I think people that don't return shopping carts to the corrals in parking lots are assholes.  It takes all of a minute at most to walk it over there, so there's no excuse to not do it.  Every time I see someone walk away from a shopping cart, I feel like hurtling one towards their car as they leave and just say "oh I'm sorry, I assumed that's what you wanted because you left your cart in the parking lot to hit other cars, so I figured you probably liked them hitting yours too"

I love the word assholes in a situation like this!

ljs4117

CreEspree said:

Moms who are obsessed w/ the idea of having multiples.. And treat everything as a sign that they're destined to have multiples! "My beta levels are super high.. Must be twins!" "I'm showing already.. Must be twins!" "My morning sickness this time is worse than w/ my last pregnancy.. Must be twins!" "I've been eating soooo much.. Must be twins!" "The Chinese gender chart said boy.. And the lunar chart said girl.. Must be twins!" Like stfu already! You're having one baby!! And if it's more than one.. I hope it's quadruplets!! Is that enough multiples for you?! Ughh! Okay.. Rant over.

LMAO!!  Yes!!  And just in general people who think they are showing at 4 weeks etc etc... It's probably mean, it's just annoying to me.

HeyAmberNicole

My UO:

I hate the smell of baby powder and that baby lotion that comes in the pink bottle. I got shit loads of the lotion for my kid as gifts and I was like "uh no". Baby powder is good for the bum on occasion, but seriously, it's messy and stinks!

AllyTales

ljs4117 said:

lalala8 said:

I have to say, this passionate exchange about cart returning has me baffled. I really don't care?  I return my cart 99% of the time to the proper place, but have put it up on the grass median (where it can't roll off) if I've had a crazy situation going on (sick screaming infant, sprained ankle, etc).

However, when I see a cart in a space, it really doesn't bother me unless I wanted to park there. Maybe because it's not that windy where I live?

Anyway, just surprised at the reactions. Carry on...

Here, here.  Jesussss.

My guess is y'all never had a brand new car (like 2 weeks old) that was hit by a cart and scratched?  It's kind of annoying. 

ljs4117

AllyTales said:

ljs4117 said:

lalala8 said:

I have to say, this passionate exchange about cart returning has me baffled. I really don't care?  I return my cart 99% of the time to the proper place, but have put it up on the grass median (where it can't roll off) if I've had a crazy situation going on (sick screaming infant, sprained ankle, etc).

However, when I see a cart in a space, it really doesn't bother me unless I wanted to park there. Maybe because it's not that windy where I live?

Anyway, just surprised at the reactions. Carry on...

Here, here.  Jesussss.

My guess is y'all never had a brand new car (like 2 weeks old) that was hit by a cart and scratched?  It's kind of annoying. 

Oh, I definitely get pissed about carts left all willy nilly in the parking lot!  But... I've left a cart up on the edge of a median once or twice when I was parked farther away from a cart holder than I felt comfortable leaving LO..  I was more agreeing with the conversation getting so passionate about something like that.  But then I've been known to get inordinately bitchy/angry/outraged at things exactly like this too.. HAHA    We're just passionate, right?

ETA:  NOT that I think you're bitchy.  I just know I personally turn all crazy about matters of principle and DH looks at me like "really?"

sarbur00

I don't know what UO stands for, I'm sure I will figure it out, but this chat is freaking awesome.

AllyTales

ljs4117 said:

AllyTales said:

ljs4117 said:

lalala8 said:

I have to say, this passionate exchange about cart returning has me baffled. I really don't care?  I return my cart 99% of the time to the proper place, but have put it up on the grass median (where it can't roll off) if I've had a crazy situation going on (sick screaming infant, sprained ankle, etc).

However, when I see a cart in a space, it really doesn't bother me unless I wanted to park there. Maybe because it's not that windy where I live?

Anyway, just surprised at the reactions. Carry on...

Here, here.  Jesussss.

My guess is y'all never had a brand new car (like 2 weeks old) that was hit by a cart and scratched?  It's kind of annoying. 

Oh, I definitely get pissed about carts left all willy nilly in the parking lot!  But... I've left a cart up on the edge of a median once or twice when I was parked farther away from a cart holder than I felt comfortable leaving LO..  I was more agreeing with the conversation getting so passionate about something like that.  But then I've been known to get inordinately bitchy/angry/outraged at things exactly like this too.. HAHA    We're just passionate, right?

ETA:  NOT that I think you're bitchy.  I just know I personally turn all crazy about matters of principle and DH looks at me like "really?"

AllyTales

Wow quote FAIL.  Ugh. My edit button is gone, too.  So I can't fix it.

I tried to say... 2 years ago I bought my first brand new car (previous to that, I shared with H) and I had it for 13 days and it got scratched in a parking lot. I sat there and cried (so I'll take the dramatic title, and bitchy title.. it's ok!!).  When you put down so much for a first car, and have it for 12 days before it's effed up..  you know?  That's why I get ticked when I hear people say they leave carts in the lot.

But I'm moving on... moving on

Susanrush13

Omg I love this group. I hate when people say baby dust or BD or "omg tmi but my boobs are sore." Uuuugh just vent. Also everyone that lists two paragraphs of symptoms followed by "do you think I'm pregnant?" Take a test! Quickest way to find out, costs a dollar at the dollar store or $10 for two at target.